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Post by peajays on Dec 22, 2022 12:46:35 GMT
I joined Ancestry in 2011 because I was adopted, and wanted to find out my birth story.
I found a first cousin and an Aunt straight away. The aunt didn’t respond to messages, but the cousin (Chuck)did. We messaged off and on, he shared family info, but it didn’t really progress from there. We thought we solved that one of his uncles could possibly be my birth father.
fast forward 10 years (lol) and on Sunday I got a 23 and me notification with an attached message saying “ hi, I just joined and I think you are a half sister”! And it is is Chuck’s first cousin, so we now know for sure which uncle was the birth father. He was super excited about the discovery, and we have been chatting off and on getting to know each other. Chuck, for whatever reason, didn’t mention anything to his family about me, so I was a complete surprise. I’m not sure what prompted his foray into 23 and me, but after all these years I’m glad he did.
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Post by peasapie on Dec 22, 2022 12:48:34 GMT
That’s so exciting! I hope you enjoy meeting these new connections.
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Post by myboysnme on Dec 22, 2022 13:02:54 GMT
My mother very reluctantly just did Ancestry dna which I will send off today. She did it because she wants to help solve a sort of family mystery about her being German and not French as they were always told. I have solved the issue abput 85% but she is interested.
The thing is my mother has no idea that I know that she gave up a son for adoption who would be in his late 60s. I keep expecting him to turn up on my dna matches. I'm a bit worried he will match her and we will deal with that if it happens. But she will be very upset if she understood about dna matches. She thinks it is just going to provide ancestor info and not descendants.
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Dec 22, 2022 13:03:05 GMT
Exciting!! Do you guys plan on meeting anytime soon? Does the rest of the family know about you now?
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Post by cakediva on Dec 22, 2022 13:08:57 GMT
Oh exciting!
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Post by peabay on Dec 22, 2022 13:10:53 GMT
That's really nice! Chuck probably didn't want to make waves or trouble in the family.
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 22, 2022 14:28:39 GMT
That is so exciting!
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Post by oh yvonne on Dec 22, 2022 14:30:34 GMT
Awe! I'm so happy for you Peej! What a great story, omg!
Merry Christmas girl!
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Post by disneypal on Dec 22, 2022 14:39:24 GMT
WOW peajays - that is incredible - what a great Christmas gift...keep us posted on your story...hopefully you will get to meet your half-brother and family. |
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Post by CardBoxer on Dec 22, 2022 14:40:53 GMT
Wow, that’s wonderful and so unexpected after all this time!
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Post by Basket1lady on Dec 22, 2022 14:42:29 GMT
Wow! Science is really amazing!
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Post by disneypal on Dec 22, 2022 14:43:38 GMT
The thing is my mother has no idea that I know that she gave up a son for adoption who would be in his late 60s. I keep expecting him to turn up on my dna matches. I'm a bit worried he will match her and we will deal with that if it happens. But she will be very upset if she understood about dna matches. She thinks it is just going to provide ancestor info and not descendants. I assume that is why she was a bit reluctant to do the Ancestry DNA - I hope you solve the French/German mystery...that is quite a fact to uncover about your mom's past...now that her DNA is submitted, you never know if a match for her son may come up. |
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Post by femalebusiness on Dec 22, 2022 16:50:57 GMT
My mother very reluctantly just did Ancestry dna which I will send off today. She did it because she wants to help solve a sort of family mystery about her being German and not French as they were always told. I have solved the issue abput 85% but she is interested. The thing is my mother has no idea that I know that she gave up a son for adoption who would be in his late 60s. I keep expecting him to turn up on my dna matches. I'm a bit worried he will match her and we will deal with that if it happens. But she will be very upset if she understood about dna matches. She thinks it is just going to provide ancestor info and not descendants. I hope it doesn't upset her. On the other hand she may eventually get to meet her son if she wanted to. You never know how someone who has kept a secret that long will react. It also may never be revealed through dna as not everyone submits theirs. Just make her know you are super comfortable with it if it comes to that. |
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Post by carhoch on Dec 22, 2022 16:54:39 GMT
I’m glad you found your brother this is wonderful but sometimes in families it creates huge problem a friend of mine found a half sister and since then the whole family is not talking to her anymore because she want to have a relationship with that sister, it’s just a sad situation.
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Post by lucyg on Dec 22, 2022 16:55:54 GMT
You made me cry a little first thing in the AM. How wonderful! Enjoy your new brother.  |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 22, 2022 16:58:13 GMT
That's really nice! Chuck probably didn't want to make waves or trouble in the family. Or he may know more then he wanted to share . peajays great news about finding your brother.. |
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 22, 2022 17:20:48 GMT
What a gift! I can think of many reasons Chuck didn't share with his family, but glad for you that your half-brother finally took the test and that you have connected. |
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Post by scrappyesq on Dec 22, 2022 19:37:22 GMT
This is so cool! Such happy news.
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Post by floridagirl on Dec 22, 2022 19:39:38 GMT
That is so exciting. Merry Christmas!
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Post by Anita on Dec 22, 2022 20:16:14 GMT
That's such wonderful news. Congratulations.  |
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Post by ~summer~ on Dec 22, 2022 20:18:03 GMT
That’s super cool exciting!
I had a previously unknown cousin find me after doing 23 and me.
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Post by destined2bmom on Dec 22, 2022 20:25:06 GMT
That’s very exciting! What a wonderful surprise.
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Post by tenacious on Dec 22, 2022 20:33:42 GMT
Amazing!! I know this can be stressful for some people to have these family surprises, so, it makes me happy that this is something positive and happy for you. As the mom of an adopted child, I
Have so much hope that we can find some of her bio relatives someday and that there can be happy reunions.
Best of luck to you!
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 22, 2022 21:14:35 GMT
That's very exciting!
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Post by casii on Dec 22, 2022 21:17:30 GMT
That's exciting to learn of family somewhere out there!
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Post by rickmer on Dec 22, 2022 22:33:38 GMT
my best friend is adopted and did this earlier this year. she found her half sister who said "i have been looking for you for years"... there is a half brother as well, she has met him and now her bio dad. bio dad's wife has been welcoming. it has been weird as she did reach out 22 years ago when records were unsealed to find her birth mother who declined meeting her.  chuck's reaction is possibly justified - families are complicated. |
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Post by betsyg on Dec 22, 2022 22:51:37 GMT
That’s exciting! Same thing happened with my husband. He tells everyone that I got him a sister for Christmas after I bought him and Ancestry.com kit. While his father didn’t acknowledge it at first, he did come around and welcomed her as his daughter in the year before he passed which was very meaningful to her. And she has become one of the family. I’m sure it doesn’t always turn out as well as it did in this case, but there are definitely success stories.
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Post by kate on Dec 22, 2022 23:06:12 GMT
How fun! Congrats on the new family!
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Dec 22, 2022 23:18:10 GMT
How exciting for you! I hope it continues to work out well as you build a relationship with him.
In June I met a new cousin for the first time at my uncle's funeral. We've known about him for a couple of years now but was my first time to meet him. The discovery wasn't through DNA testing (though it was done later), but due to health issues forcing his mom to fess up that his dad didn't die before he was born after all, then my uncle had to fess up to our family as well. It was amazing to meet him and find all the similarities and mannerisms that he shares with us. The number of skeletons that fell out of the closet at that funeral were mind boggling.
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Post by styxgirl on Dec 23, 2022 5:01:19 GMT
How AWESOME! This can be such a wonderful thing!
My Mom had a baby 2 years before me that she gave for adoption. Mom passed in 2009 without us ever talking about it even though she knew that I had knowledge of it. It's always been a missing piece for me. I even wrote a fictional story about it in college!
About 5 years ago I was 47, I got a random facebook message from a young adult girl claiming to be my niece that had a copy of her Mom's birth certificate. She said she saw the family tree on ancestry.com (that my Mom built!) and followed it to me and she wondered if I would want to talk.
UM, YES! LOL But of course I wanted to see the birth certificate and it matched up to my mother 100% Father was unknown. (My Dad passed in 1994 and didn't know anything about the baby my Mom gave for adoption).
So, we all communicated by facebook, text and eventually online calls. We ended up doing a private DNA test and it's 99.99999% confirmed we have the same Mom, but not the same Dad.
She lives about 6 hours from us. We drove to meet her and her family. Now we visit each other several times a year and talk all the time.
Stories like these don't always turn out well, but our story is wonderful! I am amazed at how many things we have in common that don't have anything to do with environment and upbringing. Since we've met, both of her daughters have gotten married and had children. Her daughters are great cousins to my 2 DDs that are a few years younger than hers. I love them all so much!
I hope your story is happy as well!
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