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Post by Outspoken on Dec 9, 2014 18:19:48 GMT
My DD's close friend took a whole bottle of Tylenol in an attempt to commit suicide. Her liver and kidneys were affected. The liver has recuperated and the kidneys have improved some. Beautiful girl. Funny, smart. Good parents who are involved with both their children. Just a total shock to us all.
She is in the hospital in the Behavioral Study Ward until at least tomorrow. So, she has no visiting allowance and no phone contact. My DD is just a basket case. She cries and cries. She feels mad - at friend and herself. I'm just listening, hugging, kissing and praying with her. But, oh how my heart just hurts!
thanks for reading. I just needed to "talk".
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Post by marmargirl on Dec 9, 2014 18:21:22 GMT
I'm so sorry. Prayers for you all.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2014 18:23:32 GMT
 Suicide is a major problem in my hometown. A friend of my sons recently succeeded in taking his life. Prayers for you daughter and her friend and family. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2014 18:26:22 GMT
See if the school offers resources for your dd to talk to. They usually do and it could help her so much work through her feelings.
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Post by eebud on Dec 9, 2014 18:29:17 GMT
I know that has to be hard to deal with. I agree with Scrappower, check with her school to see if they have resources to help your DD. Thank goodness her friend was not successful. I hope that she will be able to get the help she needs to deal with whatever brought her to this point.
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 9, 2014 18:37:00 GMT
{{{hugs}}} Thankfully she wasn't successful in her attempt.
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Post by Outspoken on Dec 9, 2014 18:37:54 GMT
I know that has to be hard to deal with. I agree with Scrappower, check with her school to see if they have resources to help your DD. Thank goodness her friend was not successful. I hope that she will be able to get the help she needs to deal with whatever brought her to this point. Thank you and @scrappower. I wondered if I could find DD someone to talk to. I don't know how much school officials know and I didn't want to cause any rumors. I will check with their guidance office. |
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Post by Jili on Dec 9, 2014 18:44:52 GMT
That is horrible. I feel terrible for all involved.
Definitely check with the school. I work in an elementary district, but when something happens here (death of a student's parent, etc.) all of our district social workers will drop everything and spend a day (or more) at that particular building in order to provide support for students who need it. Hopefully your dd's school has some sort of plan in place for when these kinds of things happen.
I'm so sorry.
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Post by Gravity on Dec 9, 2014 23:02:30 GMT
Please find a counselor for your DD, either through her school or through your health insurance. Unfortunately, I've been down this same road with my own DD. Shortly after freshman year of HS, my DD's best friend committed suicide. PM me anytime if you need to "talk". ((Hugs))
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Post by mimima on Dec 9, 2014 23:05:07 GMT
Lord have Mercy. Prayers
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Post by red88 on Dec 9, 2014 23:22:07 GMT
<----------------------- As a sister of a brother who recently passed away, she will have all sorts of feelings. You never know what you you feel from one day to the next. Make sure she understands that her friend is sick, just like any other illness. It's something that will never be cured, but the friend hopefully will learn to live with it. Mental illness is so misunderstood. I don't say my brother committed suicide, I say he died from depression. Keep your communication open. It's easier said than done. Unfortunately, this ripped our family apart. Just be honest with your daughter & let her feel what she needs to. I'm so sorry to hear this.
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Post by Outspoken on Dec 10, 2014 0:01:11 GMT
<----------------------- As a sister of a brother who recently passed away, she will have all sorts of feelings. You never know what you you feel from one day to the next. Make sure she understands that her friend is sick, just like any other illness. It's something that will never be cured, but the friend hopefully will learn to live with it. Mental illness is so misunderstood. I don't say my brother committed suicide, I say he died from depression. Keep your communication open. It's easier said than done. Unfortunately, this ripped our family apart. Just be honest with your daughter & let her feel what she needs to. I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm so sorry for your loss! i am looking into someone for DD to talk to. And, communication has always been very good in our house so I hope that will help my DD to always know she can come to us and we will get her what she needs! thank you all for the responses |
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Post by littlemama on Dec 10, 2014 0:14:33 GMT
A freshman from DS' high school committed suicide about a month ago. The school provided counselors, social workers, etc the next day. The schools have those resources available for situations such as these. I would call her school counselor and see if they can direct you. Chances are the school already knows, but even so, you don't have to say anything other than it was a friend who attempted suicide.
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Post by donna on Dec 10, 2014 0:16:26 GMT
I am so glad the friend's attempt was not successful.
Finding your daughter someone to talk to is important. I don't know that a school guidance counselor is the answer except to get a name of an outside counselor. I work in a high school and while I like our guidance counselors, I don't think they would be the best people for something like this.
Please reassure your daughter that she is in no way responsible in this attempt. She is probably thinking that if she had been a better friend she would have been able to prevent this. It is also okay to be angry with her friend for this. The anger is normal. When my sister committed suicide 27 years ago I went back and forth between anger and feeling like I should have done something. I also felt guilty for being angry at her. I did not go to counseling, but I should have. I think I would have worked through some of my grief in a more healthy way if I had.
I hope you find someone soon for your daughter.
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Post by melissa on Dec 10, 2014 0:17:06 GMT
In addition to whatever resources the school may or may not offer, please seek individual counseling for your dd.
My parents did so for me when a friend committed suicide when I was in college. I couldn't help but glance at the date. It was this week, all those many years ago.
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Post by littlemama on Dec 10, 2014 0:20:27 GMT
I am so glad the friend's attempt was not successful. Finding your daughter someone to talk to is important. I don't know that a school guidance counselor is the answer except to get a name of an outside counselor. I work in a high school and while I like our guidance counselors, I don't think they would be the best people for something like this. Please reassure your daughter that she is in no way responsible in this attempt. She is probably thinking that if she had been a better friend she would have been able to prevent this. It is also okay to be angry with her friend for this. The anger is normal. When my sister committed suicide 27 years ago I went back and forth between anger and feeling like I should have done something. I also felt guilty for being angry at her. I did not go to counseling, but I should have. I think I would have worked through some of my grief in a more healthy way if I had. I hope you find someone soon for your daughter. The guidance counselor can direct her to resources, like the social worker or psychologist. They can then refer her to someone external if needed. I don't think the guidance counselor is necessarily the end goal, but more a means to an end. |
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 10, 2014 2:34:19 GMT
I know that has to be hard to deal with. I agree with Scrappower, check with her school to see if they have resources to help your DD. Thank goodness her friend was not successful. I hope that she will be able to get the help she needs to deal with whatever brought her to this point. Thank you and @scrappower. I wondered if I could find DD someone to talk to. I don't know how much school officials know and I didn't want to cause any rumors. I will check with their guidance office. if your dd knows, more people know. |
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Post by Outspoken on Dec 10, 2014 3:03:08 GMT
Thank you and @scrappower. I wondered if I could find DD someone to talk to. I don't know how much school officials know and I didn't want to cause any rumors. I will check with their guidance office. if your dd knows, more people know. My DD knows because when friend was absent for so many days, I contacted her mother and things unfolded from there. Others may very well know, for sure. But it won't be because it came from me! |
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 10, 2014 3:35:04 GMT
if your dd knows, more people know. My DD knows because when friend was absent for so many days, I contacted her mother and things unfolded from there. Others may very well know, for sure. But it won't be because it came from me! I'm not saying you should tell people, but the school officials probably know and if they do and the parent's didn't ask them to keep it quiet, so does the staff. We are typically informed so that we can deal with issues that may arise. The counselors at my school are wonderful. I've known others who aren't. See what your dd thinks of the counselors. If she likes them, it may be easier to talk at first to someone she knows, and more importantly, one who knows her friend. One of DS's friend's dad committed suicide in November. It wasn't the counselor that stepped up in that situation (she's a dumbass), but rather a wonderful teacher. Your daughter may feel more comfortable with a teacher. |
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Post by PLurker on Dec 10, 2014 6:27:46 GMT
Just wanted to say I am so sorry. For everyone involved and you as a Mom. So hard to watch your DD suffer. So much easier when they are little and bandaids and a kiss is the fix. Hugs
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 10, 2014 7:45:33 GMT
My DD attempted several times starting at 14. It caused her siblings and friends to feel mad, worried and even disgusted with her. And scared she'd succeed.
I hope you can find a counselor for your DD. Until then, suggest she start a special journal where she can write her feelings.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2014 14:58:52 GMT
I'm so sorry. I hope your DD's friend gets the help she needs. Depression is a dark hole that's very difficult to crawl out of (speaking from personal experience). ((HUGS)) to your DD for being there for her friend during this time.
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Suicide is a major problem in my hometown. A friend of my sons recently succeeded in taking his life. Prayers for you daughter and her friend and family. 
