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Post by freecharlie on Dec 7, 2023 0:47:12 GMT
Just a quick question... why do you still have a joint account? You're engaged in an acrimonious divorce with someone who isn't abiding by court orders and has a history of financial dishonesty. Having an account that you are both have legal access to seems highly risky. I'd open your own account and he can ACH or wire the funds he owes into that, but he won't have any way to access those funds and potentially do something that could harm you. I kept the joint account and had the joint bills come out of it know that if it went negative it would affect his credit as well. He didn't want his credit ruined so he made sure it didn't go negative |
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Post by Bridget in MD on Dec 7, 2023 13:13:01 GMT
I just got this from my attorney! You all were correct! "We're asking for his compliance to pay maintenance. The other Motion is the Motion to Deposit. Basically, we'd ask him to put the cash from his bank accounts into the court's registry so he can't deplete it. It means the money will be protected through the case and only accessible via court order. This way he can't spend everything on his own travel and luxuries while you suffer financially." If they are ASKING, does that mean he can refuse?  |
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Post by Lexica on Dec 7, 2023 16:35:11 GMT
I just got this from my attorney! You all were correct! "We're asking for his compliance to pay maintenance. The other Motion is the Motion to Deposit. Basically, we'd ask him to put the cash from his bank accounts into the court's registry so he can't deplete it. It means the money will be protected through the case and only accessible via court order. This way he can't spend everything on his own travel and luxuries while you suffer financially." If they are ASKING, does that mean he can refuse? In this case, they, meaning her attorney on her behalf, are asking the court, the judge, to agree with the request and order it to happen. Once a court order is in place, it will compel the request to happen. And sure, her husband can still refuse, but when you refuse to comply with a court order, you can be either fined or put in jail. It puts some teeth into the request. |
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Post by Just T on Dec 7, 2023 16:40:58 GMT
December 7 update: The a$$hole finally put the money in our account this morning. I'm sure his lawyer told him he had to. And I guess I need to be prepared that he is going to pull this every month until the divorce is final.  He's always been controlling with money, so I don't know why I thought he would stop now. Sigh. I'm going to the bank to take out everything that isn't needed for our mortgage payment. (My attorney told me it is okay to do this). He hasn't spent money out of that account in well over 2 years other than paying the mortgage, but I wouldn't put it past him not to do so now and I'm not taking the chance. |
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Post by Just T on Dec 7, 2023 16:41:30 GMT
I just got this from my attorney! You all were correct! "We're asking for his compliance to pay maintenance. The other Motion is the Motion to Deposit. Basically, we'd ask him to put the cash from his bank accounts into the court's registry so he can't deplete it. It means the money will be protected through the case and only accessible via court order. This way he can't spend everything on his own travel and luxuries while you suffer financially." If they are ASKING, does that mean he can refuse? No clue. I think she means they are asking the court. |
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Post by Just T on Dec 7, 2023 16:45:47 GMT
Oh and for those saying to have him deposit the money into my account rather than the joint one, at my bank, you have to be on the account to do that. I know that because when my daughter was in college, I was on her account for that reason only. I once asked if I could be taken off, and they said that then I wouldn't be able to make deposits into her account. I guess I could have him venmo me, then I could transfer into my account.
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He's always been controlling with money, so I don't know why I thought he would stop now. Sigh. I'm going to the bank to take out everything that isn't needed for our mortgage payment. (My attorney told me it is okay to do this). He hasn't spent money out of that account in well over 2 years other than paying the mortgage, but I wouldn't put it past him not to do so now and I'm not taking the chance.