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Post by leannec on Apr 1, 2024 22:32:50 GMT
I have lived in my apartment style condo for just over a year and I really do love it. Except for the noise my neighbours make The people across the hall have two dd's ... one is about 6 years old and doesn't make a sound ... the other is about two and does nothing but scream! . It makes me crazy because I raised two dd's and there was no screaming ... A couple of weeks ago the two year old screamed at the top of her lungs for more than an hour ... I went over there to see if I could help ... Dad was frazzled ... she shut up when she saw me and stayed that way! Above me, they walk like elephants and LOVE to vigorously vacuum ... awesome. I lived in a detached home for 30 years ... I'm not used to this! If you live in similar circumstances, how do you cope?
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 1, 2024 22:52:35 GMT
I live in a townhouse style condo. I have lived here for over 25 years. Some neighbors have been better than others, but I really don’t hear a ton other than relatively quick bangs, barks, drops, etc. Nothing really on going.
I am a night owl so I am up late. Up until a couple of years ago I was gone most nights to work and I didn’t get home until after midnight so noise wasn’t really an issue then. The last few years we have been mostly work from home and I hear a bit more activity through the night but still don’t really hear very much. I also usually have Music or the Tv on, so that may mask it some if there is some.
I wish I had some sage advice for you, but it really is you just have to put up with it. If you think it is more than normal “living” noise from neighbors I would suggest talking with them or approaching your association/property management company if you think bylaws are being broken. Good luck. Sorry for your noisy situation.
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 1, 2024 22:59:47 GMT
I will say that now that we are work from home one of my alerts that I need to monitor has an audible truck air horn sound and during the summer when windows and my slider is open I often wonder what people think when I have busy alert nights. Honk honk all night. 😄
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Post by littlemama on Apr 1, 2024 23:05:38 GMT
Our condo building has 2 townhouse-style, a ranch, and a carriage unit. The only time we can ever hear our neighbors is if they are in their bathroom and we are in ours (talking, not bathroom stuff). We are all generally quiet people so rarely an issue and it is solved by...leaving the bathroom
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Post by quiltz on Apr 1, 2024 23:08:52 GMT
I often wonder what people think when I have busy alert nights. Honk honk all night. 😄 They are probably very unhappy about the bursts of this loud noise. Be kind to those who live around you and make the alert noise as low as possible. I wouldn't find this *funny* at all. I have people who live above me who are noisy and sometimes there is a crying child as well. The noise from their Romba is weird as it sounds like a bowling ball going down the lane, only for a very long time. Most of the people are quiet and polite. I live very quietly so very little noise from my unit. I don't play music or watch a lot of tv and the volume is always low. I mute commercials because I can't stand them.
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Post by KelleeM on Apr 1, 2024 23:12:01 GMT
I live in a townhouse. I’m afraid my granddaughter was like your neighbor’s child. There’s a little boy next door and I can hear him going up and down the stairs if I’m in the kitchen. The son on the other side (he’s in his 40s) uses a lot of profanity when he plays video games. I hear him in the summer if I’m on my deck and he has his window open. Fortunately, he has a girlfriend now and I don’t think he’ll be around much this summer. Everyone else around here is very quiet.
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 1, 2024 23:21:40 GMT
I often wonder what people think when I have busy alert nights. Honk honk all night. 😄 They are probably very unhappy about the bursts of this loud noise. Be kind to those who live around you and make the alert noise as low as possible. I wouldn't find this *funny* at all. I have people who live above me who are noisy and sometimes there is a crying child as well. The noise from their Romba is weird as it sounds like a bowling ball going down the lane, only for a very long time. Most of the people are quiet and polite. I live very quietly so very little noise from my unit. I don't play music or watch a lot of tv and the volume is always low. I mute commercials because I can't stand them. Well I said this kind of tongue in cheek, but it is not louder than a regular TV and I am not blasting it. It is just a strange sound to probably hear. I am a good neighbor and not overly loud or obtrusive. If you live close to others you will hear the sounds of people living. We all do not sit quietly in our houses…we live. There is a fine line to normal living and being a bad neighbor. I am a very good neighbor. 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by Karene on Apr 1, 2024 23:39:07 GMT
We own a semi-detached. We have had many neighbours in the other half. Some have owned it and some have rented (there are renters now). The worst were the owners who lived there when we moved in. He smoked like a chimney and the smell came over to our side. When he opened the back door the smell was horrendous. He ended up collapsing on the street and dying and his mother was put in a nursing home. A developer bought it and spent a year gutting and fixing it up. He invited me over to look after putting up with the noise. The worst is how many smokers have lived next door. The last lady was a single older person. She was quiet but she would sit right outside in the back and her cigarette smoke would come right in our patio doors in the summer. I would have to go close the door every time and she was a chain smoker. She didn't seem to clue in the our door closed everytime she lit up.
Other than that, a single mom with teenagers had one who played loud music. And they had a pot bellied pig for a summer which gave us lots of flies.
One time someone rented, had their belongings delivered and then almost burnt our two houses to the ground. After her stuff was delivered, she went out for the evening. Around 7pm, a man started banging on my door to say there was a fire next door. He grabbed all our fire extinguishers (we had a lot because we had just taken them off our boat for the season) and he called 911 before using the extinguishers. Luckily the whole fire department was just a block away practicing at the pond. My husband came home to fire trucks and all the neighbours watching. Next door was gutted and had to be totally redone. Our house luckily had no damage, just a really bad smell for a while. The movers had leaned her mattress against the gas fireplace that was the only heating in the house. Anyway, we had no neighbour for a year.
We had one family with little kids next door and the 3 year old kept calling my younger son a a-hole. Guess where he learned that? His parents were always fighting, when they weren't staring at us over the chain link fence. One weekend when we knew they were going to be away, we build a high wooden fence.
We've just put up with whatever. We don't use our backyard very much since we are away on our boat every weekend. We have been getting luckier with whoever has moved in as time goes by.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Apr 1, 2024 23:47:15 GMT
Every once in a while my neighbor upstairs drops something. I know she is saying oh sh!t... one day she dropped something big in the kitchen while I was in my kitchen. I called her she, said "I'm ok!" before she said hello.
Prior neighbor watched her young granddaughter who rocked her highchair.. I thought the ceiling was going to fall. Her friend who lived above was here one day a heard it and call to ask if they were ok. Most of that noise stopped, thankfully!
We have open breezeways with apartments across from us. Until Christmas we had no young children living in our building. Now we have two, 5 yr old across from me and a 9 yr old on the third floor 'across' from me, so there more noise and chatter. I have gotten used to it, all is good, maybe not so much when the warm weather comes..
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Post by peasapie on Apr 1, 2024 23:58:40 GMT
I lived in a NYC apartment for 10 years. No noise from upstairs as there was concrete between levels, but there were three guys living next door and their nighttime visits from various ladies would occasionally shake the walls. I lost it one night, walked across the hall to their apartment door and started ringing the bell and banging on their door. That was the end of the problem.
I suggest speaking to the person directly and asking politely for the, to keep it down. Many apartments have rules about carpeting.
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Post by ntsf on Apr 2, 2024 0:04:46 GMT
we gutted our condo and put in sound proofing. we still hear the kid upstairs stomp around at 7 am.. we just put up with it. fortunately, we were there all winter.. and they only came 1 or 2 times.
there is just not much we can do. we are pretty quiet after 10 and before 7.. but they have complained about us watching tv/listening to music after 9 pm. the owner is a surgeon and thinks he is important.
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Post by Scrapper100 on Apr 2, 2024 1:05:22 GMT
I don’t think I could do that at this point unless it was an adult only type of place and mostly older folks. We are in a house and we have always been pretty lucky. The end of 2019 we got new neighbors the littlest was almost three. She is a screamer. She can give you an instant migraine. She was constantly screaming and crying and still does at the drop of the hat but thankfully not as often. We have a park on the other side of us and they play there often as I think the mom just doesn’t want to hear them. So even if you live in a house little girl screams can be really deafening. Even living in a house they might be screaming only 10 feet from your window. There are 4 girls that play together and it’s just the one little girl that’s bad. When she is playing at the friends house 4 houses down you can still identify her specifically from her screams and squeals. I hope the little girl across from you out grows it quickly. I have only lived in a small apartment complex and was in the second floor which was the highest so no one walking on my ceiling. I take that back I lived in a dorm and there was a floor above me but I don’t remember hearing them walking above me but it was a small single room so that might be why.
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Post by mich5481 on Apr 2, 2024 1:21:04 GMT
I lived in apartments in two different college towns. I always chose apartments on the highest floor (3rd floor) to avoid people walking on my head and I did my best to pick corner units, so I only shared walls with one neighbor at a time. For the most part, shared noises were minimal (usually in bathrooms, as they shared a wall), but I could occasionally hear loud people in the breezeway.
At my last complex, I had to move from a corner unit to an interior unit (due to the apartment complex maintenance staff flooding my unit and not mitigating the flood damage properly), so that was a factor in my decision to later purchase a house.
The house purchase actually led to worse neighbors, lol. The first neighbor on one side was great, but she got transferred and sold her house. The people who bought it were party people with loud kids. I literally called the cops one night because I could feel the vibrations of the movie they were playing outside when I was in my bedroom. I had every door and window shut, and I could still hear the noise, and there had to be at least 25 feet between my bedroom wall and the source of the noise. It was awful. Some of the terrible people in our neighborhood FB page suggested I buy noise canceling headphones if I didn't like the noise when I went outside but they had no response when I asked what to do about vibrating walls. 👎 So glad I sold my house and no longer live there!!
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Post by melanieg on Apr 2, 2024 2:04:52 GMT
I live in an apartment style condo. I was OK when I 1st moved in but has gone downhill the past few years w who the owners are renting to. It is what I could afford at the time and it's cheaper than renting.
The people upstairs have 3 dogs and the run around (laminate floors) and it's loud. I have the laundry room next door to my unit. It's loud but it really bothers me when people use it outside of the posted hours.
They took the carpet out of the halls and replaced it w vinyl plank. I get it for durability, but the noise when people are at the entry talking or stomping up/down the main stairs is crazy. Oh and the slamming doors in the stairways.
Worse than the noise? The people on their balconies smoking pot. Gag. The way the building is built it just all wafts into my open windows.
#shouldasavedupmoreandboughtahouse
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Post by scrappyesq on Apr 2, 2024 2:21:27 GMT
Except for the noise my neighbours make Above me, they walk like elephants and LOVE to vigorously vacuum ... awesome. If you live in similar circumstances, how do you cope?
Most days I feel like Shrek and Fiona are my upstairs neighbors.
I am planning to move when my lease is up. Either to a top floor unit or out of this building.
For now I live in earplugs. A friend of mine suggested them because she wakes up at the slightest noise. I found a good wax brand on Amazon and they have saved my life.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 2, 2024 2:37:48 GMT
I live in a single home on about a half an acre. We moved from a lot that was less than a quarter of an acre. Even now I can't imagine going back to less land. I lived in a downstairs apartment for about 18 months right after we married and I swore I would never go back. (Never say never, right?)
I would really struggle in your situation. I get not wanting the outside maintenance, but the noise would drive me batty and probably make me cranky.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Apr 2, 2024 3:06:10 GMT
DS lives in a townhouse. End unit and the unit that is attached on the other side is owned by a wonderful older woman who goes to bed in the early evening and is up at 4AM. In 8 years, DS has never heard her and she says she's never heard him.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Apr 2, 2024 3:24:41 GMT
I live in a townhouse and my neighbours said they like their privacy but always say why don’t I come over more. She said she likes privacy? Also she has a smoothie at 8 am that I can hear. That’s all the noise they make.
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Post by chaosisapony on Apr 2, 2024 3:33:46 GMT
I lived in a condo for 9 years. I had neighbors on top of me. For the most part they were ok. It was a rental unit so people came and went often. The last group though, they were the neighbors from hell. Loud parties, kids full blown running all the time, drug deals happening on their balcony, 4am screaming fights where one or the other is threatening murder, etc. Absolutely awful. I dealt with them for 2 years before I gave up, sold and moved to a regular house in the country. The most noise I hear are cars going by and the neighborhood guinea hens. I will never share walls again. Ever.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Apr 2, 2024 3:36:16 GMT
Also I should say we have an end unit and the neighbours we cannot hear ever.
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Post by chaosisapony on Apr 2, 2024 3:37:21 GMT
Worse than the noise? The people on their balconies smoking pot. Gag. The way the building is built it just all wafts into my open windows. Oh that was the worst in my condo! I'd have my windows open enjoying the breeze at night and all I could smell was pot from the upstairs neighbor's balcony. I'd immediately shut the windows and then spend the rest of my night annoyed that I couldn't so much as open a window in my own place. They also put a swimming pool on their balcony and would empty it nightly. It flooded my patio out every single day when they would tip it over the edge. Just thinking about some of this stuff is stressing me out and I haven't lived there in five years.
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Post by Nanner on Apr 2, 2024 4:19:22 GMT
When I was single and renting, I lived in a 3 story apartment. The lady in the apartment did aerobicize. And it sounded like someone was hammering right above me.
I'll never live below someone again.
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Post by Zee on Apr 2, 2024 8:14:55 GMT
No, I am not cut out for it. I can't stand hearing others' TVs, conversations, music, stomping around, or any other sounds. I most especially don't want to hear their stupid yappy little dog. I don't want to smell their dinner or smoke. I don't want to know that anyone is around me at all when I am inside my own home, except the people that live here.
We are quiet people and I'm an insomniac who works nights. I have been driven insane by neighbors in apartments in the past. I literally bought a TRAILER just to not have to have neighbors above or below me anymore, at a time when I could not yet afford a house.
The trailer actually saved my sanity, I liked it there a lot. Very nice park with strict rules and great neighbors. But I was very glad to be able to buy a home and thankfully haven't had to look back. The only way I'd move back into an apartment is if I went deaf.
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Post by smartypants71 on Apr 2, 2024 12:58:34 GMT
I live in a 3 story townhome so I share walls and not ceilings/floors. It is very well-built, and I have not once heard my neighbors in the 8 years I've lived there. My neighbor did ask us what we were doing in our place a couple weeks ago, because he could hear a lot of noise. We were jackhammering tile.
I rarely hear neighbor noise and more regular city noise. Like the guy who lives down the street who puts his whiny/yelpy dog on his patio when his parents come over.
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Post by Tearisci on Apr 2, 2024 13:07:37 GMT
I live in a duplex and the shared wall is our garages and interior bedroom/bathroom. I have never heard my neighbors and hope they've not heard me. My dog can be kind of barky sometimes and I hope the sound doesn't carry over. I know they have a dog too but I've never heard it unless we're outside.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 2, 2024 13:36:20 GMT
MIL lived in a condo before she passed. She got complaints because the neighbors all down her wing could smell her cigarette smoke smell from her unit all the way out in the hall, all the way down to the other end. Yeah, it was true and it was BAD. We got her an air purifier which helped some but didn’t eliminate the smell entirely. After she passed away, it took multiple coats of Kilz and paint in every room, all new flooring, carpeting and carpet padding and we had to get rid of all the curtains and window treatments to totally get rid of the smell before we could put the place up to sell. 🤢 I guess I would much rather deal with noisy neighbors than stinky ones.
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Post by imkat on Apr 2, 2024 14:02:32 GMT
We lived in a home, and our backyard neighbor’s dog barked incessantly. We tried to talk to them, called the police, nothing worked.
We then moved to a townhouse, and one neighbor had a pit bull that barked a lot. We could hear them throwing a ball down their stairs and the dog chasing it. Over and over.
We moved to a different townhouse, and our neighbor’s dog never barks. It is a relief. She has a bark collar, which makes me a little sad though.
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Post by busy on Apr 2, 2024 14:28:56 GMT
It all comes down to the underlying construction. My parents have a very nice townhome and you can’t hear a single thing between units. The walls between units are constructed like two exterior walls and filled with sound-deadening spray foam insulation. We were there a couple weeks ago and their neighbor is mid kitchen renovation. We couldn’t hear a thing from inside - i had idea it was going on until we went outside and saw/heard the workers. They’ve lived there for 20+ years and say they haven’t ever heard their neighbors from inside.
They also have windows that dramatically reduce any exterior noise infiltration.
But..: I think the construction is really the only thing that makes a real difference. If it wasn’t built to minimize sound transfer, I’m not sure there’s much you can do after the fact.
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Post by melanieg on Apr 2, 2024 14:55:42 GMT
It all comes down to the underlying construction. I will agree with this wholeheartedly. I lived in a 4plex before I bought my condo. That 4plex was built by my friend parents in the early 80s (the same time as my condo funny enough). That thing was built so well. I never heard a peep out of any of my neighbours. It was amazing. I still miss that place. I wish I could move back. If the new owner was a creep I would probably still be there.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 2, 2024 15:02:10 GMT
No, I am not cut out for it. I can't stand hearing others' TVs, conversations, music, stomping around, or any other sounds. I most especially don't want to hear their stupid yappy little dog. I don't want to smell their dinner or smoke. I don't want to know that anyone is around me at all when I am inside my own home, except the people that live here. That describes me as well. The only time I ever have noise in my home during the day is when I turn on a Spotify playlist to cook or clean by. Otherwise, I crave the quiet and the sounds of nature (in our climate, I can have doors open quite a bit). My first husband and I bought a house in Virginia that turned out to have awful neighbors on the side where our driveways ran parallel. We grew tired of their clutter and unkempt areas, so we went and bought huge red tip bushes to plant a privacy hedge between us. On the day we did the project, they came out to sit in lawn chairs and drink beer so they could "keep us company" while we worked! Charming.
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