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Post by librarylady on Apr 5, 2024 13:51:12 GMT
This reminds me of a story from the history of Peas...........
DEAR ABBY: Four years ago, a former friend, "Karla," offered me a nice oak side chair of hers. Karla said she had no use for it and assured me she wouldn't want it back. I accepted the chair and have used it since then.
When it was given to me, the back cushion was missing and the seat cushion was hard. After a couple of years, I bought nice fabric and had the chair repaired and reupholstered. It cost me $175. If I had thought the chair was on loan only, I wouldn't have done that. I sent her a pic of the finished improvements, and she replied that it looked nice.
A year later, she abruptly ended our friendship. She was angry with me because I had confused her airport arrival time and she had to wait an hour. Twice I apologized profusely, but Karla has not responded. (That was 14 months ago.)
Ten days ago, I received a text from one of her friends, telling me Karla wants me to return the chair she "let me borrow." The friend wanted to know when I could deliver it. I'm completely taken aback. She gave it to me! What is your take on this pickle? -- BAFFLED IN TEXAS
DEAR BAFFLED: Ignore the text. If Karla wants the chair returned, she should ask you herself. If she does, and if you agree to it, be sure she repays in cash the money you spent to have the chair refurbished.
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Didn't we have an ongoing chair disagreement story reported here a few years ago?
Moral of this: If someone gives you a large item (furniture or art work or ??) get it in writing that the item is given to you and not loaned to you.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Apr 5, 2024 14:01:06 GMT
Yes, but I think it was family and far more expensive..
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Post by disneypal on Apr 5, 2024 14:10:14 GMT
Didn't we have an ongoing chair disagreement story reported here a few years ago? I don't recall that. FWIW - I agree with Dear Abby's advice on this one. She's had the chair 4 years, it wasn't a loan, it was given to her. The "friend" only wants it back because she's ticked with her. |
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Post by River on Apr 5, 2024 14:13:22 GMT
I remember the chair debacle. Man, that was a good one to read. I wonder if it's on the history board here?
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Post by questioning on Apr 5, 2024 14:18:54 GMT
I remember it too; didn't it have spool turned type arms and legs? it might have been a family situation too, but same type of silliness wanting a return after the recipient put it labor and dollars to update it.
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Post by Prenticekid on Apr 5, 2024 14:20:40 GMT
I sort of recall the chair story too...when I started reading the Dear Abby, I thought it sounded familiar.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Apr 5, 2024 14:42:05 GMT
Oh, there was a chair story. I don't save or track anything, but I am sure some pea will pop in with all the details.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 5, 2024 14:44:35 GMT
I remember the chair story! Pretty sure MIL wanted chair back after the pea had spent a lot of money on recovering. I'm pretty sure she gave it back to keep peace and the peas were not happy!
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Post by lisae on Apr 5, 2024 14:45:46 GMT
There was one about a ring, but this certainly sounds like a story that could have happened here. Abby gave her good advice and the letter writer is lucky to have this 'friend' out of her life.
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Post by Lurkingpea on Apr 5, 2024 14:49:51 GMT
I remember the chair story! Pretty sure MIL wanted chair back after the pea had spent a lot of money on recovering. I'm pretty sure she gave it back to keep peace and the peas were not happy! That is it. I don't recall pea name, but those are the details. Still annoys me. |
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Apr 5, 2024 15:01:22 GMT
I remember the chair story! Pretty sure MIL wanted chair back after the pea had spent a lot of money on recovering. I'm pretty sure she gave it back to keep peace and the peas were not happy! That’s how I remember it, too. |
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Post by bethany102399 on Apr 5, 2024 15:12:16 GMT
I remember the chair story! Pretty sure MIL wanted chair back after the pea had spent a lot of money on recovering. I'm pretty sure she gave it back to keep peace and the peas were not happy! I thought it was her DH who gave it back, as it was his mother who wanted it back. She wasn't happy with it but was keeping the peace. Either way I'm with you all, I'm still angry about it. |
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Post by SnoopyFan on Apr 5, 2024 15:50:55 GMT
I remember the chair thing! I did not want her to give it back.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 5, 2024 17:27:58 GMT
I remember our own Pea chair debacle. I would not have returned the chair! But, if my DH did, I would grudgingly support him.
I can hold a grudge, LOL.
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Post by christine58 on Apr 5, 2024 17:31:03 GMT
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Post by scrappert on Apr 5, 2024 17:33:03 GMT
I remember the chair story too!
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Post by TXMary on Apr 5, 2024 17:44:08 GMT
Is anyone else shocked that the chair story was 10 years ago? Good grief...where do the years go? |
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Post by anaterra on Apr 5, 2024 18:47:07 GMT
TXMary i thought the same thing... and then to see all the peas that have left... nice walk down memory lane!!! Thankks christine58 for bringing it back
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Post by ellen on Apr 5, 2024 19:28:37 GMT
I remember that one. I would have been wild, but I would have returned the chair to keep the peace because it was the mil. I hope that when the in-laws are dead they get their chair back. I hope the Dear Abby chair person keeps her chair. I would not return it to a shitty friend.
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Post by epeanymous on Apr 5, 2024 19:39:12 GMT
Ha, I did remember that chair story. I was so mad for the Pea. I will never get it, truly. If I give someone something, it's theirs. I literally can't imagine what it would take for me to ask for it back.
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Post by Layce on Apr 5, 2024 19:42:47 GMT
I am already picturing how this would play out on Judge Judy 😆
*sigh*. People.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 5, 2024 19:57:31 GMT
Didn't we have an ongoing chair disagreement story reported here a few years ago? FWIW - I agree with Dear Abby's advice on this one. She's had the chair 4 years, it wasn't a loan, it was given to her. The "friend" only wants it back because she's ticked with her. This is my all time favorite thread on here. I was so pissed for the OP. She never should have given it back. |
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Post by cakediva on Apr 5, 2024 20:24:03 GMT
Is anyone else shocked that the chair story was 10 years ago? Good grief...where do the years go? Shut the front door - really?? I would have thought maybe a year or two at most - it seems so recent!! |
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 5, 2024 22:53:15 GMT
Ugh, why did you have to bring this up?! It's been nearly ten years and I still haven't gotten over my anger at the in-laws, and the disappointment that they gave the chair back! I was so invested in that story, and never have I been so annoyed about an outcome!
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Post by janeinbama on Apr 6, 2024 1:57:19 GMT
I thought of that Pea also. Ten years is unbelievable.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 6, 2024 2:53:10 GMT
Ugh, why did you have to bring this up?! It's been nearly ten years and I still haven't gotten over my anger at the in-laws, and the disappointment that they gave the chair back! I was so invested in that story, and never have I been so annoyed about an outcome! We are clearly chair sisters. No way would I have ever given it back. It would have been my hill to die on, and I would still be on it fighting. |
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Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Apr 6, 2024 3:48:39 GMT
Yes, as soon as I read the Dear Abby post, I thought of the chair story. I would not have given it back and I don't like that they did. And that MIL was a piece of work! I'm another one who did not think it had been 10 years!!  I thought, maybe ~4. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Apr 6, 2024 12:46:39 GMT
I hated that the chair went back. Nobody in my family would have dared asked me to return the chair. I can see DH trying to keep the peace and returning it, but I would have fought with him about it too. It was definitely a hill I would have died on.
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Post by artbabe on Apr 6, 2024 15:07:18 GMT
I totally remember the chair incident. You would have had to bury me in that chair.
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Post by pinklady on Apr 6, 2024 15:34:35 GMT
Am I the only one who would love for peanuttle to come back and give us an update on the chair? I mean I’m envisioning MIL got the chair home and then either gave it or threw it away soon after. |
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I thought, maybe ~4.
