Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Jun 5, 2024 15:44:13 GMT
You leave the kids in the cart, take it to the corral, and walk your kids back to the car. There's not a cart magically waiting right beside your car when you park; you have to walk into the store to get one, or grab one from the corral. Also, I don't think people are talking about the occasional shopper leaving a cart in the lot because they feel ill or some other instance; it's the people who habitually leave them because they don't care - no matter what "excuses" they give. Granted most aren't talking about people with "good excuses" but they do tend to "forgive" them only when and if they find out why some left their cart behind. Unless the person is known to you, how do we know it's habitual? Jumping to conclusions could be a competitive sport. And if they don't find out good reason, the "offender" is left in the bad person column. I'm aware much is pure lazy but you never know til you know. Saw someone ask someone else seated in car with cart still next to car, not taken back. Is this your cart? Yes. Person starts to roll it away and car occupant thanks them profusely. Then "helpful" person puts cart up against back bumper. How do you/they know that cart wasn't the only thing holding them up and couldn't easily get cart back. Probably improbable but still, not knowing the whole story I wouldn't go into the AITAH mode cuz you very well could be. (Use of "you" nonspecific) I actually logged back on to address this because I kept thinking about your post above where you said people were looking at you and saying things from afar; They had no way of knowing your situation. My reminder that it never hurts to show grace.
I'll just keep trying to lead by example in the shopping cart war - maybe someone will notice others putting their carts away and decide to do the same. Or get a big scratch on their door and realize it was from a cart being left to free range.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 5, 2024 21:22:43 GMT
If possible, take it to the corral. On the other hand do t judge those who don't, like everything else, you don't know their story. Err on the side of kindness. They could be just ignorant or lazy but maybe there's more to their story. Had me thinking back to after transplant days when I thought I was feeling great, until I wasn't. One of those times was at Aldi's. After I got back to the car with groceries, I could barely stand up. Energy gone, just like that. I bailed on that cart (and my quarter lol) and would do it again given the circumstances. Didn't stop people from giving me the evil eye and badmouthing from afar. Maybe she should have returned the cart but I tend to think judgy people are judgy people. If something did happen to kids in that couple minutes,id venture to guess they'd be judging again for different reasons. Yep the risks are low, but not zero. Everybody has their thresholds... It is true that you don't know everyone's story. When I walk past anyone who has a kid or looks like they could use a hand, or the timing is just right, I always offer to take it back for them as I am walking in. I have people do that for me and I love it. |
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Post by hop2 on Jun 5, 2024 21:32:28 GMT
If I’m that fearful, ( which I haven’t been at a grocery store yet knock on wood ) I would wait I side or ask a security person to walk out with me.
I’ve felt unsafe before but in places with parking garages or one at a department store, but I’ve found that in places I’ve felt unsafe there seemed to be more police patrols so I have waited a few minutes until the car rolled thru the parking lot. I can’t recall waiting more that 5-8 minutes. Now a days with phones I’ll have someone on speaker phone but I do recall in the before times if cel phones waiting in the caldor lobby for the cops to roll thru.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 5, 2024 22:09:27 GMT
I had a little kid once too, and after I did I learned that I had been doing parking wrong my whole entire life. The best spot is not the one closest to the door, it’s the spot directly next to the cart corral. When you park next to the cart rack, you can easily grab a cart from there to put your kid in the car seat / little kid / heavy thing you need to return, etc. when you go in, and when you come back out you don’t have to go far to bring the thing back after loading your groceries / kid / 40 lb bag of dog food and gigantic Costco jug of detergent into the car. Ever since then, the spots right next to the cart corral are the spots I prefer so I actively seek those spots out. If I can’t get a spot next to the cart rack (or just a couple spots away, etc.) only then do I look for a spot by the door so I can run the cart back inside when I’m done with it.
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Post by questioning on Jun 5, 2024 22:17:26 GMT
I saw her TT and she's a douche. Yes, if safety is an issue, then don't return the cart. Hell, don't even worry about the groceries at that point. But the TT she did said nothing about feeling unsafe. Maybe she came out with that later. So, I just listened to her again. Original video nothing stated. In her follow up, she is spouting statistics of how many children are kidnapped out of cars, lawyers of parking lot crimes, touting her videos of predators and trafficers, how it is illegal to turn your car on and walk away in some states(so they have air). So y'all are welcome for me taking the hit on listening to her Kourtney Kadashian lilt as she explained why she will not return the cart. When I learned her profession, I tuned her out. This is an attention grab. Also because of Kourtney Kadashian lilt  that made me smirk, I know it's wrong to judge intelligence by an accent but she makes it hard to abide. And hard to listen. |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jun 5, 2024 22:22:44 GMT
I was a conscientious cart returner - even with young kids, with the exception of one place we lived where the store was absolutely ridiculous on availability of corrals. I'm sorry, I'm not walking half a mile to return your cart because you can't put a few areas in the actual parking lot. It has nothing to do with fear, it has to do with the stupid store having literally acres of parking lot and nowhere to return the cart, provide some convenience for your customers on a few areas to put your cart or send your employees collecting carts all over the parking lot - it's on you.
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Post by smasonnc on Jun 5, 2024 22:53:58 GMT
Signed the woman who once came out a movie with 4 kids only to find that even my 65 pound kid couldn't squeeze between the driver's side of my car and the idiot who parked next to us. (Yes, I was centered properly in my spot.) I think I'd go FIND a cart to put behind that person's car. Original video nothing stated. In her follow up, she is spouting statistics of how many children are kidnapped out of cars, lawyers of parking lot crimes, touting her videos of predators and trafficers, how it is illegal to turn your car on and walk away in some states(so they have air). She forgot to mention "abducted by aliens." In 2022, FBI juvenile missing persons stats: 249,950 (95 percent) were coded as Runaway, 2,386 (.9 percent) as Abducted by Non-custodial Parent, 296 (.1 percent) as Abducted by Stranger, and 10,447 (4 percent) as Adult (meaning vulnerable adult with conditions that make them at high risk e.g., dementia, cognitive issues, etc.) I like data. She's going to great length to justify being a lazy cow when she has more chance of hitting the Powerball Jackpot than having her kids abducted from a locked car in the 11 seconds it takes to return her cart. They could be just ignorant or lazy but maybe there's more to their story. As I said, I like data, so I'm going with ignorant or lazy. Here in Florida I give a free pass to somebody who looks like they're too old to have a driver's license in the first place and that includes a lot of people. |
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Post by littlemama on Jun 5, 2024 22:57:36 GMT
I put the cart in the corral if I can, and if I can't, I make sure it isn't where it is going to hit someone's car. I also dont try to guess why someone may or may not put their cart in the corral as long as they dont leave it behind other cars.
I have no idea what someone else's story is and Im not going to judge them for doing what might just be the best that they can do at that moment.
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scrappinmama
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Post by scrappinmama on Jun 5, 2024 23:23:56 GMT
Park next to the corral or ask a bagger to help load groceries while you get your kids in the car. Then they will return the cart. Aldi's? Leave your kids in the cart, walk it back over, take your kids out and go back to the vehicle. If I could do it with 2 Autistic kids, one who was on TPN and Oxygen (backpack for TPN, medical bag for CVL emergencies with supplies, tall metal oxygen tank) then you can do it too. Oh and when it's raining? I return the cart back to the front doors under the eve of the store. 😱 My thoughts exactly. I also have 2 autistic kids and never just left the cart wherever the hell I wanted. I parked next to the corral. Never had an issue. |
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Post by mymindseyedpea on Jun 6, 2024 2:16:13 GMT
Oh and this is such a simple thing and I don't know why all grocery stores don't do this.. what Aldi's does... charge a quarter and get it back. I don't even have an Aldi's near me (I have shopped there by my mom's house) never a cart in the parking lot. Kids would go nuts to make a few bucks collecting carts if all stores did this. This reminds me of Tom Hanks in The Terminal movie. I was wondering why Aldi’s was specifically mentioned ☺️ |
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Post by melanell on Jun 6, 2024 10:34:48 GMT
I was a conscientious cart returner - even with young kids, with the exception of one place we lived where the store was absolutely ridiculous on availability of corrals. I'm sorry, I'm not walking half a mile to return your cart because you can't put a few areas in the actual parking lot. It has nothing to do with fear, it has to do with the stupid store having literally acres of parking lot and nowhere to return the cart, provide some convenience for your customers on a few areas to put your cart or send your employees collecting carts all over the parking lot - it's on you. Yeah, a lack of corrals (Unless you're someplace like Aldi) is really annoying. We have a shopping center that for years had exactly one corral for an entire parking lot. And it was a full size grocery store. Now they've stepped up their game---they now have two.  I also often question why some local stores opt NOT to put corrals anywhere near their handicapped or new parent parking spots, too. It seems like the ideal spot for one right between the last handicapped spot and the first non-specified spot to me. But I rarely see it. Maybe they feel that's so close to the store that people will just bring them back, but I can't help but think that for someone with difficulties, by the time they're done shopping, it might be nice to just push that cart into a neighboring corral rather than make your way across the main traffic area again. But at any rate, I tend to see a lot of carts left in those spaces, so clearly the stores are somewhat incorrect. in thinking that people will bring them to the store front. |
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Post by ChicagoKTS on Jun 6, 2024 13:35:35 GMT
Typically if I go to ALDI, after putting the groceries in the car, I look for someone just arriving and give them my cart. Win, win, I don’t have to walk back and they save the quarter.
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styxgirl
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Post by styxgirl on Jun 6, 2024 22:06:27 GMT
Just park by a cart return. Or at least close to one … Then you don’t have to go far.
That’s what always do. It’s a one-door-ding spot anyways!
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that made me smirk, I know it's wrong to judge intelligence by an accent but she makes it hard to abide. And hard to listen. 
