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Post by monklady123 on Jun 15, 2024 15:19:31 GMT
Or, even further back, how about elementary school reunions?  My 50th (omg!  ) high school reunion is happening this weekend in Pittsburgh. I'm in the FB group for our graduating class so I've been hearing about it for months. Now I see that there will be mini-reunions by elementary school at some point during the weekend. (at least they're not trying to organize a separate trip/even for elementary school, lol) I have absolutely zero desire to attend. I hated every minute of my six years at this school (grades 7-12 back then, no such thing as a middle school) except for the time I spent in the choir room. I was friendly with some kids but had no real friends. My two closest friends were neighbors who weren't in my grade, so I didn't see them much at all in our HUGE school (730-something in our graduating class). I've noticed during all this planning that the people doing most of it are the same names that were the popular kids back in high school. And many of those were the mean girls, and they were very mean, especially to us non-cool kids. I've had so many FB reminders, even some private messages from some of them, to say "get your tickets now! We'll miss you if you're not there!" um... lol, no you wont'. You won't even notice if I'm not there.  The three people who I still keep in touch with from high school (from my grade) feel the same as I do... no desire to go. One commented to me that she'll just live vicariously through the photos that they will no doubt be posting, and she was happy with that because she would be home in her bed rather than out dancing at 10:00 in the evening. hahaha Same. (the program said that dancing *started* at 10:00... which is past my bedtime!) Anyway, just wondering what you all thought about high school reunions. I think it might make a difference if you went to a huge school like I did vs. a smaller school where there might have been more chances to get to know everyone. Or, maybe that made it worse if there were mean girls.. fewer kids to pick on. Although interestingly, my dd who went to a pretty big school and who had a million friends has absolutely no desire to ever go to a reunion. She said "Mom, I see and/or keep in touch with everyone who I want to. Why would I want to go back to see everyone else?" lol |
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Post by peabay on Jun 15, 2024 15:23:33 GMT
I have gone to a lot of them. They were fun. I went to an all girls high school with 100 girls in a class and we were all generally friends (I'm sure there are some who would roll their eyes at that) and many of us are friends on FB. Our school is closing this year (well, it closed as a school about 10 years ago, but it's being sold this year)so we're having a big reunion in August and I'll go to that too.
My dh has gone to most of his. I've gone with him to some - one year the captain of the football team who was "big man on campus" (and was one of those "Glory Days" guys who peaked in high school) was bent over a police car getting handcuffed as we left because he and another "cool" friend had trashed the lobby of the hotel where the reunion was being held.
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Post by lindas on Jun 15, 2024 15:27:39 GMT
I’ve never even been tempted to go to my high school reunions. Like you I went to a fairly large school and most of my friends at the time were not in my grade. I did attend the football games for several years after graduation because my brother played on the team.
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Post by pantsonfire on Jun 15, 2024 15:31:21 GMT
Nope. And we never had any because of social media.
I did however put together a band reunion and it had a good turn out.
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Post by katlady on Jun 15, 2024 15:31:50 GMT
I went to one. It was fun. The people planning it were people I was friends with in high school, so I knew there would be people there I knew. I went to a big high school. My graduating class was about 1,000 kids. At the reunion, there were maybe about 150 there. Even some teachers showed up. I actually sat next to the BMOC for dinner. We never spoke during high school, but he was really nice. There was a small group of us who had known each other since elementary school, so it was nice to see them. I am one of the ones who moved away, so I don’t see everyone on a regular basis. They have occasional get togethers that I don’t go to. If they had another one, I would probably go.
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Post by Lurkingpea on Jun 15, 2024 15:32:24 GMT
No. Anyone I wanted to keep in touch with I did with the exception of one. I would like to know how one person is but I doubt they would have gone either. Unfortunately they have almost a comically common name so Google is no help.
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Post by Tearisci on Jun 15, 2024 15:37:28 GMT
My 40th is next year and I live out of state so definitely will not be attending. I haven't gone to any of them even when I lived locally as I kept in touch with the people I wanted to and didn't really care about the rest. My BFF was my BFF in high school and I keep up with a few others on Facebook but I've never had a desire to go to a reunion.
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Post by lisae on Jun 15, 2024 15:53:44 GMT
I went to one at 10 years. It was okay but I haven't been back. I'm friends with two people I went to HS with. I actually enjoyed high school even though I was not in the popular crowd. With a class of 300, I suspect that the people I would most want to see would not be there. Whenever I run into someone I went to HS with, I don't recognize them, they recognize me or I know who they are by their names. For example I went to a funeral where the minister and one member of the family where former classmates. I would have never known them otherwise. There are probably many of us crossing paths who don't recognize each other at all.
I just don't see the point in reconnecting with people once every 10 years or so.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 15, 2024 15:56:44 GMT
I had a horrible school experience w/lots of bullying, bruises, harassment and more bullying and that included my kindergarten teacher who used to punch me in the head and drag me by the hair. Lovely, 'eh? So, I graduated early in order to get away from it and I would never attend a reunion, ever. I've done a lot of work to heal and that means leaving it in the rear window and cherishing my current life.
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Post by Ryann on Jun 15, 2024 15:59:57 GMT
I went to five high schools in two different states. I’ve never attended any and have no desire to.
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Post by breetheflea on Jun 15, 2024 16:07:28 GMT
The ones I knew about were pub crawls, and both times I was pregnant, so it didn't sound fun. The last one (2015, 20th) I was planning on going but got a horrible sinus infection. I haven't heard anything about a 30th yet. So long story short, no.
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Post by malibou on Jun 15, 2024 16:22:25 GMT
I had a horrible school experience w/lots of bullying, bruises, harassment and more bullying and that included my kindergarten teacher who used to punch me in the head and drag me by the hair. Lovely, 'eh? So, I graduated early in order to get away from it and I would never attend a reunion, ever. I've done a lot of work to heal and that means leaving it in the rear window and cherishing my current life. Ouch, what a horrible experience. Sending out a full 20 second, gentle hug to you. |
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Post by malibou on Jun 15, 2024 16:24:13 GMT
I went to my 10th, but the people I really wanted to see weren't there. I don't see myself going again.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 15, 2024 16:26:06 GMT
I went to my 10 year one. Now they have them in August when I am back at work.
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Post by valincal on Jun 15, 2024 16:33:55 GMT
I graduated from a DND school in Germany (army brat) and we hold all-year reunions (students attended our high school from 1968 to 1993!) every two or three years and have since 2001! They’ve been held in several cities across Canada. I’ve attended almost all of them and helped organize the two we’ve held in my city.
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Post by artbabe on Jun 15, 2024 16:36:35 GMT
I was definitely an individual in high school and it wasn't always appreciated. I had a really distinct way of dressing that got a lot of its inspiration from MTV videos. I was a theater kid and that definitely wasn't cool. I was bullied quite a bit.
One Halloween, two girls came to school dressed as me, and it was really obvious that they were pretending to be me. It sucked.
At my 5 year reunion, those two girls came up to me and said "remember when we dressed like you?" So it sucked again.
I think I went to my 10th, and it was weird, because I wasn't married and didn't have kids, and I didn't really have anyone to talk to. I haven't gone since then. My 40th is this year. In some ways I think it would be interesting to go, but I definitely wouldn't fit in.
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 15, 2024 16:38:15 GMT
We both went to the picnics for our 10th, but never went again because meh.
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Post by mich5481 on Jun 15, 2024 16:45:00 GMT
I went to my 10 year reunion, and had fun.
They were planning our 20 year reunion, but tickets were really expensive (almost $100/person) and responses were low. They also switched the date after it was first announced (they pushed it a week later). Since it coincided with the high school's Homecoming in October, a lot of people couldn't make it, due to their kids being in school (many of us moved out of state) or upcoming time off for the holidays. The organizers cancelled it without warning, but at least people were refunded their money. A few people got together for a family picnic that had been scheduled for the day after the cancelled event. It was really awkward when the original organizers posted pictures of them on a group girls trip to Chicago that same weekend as the cancelled reunion. 👎
Monday marks the 25th anniversary of our graduation. The original organizers (our senior class officers) have said they'll never plan another reunion. I'm a little sad that we probably won't have another reunion, especially because so many of my college friends said their 20th reunions were great, as all of the old cliques had melted away and people reconnected. Clearly, the old cliques hadn't melted away at my high school!!
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jun 15, 2024 16:47:27 GMT
I went to our 10th, 45th and 50th and loved every second of it. I found that everyone got along great at the reunions (ours were in NOLA, lasted 3 days with multiple events.) People who never got to know each other did so at the reunions and we've continued the fun on Facebook. We also had 7 or so teachers attend the 45th because they loved our class so much. Sadly our 55th had to be cancelled because of Covid.
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Post by librarylady on Jun 15, 2024 16:50:55 GMT
I went to one, a 10 year reunion.
I won't have another chance as it was decided we are too old to have another reunion.
😁
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Post by MichyM on Jun 15, 2024 16:51:49 GMT
I went to my ten year and had a blast, but haven't been to one since. They are 3 day affairs. Friday night is graduates only at a local bar. Saturday is the formal night with partners. Sunday is the family day at a local park. I have lost touch with all of my HS friends since and am fine with that, so I see no reason to attend. Our 50th is coming up in 5 years |
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 15, 2024 17:01:19 GMT
No. My high school is in a small out of the way town which is difficult to get to (fly into San Francisco and drive four-five hours). While I’m still friends with a few folks from high school, it’s not enough to get me to commit to the travel/cost to attend. Dh goes to his though.
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Post by ntsf on Jun 15, 2024 17:04:11 GMT
I've been to three.. and they keep getting better. my class was 650--big urban school--and about 100 plus people attend. I reconnected with friends from high school, hung out the elementary school crowd, and talked to people I never hung out with at school.
our 50th is this fall.. we gather at a bar someone owns friday night, a dinner sat night, and one member is organizing a golf gathering. I don't golf, so won't go to that. he is a famous actor.. but he is also part of the elementary school crowd.. so fun to see him.
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Post by smasonnc on Jun 15, 2024 17:07:40 GMT
DH and I went to the same high school and we just had a reunion last fall. We didn't go to all the reunions, but we enjoyed the ones we went to. The people who put on the reunion were the ones who stayed in town and they were all very friendly, positive people. At our high school, people were nice to each other even if they didn't hang out and that didn't change over the years. The people who came were fun to catch up with. The captain of the football team is still a Neanderthal, but his wife, the homecoming queen, is still very sweet and likeable just like she always was. Best part was, the few mean girls we had got fat.  At the last reunion, more people came who hadn't been before and a few teachers showed up. It was wonderful to see old friends and we started a group text so we can get together. |
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Jun 15, 2024 17:18:59 GMT
I graduated 55 years ago! Yikes!! I have never had the desire to attend any reunions. I did go with my husband to several of his reunions and enjoyed them. His graduating class was really small and mine was really big.
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 15, 2024 17:44:18 GMT
I went to my 20th.
My 30th is tonight, but I'll be running karaoke at a different bar.
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Post by bklyngal62 on Jun 15, 2024 19:23:05 GMT
I went to my 10 year reunion and have had no desire to go to anymore. I realized that some people just don't change and are always trying to outdo the other. I don't need to hear about who has a better job, a better house, who gained weight or looks old, etc.
I'd rather stay home with a glass of wine relaxing and watching a movie.
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Post by wordfish on Jun 15, 2024 19:32:56 GMT
I have never been to one but I'm going to my 40th in October. If it stinks, I'll console myself with visits with my best friend who also lives in the area. I didn't even meet her until I was 21 years old, so she is not a part of the high school experience.
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Post by lavawalker1 on Jun 15, 2024 19:46:00 GMT
45th reunion coming up….. yep they have one every 5 years! Anyhow, I have no desire to go, and I could have written your post!
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Post by sideways on Jun 15, 2024 20:11:34 GMT
I went to my five and ten year reunions. I sat with the friends I had kept in touch with and it was nice to see a few others I hadn’t. But the assholes had just turned into bigger assholes. The last reunion held was the 30th. It was just a meet-up at a bar. I saw the photos on FB. That was enough for me.
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) high school reunion is happening this weekend in Pittsburgh. I'm in the FB group for our graduating class so I've been hearing about it for months. Now I see that there will be mini-reunions by elementary school at some point during the weekend. (at least they're not trying to organize a separate trip/even for elementary school, lol)
