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Post by grammadee on Jun 23, 2024 22:20:20 GMT
Don't SHOULD on yourself!
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kate
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Post by kate on Jun 23, 2024 22:42:01 GMT
"This is the curriculum."
I heard it from a guest on the Ten Percent Happier podcast - I'm ashamed to say I don't remember who it was.
The idea is that whatever situation you're complaining about is actually part of your "course" that is your life's purpose.
Another one I like is "Keep your own side of the street clean." It's kind of a combination of "stay in your lane" and "you can't control the actions of others."
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Post by Texas Scrap on Jun 23, 2024 22:49:18 GMT
Your first one is similar to my "Just for now." I used to have a tendency to not do things until I thought I could do them "perfectly". After awhile I wised up and started telling myself to do something "just for now". It didn't need to be perfect, because it wasn't the final project or result. It was a first draft. It was "just for now." Now some things stay "Just for now" for years before I/we get around to doing anything differently. And some things we probably won't ever get around to doing differently. BUT, plenty of other things, especially small things, turn out just fine in their "just for now" state. Imagine that! And I don't feel like I need to change them after all. It's very freeing. It also gives me more sense of accomplishment, since I DO more now instead of just endlessly PLANNING to do things. It works well with the general baby steps idea, too. If you need to make something better, those baby steps are your "just for now"s. Just for now I will walk around the block. Later I will walk a mile. Just for now, I will walk around the block. Or "just for now" I will save $X.00 from every paycheck towards whatever. In time I will save X percent instead, but "just for now" I will save this smaller amount. And in crafting, it's been fantastic. No more hoarding stuff to make some perfect version of what they could be. Nope. Just get something done "just for now". I get to enjoy the doing, and I get to enjoy a finished product. <3 (And as I have struggled with vision issues, I know those "just for nows" are not going to be redone. They are the best I can do. And that's been part of the journey, too. After so many years of placating myself with "Just for now", I've reached a point that in certain instances, I don't even need to say/think that any more. I can just say "This is what I can do, and this is good enough." and I can enjoy it. Pretty sure I am the person who needed to read this today❤️. Thx for posting |
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jun 23, 2024 23:05:19 GMT
We don't know what's going on in other people's lives. (Don't judge)
The size of someone else's problem doesn't invalidate the importance of yours. (I validate you.)
Some days you're the pigeon, some days you're the statue.
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Post by nightnurse on Jun 23, 2024 23:18:21 GMT
The grass is green where you water it.
You can’t pour from an empty cup
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Post by finsup on Jun 23, 2024 23:18:29 GMT
“Chuck it in the fuck-it bucket and move on.” I suppose “Let it Go” is the same idea but less crude, but the first one is more me.
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Post by finsup on Jun 23, 2024 23:24:25 GMT
The only way out is through. My way of expressing this sentiment when someone I love (including myself!) is struggling is to tell them they’re going on a bear hunt, like the book/song: “We can’t go over it, we can’t go under it, we’ve got to go through it.” |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2024 23:31:21 GMT
I sometimes say “The list is long but I’ll die trying”. I say this when I feel I’ve fallen short on something to acknowledge I’m self aware and always trying to improve on the person I was the day before.
No one is perfect, including me. I think people are so afraid to acknowledge human frailties nowadays.
My hope is my being open to doing so encourages others to do the same and give themselves grace and space to grow.
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Post by melanell on Jun 24, 2024 0:08:23 GMT
I’m another fan of “This too shall pass” Also, “Worry doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles; it takes away today’s peace”. I sometimes have trouble implementing that one. This is probably the most difficult one for me. Once upon a time I was very much a "don't worry about it!" person, and then I went through a very anxious stretch of time. And while I am far less anxious now, I do still sometimes spend too much of my time & energy on worrying. |
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Post by peasquared on Jun 24, 2024 0:14:10 GMT
This has always been my DD's, but I love it. "Be who you choose to be, not who others choose to see."
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Post by melanieg on Jun 24, 2024 1:29:42 GMT
Change it, or change the way you think about it.
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Post by smasonnc on Jun 24, 2024 1:31:58 GMT
It appears as though I live by what I read on tea towels:
"Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't go to for advice."
"Be nice to yourself. It's hard to be happy when someone's mean to you all the time."
"You teach people how to treat you."
"When everyone thinks alike, nobody thinks very much. You learn more from someone with whom you disagree."
"Gratitude makes what you have enough."
"Attitude makes the difference between an ordeal and an adventure."
"We rise by lifting others."
"Live in such a way that if someone spoke badly of you, no one would believe it."
"Outside your comfort zone is a pretty great place to be."
"If someone offers you an amazing opportunity and you don't think you can do it, say yes and learn how to do it later." (This one led to the best experience of my life.)
"Just because it's a bad idea doesn't mean it won't be a good time."
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Jun 24, 2024 1:44:41 GMT
Bloom where you are planted. This has always been a big pep talk to myself.
Also..,I love Be Still and Know. It has helped me a lot when my kids were going through some serious medical issues
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Post by hannahruth on Jun 24, 2024 5:28:50 GMT
I'm a firm believer in "juice ain't worth the squeeze" for tasks that just aren't worth the effort. I also believe in "you get what you pay for." I try to tell myself sometimes a screaming good deal is really junk in disguise. When people quibble about the cost of something I use this regularly. it may be cheap, inexpensive or whatever but "you get what you pay for" every time. |
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Post by rainangel on Jun 24, 2024 9:11:36 GMT
Some of these come from questionable sources, but:
This too shall pass (Bible I believe)
Keep passing the open windows (movie Hotel New Hampshire, it's in reference to not jumping out the window when things get hard)
Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? (Dr Phil, I am a very stubborn person and have to remind myself of this often. Not every fight is worth fighting)
These days, weeks and months are going to pass no matter what, but YOU decide how you will look and feel at the end of it (The Biggest Loser, one of the trainers said this to the contestants, and it's been motivational for me in my own weightloss)
Being hungry isn't actually dangerous (probably the Biggest Loser aswell, I watched the first season years ago, but a few things stuck with me)
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Jun 24, 2024 10:07:26 GMT
Currently Don’t let the old man (woman) in.
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Post by lesley on Jun 24, 2024 10:32:33 GMT
Some of these come from questionable sources, but: This too shall pass (Bible I believe) Keep passing the open windows (movie Hotel New Hampshire, it's in reference to not jumping out the window when things get hard) Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? (Dr Phil, I am a very stubborn person and have to remind myself of this often. Not every fight is worth fighting) These days, weeks and months are going to pass no matter what, but YOU decide how you will look and feel at the end of it (The Biggest Loser, one of the trainers said this to the contestants, and it's been motivational for me in my own weightloss) Being hungry isn't actually dangerous (probably the Biggest Loser aswell, I watched the first season years ago, but a few things stuck with me) This has been my motto since reading it in The Hotel New Hampshire, and I’ve never known anyone else who uses it! And one I repeat daily is “Things might not be as you want them to be, nor as they should be, but they are what they are." |
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Post by Judy26 on Jun 24, 2024 13:28:09 GMT
I forgot to add... Recently, I have been reflecting on a passage I used to have to recite every morning in homeroom: “This is the beginning of a new day. God has given me this day to use as I will. I can waste it or use it for good.
What I do today is very important because I am exchanging a day of my life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever, leaving something in its place I have traded for it. I want it to be a gain, not a loss – good not evil. Success, not failure, in order that I shall not regret the price I paid for it.” – Heartsill WilsonIt has something that has resonated me for 30 years now... I love this. I’m going to incorporate it into my morning routine. Thank you! |
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Post by epeanymous on Jun 24, 2024 13:32:59 GMT
Done is better than perfect.
Not my circus, not my monkeys.
Work won’t love you back.
Don’t take criticism from people you wouldn’t ask for advice.
Ironically enough, both life is long and life is short.
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Post by librarylady on Jun 24, 2024 13:36:29 GMT
10 years from now, will I remember this, or even care?
Tomorrow will be a new day.
I got through our home burning and Daddy dying, this will be easier.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Jun 24, 2024 16:55:25 GMT
A saying that helped me several years ago when DH and I were separated was 'That is not today's problem". When I would get anxious and worried about all of the what-ifs and the things we still had to work out and how we'd do that, etc,,,, I would just stop and tell myself that I can't fix it all in one day and to just focus on TODAY. Today's problem is that I need to grocery shop and get gas, etc... It helped to control the worry and the racing thoughts.
'Choose your hard' is another one. I use this when I don't feel like working out. I can choose to do the workout or I can choose to not and then pay the price for it later. Both are hard, pick one.
'Do you want to be right, or do you want to be kind/loving' I ask myself this when small disagreements come up or I feel like being contradictory. It doesn't always work, but I try!
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Post by kate on Jun 24, 2024 17:06:37 GMT
Chuck it in the fuck-it bucket This made me laugh so hard! I would love to start using it, but I'm afraid too many people would faint to hear it coming out of my mouth...  I will save it for an exquisitely appropriate moment.  |
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Post by ellen on Jun 24, 2024 17:09:55 GMT
Left foot, right foot, breathe.
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