Ben and Jen no more

Normally I would say it’s over (especially in this case)

But I have a very good friend who married and divorced and remarried and they now have been married over 30 years and still going strong. They in fact celebrate two anniversaries every year. Lol

I wouldn't say it's black and white for everyone. But I think she thought she could fix him the way she wants him, and she was wrong. She doesn't seem easy to please and he looks like someone who drinks a lot, sobers up for a while, and repeats the cycle.

Obviously I don't know them but I'm not sure either one of them will ever find a happily ever after, unless Jennifer G takes him back some day. They do have a family together.

I have no thoughts or feelings about Ben and Jen. But in answer to the question about whether you should give an ex a second chance, it really just depends.

One scenario where I think it could work, is if you were together when you were young, say in high school, then break up. After both of you have 'sown your wild oats' so to speak (man I hate that saying haha), you might find your way back together when you are both older and wiser.

A guy and girl I went to school with were a couple in high school. They ended up marrying and having kids with other partners. Then they turned up to our 25 year school reunion as a couple again! That was 14 years ago, and they are still together now.

Dh and I dated right out of high school - primarily long distance as I was at Uni and he was in the Army. I got pregnant at 20 and the long distance thing fell apart. We both grew up alot after that and got back in touch again 5 years later...spent a couple of years talking long distance and writing letters before deciding to give it a try in person. We married when our son was turning 8 and this year will be our 25th anniversary

I’ve been back with my high school ex for 6 years now. We only broke up because of long distance in college. Reconnected many years later, never been happier.

I never thought it would last.

I start being really cynical by the time someone is on their third marriage, let alone their fourth, with (at least!) two additional engagements. He’s a mess, too.

TMZ is reporting no prenup. That really surprised me.

Linda what a wonderful story! 

My ex husband cheated when I was pregnant with our son.  We had tried for several years to get pregnant before it actually worked.  I was so happy.  Then, on my first Mother’s Day, while we were sitting in a restaurant having dinner, he confessed to sleeping with someone.  I almost threw up.  I got up and walked out.  I was about to use my set of keys to his car to go pick up my baby from my sister when he came running out.  I didn’t want to hear a word he said.

We divorced.  He married the girl he was cheating with, telling me I gave him no choice.  He said that I knew he couldn’t be alone.  He begged me to take him back because he said he didn’t love this girl.  I refused.  They married.  Fast forward several years and they divorced.  They had both been cheating on each other.  

Coincidentally, I had also just ended a long term relationship around the same time.  No marriage, but we had been together several years.  My ex, ever the romantic, said hey, we are both single now.  Shall we get together again? I started laughing.  He said he had never stopped loving me and knew how he had blown it by cheating.  He swore if I took him back, he would never cheat again.  Yeah, right.  I said no thank you.

He went on to marry three (or maybe four) more times.  Each marriage ended in divorce because he was caught cheating.  I think he is currently still married again to #5, but my son heard from his sister (the child that he and wife #2 adopted.  I’m not sure what to call that relationship since neither is a bio parent.  I just referred to her as my son’s sister) that he was cheating on this latest wife.  Apparently my ex took a date, while still married to latest wife, to visit the daughter who had moved with wife #2 to another state.  Nice example of behavior for her.

My thoughts are if you have cheated once, you will most likely do it again.  And his cheating taught me that once I lose respect for a man, all my love and desire for him are gone too so I could never give the relationship a second chance.

I know 3 separate instances where people have been married, divorced, and then remarried. In all 3 cases they stayed married the 2nd time.

I have a relative who married the same guy 4 times and divorced him 3 times - they were working on divorce 4 when he died. I don't get it.

It's jennifer Lopez, who is divorcing, not Garner.

My parents divorced when I was a young teenager. My mom moved out and I decided to stay with my dad and not have to change schools. 2 years go by and out of the blue, my dad asked my mom to go to lunch, 6 months later mom moved back in and 2 months later they remarried. Stayed married until my dad passed away. There was no infidelity, just big differences in personality. However, they certainly made it work and you could see the love the 2nd time around compared to the first.

I am now dating a guy that I was best friends with, in high school. After graduating we tried dating, but I just didn't feel it and went our separate ways. We both married, had kids, went through divorce. I ran into him several months ago and we've been dating ever since. It's going great and I'm so glad I gave it another chance.

Honestly, she seems to be incapable of being alone and I don't think he is either.  I expect she'll be with "the love of her life" (again) by Christmas