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Post by cmpeter on Sept 24, 2024 1:19:09 GMT
Every now and then something pops up and reminds me that I was remiss in teaching my kids something they should know. For example: for DS it was where to put the stamp on an envelope. He knew how to write and address a thank you note from grade school, but didn't know where the stamp went.
Tonight dd was making dinner (veggie hash with sausage). She knew how to prep and dice all the veggies. But, she asked me what seasonings she should use on the sausage. Of course that was after she had already added salt and pepper. Needless to say we had a sort of salty dinner tonight.
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Post by leannec on Sept 24, 2024 1:24:12 GMT
To cook ... I seriously never let my dd's in the kitchen when I was cooking because I was such a control freak!  They would bake after I went to bed!  They are in their 20's now and their stepmother is teaching them to cook! Yay!  |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Sept 24, 2024 1:27:07 GMT
Long long ago when he was learning to drive I neglected to tell him while passing another care to not pull back in until he saw the other car's headlights.
It was ok, no accident, good lesson for both of us.
I am very sure there many more. But he would have been 63 this year, so really long ago.
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Post by stormycat on Sept 24, 2024 1:35:56 GMT
My boys were 3 and 4 ish at the time, if the incident. It was a crazy morning and I stopped at MCDonalds for breakfast. I handed them each a hash brown and was driving down the road and saw both of them eating the wrapper along with the hashbrowns. No harm was done to the kids and I was laughing so hard. I can’t believe I didn’t tell them not to eat the wrapper.
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Post by ntsf on Sept 24, 2024 1:45:58 GMT
two out of three kids can't drive, two out of three kids can't ride a bike (same two).
and given the long line of family sewists.. none of them sew. though they all could sew on a button.
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Post by breetheflea on Sept 24, 2024 2:00:43 GMT
Only my oldest knows how to use an index. The other three will just flip pages looking for a recipe... I try, they don't care.
My 15-year-old DS can't ride a bike, although he has "bi-lateral movement" issues so that's part of it. His school has bike riding in PE (currently going on) and I'm hoping this year he finally gets it. The 19-year old, 17-year old and 11-year old do know how.
None of my kids seem to know how to close food containers or turn off lights despite me complaining about it for going on twenty years. I wake up at 6 am and it's like we had an all night party with all the open boxes of crackers in the kitchen and lights on in every room of the house.
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Post by brynn on Sept 24, 2024 2:12:14 GMT
To cook ... I seriously never let my dd's in the kitchen when I was cooking because I was such a control freak! They would bake after I went to bed! They are in their 20's now and their stepmother is teaching them to cook! Yay! This was my mom. When I left for college, I knew how to make an omelet and popcorn. Barbara Swain's "Cookery for 1 or 2" taught me to cook in my first apartment. |
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Post by breetheflea on Sept 24, 2024 2:32:58 GMT
To cook ... I seriously never let my dd's in the kitchen when I was cooking because I was such a control freak! They would bake after I went to bed! They are in their 20's now and their stepmother is teaching them to cook! Yay! This was my mom. When I left for college, I knew how to make an omelet and popcorn. Barbara Swain's "Cookery for 1 or 2" taught me to cook in my first apartment. My mom doesn't really cook, I found out as an adult that her "special" onion dip is onion soup mix and sour cream, and her infamous Thanksgiving pie is a premade crust, Oreo cookies and Cool Whip... My dad did all the cooking when I was growing up and is he is not a teacher... I learned to cook with a Betty Crocker cookbook, and Food Network (before it was all competitions.) |
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Post by workingclassdog on Sept 24, 2024 2:40:12 GMT
One of mine never learned to ride a bike. That has always been a passage in our household. #3 just refuse to try. I gave up when I should have pushed it. Of course now she is 16 and all she wants is a motorcycle. NOT happening under my roof.. but how the hell is she supposed to even ride a motorcycle when she can't ride a bike. HA.
I know there is many more things.
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Post by Lexica on Sept 24, 2024 2:41:57 GMT
Apparently, I failed to teach him to call his mother other than Mother’s Day, Christmas, or my birthday.
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Post by workingclassdog on Sept 24, 2024 2:43:14 GMT
two out of three kids can't drive, two out of three kids can't ride a bike (same two). and given the long line of family sewists.. none of them sew. though they all could sew on a button. When I posted that one of my kids couldn't ride a bike, I thought I would be the only one! lol |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Sept 24, 2024 4:27:22 GMT
two out of three kids can't drive, two out of three kids can't ride a bike (same two). and given the long line of family sewists.. none of them sew. though they all could sew on a button. Not me but DS and DDIL were trying to teach their boys 7 & 5 to ride 2 wheelers. I realized that they had never ridden tricycles to learn how to pedal, steer and stop, which are basics for learning to ride bicycles. |
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Post by ~summer~ on Sept 24, 2024 4:49:52 GMT
One of my kids says he doesn’t really know how to ride a bike. I doubt any really know how to mail a letter….
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Post by peano on Sept 24, 2024 4:57:10 GMT
DS had extreme food sensitivities/aversions due to SPD, so his repertoire of acceptable foods was extremely limited. Even as a young adult, he had no idea what certain fairly common fruits and vegetables were.
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Post by paget on Sept 24, 2024 5:29:56 GMT
Dd1 can join the club, she can’t ride a bike either. We tried but she didn’t really care and is not very coordinated. Dds2 and 3 can ride bikes though.  |
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 24, 2024 11:01:25 GMT
Every now and then something pops up and reminds me that I was remiss in teaching my kids something they should know. For example: for DS it was where to put the stamp on an envelope. He knew how to write and address a thank you note from grade school, but didn't know where the stamp went. I posted this story when it happened three years ago: I had left my wallet out in the rain one day, so I took everything out of the wallet and put it all on the table to dry. My son, who was 17yo at the time, picked up a book of postage stamps, and said "What are these stickers for?" I told him they were stamps, and he said "What are they for?" I told him that you have to put stamps on letters when you send them. Then he said "Why do you have to put stickers on letters?" He had no idea what stamps were or that you even needed to put them on a letter! He could not understand why I was so incredulous, so he walked into the lounge room and said to DSO: "Dad, did you know that you had to put stamps on letters to send them?" DSO burst out laughing. |
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Post by lbp on Sept 24, 2024 11:06:18 GMT
That you can't use pennies in a vending machine.
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 24, 2024 11:08:47 GMT
DS had extreme food sensitivities/aversions due to SPD, so his repertoire of acceptable foods was extremely limited. Even as a young adult, he had no idea what certain fairly common fruits and vegetables were. That reminds me of another story.... One day I did my grocery shopping, and a teenage boy was working on the register. He picked up the pineapple I was buying, and said "What's this?" I burst out laughing, thinking that he was joking, but then I realised he was serious. I can understand not knowing what a parsnip is, or not knowing the difference between, say, a cabbage and a lettuce* but I was stunned that someone working in a supermarket didn't know what a pineapple was. (I mention lettuce and cabbage, because once when I was about 9yo, my Nanna sent me to the shops to buy a few items, including a lettuce. I saw the lettuces, and I saw the cabbages, and I had no idea which one was which. I was quite shy, so instead of asking someone for help, I ran back to my Nanna's house to tell her I didn't know which one was a lettuce.) |
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Post by jenb72 on Sept 24, 2024 11:56:54 GMT
For example: for DS it was where to put the stamp on an envelope. He knew how to write and address a thank you note from grade school, but didn't know where the stamp went. This is funny because it literally happened to me a couple of weeks ago. My DD (25) is getting married next year and was filling out the envelope to send a letter to her cousin to be a bridesmaid and needed a stamp, so I grabbed her one and handed it to her. Thank goodness I stood there for a sec and watched because she almost stuck the stamp on the completely opposite side from where it needed to go, lol. Jen |
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Sept 24, 2024 13:17:12 GMT
My DD(21) hasn't had too many "Call mom for the obvious things" moments. I had to coach her through getting her own oil changed, getting prescriptions filled, and making doctor's appointments. She used to send her friends letters and she sent letters home from summer camp, so she definitely can stamp and address a letter. I bet she would have to ask if she had to write a check. She never had the patience for me to teach her how to cook, but she must have picked up a thing or two, because she is great in the kitchen.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Sept 24, 2024 13:42:52 GMT
This isn't things we forgot to teach, but instead things we taught incorrectly. DH and I have always used "bocephus" to mean facetious so that's what our DDs grew up hearing. Our youngest said it to her college roommates and then argued with them when they told her it wasn't a word.
Also, I say iburprofren (with the R after the F). Way back I thought that was the word and no one has ever corrected me. The same DD also said it to her college roommates and was corrected. She then corrected me and that's when I realized that I've been saying it wrong.
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Post by Merge on Sept 24, 2024 14:04:02 GMT
This isn't things we forgot to teach, but instead things we taught incorrectly. DH and I have always used "bocephus" to mean facetious so that's what our DDs grew up hearing. Our youngest said it to her college roommates and then argued with them when they told her it wasn't a word.
Also, I say iburprofren (with the R after the F). Way back I thought that was the word and no one has ever corrected me. The same DD also said it to her college roommates and was corrected. She then corrected me and that's when I realized that I've been saying it wrong.
We have a whole family lexicon of made-up words and phrases that our oldest apparently took to high school with her and was embarrassed by. Now, at 23, she will ask, "is that an actual thing or just something that WE say." Most came from FIL, who passed in 2009, but DH has kept his memory alive with all his colorful words and phrases. I didn't teach my oldest how to bake or the youngest to cook. They can both do the other thing. They can figure it out like I did, through videos, because when I grew up I realized that my mom didn't actually cook - like many 80s moms, she assembled things with cream soups and rice a roni. Could whip up a mean jello salad. But actual cooking from scratch? No. I taught HER how to work with fresh garlic after I'd been married and had kids. My oldest had extreme anxiety and other issues and simply refused to be taught many things, like taking her car for an oil change. Any new experience was overwhelming. We're working on all of that now that she's more stable. The youngest is extremely independent and has the attitude, "I'll figure it out," which is great. We've been putting her on planes to visit her Nana since she was about 12. She manages layovers in large airports and has no problems. Through college, though, she's needed help with things like time management and scheduling, as well as meal planning and grocery shopping now that she's in an apartment. Her junior and senior years in HS were heavily affected by Covid, so some of the teaching we might have been doing at that time went by the wayside. I'm a firm believer that we don't stop raising our kids when they turn 18. Young adults need guidance, too. |
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Post by librarylady on Sept 24, 2024 14:07:19 GMT
two out of three kids can't drive, two out of three kids can't ride a bike (same two). and given the long line of family sewists.. none of them sew. though they all could sew on a button. When I posted that one of my kids couldn't ride a bike, I thought I would be the only one! lol My birth son cannot ride a bicycle. We TRIED but he just can't. He could ride the Big wheel and his tricycle, but when he got on the bicycle, he would push with both feet at the same time, so it never moved. DH tried, I tried....we had so many attempts and parents yelling I think he was damaged emotionally over it. After he was an adult, and had his children, he bought a bicycle and tried to ride--as far as I know, at age 48, he is still unable to ride a bicycle. |
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Post by craftedbys on Sept 24, 2024 14:19:25 GMT
Not something I neglected to teach my children, but a lesson that has never stuck, despite many much remedial lessons.
Neither of my children can nest bowls or storage containers. They will literally put a larger piece on top of a smaller piece and call it good.
Not too big of a deal with plastic storage,it just makes it messy and a nightmare to easily get the size you need, or worse, causes an avalanche when you try to get one.
However, with my glass pyrex bowls and rectangular pans, it is a problem because not only can it lead to chipped or cracked items, having a wonky tower of glass stacked on the edge of a shelf can lead to things falling onto the wider lower shelf.
I have tried everything to get them to put things away, from asking nicely, to explaining the spacial relationships and physics involved, to nagging and finally being a raging bitch, but they seriously can't seem to do it correctly.
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Post by lindas on Sept 24, 2024 14:28:58 GMT
Apparently, I failed to teach him to call his mother other than Mother’s Day, Christmas, or my birthday. Sounds like mine. He’s good at calling when he needs a babysitter or some other favor though. It’s not like I want to engage in long conversation I’d just like a “hi mom, everything ok” occasionally. |
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Post by kristi521 on Sept 24, 2024 14:50:13 GMT
DS had extreme food sensitivities/aversions due to SPD, so his repertoire of acceptable foods was extremely limited. Even as a young adult, he had no idea what certain fairly common fruits and vegetables were. That reminds me of another story.... One day I did my grocery shopping, and a teenage boy was working on the register. He picked up the pineapple I was buying, and said "What's this?" I burst out laughing, thinking that he was joking, but then I realised he was serious. I can understand not knowing what a parsnip is, or not knowing the difference between, say, a cabbage and a lettuce* but I was stunned that someone working in a supermarket didn't know what a pineapple was. (I mention lettuce and cabbage, because once when I was about 9yo, my Nanna sent me to the shops to buy a few items, including a lettuce. I saw the lettuces, and I saw the cabbages, and I had no idea which one was which. I was quite shy, so instead of asking someone for help, I ran back to my Nanna's house to tell her I didn't know which one was a lettuce.) My grown adult nephew has bought cabbage more than once when my sister asked him to pick up lettuce. I think that one is more understandable. |
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Post by iowgirl on Sept 24, 2024 14:52:24 GMT
I am sure there is something, but I can't think of anything offhand. We let our kids take charge of things pretty early in life. We were there to support and advise, but we both wanted them to be able to handle life's situations as they arose. From an early age, I had them order their own food at a fast food restaurant. If the place wasn't slammed, I would give them some money and have them handle the transaction totally - this was probably at age 5. They all learned to work and have responsibilities for pets and livestock from an early age. Pets really young, and big stock when they were older - 13 or so. Driving on the farm early prepared them for the real drivers license at age 14. My daughter laughs that she was in charge of making a cash deal on her braces. The orthodontist receptionist said she had never had anyone ask for a 'cash deal' , my daughter then asked to talk to the ortho to make the deal. LOL This was at her fathers request for her to do this. She got a better price! We paid, of course, be she negotiated the price. She also purchased her first brand new car at 21 on her own. The salesman later told us he had never had a young person deal so well on a car. Polite, but firm....also a cash price. Her Grandpa told her " don't take the first offer, and don't smile too much"  I had them help me with household maintenance too. My daughter has purchased two homes and each one came with a furnace filter that was so thick with pet fur and dust, she could barely pry it from the unit. I told her the previous owners parents never taught them anything - lol Our kids do call us for "how to's" yet, but sometimes I am asking them now! I guess the one thing that they were most shocked about was buying gas. Not that they didn't know how, but we always had fuel here at the farm, and they just coasted up and topped off the tank. They were unprepared for what a dent it put in their budget. |
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Post by malibou on Sept 24, 2024 14:58:53 GMT
two out of three kids can't drive, two out of three kids can't ride a bike (same two). and given the long line of family sewists.. none of them sew. though they all could sew on a button. Not me but DS and DDIL were trying to teach their boys 7 & 5 to ride 2 wheelers. I realized that they had never ridden tricycles to learn how to pedal, steer and stop, which are basics for learning to ride bicycles. My dh is a huge bike rider. I taught myself at 3 in our garage after getting a bike with training wheels for Christmas. I cried so hard when I saw the bike with its stupid training wheels. My dad took them off and then put the bike in the garage to wait for spring. I spent hours sneaking out to the garage trying to teach myself. I wish I had that sort of perseverance now. 😁 Ds got his first bike for his 3rd birthday. Dh tried to teach him to ride, I finally took over and in under 10 minutes, I created the terror of tiny town. That kid was a maniac on that bike! I also taught probably a dozen neighborhood kids to ride. I just couldn't stand watching 9 year olds with training wheels! 😳 |
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Post by malibou on Sept 24, 2024 15:12:52 GMT
I didn't teach ds to cook. I did try, but he was so not into it. He is now living on his own, and I am fielding cooking questions a lot. I'm pretty mad at myself on this one, I clearly should have tried harder.
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Post by needmysanity on Sept 24, 2024 16:31:21 GMT
Apparently how to change a toilet paper roll both one of my sons fail to do it.
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