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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 15, 2024 19:00:06 GMT
I know you are well versed in the life of a person with bipolar ... I am well versed in the life of a person with an eating disorder ... OK, did you know that people with bipolar disorder are more likely to suffer from an eating disorder? And frankly, any kind of addiction, and are 3x more likely to be overweight? I'm pretty well versed in eating disorders as well as my daughter, Chloe, has struggled with one for 10 years now. The thing is, when our bipolar improves, so does our substance abuse and disordered eating. It's all interconnected and that was what I was trying to convey. And Dawn has a team of health professionals around her and real live friends who share their concerns without building a team of message board participants to shame her. Like I said, you said your piece, she heard it, everyone did. It stung and is being considered. So why continue? I just had to cut off a long term friendship with a bipolar person because she used her diagnosis as an excuse to do harmful things to everyone around her and especially to herself ... she was also a master manipulator ... If you were as big of a "friend" as you claim you are to her or I, you would know that "master manipulator" doesn't even get close to being a descriptor for either of us. You want to discount our experience or opinions because we have a diagnosed mental illness? Or you want to say we are all like your (very bad, IMO) friend? What was the purpose of bringing up your friend? Maybe I will let it go and maybe I won't ... This is mean girl crap...again. |
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Post by leannec on Oct 15, 2024 21:29:56 GMT
Moving on ... Here are a couple of photos from our non-traditional Canadian Thanksgiving Dinner last evening at our favourite steakhouse (The Keg) ... My Mum, Emma and Molly all had steak but I chose the salmon because I always order fish or seafood in restaurants.  I'm such a scatterbrain these days ... I pull into the parking stall at the restaurant, walk to the other side to make sure I'm in the lines (because I suck at parking) and then meet my family inside. Molly looks at me and says "Mum! Didn't you notice that you are parked right beside me?" I seriously didn't even recognize that the little grey Hyundai next to me was hers! Bad Mum!   We all ordered brighly coloured drinks ... not on purpose, it just turned out that way! The food and drinks were amazing! Emma and Molly somehow had room for dessert and shared a decadent chocolate cake with ice cream and chocolate sauce that you drizzle over yourself! Yum!  Anyone else do something other than turkey or ham on Thanksgiving? |
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Post by Tearisci on Oct 15, 2024 21:39:19 GMT
Looks like a fun time leannec! Glad your day turned out well for you. |
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Post by ntsf on Oct 15, 2024 22:04:55 GMT
Hi pulling in late to the thread.. went to aquafit. post office, then to travel agent. she and I have so much in common.. we talk books and politics and have a good time. and she is an expert in her field. then home.. etc.
we are having leftover salmon cakes. I will run to the store later to get some salad and a roll of packing tape (two ran out this morning!!)..
nice grey foggy day.. not very cold out.
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Post by peasapie on Oct 15, 2024 22:12:22 GMT
Tearisci did you take tomorrow off for a particular reason or just a nice mid-week break? It's my birthday  Happy birthday! Today we had our house washed and it took sooooooo long. I didn't sleep well last night and wanted a nap but the blinds were up and lots of spraying going on, so no nap to be had. Tonight is my bookclub meeting (Lady Tan and the Circle of Friends), and I made little "fortune cookies" out of felt and put quotes from the book inside. I'm not hosting, but I love Lisa See, have read all her books, and was inspired to bring a treat for my fellow readers. We ate Costco salads from the bags tonight because I wasn't in the mood to cook. |
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Post by christine58 on Oct 15, 2024 22:14:36 GMT
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Post by bc2ca on Oct 15, 2024 22:49:09 GMT
I wasn't going to say a word until you came to this thread today hoping to resurrect your comments for what? A pile on? You said your piece, now let it go. And Dawn has a team of health professionals around her and real live friends who share their concerns  I think this thread has always been a safe place for Dawn and was disappointed to see a "concern" put out in public as something for us to discuss, no matter how well meaning, instead of sending a PM.  FWIW, Delta Dawn, to answer your question about having difficulty swallowing, I have on and off for a few years. Anecdotally, I initially thought it was me eating too fast and talking at the same time. I noticed it would happen semi-regularly eating a sandwich, so wondered if bread/gluten was a problem. It was weird, because I never felt like I was choking but definitely had food stuck that I couldn't swallow. When I eliminated gluten and ate a Whole30 diet it disappeared. My cancer diagnosis testing included an endoscopy which identified I have something called a Schatzki ring which causes the esophagus to narrow. We don't know why it developed in my case, but it was the cause of my difficulty swallowing. Since it isn't bothering me now we aren't treating it. The procedure was not difficult or painful but could give you some answers so worth exploring. I had my cataract surgery this morning and delighted to see a clear, bright world again. It is still a little blury but that will improve. DH took the day off as I needed a ride home and has spent almost all afternoon in the kitchen. A batch of his "whatever I feel like tossing in" muffins are cooling, burgers and drumsticks are formed/marinating and now he is working on his latest obsession which is perfecting a Greek garlic dip called scordalia. I'll be having one of his burgers for dinner. |
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Post by leannec on Oct 15, 2024 22:57:23 GMT
It's a Bellini! |
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Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Oct 15, 2024 23:38:22 GMT
Hi all - jumping in late here to say I'm back from my cruise with DH & extended family up the East coast (New England & Canada). It was really nice and relaxing, and we all had a great time. Got home on Saturday and didn't have to work until today so it was like having a little extension on my vacation. I'm happy to say that I'm all unpacked and all the laundry is done. We had great weather except for one day of rain, but now it's cooling off here. It was actually cold this morning so I turned on the heat. I don't tolerate cold very well!
We're having rechauffe for dinner from our takeout we got over the weekend.
Off to read past threads...
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Post by christine58 on Oct 16, 2024 0:32:03 GMT
It's a Bellini! Looks yummy. I have not had an alcoholic drink in three years because of my pancreatitis and then going on anti-anxiety meds. Although my doctor told me I could have a drink on occasion, but I haven’t yet. However, that looks delicious. |
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Post by leannec on Oct 16, 2024 1:00:58 GMT
Looks yummy. I have not had an alcoholic drink in three years because of my pancreatitis and then going on anti-anxiety meds. Although my doctor told me I could have a drink on occasion, but I haven’t yet. However, that looks delicious. It contains peach schnapps and Prosecco and is all slushy! |
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Post by cadoodlebug on Oct 16, 2024 1:17:35 GMT
I had my cataract surgery this morning and delighted to see a clear, bright world again. Congrats on your surgery! Interestingly, DH had a patch over his eye until the morning after when I took the bandage/patch off. He was stunned at how bright everything was. And so pleased, that he scheduled his other eye for 2 weeks later! |
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 16, 2024 2:22:26 GMT
bc2ca, that is good news about your cataract surgery. Maybe I will stop being a fraidy cat and go get it done, if the eye doc wants me to do it. The world is darker and I am fending off Macular degeneration. I don't have it, but I keep flunking the tests and I'm unable to take the eye supplements. I thought about the posts about our Delta Dawn. We all have struggles, no matter how large, medium or small. I struggle w/food in a different way. I love to eat and can't enjoy a meal, anymore. I'm on a getaway and can't sit at a restaurant and eat a meal. Decades ago, I used to have an eating disorder, so this is particularly hard for me. I can no longer make the choices that I learned to make about food and my body. Each day I wake up and I know that I will never feel well, again. There is absolutely no hope for my disease and I know that. How must our mentally ill sisters feel? The struggle w/mental illness is in many ways debilitating for those who suffer. I just want Delta Dawn to know that she's worthy and valuable and more than welcome here. leannec, what is the green drink? I've never been a drinker, so I'm in the dark. Ok, that's not entirely true. On occasion in college I'd have a Baileys and coffee, cause it tasted like mint cocoa. I paid for it, because I have zero tolerance for alcohol, but I felt like a grown up. Each one of us deserves love, care and compassion. I wish that for all who come to our table.
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Post by kokomo37 on Oct 16, 2024 2:23:04 GMT
Wow, just wow! I don’t post on this thread but read it everyday . Just because I don’t post because I don’t cook dinner very often doesn’t mean I don’t know what has been posted for months now. Jeremysgirl , talk about attack! I have never seen you speak so harsh. I love reading your posts and the topics are so engaging. Your reaction to Leannec ‘s post was over the top.
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 16, 2024 2:48:38 GMT
I will not speak for any of the ladies involved in the posts. I will; however, say that I saw jeremysgirl protecting a friend. This whole issue is difficult and brings out strong feelings. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 16, 2024 3:12:38 GMT
Wow, just wow! I don’t post on this thread but read it everyday . Just because I don’t post because I don’t cook dinner very often doesn’t mean I don’t know what has been posted for months now. Jeremysgirl , talk about attack! I have never seen you speak so harsh. I love reading your posts and the topics are so engaging. Your reaction to Leannec ‘s post was over the top. No it wasn't. She said her piece last night. And Dawn was nothing but humble. She even said she would talk to her therapist about it. I did not say a word. This today was kicking someone when you already hurt them. And I have no tolerance for that. There are a lot of things said here, including by Leanne, that I just bite my tongue on. For the sake of peace and kindness. Last night might have been said out of concern. But bringing it here again today after she got a thoughtful response was not nice and I stand behind that. It was mean. I did not insult Leanne. I did not bring up any of her faults/flaws/weaknesses or any word you want to use because I was focused not on harming Leanne but calling out unkind behavior. But I have to ask if you thought my behavior was over the top, I ask you to consider how you would take a parallel being drawn to one person with bipolar disorder who harms herself, everyone around her and is a master manipulator? What purpose did that serve being brought up in this discussion? And if you had the disorder she was blaming for her friend just flat out being a bad person, you wouldn't have seen that as a very not nice thing to say to two people on this thread who also have that same disorder? She may as well have kicked me in the teeth too. Thanks bc2ca for your support. And scrapmaven you're damn right I'll defend a friend. I'll defend each and every one of you if I feel like someone here is being unkind to you. I'm up way past my bedtime. Goodnight. |
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Post by bc2ca on Oct 16, 2024 4:05:44 GMT
Congrats on your surgery! Interestingly, DH had a patch over his eye until the morning after when I took the bandage/patch off. He was stunned at how bright everything was. And so pleased, that he scheduled his other eye for 2 weeks later! I went home with a patch on my left eye two years ago and it was taken off by the doctor at my follow up the next morning. I was a little stunned to be wheeled out of the procedure room with eyes wide open today, given a care pack that included the sleep shield and a decent pair of sunglasses and sent on my way. I started my drop a few days ago and was thrilled that is is just 1, three times a day instead of multiple drops. I do have a follow up tomorrow morning and feel like I could drive myself although Maybe I will stop being a fraidy cat and go get it done, if the eye doc wants me to do it. It really is an easy, virtually painless procedure and the difference to your sight is so immediate and amazing. |
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I think this thread has always been a safe place for Dawn and was disappointed to see a "concern" put out in public as something for us to discuss, no matter how well meaning, instead of sending a PM. 
