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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 18, 2024 22:16:51 GMT
The short story is that my director replied to my email yesterday expressing my disappointment in how things have been handled. I also stated that I couldn't trust anything produced by our office that I didn't have my hands on. He replied to me, the assistant director, my coworker (yikes) and his secretary asking her to schedule an in person meeting next week.
I called human resources and told them I wanted a representative at the meeting. That I think him exposing me that way was hostile. And that i feared retaliation. The HR guy wanted to know the details of what happened this week. And then I told him about the last in person meeting we had. He said, excuse me my boss is calling and I'll call you back later.
He called back an hour later. My bosses boss called the head of human resources and demanded an investigation into what is going on in our office. She's getting her meeting Monday. The HR rep told me he needs to begin and investigation. And that he was starting with my boss. He wanted to know as much detail as I would give him, he told me to update my written complaint with all this new stuff. And he asked me if he could disclose all the things I've said to him when he questions my boss. I told him yes.
They cancelled the online staff meeting this afternoon. And all three of them I could see in online meetings all day. There's a lot more but this is the gist of it. HR is opening a real investigation.
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Post by pantsonfire on Oct 18, 2024 22:34:49 GMT
jeremysgirl the nerve of your coworkers. Damn. And hopefully this new investigation will create positive movement and change for everyone. Because it seems like this is now affecting more than just your department as you have stated others have seen the problems. This is like a modern day soap opera girl. Positive thoughts that you are heard, like truly heard, and that there is zero repercussions.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 18, 2024 22:49:59 GMT
pantsonfire it feels like a soap opera and I just hate that. I have lived with so much drama from my parents, to my brother, to my ex-husband, to my kids. I am the kind of person who always wants to tuck their tail and run right away from it. But I have to say right now I feel like I'm on rollercoaster. I'm a little bit frightened but a little bit excited too. I feel like I have nothing left to lose.
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Post by pantsonfire on Oct 18, 2024 22:53:26 GMT
pantsonfire it feels like a soap opera and I just hate that. I have lived with so much drama from my parents, to my brother, to my ex-husband, to my kids. I am the kind of person who always wants to tuck their tail and run right away from it. But I have to say right now I feel like I'm on rollercoaster. I'm a little bit frightened but a little bit excited too. I feel like I have nothing left to lose. Yeah at this point with the issues already causing mental health problems, why not duce in head first and hopefully fix it for good. Take care of yourself during this. While the bubble may burst, I have a feeling in the end everything will be corrected and fixed. Everyone there deserves peace and employees who can do their fair share. |
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Post by bc2ca on Oct 18, 2024 23:11:13 GMT
stormsts, it might be a lot easier on you to have your folks nearby. Yes, it is stressful, but you're right there in an emergency. Your mom will not be likely to go to the doctor willingly, so you might have to do some manipulating to get here there. You have to go w/her and tell the doctor everything. Your mom will not remember the things she is forgetting, but she knows that she is forgetting things and will be too scared to mention it. This is the hard part. Roles shift and you become the grown up. We went through it w/my fil. My dh started going to all of his doc appts w/his mother and that's how they were able to diagnose and treat fil's dementia. It's a hard road, but once you know what's happening then it gets easier as she accepts help. For now, she just needs to find out what's going on w/her mind.  It really is great that they are going to be closer to you. It depends on how cooperative your mom is and how much your dad is willing to push things whether or not the next step is going to be easy. I would not expect her to share she is having memory issues or to even remember that she is. My dad wouldn't go to mom's appointments and they were both working to maintain the story that everything was fine. Then my sis reported mom to the DMV which triggered paperwork for the doctor to fill out. Her doctor was angry for mom and said she would sign off with no problem. Mom merrily left for her 9am appointment and about 9:30 the office called the house to see if she was coming. Sometime around noon, she returned home having spent the morning "shopping" with no idea she'd missed the appt or what it was for. Finally her doctor ordered cognitive testing and she was officially diagnosed with dementia. FWIW, my sis had the POA for her health decisions from this point forward. jeremysgirl, I hate the way this has dragged out and feel you have been failed every step of the way. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 18, 2024 23:41:31 GMT
pantsonfire it feels like a soap opera and I just hate that. I have lived with so much drama from my parents, to my brother, to my ex-husband, to my kids. I am the kind of person who always wants to tuck their tail and run right away from it. But I have to say right now I feel like I'm on rollercoaster. I'm a little bit frightened but a little bit excited too. I feel like I have nothing left to lose. Yeah at this point with the issues already causing mental health problems, why not duce in head first and hopefully fix it for good. Take care of yourself during this. While the bubble may burst, I have a feeling in the end everything will be corrected and fixed. Everyone there deserves peace and employees who can do their fair share. I hope you are right 100%. |
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Post by cadoodlebug on Oct 19, 2024 1:18:13 GMT
They cancelled the online staff meeting this afternoon. And all three of them I could see in online meetings all day. There's a lot more but this is the gist of it. HR is opening a real investigation.  At last! If they offered you your boss's job, would you be interested or would you still want to get the heck out of there. Assuming your co-worker gets the boot too! |
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Post by Marina on Oct 19, 2024 1:32:34 GMT
Wow jeremysgirl All in online meetings together? CYA meetings I guess. For the meeting you might want to write a bullet points list of things you want to address in case things get heated. It's nice to have an anchor you can easily scan. I truly hope this brings about change in your department. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 19, 2024 11:30:49 GMT
They cancelled the online staff meeting this afternoon. And all three of them I could see in online meetings all day. There's a lot more but this is the gist of it. HR is opening a real investigation. At last! If they offered you your boss's job, would you be interested or would you still want to get the heck out of there. Assuming your co-worker gets the boot too! Honestly I'm unclear on what is going to happen. My place likes to rehab people before they just let them go. I could easily do my boss's job. I don't believe I am qualified at this point for the directors job. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 19, 2024 11:31:14 GMT
Wow jeremysgirl All in online meetings together? CYA meetings I guess. For the meeting you might want to write a bullet points list of things you want to address in case things get heated. It's nice to have an anchor you can easily scan. I truly hope this brings about change in your department. This is a good idea. I'll keep that in mind. |
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Post by stormsts on Oct 19, 2024 13:09:10 GMT
jeremysgirl wow! Finally, it sounds like things might be moving in the right direction. You have been crapped on for far too long. I hate what this drama has done to your mental health.
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It really is great that they are going to be closer to you. It depends on how cooperative your mom is and how much your dad is willing to push things whether or not the next step is going to be easy. I would not expect her to share she is having memory issues or to even remember that she is.
