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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 13, 2024 19:35:34 GMT
I have a friend (I do!! really) haha..
I have this friend who has two kids. About 10 and 8 years old..somewhere in there. She used to be my hairdresser but moved away. She was a fantastic hairdresser. Anyways, she moved on but we have been 'friends' on FB for YEARS. Not the hanging out kind of friends but we swapped stories back in the day and it was a enjoyable time.. that's the background.
Her posts about her kids/family are so over the top and so lengthy about describing whatever the moment is.. like "... were blessed with the most precious gift that we truly had started to believe we'd never have after 9 years of trying. We are so blessed Jane Doe is the sweetest, kindest, most compassionate, big hearted little young lady. She is always looking out for her friends. She is athletic like her Daddy and loves trying any .....
and so forth.. this goes on for another paragraph or two. And over 60 pictures.
I guess I am not that type of person.. I'm like this "happy birthday to my middle kid, glad you didn't end up in prison." or 'happy birthday to my oldest, please move out of the house'.... we are joking of course.. my kids would absolutely be horrified if I posted something like that above.. we don't talk like that in real life so posting something like that would just be cringe worthy..
We have had our moments of gushy posts.. marriage, grandbaby, military.. I post to say how proud I am.. but short and simple.
This friend does these kinds of posts EVERY other day it seems. Just so how wonderful they are and what a open mom she is and letting them have their personal freedom (I don't think either kid knew what a hairbrush was and she was a hairdresser!).. I think they actually played naked in their yard for a few years. No she didn't post actual naked pictures.. but there were plenty of underwear only pics. INSERT eyeroll...
She does one of those at home businesses and has won trips to different cities around the world.. she literally posted about how she won a trip to XXX (somewhere very exotic) that she worked years towards but she gave it up because it was the first day of a sport in race or practice.. She literally posted how good of a mom she was to give that up. Family first. Literally gave up a free trip because little Joe had swim practice.
Oh yeah, she is also an anti-vaccer.. (how is that spelled).. don't even get me started on that.
Sorry I think I am in a mood today. LOL
Don't ask why I just don't defriend her. I don't spend time on it.. it just hit me weird today.
I have no idea why I don't but.. kinda like a train wreck to see what comes next.. lol
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 13, 2024 22:26:43 GMT
I have done a couple of gushy(ish) posts with maybe 10-20 photos on a couple of occasions - one when my son turned 10 and the other when my daughter turned 21. But every other day? That does seem very over the top!
Also, who gives up a free trip so as not to miss some dull daily task like swim practice? Super weird. Sounds like she's really fishing for validation on how great a mum she is.
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Post by hop2 on Dec 13, 2024 22:34:19 GMT
Every other day in FB is probably too much
But I DO enjoy a lengthy gushy holiday letter. I know many people think they are silly, but I love getting them.
Would never send one, my kids would kill me, plus I don’t write like that. My kids also like a holiday letter but only to sort of be snarky about it with their father. I truly actually love them. But only that once a year! Not every other day.
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Post by iowgirl on Dec 14, 2024 0:06:24 GMT
I fully believe when someone posts stuff like this, there is something in the background that is not good. They are trying to over compensate for either great unhappiness or something else that isn't what they want to present as all sunshine & happiness in their life.
I used to put more on FB, like when I went to a sports event my kids were in. I wasn't gushing about how great they were - but more just a post of how fun the event was and a picture of them (and usually friends) doing the sport.
I love it when those things come up in my memories.
I post NOTHING about them now. Or virtually nothing. They do not want their own kids' photos posted anywhere online and I respect that and do not share them. I do SnapChat with my family and friends, but I pretty much have a zero presence on social media now.
I have lost a couple siblings in the last few years - so when a FB memory comes up that they commented on - it's like they are back with me. That I love. I really do.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Dec 14, 2024 0:31:24 GMT
I too love the FB memories. Also, I still actively scrapbook, and it’s a great way to find some context and comparison from long ago journaling and layouts. I’m guilty of being wordy (just like here lol) and when I do post, I often post alot of words and photos. I figure no one is obligated to look at them, what does it hurt? Scroll on lol Hahah also, there are a handful of people in my life that have small circles, don’t get out much (or at all) and are older. They tend to comment on every photo of those “60” photos  If my bazillion photos of Vietnam are interesting to even one person (and I am one, that’s enough…) I don’t think twice. It starts conversations and gives us a chance to say hi. But- I also don’t post much with, or about my kids any more. Both of them have complex relationships with a few people (from my ex, their dad’s side of the family- including him lol) on my Facebook and at this stage, they get to share what they want. My son couldn’t care less what does and doesn’t get shared. If I plan to post anything photo related with my daughter, I always send them via text and ask if she she minds if I share them. She usually doesn’t mind, because I try to imagine what photos of myself I wouldn’t want shared. Also, I don’t share photos of my kids without either me in the photo, or very clearly in my space etc. My ex is a crap parent who put no effort into the kids, and I refuse to provide him photos of them after one of my photos of my son got back to me through an ancient mutual friend and their dad acted like he took it. It was my son at football practice a bazillion years ago. That douche didn’t go to a single practice or game of any sport my son played in over 15 years. He doesn’t get to pretend he did. I do send my mom photos in Messenger if I don’t want to put my kids’ news out into the world, or if they are super personal, or simply shared with me, but not part of “my story” if that makes sense. Or the individual photos etc I don’t want to share with my ex lol |
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Post by pilcas on Dec 14, 2024 2:25:12 GMT
That sounds way too mushy for my taste. It does sound like she is trying to validate her worth as a mother.
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Post by moodyblue on Dec 14, 2024 2:39:33 GMT
Makes me wonder what’s not so great in her life - like her marriage, maybe? Or who makes her feel inferior so that she has to go overboard in proving she’s not?
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 14, 2024 3:19:17 GMT
Oh I get the “holiday” letter type thing.. I can live with that… I even cranked out a few years of those in the past, but I know I limited my gushing… I always tried to put in some real everyday dumb stuff
And yeah who in their right mind works for a free trip for YEARS and then goes oh my family is so important that I just decided it isn’t worth it. It’s not like missing out on a kid getting married or whatever.. it was a swim thing … I don’t remember what exactly.. but nothing earth shattering
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 14, 2024 13:07:31 GMT
Honestly I couldn't care less about people like that. And I'll just say that I am a person who loves the photographs. I'm lucky too as I have some friends who are amateur photographers and take some beautiful pics.
My Facebook pet peeve is the person who posts nothing but memes. I have unfollowed several of those people. I'm there to chat and have fun. It has been bothering me lately how many people are flat out just not posting anything at all or just posting memes. And I know the ghosts are there, because they like and comment on my posts.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Dec 14, 2024 14:27:45 GMT
I have a few friends who post attention-seeking things like that on Facebook. Some days it makes me roll my eyes, other days I'm less annoyed by it.
I don't post much on social media anymore because my kids don't like me to post about them without them knowing (and most of the time they don't like photos anyway) but I do like seeing the memories and Iowgirl's comment about seeing those who are gone on the posts made me think about wanting to post more. I also don't feel that I am as creative as others in making posts or stories that have music or writing on it, etc.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Dec 14, 2024 17:17:00 GMT
Friends I dont want to unfriend, I unfollow. They wont show up in my feed, you have to actively go look at their pages.
I actually unfollowed my mom. LMAO.
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Post by Zee on Dec 14, 2024 20:32:59 GMT
I don't post much about my kids, they're grown up. I never posted much about them anyway bc I'm just not that open about feelings and things on social media (different than here!).
I will post lots of vacation pics if I think they're of interest but I didn't expect anyone to look at them all. Lots of times I do it for the memories I'll see in the future.
I tend to make humorous captions rather than posting anything personal. I'm also a meme poster, I like those kinds of people.
I try to tell everyone happy birthday and like and comment on their important posts like anniversaries, etc. Or sympathy on the passing of loved ones.
There are a few over-sharers I keep around just for the entertainment value, some nutty ones, some I feel sentimentally attached too even though we no longer have anything in common, etc.
Facebook is a happy place for me. I tend to hide or unfriend those that make it less so.
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Post by fuji on Dec 14, 2024 20:49:23 GMT
These are the situations when I "Snooze" people. They're out of my feed for 3 months and then pop up again. Sometimes I look at what they're up to and resnooze. It's a great feature!
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Post by padresfan619 on Dec 14, 2024 21:10:12 GMT
My feed is so dead I pretty much only get spam posts now. The majority of people I care about either mostly post on instagram or have left social media altogether.
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Post by christine58 on Dec 14, 2024 21:39:40 GMT
workingclassdog. Snooze or hide her posts. I did this with a couple of people who did nothing but complain about something stupid and now I only see that person’s post if I go directly to her Facebook page
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Dec 15, 2024 0:15:39 GMT
Friends I dont want to unfriend, I unfollow. They wont show up in my feed, you have to actively go look at their pages. This! Unfriend, unfollow or scroll on by. |
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Post by wordyphotogbabe on Dec 15, 2024 0:33:49 GMT
I have an acquaintance who has been with her husband since college and marks every anniversary with a Facebook post about him/them. This is not just their actual anniversary but the anniversary of the day they met, the anniversary of when one of them survived a medical emergency, the anniversary of the day they decided to be more than friends, the anniversary of the day one of them moved to town and started to attend the same church as the other, etc. etc. etc. She posts these every single year. These are all lengthy multi-paragraph musings about how incredible he is & how amazing their life is. Before they had children, she had a Facebook page for their pet to which she would post regular updates from said pet. It's SO MUCH & it makes the rest of us who know her giggle.  |
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Post by artbabe on Dec 15, 2024 16:51:20 GMT
My Facebook pet peeve is the person who posts nothing but memes. I have unfollowed several of those people. I'm there to chat and have fun. It has been bothering me lately how many people are flat out just not posting anything at all or just posting memes. And I know the ghosts are there, because they like and comment on my posts. Oh, you'd hate me. I love a good meme. I post a lot of them. Probably 3-4 memes to every post where I actually write something myself. I like reading other people's memes and save a ton of them on my phone. I am not a gusher. I'll post a photo of my nephews on their birthday and write "(nephew) is 15!" That is the extent of my commentary. Occasionally I'll share something about myself, but it is usually something I thought was funny. |
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Post by scrapngranny on Dec 15, 2024 16:55:54 GMT
I avoid Facebook like the plague. Nothing good comes from Facebook.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 16, 2024 9:49:38 GMT
My SIL is the queen of mushy. Every post about my brother her husband or her kids is all superlatives of the highest order. There is no humor, balance, or reality. But I love them all, and the photos are great, so it doesn’t bug me. Now, her mother, that woman is a lunatic. I unfriended her her batty self out of self defense years ago.
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Post by zuke on Dec 16, 2024 11:20:03 GMT
When I first started seeing some of the gushy, everything is beautiful etc posts within some FB groups, my first thought was that they write very well. Then I started reading reading responses to those posts. It was pointed out over and over again, that people are using the AI suggestion where AI writes the gushy post. Sometimes people change it a little to add names etc but AI basically helped them write the post. There was a woman in a gardening group that had posts like that and it was pointed out that they've read a lot of the same sentences in other people's posts. The woman eventually said that yes, she uses the AI suggestion. You give certain info and AI will turn it into a beautifully worded post. Anyway, maybe it's not AI but after reading what you wrote as examples, it sounds like it to me.
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Post by artbabe on Dec 16, 2024 12:27:21 GMT
I avoid Facebook like the plague. Nothing good comes from Facebook. Facebook is fantastic for me. I'm in 4 art teacher Facebook groups- I get tons of new information and ideas about my job on there. It has been fantastically helpful. I'm in a Facebook group of my neighborhood, and one of my condo development. I wouldn't know what was going on in my neighborhood/condo without it. I'm in a bunch of other Facebook groups that provide info on a lot of other things I'm interested in. And I get to know what is going on in the lives of hundreds of now adult students I used to teach. Plus there is a ton of funny stuff on there. And photos of cats- lots of photos of cats. I love Facebook. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 16, 2024 12:48:02 GMT
My Facebook pet peeve is the person who posts nothing but memes. I have unfollowed several of those people. I'm there to chat and have fun. It has been bothering me lately how many people are flat out just not posting anything at all or just posting memes. And I know the ghosts are there, because they like and comment on my posts. Oh, you'd hate me. I love a good meme. I post a lot of them. Probably 3-4 memes to every post where I actually write something myself. I like reading other people's memes and save a ton of them on my phone. I am not a gusher. I'll post a photo of my nephews on their birthday and write "(nephew) is 15!" That is the extent of my commentary. Occasionally I'll share something about myself, but it is usually something I thought was funny. I probably wouldn't hate you at all. You at least post *something* about yourself. You at least post a picture you took on occasion. I don't hate memes, I just want to actually talk to people and I have several people on my feed who post like 15 memes a day and nothing else ever. That's what I was talking about. I like a good meme too on occasion. |
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Post by River on Dec 16, 2024 17:43:44 GMT
I have two friends that do this on Facebook also. They both say that they do this as their journaling and photo dump because the memories aspect of Facebook is great, and they love to see the detailed memories when they come up.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Dec 16, 2024 17:46:55 GMT
I have two friends that do this on Facebook also. They both say that they do this as their journaling and photo dump because the memories aspect of Facebook is great, and they love to see the detailed memories when they come up. I am "one of those" as I shared above. I have a friend on my FB who does even more of a dump/journaling because she says she uses an app that pulls directly off her FB and makes up a photobook for her from those words and photos. I think it's smart to "use the tools available" to make social media work for us, regardless of whether others want to read it or not. I'm not an influencer, and I'm not looking for followers I love those detailed memories and the comments of others on them. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 16, 2024 18:22:10 GMT
When I first started seeing some of the gushy, everything is beautiful etc posts within some FB groups, my first thought was that they write very well. Then I started reading reading responses to those posts. It was pointed out over and over again, that people are using the AI suggestion where AI writes the gushy post. Sometimes people change it a little to add names etc but AI basically helped them write the post. There was a woman in a gardening group that had posts like that and it was pointed out that they've read a lot of the same sentences in other people's posts. The woman eventually said that yes, she uses the AI suggestion. You give certain info and AI will turn it into a beautifully worded post. Anyway, maybe it's not AI but after reading what you wrote as examples, it sounds like it to me. I am almost positive it is not AI generated, she has done this since the beginning of FB.. Always gushy, always more than 20+ pictures. I don't mind pictures, either I look at them or I don't. I post pics mainly to see them in my memories and usually only one to five at a time, unless it is vacation. I do not expect that anyone really wants to scroll through them at all. Unless of course my grandson.. haha. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 16, 2024 18:24:01 GMT
Oh, you'd hate me. I love a good meme. I post a lot of them. Probably 3-4 memes to every post where I actually write something myself. I like reading other people's memes and save a ton of them on my phone. I am not a gusher. I'll post a photo of my nephews on their birthday and write "(nephew) is 15!" That is the extent of my commentary. Occasionally I'll share something about myself, but it is usually something I thought was funny. I probably wouldn't hate you at all. You at least post *something* about yourself. You at least post a picture you took on occasion. I don't hate memes, I just want to actually talk to people and I have several people on my feed who post like 15 memes a day and nothing else ever. That's what I was talking about. I like a good meme too on occasion. My aunt used to be the queen of dumb meme's .. always a poem or religious one (which I don't care) but I know she is just reposting whatever shows up on her page.. It used to be about 15 per day.. thankfully it has died down. I did snooze her a lot! I love a good funny meme though! |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 19, 2024 23:33:37 GMT
Honestly I couldn't care less about people like that. And I'll just say that I am a person who loves the photographs. I'm lucky too as I have some friends who are amateur photographers and take some beautiful pics. My Facebook pet peeve is the person who posts nothing but memes. I have unfollowed several of those people. I'm there to chat and have fun. It has been bothering me lately how many people are flat out just not posting anything at all or just posting memes. And I know the ghosts are there, because they like and comment on my posts. Honestly, I would take funny memes 100% over the Bible scriptures my sister posts every.single.day, multiple times a day, liberally interspersed with quotes attributed to her late church leader. 🙄 I don’t think it’s achieving what she thinks it is. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 19, 2024 23:47:25 GMT
Honestly I couldn't care less about people like that. And I'll just say that I am a person who loves the photographs. I'm lucky too as I have some friends who are amateur photographers and take some beautiful pics. My Facebook pet peeve is the person who posts nothing but memes. I have unfollowed several of those people. I'm there to chat and have fun. It has been bothering me lately how many people are flat out just not posting anything at all or just posting memes. And I know the ghosts are there, because they like and comment on my posts. Honestly, I would take funny memes 100% over the Bible scriptures my sister posts every.single.day, multiple times a day, liberally interspersed with quotes attributed to her late church leader. 🙄 I don’t think it’s achieving what she thinks it is. Omgoodness! I agree with you. 😂 |
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Post by chaosisapony on Dec 20, 2024 3:25:58 GMT
You just described the people I knew a few years ago involved in MLM schemes. Lularoe, Younique, It Works, etc. They all posted these massive, gushing posts all the time about how amazing their families are, how exceptional their kids are. You know, to make people want to join their scheme so they can be JUST LIKE THEM! As soon as you said this person has a "home business" it just clicks all together. Their lives are advertisements. And I promise you she didn't win that trip and choose not to go. She didn't sell enough to qualify. But saying that wouldn't look good.
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