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Post by anxiousmom on Apr 11, 2015 12:32:30 GMT
Good heavens. This isn't my thing at all, and honestly have more or less thought that my kid wouldn't ever participate in the madness. Oh, but you know how all things that start with the words "my kid will never..." go. Your kid not only participates, but they do so with a gleeful vengeance that shames you into a humiliated ball of sputtering shame while trying to justify your parenting skills. And so it goes this morning in the anxious household. I, who have had that slightly condescending smile of a parent who thinks "oh not my precious snowflake" while reading the promposal threads, have been smacked upside the big head with the excited smile of the aforementioned precious snowflake who started my day with the sweetest words the mother of a teenage boy could ever hear..."mommmmmy, will you help me? you are so good with the arty stuff. Please??" as he looks at you with the same big eyes that he looked at you with when he was little (if you squint really hard, hold your nose and ignore all the hair.) So what's a mom to do but help. And apologize for anything that I may have said that was even slightest bit negative about the promposal thing. Because now my kid wants to make his girl happy, and he asked for my help and that means that I have to hope that when I jump off my high horse I don't hurt myself and do my part. And act excited about it-because I am-sort of. HE WANTS MY HELP. OMG. That is worth all the promposal madness in the world.
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Post by TankTop on Apr 11, 2015 12:35:01 GMT
Lol! I feel you!
And he admitted you are good at something! Double bonus points.
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Post by rainangel on Apr 11, 2015 12:37:55 GMT
I have no idea what these Promposal threads have been about previously, but if your kid is asking for your artsy expertise... You straight up go full Pinterest on him I don't see why it would be a bad thing for him to do something special for this girl. I would love to help out my kid with something like that.
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Post by anxiousmom on Apr 11, 2015 12:39:25 GMT
Lol! I feel you! And he admitted you are good at something! Double bonus points. I KNOW!!
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Post by gritzi on Apr 11, 2015 12:47:27 GMT
I never knew PromPosals were the expected invitation until my friend's son text her asking for help. She explained promposal to me, to which I replied "kids don't just ask someone to go to prom". Her response? "Only if they want to be labeled a big ole loser".
So, sadly I'm guessing there is a lot of underlying peer pressure for kids to create the promposal for fear of having a "loser" label attached to them.
Good luck helping your son today! It sounds like you'll have fun creating this together.
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Post by anxiousmom on Apr 11, 2015 12:54:05 GMT
Oh...and I should probably add that my kid has been dating this girl for about a year and half. It isn't like she is going to say no. rainangel I have already been looking at pinterest...doing my research, because you are right-he asked for help and by golly, he will get my help.
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Post by Miss Ang on Apr 11, 2015 12:58:38 GMT
And act excited about it-because I am-sort of. HE WANTS MY HELP. OMG. That is worth all the promposal madness in the world. I understand. Signed, The Mom of a 16 yr. old boy
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Post by jenjie on Apr 11, 2015 13:04:49 GMT
oh anxious one you have a way with words! I love your OP. Have fun making a memory or two with DS. I have an opposite prom story, I'll have to share it later today.
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Post by Kymberlee on Apr 11, 2015 13:09:20 GMT
You seriously crack me up. I think we could be friends IRL (except during football season). During football season, I would have to pretend like I didn't know you.
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Post by hop2 on Apr 11, 2015 13:13:02 GMT
Well your not sky writing or renting clowns or billboards are you? so I'm thinking you can get down pretty gently. Because craftsy can't be too over the top right? Enjoy! Your child needs you
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Post by genny on Apr 11, 2015 13:21:09 GMT
lol great post!
DS managed on his own this year with a sweet, creative idea but last year I had to help him AND DD's BF because they were both lost and clueless. And I secretly had a great time doing it!
Have fun and make sure you come back with pictures to share!
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Post by valleyview on Apr 11, 2015 13:25:05 GMT
Good luck! I Hope the project meets all teenage requirements!
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Post by caro on Apr 11, 2015 13:30:28 GMT
I saw Poster Lights at Michael's. Just sayin..........
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Post by anxiousmom on Apr 11, 2015 13:42:06 GMT
You seriously crack me up. I think we could be friends IRL (except during football season). During football season, I would have to pretend like I didn't know you. I think I may have mentioned but I grew up in Tallahassee and still have people up there. I remember one visit for a wedding of a friend's kid where they rented a space in the new rooms at the stadium for the reception. My one son was terrified that parking my car with it's loud and proud Gator tags would get my car keyed or worse. In response, I sent the other kid down to the 50 yard line to do the Gator chomp. I have pictures to prove it.
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Post by anxiousmom on Apr 11, 2015 13:44:27 GMT
Oh, and just to add more...('cause you know how it adds to the fun) he left a little while to "run errands" and I got a text, complete with pictures, from Hobby Lobby asking questions about markers and glue and paper and then a selfie of a confused faced 16 year boy. He should have taken me with him.
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Post by Loydene on Apr 11, 2015 13:47:17 GMT
Well -- we are well beyond that stage and it was never a 'thing' here. But I love the way you wrote and, shamelessly, I'm stealing some of your turns of phrase:
"they do so with a gleeful vengeance that shames you into a humiliated ball of sputtering shame while trying to justify your parenting skills" ... O.M.G. do I know that feeling "looks at you with the same big eyes that he looked at you with when he was little (if you squint really hard, hold your nose and ignore all the hair.)" ... so funny and true! "I have to hope that when I jump off my high horse I don't hurt myself and do my part" ...could be perfectly placed in most apologies!
Thank you for a fun read!
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Post by anonrefugee on Apr 11, 2015 13:55:47 GMT
Laughing...if your kid has to disappoint you by following the crowd...then Promposal is a good way to go. Especially if he asked for help in the process. Have fun!
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Post by anaterra on Apr 11, 2015 14:20:21 GMT
I nominate you to take over the pea weekly round up recaps!!!! You have a great sense of story... you know when ur done with promposal... lol
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2015 14:34:59 GMT
At least you have a prom to get exited for. Mine wouldn't even consider going to the prom. Then he was going. Then he wasn't going. He wouldn't ask a girl as none of his friends were interesting in girls at that point. I do have a photo of him and two friends on my screen saver. One is of a BFF and the other is of a "friend" who is female and of the same ethnic persuasion as he is. (She is a beauty, and I have dropped hints but no bites yet). Regardless, congratulations anxiousmom as you have something to look forward to! I am anxious to see what becomes of this!
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Apr 11, 2015 14:38:44 GMT
OP, your post is the best thing I've read on here in a long time! Enjoy this bonding moment with your son.
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Post by janeliz on Apr 11, 2015 14:45:39 GMT
Aw, you're a good mom.
I had no idea prom invites had turned into such a major deal until a nephew of mine documented his on Instagram. I was having dinner with a cousin and her daughter last night, and she was recently invited through an elaborate scavenger hunt. That's a lot of pressure for these boys!
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Post by *christine* on Apr 11, 2015 15:03:10 GMT
Good heavens. This isn't my thing at all, and honestly have more or less thought that my kid wouldn't ever participate in the madness. Oh, but you know how all things that start with the words "my kid will never..." go. Your kid not only participates, but they do so with a gleeful vengeance that shames you into a humiliated ball of sputtering shame while trying to justify your parenting skills. And so it goes this morning in the anxious household. I, who have had that slightly condescending smile of a parent who thinks "oh not my precious snowflake" while reading the promposal threads, have been smacked upside the big head with the excited smile of the aforementioned precious snowflake who started my day with the sweetest words the mother of a teenage boy could ever hear..."mommmmmy, will you help me? you are so good with the arty stuff. Please??" as he looks at you with the same big eyes that he looked at you with when he was little (if you squint really hard, hold your nose and ignore all the hair.) So what's a mom to do but help. And apologize for anything that I may have said that was even slightest bit negative about the promposal thing. Because now my kid wants to make his girl happy, and he asked for my help and that means that I have to hope that when I jump off my high horse I don't hurt myself and do my part. And act excited about it-because I am-sort of. HE WANTS MY HELP. OMG. That is worth all the promposal madness in the world. I haven't read any of the promposal threads but you had me at (if you squint really hard, hold your nose and ignore all the hair.) and HE WANTS MY HELP. OMG. That is worth all the promposal madness in the world.
Have fun anxiousmom!!
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Post by Tamhugh on Apr 11, 2015 15:15:19 GMT
Raising teenagers is an excellent way to learn humility.
I am glad that you are getting to experience this fun time with him.
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Post by anxiousmom on Apr 11, 2015 16:36:53 GMT
Well, just to add the world's most anticlimactic update ever... The boy showed up with markers and a poster board. And by markers I mean the 10 pack of basic crayola markers. Not even the big box!! When I started pulling all the arty crafty stuff-you know, just the standards like glitter and glue, he flat out said not happening and that it had to look like HE had actually done this poster on his own. And this is the kid who used to ask me what to color when he was a kid. He has zero artistic desire or skill. Nada, none, zip, zilch. So I pretty much got to help with the layout, but that was it. No glue, no glitter, no pretty paper-not a single thing that would have made it-I don't know-pretty. I did manage to convince him to use a stencil to help with his horrid handwriting, but that pretty much was it. As he then walked out the door to meet with the girl, he gave me a kiss on my forehead, said that he was glad for all my help and said that he couldn't have done it without me. He even called me mommy again. But y'all?? That jacked up mess could have only have come from his hands because it definitely didn't come from me. Oh no, not at all-but it was his hot mess and his idea. I think he just wanted someone to encourage him and make sure that all the words were spelled correctly. Bless his darling heart, he couldn't art his way out of a colored pencil box. Oh, and he also said DO NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES WHATSOEVER INCLUDING THE END OF THE WORLD APOCALYPSE DO YOU PUT A PHOTO ON THE INTERNET. Sorry.
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Post by sillyrabbit on Apr 11, 2015 16:55:56 GMT
I swear I think you are my long lost twin. As I recall, you are also a Kid Rock fan as well. Sorry to tell you this but he's mine...all mine. (insert Dr. Evil laugh here.)
And good job not taking over the project. That is an amazing accomplishment.
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Post by peabay on Apr 11, 2015 16:58:32 GMT
Please tell me she said yes.
I hate the whole promposal thing - too much pressure on the "askers" and the "askees."
But I do like that it allowed you to spend some time with your son.
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Post by anxiousmom on Apr 11, 2015 17:04:31 GMT
I swear I think you are my long lost twin. As I recall, you are also a Kid Rock fan as well. Sorry to tell you this but he's mine...all mine. (insert Dr. Evil laugh here.) And good job not taking over the project. That is an amazing accomplishment. akathy and I both are big fans of the Kid. And thank you. You don't even want to know how close I was hanging over his shoulder, just itching to snatch the markers out of his hand...I can't even tell you how badly I wanted to take over. Take over like the pole position in a nascar race. And Lord almighty, he only used THREE COLORS of the markers. Not even four. THREE. Who only uses three colors??? He left, I ate a cupcake as my reward for keeping my grubby paws off his poster. I did take a picture though, his adorable self was grinning like a crazed baboon he was so proud of himself.
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Post by anxiousmom on Apr 11, 2015 17:11:12 GMT
Please tell me she said yes. I hate the whole promposal thing - too much pressure on the "askers" and the "askees." But I do like that it allowed you to spend some time with your son. They have been dating for almost a year and a half, so I think it was pretty much a foregone conclusion that she would say yes. He just texted me that she "loved it." And it really was fun hanging out with him. I take the moments as they come because he is at that age where it is more important for him to pull away than to be with your mom. Those rare moments when he actually wants my help are so amazingly tender-and tricky because the minute you start taking the "power" away from him, he pulls away. There is a fine line between help and actually helping. One that isn't always easy to see.
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Post by akathy on Apr 11, 2015 17:26:13 GMT
I swear I think you are my long lost twin. As I recall, you are also a Kid Rock fan as well. Sorry to tell you this but he's mine...all mine. (insert Dr. Evil laugh here.) And good job not taking over the project. That is an amazing accomplishment. akathy and I both are big fans of the Kid. And thank you. You don't even want to know how close I was hanging over his shoulder, just itching to snatch the markers out of his hand...I can't even tell you how badly I wanted to take over. Take over like the pole position in a nascar race. And Lord almighty, he only used THREE COLORS of the markers. Not even four. THREE. Who only uses three colors??? He left, I ate a cupcake as my reward for keeping my grubby paws off his poster. I did take a picture though, his adorable self was grinning like a crazed baboon he was so proud of himself. Kid Rock is the only one on my laminated list
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Post by farmdpea on Apr 11, 2015 17:32:13 GMT
We promise we won't tell if you post a pic!
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