Black at my son's wedding

My bridal party wore black. BUT... I don't really like it for a Mother of the Bride/Groom. I think you should look for a different color. Keep it dark if that's what you are comfortable in.

Both my MIl & my mom wore black to our wedding. They both did choose something that also had a bit of our wedding color in it, though, so they looked very well coordinated in the wedding photos, even though they each purchased their dress separately.


But, if it were me as the bride, I would want you to be happy, regardless if you looked perfectly coordinated or not. 

I wore black to my dd's wedding. I don't even wear that much black on a day to day basis. It's just the color of the dress I found. She was with me when I bought it and approved wholeheartedly of it. I was just happy with the price ($18) and that it was one less thing that I had to worry about.

My mom wore black to my wedding in December.  I think it's fine.

i don't see anything wrong with it. i think it's elegant. my mother wore black. my bridesmaids wore black. this was 25 years ago and their dresses still look timeless.

I think black for the MOB or MOG at a wedding can be perfectly fine. However, I would want to know what the rest of the color scheme is before I wore black. I would want to make sure that I coordinate nicely with the rest of the wedding party and immediate family. With a Fall wedding, are they also using Fall colors? If they are, black will probably blend very nicely. However, if the colors are going to be pastels and light suits, black might be a bit too different.

Ive seen black in bridal parties before but I wouldnt wear it as a guest just in case someone viewed it as the wrong message. Since you are the mom and they said OK i dont see why you shouldnt wear it

I agree.  You may be family, but that is irrelevant in the pictures.  It's kind of like being at the movie theater when you can see just fine, but just off to the side, the head of the man in front of you is in your vision and it is just not the same.  If your black contrasted too much with the color scheme, as the bride I would be a little disappointed.  Maybe she did not think of that or didn't want to say no?

Just don't wear a big hat with a veil... Now THAT would send the wrong message.

I wear black to weddings, and bright colors to funerals. Just how I am.

I read somewhere that it doesn't matter what you wear, people can still see how wide you are. At least look at plus size dresses in color, I think gold might be a nice color for the mother of the groom.

you should check with the MOB be for getting your dress. She will set the tone for the mothers

No no no no no NO! This is an antiquated, stupid moronic "tradition" that makes zero sense. Both mothers are perfectly capable of dressing themselves, the Mother of the Groom does not need nor should not try to get the approval of the Mother of the Bride for what they are wearing. It's completely stupid and I'm dealing with it right now.

I don't know how many times it can be said but wear something that you're comfortable in and makes you feel fabulous and gorgeous for the wedding. This coordinating between mothers bullshit is annoying. And stupid. And moronic.

(Can you tell this hit a nerve?)

The bride has said the dress is cool. Why go beyond that? If you like it. Wear it. But for the love of god don't fall into this antiquated stupid trap of having the Mother of the Bride dictate what the other mother can wear. It's stupid. Even the etiquette nazis on The Knot boards say that this custom is out of date and out of touch. If they are saying it's not a problem, then we all know it's okay since their etiquette sticks are stuck so far up their asses. They make the peas look like sissies with their ability to completely tear people a new one.

Yes, historically black was considered the colour of mourning but like all fashion, it has evolved. Black is a classic look for any formal event. It's perfectly fine.