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Post by tiggerpooh2380 on Jul 11, 2014 18:09:50 GMT
When I was 16 years old I was in a car accident with 3 friends from high school, and I was the only survivor. As you can imagine my life was changed in an instant.
Tomorrow it will be 18 years since the accident, and it has not gotten any easier. I am not sure if I thought it would, I just know it hasn't.
I spent the morning going to the cemeteries with my mom so that I could leave flowers for all of them. I am grateful that my mom is there for me every year and it is something we always do together. I still cannot imagine what it is like for the mothers of my friends, 2 of them were only children, one of them was a friend I have had since elementary school.
Its just a difficult time, and seems like an appropriate time to remind everyone to tell those you love that you do, and give them an extra hug because you never know what tomorrow will bring.
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Post by BarbaraUK on Jul 11, 2014 18:13:59 GMT
When I was 16 years old I was in a car accident with 3 friends from high school, and I was the only survivor. As you can imagine my life was changed in an instant.
Tomorrow it will be 18 years since the accident, and it has not gotten any easier. I am not sure if I thought it would, I just know it hasn't.
I spent the morning going to the cemeteries with my mom so that I could leave flowers for all of them. I am grateful that my mom is there for me every year and it is something we always do together. I still cannot imagine what it is like for the mothers of my friends, 2 of them were only children, one of them was a friend I have had since elementary school.
Its just a difficult time, and seems like an appropriate time to remind everyone to tell those you love that you do, and give them an extra hug because you never know what tomorrow will bring.
Thank you for the reminder, it's easy to forget that in the daily routine. Sending big hugs to you from across the Pond for tomorrow.
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 11, 2014 18:14:20 GMT
Prayers for you all tomorrow. It's so hard being a survivor.
Hugs to you!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2014 18:19:06 GMT
Hugs and prayers!!!!
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Post by denainok on Jul 11, 2014 18:19:19 GMT
Praying for you! "They" say time heals all wounds but I don't believe that's true. I haven't been in your shoes so I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for you. Lots of hugs & prayers coming to you from OK!
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Post by flanz on Jul 11, 2014 18:21:45 GMT
Hugs and prayers for you. What a horrible thing you have had to endure and live with. I'm so sorry.
However, please try to wring as much enjoyment as possible from the life you have that your friends were robbed of. Wouldn't they want that for you?
xo
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Post by gotcreativity on Jul 11, 2014 18:24:54 GMT
HUG
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Post by purplebee on Jul 11, 2014 18:26:36 GMT
Thank you so much for this important reminder, it's so easy to take loved ones for granted in our busy day-to-day lives. Prayers for you and for peace for all affected by the accident. You are doing a good turn by sharing and reminding us. Hugs to you....
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Post by valincal on Jul 11, 2014 18:27:29 GMT
When I was 16 years old I was in a car accident with 3 friends from high school, and I was the only survivor. As you can imagine my life was changed in an instant. So sorry! What an impact it must have had on you. Sending hugs your way.
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Post by auntkelly on Jul 11, 2014 18:33:41 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss. Anniversaries must be very hard for you.
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Post by quiltz on Jul 11, 2014 18:38:03 GMT
Today is what should be my DD's 28th birthday. She was killed (passenger) in a single car collision 10 years ago. The driver and the front passenger were saved by airbags.
I have watched how my DD's death has impacted the lives of her friends. I have been told my other's how her life and death have impacted their lives and decisions that they have made.
My life has been flipped 180* since her death.
Live your life to the fullest and really do the things that you want to do.
Remember that those who have passed are no longer subject to the harshness of this world. They are at peace. They don't have to put up with the constant b-s- that is thrown at us, who are living every day.
( ( ( hugs) ) ) from me, a mom who has lost a dearly loved child.
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Post by kkooch on Jul 11, 2014 18:39:45 GMT
What a wonderful friend you continue to be to visit them every year.
I can't imagine what it has been like for any of the families. Thinking of you at this time, Karen
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2014 18:44:09 GMT
Thanks for the reminder...so sorry for your losses.
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Post by peabay on Jul 11, 2014 18:45:31 GMT
You poor thing. What a burden to carry.
Prayers and good thoughts for you and for the families of your friends today.
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Post by Memo on Jul 11, 2014 18:52:54 GMT
How devastating for everyone involved. (((hugs)))
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jul 11, 2014 19:04:51 GMT
It's so nice that you remember to visit them every year. I think the families of the others appreciate that! ((hugs))
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 11, 2014 19:04:57 GMT
I can't imagine that kind of loss. It must have been hard surviving that accident when your friends did not. Hugs to you.
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Post by lbp on Jul 11, 2014 19:07:06 GMT
Consider yourself hugged and thanks for the reminder.
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Post by alibama on Jul 11, 2014 19:09:26 GMT
Thanks for that reminder.
Prayers for you and their families.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2014 19:20:41 GMT
Sending hugs to you and to lostinspace. and yes we do need to remember that extra squeeze not knowing what tomorrow will bring. Thanks for the reminder
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Post by Outspoken on Jul 11, 2014 19:23:07 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss. I think it is amazing of you to honor them on the anniversary by visiting them with flowers. It must take tremendous strength to go each year. Hugs to you!
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Post by Lexica on Jul 11, 2014 19:38:45 GMT
Tiggerpooh and Lostinspace, huge hugs to both of you. I cannot imagine being the only survivor at such a young age. As the mother of an only child who has faced his death through cancer, I did imagine the loss and it was the most painful thing I've ever gone through. I was lucky in that he is in remission. Lostinspace, my deepest sympathies for your loss.
Tiggerpooh, do you remain in contact with the mothers of these friends? I would think it would mean a lot to them to keep in contact with you. Maybe have a yearly luncheon to mark the day together?
I really appreciate your message today. I will spend extra time over the next few days reminding everyone I care about as well.
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Post by tiggerpooh2380 on Jul 11, 2014 20:29:04 GMT
Thanks everyone for the hugs, I really appreciate them! The day is difficult, but I don't know if I struggle more the day before knowing what we did that day was the last time we all did something together, or the day after knowing we would never see each other again, its just a struggle right around that day in general I suppose.
I keep in contact with one of the parents, and we usually get together once a year.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 11, 2014 20:38:11 GMT
You are a good and kind girl to stay in touch with the parents.
My best friend died of lupus at 16. She was an only child and it truly destroyed her parents. I went on with my own life and I regret that I didn't pay more attention to them in the years that followed.
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Post by stargazer on Jul 11, 2014 20:39:36 GMT
So sorry for your loss, I imagine it is very hard being the survivor. I think it's lovely that you take the time each year, glad you have your mum with you (I imagine it's very hard for her too, so grateful to have you with her & anguish/guilt over what could have been).
You have given us an important reminder, thank you.
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Post by keknj on Jul 11, 2014 20:39:43 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. You are a good person to keep in touch with the parents. Thank you for the reminder to appreciate our loved ones.
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Post by mdoc on Jul 11, 2014 20:41:27 GMT
An excellent reminder. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.
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Post by sisterbdsq on Jul 11, 2014 20:58:57 GMT
((HUGS))
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Post by junebugz on Jul 11, 2014 21:07:20 GMT
Great reminder! Thinking of you and sending hugs.
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Post by anonrefugee on Jul 11, 2014 21:09:15 GMT
Thank you.
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