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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2015 1:27:10 GMT
I've only been on a couple of years and I only got on to keep in touch with friends after a big move for my family. I know most of them and we would never keep in touch without FB. In that regard I love it. I love seeing what they are doing, hearing about their kids, etc. That being said I'm not on but a few minutes everyday and I ignore most of the posts from people and just stop on the ones I want. Most annoying are the videos or articles people post that may or may not have merit.,,..also the "what age are you" or "what super hero" are you or those kinds of stupid surveys? Or whatever they are. Lame. Most of those surveys are on buzzfeed and a couple of other sites. If you click the upper right corner you'll get an option to not have things from that website show up in your news feed... boom! Gone!
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Post by caro on May 26, 2015 1:30:43 GMT
FB is fluff to me. I don't say something on there that I would not want anyone to know in person.
It is a way for me to keep up with my adult children and grandchildren with pictures, etc. I have also connected with family and friends I haven't seen in forever.
No I will not ditch FB.
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Post by pierkiss on May 26, 2015 1:54:24 GMT
I really really like facebook. Specifically the pictures. I have friends and family all over the country and I rarely see most of them. But I still love them and I still want to be in their lives. I love love love when they post pictures of their weddings and new babies and whatever else they're excited about. I keep my friends list to only people I know I'm real life, and that if I were to run into them at the store I wouldn't run in the opposite direction. There is no drama on my newsfeed. Just silly anecdotes from everyday life, news stories people find interesting, and photos.
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2015 1:55:07 GMT
Not at all. I was in the scrapbooking industry and had 1000s of friends which affected my experience I'm sure. When I left the industry, I deleted my account and never looked back. I love not having it my life anymore.
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Post by eebud on May 26, 2015 2:05:24 GMT
I love having FB to keep up with friends and relatives. I have reconnected with so many childhood friends and it has been fun. Also, nobody from my family lives in my area. Not all are on FB but many are. I have some cousins that I love staying in touch with but due to us all living all over the country, I probably don't see them more than about once every 10 years. It usually takes a wedding or funeral. Due to FB, we get to stay in contact and have a little clue of what is going on in each others lives. I don't get into drama on FB. I try to stay away from politics with friends. I only have one that I had to limit what I saw of theirs due to the constant posting of radical political crap. Most I just scroll past but the other people don't spend 90% of their FB time posting this kind of crap. I would definitely miss FB if it disappeared.
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Post by kate on May 26, 2015 2:07:53 GMT
I really enjoy being able to keep up with my far-flung family members, even though it's on a superficial level. When I see them IRL, there's none of that awkwardness of "so, what's been going on in your life the last few years?" It's nice!
I also really enjoy some of the teacher groups.
Many articles, videos, etc. are vaguely interesting but not really life-enriching. I have to be careful not to waste too much time on those.
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Post by gmcwife1 on May 26, 2015 2:09:53 GMT
I don't air dirty laundry on FB, I don't have crazy family feuds played out there, I don't get constant MLM posts via friends nor much in the way of political stuff either.....so what I see I choose to see, its mostly lighthearted stuff. Could I live without it? Certainly but it's enables me to have more contact with some friends than I would otherwise have and I like that This is the same for me. I have very little family drama on FB. I myself have only posted once, when my dog passed and it seemed the best way to share my sadness with my friends and family. I'm in 3 dog groups and 2 crafting groups that I do find very valuable and at times expensive
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Post by disneypal on May 26, 2015 2:12:40 GMT
Add value to my life? Not sure if that is really the term I would use but yes, I enjoy FB but mainly for one reason - it keeps me in touch with distant friends and family who are literally scattered all over the globe (different countries) - I can keep in touch with them like I never could before and see photos of them and their kids like I never did without FB - they were not good about e-mailing but they will post on FB and I am so grateful to keep in touch that way.
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Post by winogirl on May 26, 2015 2:22:52 GMT
Yes I love fb. I've reconnected with several old friends I might otherwise never seen again. And it helps me keep in touch with current friends; I'm not always the best at keeping in touch with people. I'm not a prolific poster on fb, but dh and I just celebrated our 30th anniversary this weekend and I shared a couple then and now pics and got a lot of well wishes and good feedback and it was just nice. There's not a lot of drama from my friends...occasionally political (that I ignore) and excessive religious posts by one family member but I hide all posts from whatever sources she links from so I don't see them anymore. Most recently, we learned from fb that an old friend of mine and dh was in town and planning on mesting up with friends and having drinks at a restaurant about 5 min from my house so we joined and it was great! As a bonus, we found out that the former owner of one of our favorite local restaurants that shuttered now works part time at this place and his wife was there and we lamented on how much we missed his special sauce wings and she told us while they are not on the menu, if we request T's special wings he will whip us up a batch! Dh was elated . So win win! So yes fb is an enhancement for me.
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Post by Shel on May 26, 2015 2:31:26 GMT
I've only been on a couple of years and I only got on to keep in touch with friends after a big move for my family. I know most of them and we would never keep in touch without FB. In that regard I love it. I love seeing what they are doing, hearing about their kids, etc. That being said I'm not on but a few minutes everyday and I ignore most of the posts from people and just stop on the ones I want. Most annoying are the videos or articles people post that may or may not have merit.,,..also the "what age are you" or "what super hero" are you or those kinds of stupid surveys? Or whatever they are. Lame. Most of those surveys are on buzzfeed and a couple of other sites. If you click the upper right corner you'll get an option to not have things from that website show up in your news feed... boom! Gone! Big thanks to you!!!!
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Post by sbartist on May 26, 2015 2:31:39 GMT
I like that it allows me to keep up with people whom I love, but whom I don't see often because the pace of life is such that you just can't do everything and see everyone. I have friends that I see maybe twice a year. It doesn't feel like so much time has passed, though, because I feel somewhat "up to date" with them. I think a lot of my friendships would really fall by the wayside. I like that it provides an easy way to share information (articles, videos, etc.) with all of my friends or specific friends. I like most of the conversations it generates. I like seeing my friends' children grow and change. One of my groups is very important to me. So yes, I think, it adds to my quality of life!
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Post by originalvanillabean on May 26, 2015 2:38:08 GMT
I have enjoyed it a lot more, lately. I joined a couple of groups and am learning new things. In general though, no not really. Our boot camp uses it for communication and with all the rain we have been getting I have to check every morning to see if we are working out inside, or outside.
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2015 2:40:37 GMT
I do like how FB has brought me closer to family and friends around the country and the world. I wouldn't really have a way to connect with them without it.
I don't do FB drama. It's not a place for debate, IMO. I don't keep score of who likes my posts or photos, nor do I get offended when people do not.
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Post by Butterfly Momma on May 26, 2015 3:27:28 GMT
I mostly like Facebook. It's about the only way that I'd ever get to see pictures of my nephews and neice (they live in western Canada) and it's an easy way to stay in decent contact with my own family, which is on the eastern side of Canada. I could do without the MLM posts, but usually I just scroll past them.
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Post by raindancer on May 26, 2015 3:52:37 GMT
I have found that fb can be really obnoxious, but that handy little function that allows me to ignore people is fantastic.
I have found out some truths about people that I wouldn't have thought and I have reevaluated some of my friendships. Some have become much, much better (getting to know high school friends as adults has been very eye opening!) and some for the worst, but then I was able to slowly remove them from my life altogether.
I think it has a lot of value. There is no other realistic way I could be in touch with my german exchange student without it, I get to see her baby girl growing up, and i get to see the updates about her husband who is fighting a strong fight against brain cancer.
I get to know how my far away family is doing, and my military family overseas. Whereas years ago I only found about them randomly at family reunions and things like funerals and weddings.
But I also think it's what you make of it.
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2015 4:06:12 GMT
I used to just use it to keep up with people, but then I realized that I already DO keep up with the people who really matter in my life..the rest of them are me just being polite, and a formality it feels like.
I have found several groups that are super beneficial for me..my local county pages, pregnancy groups, local swap sites, etc that I am on all the time.
Maybe it's just my hormones talking, but I truly couldnt care less about 3/4 of my FB friends. So why bother?!?
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Post by theshyone on May 26, 2015 4:19:44 GMT
The value in FB to me is in groups. I've learnt more about my rare genetic heart condition and surviving from first hand accounts than I have from my medical team.
I don't think I use FB like others do. I don't have a single relative on my feed, by choice. I don't post personal stuff. Very few photos. Yet I find it full of drama from others.
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2015 4:31:18 GMT
I'll have to catch up and see what this "vaguebooking" means. I'm out of the loop!! I'm finding that my peers or even older people are staying on Facebook, so I could see it being another MySpace soon enough! I am unfollowing people that are hawking their "miraculous" products, or in-laws that thrive on drama. If anyone is too serious/sad/annoying, I just scroll past, but I do usually check it quickly to see if I could help. I'd never be offended by a friend or family member that complains--I'd want to make sure they're okay!
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2015 4:36:19 GMT
I think so. My family is spread out - I'm in FL, my mum is in RI, one sister in VT and one in England - so it's an opportunity to easily share photos and day-to-day stuff with them. I'm hoping as my children move out of the nest, that it'll be a way to stay more in contact with them as well. I've also gotten back in touch with cousins from England that I knew as a child but their side of the family weren't letter writers or email-ers...they are on FB though and that's been really nice. These are my first cousins and their children, grandchildren and now great grandchildren...I'm getting to watch my niece's sons grow up as well - they are also in England. I'm in "rural" FL also (who isn't?? Maybe people in Miami??). My entire family is up north, in NY. I'm still trying to make my way back up there despite the extremely high cost of living. You get what you pay for!! We're isolated and missing out on every single family occasion, and it's sad. Sometimes they Skype us and place the iPad down during their parties so we are a part of it! LOL. For that, I'm grateful.......... (but that's Skype and not FB). I do like reading about my cousins' lives or my entire family. I suppose I'd delete it when I move back! BTW, how do you like FL? Have you adjusted? We're here for 4 years and still have not adjusted. We keep getting derailed but we're trying hard to move back up north. It just isn't for us down here. Everything is "10 min away" and meanwhile you have to go 40 min past huge, flat fields with cows and empty houses, etc... Too depressing for me here!!
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Post by rainangel on May 26, 2015 6:18:14 GMT
I find it useful for being up to date about what friends and family are up to. Especially the ones who live far away, and I don't get to see very often. My sister avoided FB for a long time, but eventually had to give in because so many of her kids' sportsteams, classprojects etc had FB-groups where things were being discussed and information being available. It was easier for the team to send out a message to everyone about next weeks game on their FB-page, rather than handing out flyers or individual textmessages. So my sister had to join to keep up.
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Post by njinkerbelle on May 26, 2015 6:56:41 GMT
It hasn't changed my life in any way that is significant. If it didn't exist tomorrow I wouldn't miss it.
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Post by momto4kiddos on May 26, 2015 10:35:54 GMT
I do check in and think it adds value. My friend list is family and people I went to school with or were friends with over the years. I don't just add random friends of friends type thing.
I don't post much, but usually put up some pictures of cute holiday stuff or big events. I do love seeing other people's events and "seeing" people I don't see that much of.
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Post by gsquaredmom on May 26, 2015 11:20:07 GMT
I do not do Facebook. I really do not think it would add value to my life.
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Post by Florida Cindy on May 26, 2015 11:25:16 GMT
YES!!! I run a small group, "Florida Fibro Friends". It's a spin-off of another group. It's small. We have 20 members. At least half post every day. Everyone posts once a week. Every month, the ladies in our county meet for lunch for a few hours. (2 hours is really pushing it if you have fibro). I've made some wonderful friends through this group.
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Post by grinningcat on May 26, 2015 11:33:40 GMT
The hatred towards FB always surprises me. The platform is what you make it.
And yes, because my family and friends are far flung, it does benefit my life. Greatly. I really don't understand how people don't think it would.
Different strokes and all that jazz, I guess. But these threads always surprise me.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on May 26, 2015 11:48:06 GMT
I'm not. I live in the Tampa suburbs. Anyways, back to the topic.... I agree with most of the above. I enjoy it for the most part. The people that annoy me (MLM, political, religious, drama filled), I just hide them when they get to much. I love to see what's going on and watching kids grow, etc. And on the surveys? I've learned most of them are BS, and usually just a way to phish info some times. I purposely answered several wrong answers on a so-called geography quiz, and it still told me I was great, with 9 out of 10 right. I breeze right past them.
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Post by Linda on May 26, 2015 12:10:00 GMT
BTW, how do you like FL? Have you adjusted? We're here for 4 years and still have not adjusted. We keep getting derailed but we're trying hard to move back up north. It just isn't for us down here. Everything is "10 min away" and meanwhile you have to go 40 min past huge, flat fields with cows and empty houses, etc... Too depressing for me here!! I don't like Florida - too hot, too humid really (because I didn't mind the heat in AZ) and I'm not really keen on rural life either. I've been here since 1998 and while we talk about moving (neither DH nor I ever planned to make FL our home), he has a good job here and I think we're stuck.
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Post by tracyarts on May 26, 2015 12:34:57 GMT
It does add value to my life, but that's because I am very particular about who and what I follow on it.
The only people I have as friends, are people I know in person or people I have done arts/crafts swaps with. I also am subscribed to very few groups on Facebook. I don't add "friends of friends" or people I don't personally know. I also leave groups at the first sign of drama.
One of my Facebook friends can be a little annoying because she's very prone to "brag-booking" but not so much that I would unfriend her over it. Same with another who likes to repost all kinds of random links and stuff. The rest just use FB to keep friends and family updated with what's going on in their lives. Which is what I use it for.
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Post by cyndijane on May 26, 2015 12:52:54 GMT
The hatred towards FB always surprises me. The platform is what you make it. And yes, because my family and friends are far flung, it does benefit my life. Greatly. I really don't understand how people don't think it would. Different strokes and all that jazz, I guess. But these threads always surprise me. I don't hate FB. But I've found it doesn't provide a context for meaningful relationships for me. I have it, I use it- but to say I"m "keeping up with" people from my past/far-flung family members would be not true for me, personally. While I may see some of the day to day in their lives, I don't feel any more connected to them than I would without FB. Random comments, shared photos, etc are still one-sided and tend to be "highlight reel" rather than true life. That part of FB for me is more like looking at someone's vacation pictures. However- I get that that's MY take on FB. Not everyone else's.
I have a dear friend who is a few years older than I am. Her boys are college age. She {loves} social media. It's her way of interacting with others of all ages, she can be social and not have to leave her house at the end of her day. She would be lost without FB, IG, Twitter, etc.
Sometimes I wonder how much longer FB will be around. So, it's truly interesting to me to hear how much others enjoy what FB offers.
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Post by grinningcat on May 26, 2015 12:59:42 GMT
The hatred towards FB always surprises me. The platform is what you make it. And yes, because my family and friends are far flung, it does benefit my life. Greatly. I really don't understand how people don't think it would. Different strokes and all that jazz, I guess. But these threads always surprise me. I don't hate FB. But I've found it doesn't provide a context for meaningful relationships for me. I have it, I use it- but to say I"m "keeping up with" people from my past/far-flung family members would be not true for me, personally. While I may see some of the day to day in their lives, I don't feel any more connected to them than I would without FB. Random comments, shared photos, etc are still one-sided and tend to be "highlight reel" rather than true life. That part of FB for me is more like looking at someone's vacation pictures. However- I get that that's MY take on FB. Not everyone else's.
I have a dear friend who is a few years older than I am. Her boys are college age. She {loves} social media. It's her way of interacting with others of all ages, she can be social and not have to leave her house at the end of her day. She would be lost without FB, IG, Twitter, etc.
Sometimes I wonder how much longer FB will be around. So, it's truly interesting to me to hear how much others enjoy what FB offers.
Fair enough. I don't really feel like I'm seeing the highlight reel of everyone on FB... some? Certainly. But not all. But I feel much more connected to people than I would if we were just to rely on letters, phones or texts. I'm closer to my cousins than I ever was before FB, which I think is awesome. It's made keeping in touch a lot easier... especially with those who are on the other side of the planet. I guess I see what you're saying, I just don't see it as that superficial.
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