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Post by anxiousmom on May 31, 2015 15:36:05 GMT
Threads like this baffle me... and make me a little sad. Who ever defined company-ready to be "perfect?" If you truly believe that company-ready means antiseptically clean and not one single item out of place, then I can't imagine you ever let anyone into your house. I clean my house. I tidy up. I try to stay on top of most household chores. But short of a concerted effort for a big-deal event, it's rarely ever perfect. But we have people over anyway. We love to have friends for dinner. Neighbors stop by. Family comes over. If there's a pile of mail out because I've been handling correspondance and paying bills, it's okay. If I just pulled clothes out of the dryer to fold and you stop by, it's okay. If my son's Lego project is half-built on the coffee table, it's okay. And if I go to your house and it looks like that, it's okay, too. Maybe we need to re-define our idea of company-ready. It could be a lot less stressful that way. You are right. I have expectations based on my perceptions of what I think others do. I assume that the house that I see when I go to other's homes is what it always is. My mother's house is absolutely pristine. I feel as though no matter what I do I can't live up to those standards-and they are completely of my own making.
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Post by MaryMary on May 31, 2015 15:36:52 GMT
Ha! As if. But, my formal living room is tolerably clean all the time since we only use it for playing the piano and reading/quiet activities. And visiting with guests, of course.
The rest of the house is usually a giant petri dish.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2015 15:37:34 GMT
My house is rarely 'company-ready'. My DD is 20 today, and she had a bunch of friends over last night. I remember when she was young and we used to have big parties for her, with lots of family and friends, and I would spend a couple of days getting the house ready. Now we have no family, my friends don't come to her parties, and her friends don't care. It was wonderful just running a cloth around the bathroom, making sure the party room had enough chairs and a clear table, and laying out food and drink in the kitchen. No need to clean the cooker specially, scrub the shower, and vacuum and dust everywhere! So I had company all of last night and I didn't give a shit that the house wasn't company-ready! I cleaned and tidied and de-cluttered before 11 year old DD had her friends sleep over last week... and walked into the room to hear her loudly announcing to her friends "you should have seen what this place looked like before you came over!". Oh my. Thanks, honey.
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Post by leannec on May 31, 2015 15:37:39 GMT
Noooooo ... I'm the world's worst housekeeper ... too lazy I clean up when I know people are coming over so it's clean right now because it was dd#2's birthday party on Friday and the grandma's are coming over tonight for dinner ... My house is clean enough to keep us healthy but is usually a bit messy because people live here
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Post by blondiec47 on May 31, 2015 15:39:07 GMT
Oh hell no, we have 4 cats and 2 dogs and we are replanting the backyard grass (so the yard is just dirt right now) so keeping the kitchen floor clean is a no win battle right now. The house is usually picked up but dusting and vacuuming could, or should be done more often.
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Post by Karmady on May 31, 2015 15:40:54 GMT
I have a million goals and a "company ready" house is not one of them. I had surprise guests last year during dinner, dh's sisters. The one kinda bitchy one said a few negative comments. I bit my tongue. The place was a disaster. DD was packing to move to university. I had just made dinner and the counters were full of pots and pans. The lawn needed mowing. SIL has so many things wrong in her life but her house is immaculate. We clean. We do mow the lawns It was the worst case scenario when they arrived unannounced. I'd rather just lead a happy life with my family and friends. A perfectly clean home doesn't work for us. ETA: my dh stayed at my nice SIL's home out of town a few months ago. He said it was so crazy clean that he felt uncomfortable. He said that there wasn't a drop of water in the sink and every counter top was empty. Every time someone used the kitchen sink, she'd run over and wipe it down. He said that the kitchen floor tiles were gleaming but she quickly moped the floor after everyone left the kitchen table- every meal. They are super nice people but over-the-top clean.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2015 15:43:16 GMT
Who ever defined company-ready to be "perfect?" If you truly believe that company-ready means antiseptically clean and not one single item out of place, then I can't imagine you ever let anyone into your house. Yes, that is the definition of company-ready to me, BUT I don't care if it is picked up, antiseptically clean, or looks like a tornado has gone through (state of the family room right now). I still let them in.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2015 15:44:53 GMT
Yes. DH and are both really neat and it's just the two of us. We make the bed every day, don't leave dishes in the sink, etc. After we use something we put it away. We have a cleaning lady who comes once every three weeks to do the heavy cleaning. So if someone is coming over I might double check the bathroom and clean some newspapers off the table, but that's about it. I don't get some of the "I have no desire to live this way" comments! If you have kids I would imagine it's harder, but I love looking around my house and being proud of how it looks. And I also know that if you stay on top of things, it's really not that hard. If that's not your thing, I don't judge you. Some of my favorite people live in homes that are in perpetual mess and chaos and I still love to hang out there!
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Post by femalebusiness on May 31, 2015 15:45:04 GMT
Oh hell no!
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Post by workingclassdog on May 31, 2015 15:46:34 GMT
99% no... it is enough clean not to accept company at any given time.. but yeah there is always a million things to do before I think it is company ready!
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2015 15:52:37 GMT
Yes. DH and are both really neat and it's just the two of us. We make the bed every day, don't leave dishes in the sink, etc. After we use something we put it away. We have a cleaning lady who comes once every three weeks to do the heavy cleaning. So if someone is coming over I might double check the bathroom and clean some newspapers off the table, but that's about it. I don't get some of the "I have no desire to live this way" comments! If you have kids I would imagine it's harder, but I love looking around my house and being proud of how it looks. And I also know that if you stay on top of things, it's really not that hard. If that's not your thing, I don't judge you. Some of my favorite people live in homes that are in perpetual mess and chaos and I still love to hang out there! Because I DO have four kids and I don't want to clean up after everyone (and I don't/won't) and I also don't want to nag everyone constantly to put every last piece of paper and toy and item away. We all tidy and pick up every day, but I'd have to be a drill sergeant to keep this place company ready. DH keeps a stack of cluttery paper on a desk beside our front door. I hate it. But I'm not cleaning up his papers for him, and I'm not putting them away for him. The kids leave their shoes by the front door because we don't have a closet, and there's no where else for them to go. Right now there's someone's sweater on a chair and a book on a table; again, they all KNOW they should put these things away but a 3 year old and an 11 year old don't do these things on their own and I don't want to nag constantly. I sweep the whole downstairs 2x a day. The bathrooms are acceptably clean but not pristine. Stuff I'm NOT doing every day to keep the house in "perfect company order" is stuff like vacuuming behind the TV, dusting the bookshelves, nagging everyone to put away every last item that gets used in our common living space, brushing any cat hair off of the curtains, etc.
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Post by happymomma on May 31, 2015 15:54:31 GMT
Yep. It is always company ready. Not always spotless, or picture-perfect. Sometimes far from it. But, anyone that is going to be my company won't be coming there to see how my house looks. They will be coming to spend time visiting with a friend. It is comfortable, peaceful and incredible.
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Post by KikiPea on May 31, 2015 15:56:00 GMT
Nope.
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Post by grinningcat on May 31, 2015 15:57:55 GMT
Threads like this baffle me... and make me a little sad. Who ever defined company-ready to be "perfect?" If you truly believe that company-ready means antiseptically clean and not one single item out of place, then I can't imagine you ever let anyone into your house. I clean my house. I tidy up. I try to stay on top of most household chores. But short of a concerted effort for a big-deal event, it's rarely ever perfect. But we have people over anyway. We love to have friends for dinner. Neighbors stop by. Family comes over. If there's a pile of mail out because I've been handling correspondance and paying bills, it's okay. If I just pulled clothes out of the dryer to fold and you stop by, it's okay. If my son's Lego project is half-built on the coffee table, it's okay. And if I go to your house and it looks like that, it's okay, too. Maybe we need to re-define our idea of company-ready. It could be a lot less stressful that way. Honestly? Perfect, showroom, antiseptic, nothing visible and everything put away, as if a magazine could come into shoot a spread is exactly how I feel that the peas have defined how houses should be at all times and anyone who isn't company ready is a lazy ass slob who should never have people over. So yes, when this question comes up on the board, that's exactly how I define it because that's how it's been described over the years on this board. "Perfect peas" and all that jazz.. this is just the housekeeping version of that (there are many version of perfect peas).
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Post by grinningcat on May 31, 2015 16:02:16 GMT
Yes. DH and are both really neat and it's just the two of us. We make the bed every day, don't leave dishes in the sink, etc. After we use something we put it away. We have a cleaning lady who comes once every three weeks to do the heavy cleaning. So if someone is coming over I might double check the bathroom and clean some newspapers off the table, but that's about it. I don't get some of the "I have no desire to live this way" comments! If you have kids I would imagine it's harder, but I love looking around my house and being proud of how it looks. And I also know that if you stay on top of things, it's really not that hard. If that's not your thing, I don't judge you. Some of my favorite people live in homes that are in perpetual mess and chaos and I still love to hang out there! I'm proud of how my house looks because it looks lived in. It looks like people actually use their space, enjoy their space and are part of the landscape in the house. In my experience. company perfect houses have a lack of... I don't know what word to use... character? life? I don't really know what say that won't offend someone. If everything is perfectly in place, it doesn't project a sense of the place being lived in... just that it's on display. Right now my office is clean, but it's certainly not tidy. I have three projects on the go. But I wouldn't hesitate to have someone in my office at this very second because it's obvious that my office is used, loved and a place of activity. I see no need to hide that. It's a waste of time to put everything away mid-project just to have the house ready in case someone randomly comes over. Clean is necessary, absolutely. Tidy and everything in it's place like a showroom? No desire to live that way.
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Post by padresfan619 on May 31, 2015 16:04:50 GMT
For the most part, yes. I wouldn't want any one taking a white glove to the flat surfaces, but you aren't going to walk into a mountain of laundry in the living room or a bunch of dirty dishes in the sink. If I have a little notice before guests I try to wipe down the guest bathroom counter with a Clorox wipe.
Our bedroom is another story most of the time. I usually close the door for company. We don't have kids so it is a lot easier to maintain a relatively clean home. It isn't sanitary or pristine, but there will be a place to sit and chat if you decide to come over.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2015 16:17:21 GMT
Yes. DH and are both really neat and it's just the two of us. We make the bed every day, don't leave dishes in the sink, etc. After we use something we put it away. We have a cleaning lady who comes once every three weeks to do the heavy cleaning. So if someone is coming over I might double check the bathroom and clean some newspapers off the table, but that's about it. I don't get some of the "I have no desire to live this way" comments! If you have kids I would imagine it's harder, but I love looking around my house and being proud of how it looks. And I also know that if you stay on top of things, it's really not that hard. If that's not your thing, I don't judge you. Some of my favorite people live in homes that are in perpetual mess and chaos and I still love to hang out there! I'm proud of how my house looks because it looks lived in. It looks like people actually use their space, enjoy their space and are part of the landscape in the house. In my experience. company perfect houses have a lack of... I don't know what word to use... character? life? I don't really know what say that won't offend someone. If everything is perfectly in place, it doesn't project a sense of the place being lived in... just that it's on display. Right now my office is clean, but it's certainly not tidy. I have three projects on the go. But I wouldn't hesitate to have someone in my office at this very second because it's obvious that my office is used, loved and a place of activity. I see no need to hide that. It's a waste of time to put everything away mid-project just to have the house ready in case someone randomly comes over. Clean is necessary, absolutely. Tidy and everything in it's place like a showroom? No desire to live that way. My house is beautiful and I enjoy living in it immensely. Part of that enjoyment is that I like it to look neat and tidy. It's for ME, because I like it that way, not because I'm worried about what "someone who randomly comes over" would think. Again, if that's not your thing, good for you. Kind of rude to imply that my house has no character or life! I guarantee you would not think that way if you saw it. Next time you're in the area, stop by randomly! I will make you a cup of tea in my clean kitchen and you can judge for yourself
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Post by J u l e e on May 31, 2015 16:17:28 GMT
If I know in advance that people are coming over, I will run the vacuum on the floors and furniture. We have pets. But if someone stops by unexpectedly, the floors and furniture may not be spotless. But our pets live here, our guests don't. Our friends aren't uptight about stuff like that, and neither are we.
But, the rest of the house is - what I think most people are referring to as - company ready. Not because we stress about it or are obsessive perfection freaks, it's just the way WE live. We have a cleaning lady so I never have to think about what the bathrooms look like. There are only three people who live here. None of us is messy. We don't leave things laying around - everything has a spot and things are always put away. Dishes are in the dishwasher, shoes and coats are in the closets, nothing is piled on counters or end tables. I try to imagine what we'd pile places and I can't think of anything! Our office used to be the place where stuff piled up - we each have a desk, our laptops, work/schoolwork in there - but we all got pretty organized in there lately and it looks great. My daughter keeps her bedroom like a magazine - that's just the way she likes it.
Just know that our house is absolutely lived in. We just live in it differently. But if you come over, I wouldn't want you to think we are miserable people striving desperately to keep up an impossible image of neatness and order. We're actually quite laid back. Come on over anytime!
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Post by epeanymous on May 31, 2015 16:21:47 GMT
I grew up in one of those houses where there was never a speck of dust or tiny bit of clutter anywhere. We didn't even have a junk drawer. It was still never clean enough, as far as my mother was concerned, and she never wanted to have anyone over because it needed to be cleaner. She is in her early 70s now and, while when I was a kid, she used to tell me I would appreciate how clean my house had been when I grew up, she now wonders if she didn't waste too much of her life on straightening the perfect set of towels in the guest room and wiping down the television screens every day.
My house is clean enough. Some rooms are tidier than others. My bedroom, my oldest son's room, the twins' room, and the dining room generally are in good shape; my daughter's room is always a pit, the first-floor bathroom is usually a mess of bath toys and damp towels, and the living room is hit or miss, depending on whether or not the kids have decided to get out everything they own or not. The entry is the real eyesore--jackets, shoes, a stroller, scooters, tote bags, backpacks, all crammed into about a 3.5*4 foot space, and I have yet to figure out how to make that not be so. I have people over, no problem, but I do try to clear a path through there beforehand.
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Post by genny on May 31, 2015 16:29:57 GMT
ok well i guess I should clarify that for me company ready means not being embarrassed if someone stops by! My house is never ever perfect. The closest it comes is right before a party or big dinner. I was really embarrassed last night. Shoes all in the entry way, mail stacked on the front table, pile of clean clothes on the loveseat waiting to be put away, pile of dirty at the laundry room door waiting to be washed and the sink full of dishes, crap all over the kitchen table. It was pretty bad. I hadn't vacummed in days1
We have company constantly it seems. Neighbors, kids friends or their parents, friends or family. Close friends and family I don't care what they see, it's the casual friends (like the neighbor last night) or kids parents that want to stop in that bother me and I feel like a slacker.
So by no means do I want ANYONE to think that i mean like Marta Steward ready, because that's not what i mean at all because I will never live that way, Im too messy by nature, so even when my kids are gone my house will still never be perfect. I know people who are though, and I don't have any idea how they do it!
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Post by tuesdaysgone on May 31, 2015 16:32:40 GMT
Sorta. Better on some days than others. Things get a little dodgy toward the end of the week. Most of the "company" we get is family and friends who love us and know that we live in the real world where a little dust and clutter are the norm. Our home looks very lived in and, yes, you can put your feet up on the furniture here.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2015 16:34:51 GMT
Pretty much yes, we have stuff that shows we live there but it's always clean and tidy. As long as the 'company' don't open the spare bedroom door then all is good. It's like Monicas cupboard in there
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Post by grinningcat on May 31, 2015 16:35:35 GMT
I'm proud of how my house looks because it looks lived in. It looks like people actually use their space, enjoy their space and are part of the landscape in the house. In my experience. company perfect houses have a lack of... I don't know what word to use... character? life? I don't really know what say that won't offend someone. If everything is perfectly in place, it doesn't project a sense of the place being lived in... just that it's on display. Right now my office is clean, but it's certainly not tidy. I have three projects on the go. But I wouldn't hesitate to have someone in my office at this very second because it's obvious that my office is used, loved and a place of activity. I see no need to hide that. It's a waste of time to put everything away mid-project just to have the house ready in case someone randomly comes over. Clean is necessary, absolutely. Tidy and everything in it's place like a showroom? No desire to live that way. My house is beautiful and I enjoy living in it immensely. Part of that enjoyment is that I like it to look neat and tidy. It's for ME, because I like it that way, not because I'm worried about what "someone who randomly comes over" would think. Again, if that's not your thing, good for you. Kind of rude to imply that my house has no character or life! I guarantee you would not think that way if you saw it. Next time you're in the area, stop by randomly! I will make you a cup of tea in my clean kitchen and you can judge for yourself And I knew I would offend you. Sigh. I know a lot of houses that are perfectly neat have character. However, in my experience, most do not. So I do not mean to imply that your house is boring... I am sure it is not. I apologize. I should have kept my trap shut since I couldn't figure out the right word. I'll take you up on that tea one of these days... would be fun.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2015 16:44:04 GMT
And I knew I would offend you. Sigh. I know a lot of houses that are perfectly neat have character. However, in my experience, most do not. So I do not mean to imply that your house is boring... I am sure it is not. I apologize. I should have kept my trap shut since I couldn't figure out the right word. I'll take you up on that tea one of these days... would be fun. Nah, I'm not really offended - maybe "rude" was too strong a word. I always like your posts, Grinning Cat, and I seriously WOULD love to have a cup of tea with you sometime.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2015 16:45:58 GMT
Do to constant construction , I have not had clean houses in years.
When I did, my husband's mother made the remark " Harriet ( the oldest DIL) has an immaculate house. Well then go to f'ing her house then. Which they never did In the 20 years I have known them. FIL just went on his first trip there in 30 years.
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Post by TankTop on May 31, 2015 16:47:32 GMT
The living room pillows are not perfect and the blanket is on the floor.
Other than that,,I am usually always company ready. I have a thing against messes.
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Post by auntkelly on May 31, 2015 16:48:39 GMT
My house is almost always company ready, but my definition of company ready is probably different from a lot of people.
I'm a decent housekeeper, but far from perfect. My house is almost always reasonably clean, but there might be a pile of clean laundry waiting to be folded or dishes in the sink. However, I think my friends and family could care less about the small messes.
I'd rather my friends and family think of me as someone who is warm and welcoming as opposed to thinking of me as the perfect housekeeper.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2015 16:50:28 GMT
My house is acceptable but rarely company ready. My kitchen may not always be spotless thanks to not enough cupboards and counter space. The animals shed and I may have not swept yet that day. My sewing table is in the living room and is the first thing you see when you step in my house. That is rarely clean as I'm always working on something. I always have a knitting project or two laying around. But you can walk into my house without gagging or stepping on something. The trash is not overflowing. The floors are clean despite some animal hair that haven't gotten swept up that day. Depending on when you come over, the dishes are done or at least stacked up, ready to be washed. The bathroom is wiped down daily. It will always pass an inspection by CPS.
If we're expecting company, the dishes are done, the floor is swept, the couch is vacuumed, and my crafting stuff is put away.
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Post by Woobster on May 31, 2015 16:56:30 GMT
Baha.... Bahahaha.... BAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Um... No.
That's not to say that my house is a disaster. I do keep the main level tidy and at least presentable in case someone pops in (which is extremely rare). However, in order for company to come and stay at my house, I would need to straighten up the guest bedroom and do a good clean of the guest bath (which hardly ever gets used since it's just DH and me).
My time is limited, and usually the first thing that gets put on the back burner is housework. I own it.
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Post by caro on May 31, 2015 17:15:14 GMT
To answer the question.... Not in anyone's wildest imagination, especially mine. If anyone drops by, they get what they get. When it's a planned visit then yes.
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