Kerri W
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Post by Kerri W on Jul 1, 2015 17:46:26 GMT
I never understand responses like this. Or maybe people who post stuff like this don't understand the Internet very well? It takes 2 clicks and less than 30 seconds to find that picture via google images. Not much time or effort. Less time and effort than it took you to post your handslap, in fact. But why would you even WANT to take the time to do that? Unless you're someone who just wants to be bitchy and right. I can tell you I'm *thankful* for the two that did. Remember the whole Sydneygate? The peas have unsuspectingly been taken for a ride before. If your friend IRL knew somebody was being dishonest or flat out lying to you and didn't tell you, you'd be cool with that? Because I wouldn't. I'd pretty much think they sucked at the whole friendship thing.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 1, 2015 17:46:48 GMT
If she'd owned up right away instead of gushing about her husband having taken the picture etc, it would be history by now.
One thing we can be sure of, the peas can smell a wrong 'un from a mile off. She has been busted and has done a runner.
I'm another one who doesn't see why the messenger should be shot.
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Post by Olan on Jul 1, 2015 17:46:49 GMT
Goodness sakes it wasn't a jig! If you are going to use a "fake photo" it shouldn't be on the first page of google results!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2015 17:50:35 GMT
What a shame this thread took such an ugly turn. It was so nice that many of us feel so comfortable here that we shared our real selves, stuff like this just breaks that trust <----- that's not really me btw!
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Post by chlerbie on Jul 1, 2015 17:54:37 GMT
Eh, I just can't compare it to "Sydney." She wasn't trying to GET anything from us. She's been a member of the board for years. She was looking for something--some sort of validation, I suppose. Perhaps she was having a rough day and this is what she found uplifting. Posting a fake picture of yourself is not a capital offense. I think she was embarrassed when she found out and further perpetuated the lie. I'm not saying that it was a right or honorable thing to do. Just not something that I'd feel the need to then find everything she's said and everything that she's contributed in the past suddenly suspect or to compare her to Peas who tried to take advantage of us for monetary gain. I guess I just don't see it as this huge, great crime against Peadom.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 1, 2015 17:55:17 GMT
What a shame this thread took such an ugly turn. It was so nice that many of us feel so comfortable here that we shared our real selves, stuff like this just breaks that trust <----- that's not really me btw! Noooo! I was certain that we had our red hair in common! Another illusion dashed.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 1, 2015 17:56:14 GMT
I guess the reason scrappower's little charade doesn't bother me too much as I don't believe most of what I read online. Heck, I take most things that people tell me in real life with a grain of salt. What a poster does, says or is, just doesn't impact my life at all. I will miss her point of view though.
However, I'll admit that the picture was a shock because that is so far from the picture that I had in my mind, that I was stunned. Good to know my instincts are still intact.
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Post by MorningPerson on Jul 1, 2015 17:59:52 GMT
But why would you even WANT to take the time to do that? Unless you're someone who just wants to be bitchy and right. I can tell you I'm *thankful* for the two that did. Remember the whole Sydneygate? The peas have unsuspectingly been taken for a ride before. If your friend IRL knew somebody was being dishonest or flat out lying to you and didn't tell you, you'd be cool with that? Because I wouldn't. I'd pretty much think they sucked at the whole friendship thing. I've been wondering the same. I have no dog in this fight, but I value honesty and am not o.k. with people lying to me.
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Post by leftturnonly on Jul 1, 2015 18:03:33 GMT
Who really cares if someone posted a fake photo of themselves? Perhaps she is incredibly insecure about who she is and wanted to give a different impression of herself. Is it really that big of a deal? I don't get the glee in outing her. I have to say that I agree. Every single one of us is somebody else online, even if only through omission. We don't share the parts of ourselves we don't want others to see. The picture I posted is definitely me, but I chose a flattering one, taken in a good light, where my hair looked nice (and I have to say my RL hair rarely looks that nice in our humidity). Someone who wanted to could go through my FB albums and find a much less flattering photo and say, "Wow, Merge looks really different here." I posted a photo that shows how I see myself at my best. Maybe that picture is how Scrappower sees herself. It's not quite the same, but was it really worth outing her for it? What did that accomplish? The first person was not nice, but Burning Feather gave Scrappower a way to come back and own it. "I haven't been well and I don't look like myself right now. This is how I'd like you to think of me." Nothing wrong with that. Scrappower used a very distinctive photo. Maybe she thought it would just fade into the other photos, but it was too good and got a lot of attention. At least one of us here was sure to remember it at that point. And that's why I see the humor in it. Who here doesn't understand the insecurity you feel about your appearance, especially when you've been ill? Maybe she hasn't been ill? Doesn't matter to me either. She's presented a consistent view with us for many years. That's what matters to me here. She could reinstate her account and post on the next thread without saying a word about this and as long as her posts continued to present a consistent viewpoint, I wouldn't care. I'm not surprised if I have the minority opinion. I just really don't care about the photo.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2015 18:07:21 GMT
Eh, I just can't compare it to "Sydney." She wasn't trying to GET anything from us. She's been a member of the board for years. She was looking for something--some sort of validation, I suppose. Perhaps she was having a rough day and this is what she found uplifting. Posting a fake picture of yourself is not a capital offense. I think she was embarrassed when she found out and further perpetuated the lie. I'm not saying that it was a right or honorable thing to do. Just not something that I'd feel the need to then find everything she's said and everything that she's contributed in the past suddenly suspect or to compare her to Peas who tried to take advantage of us for monetary gain. I guess I just don't see it as this huge, great crime against Peadom. You actually just proved exactly the opposite of what I think you intended. This is EXACTLY like Sydney. She didn't ask or get anything either - other than admiration for how young and beautiful she was and sympathy for her "illness."
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2015 18:07:50 GMT
What a shame this thread took such an ugly turn. It was so nice that many of us feel so comfortable here that we shared our real selves, stuff like this just breaks that trust <----- that's not really me btw! Noooo! I was certain that we had our red hair in common! Another illusion dashed. Sorry
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 1, 2015 18:09:25 GMT
Could somebody remind me what Sidneygate was about?
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Post by leftturnonly on Jul 1, 2015 18:15:24 GMT
I agree. As far as spreadsheets and pea detectives, the picture was very easy to find. I was curious about handfasting, so I gooled it, and that picture is all over the Web in relation to Wiccan women. Honestly, to me, this is very out of character for Scrappower, and I am quite worried about her. But how do we really know what's out of character because now I question every thing she ever posted.
And that's a shame...because even though we disagreed on many issues (hell...maybe even most issues) I still appreciated the discussion with her.
Now I question everything she ever posted.
So what? What if she is a multimillionaire male Catholic priest living in Vermont? Are Wiccans not pacifists? Do pacifists support abortion? What viewpoint did Scrappower present that isn't true and consistent? Now, if she turns out to be a mole planted among us to learn our ways so she can inform our enemies how best to overthrow us, the attack will happen anytime now and I'll consider the photo her "Gottcha!" moment.
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Post by elinoah on Jul 1, 2015 18:16:25 GMT
My current FB profile pic. So much fun seeing everyone. People seem more open on this board than the old board.
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Post by elinoah on Jul 1, 2015 18:17:50 GMT
oops. I guess I should have read all the way to the end before posting!
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Post by scrappammie on Jul 1, 2015 18:21:13 GMT
Seems like I stepped in it. See what I did there? I think I know how the internet works - I mean, I'm no AL Gore - but I don't make a habit of investigating the veracity of message board posts... Wasn't trying to give Scrap a pass... Wasn't really even trying to give BF the finger... All I tried to say was, in my opinion, it was crappy (again, I crack myself up!) behavior. Both the posting of a fake photo AND pointing it out with gleeful snark -- free of charge or not. I don't know. Maybe it was more handslappy in tone than I meant it to be. Or... maybe I do want to be bitchy and right.
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Post by DEX on Jul 1, 2015 18:22:47 GMT
Sidneygate was about a beautiful young woman who had a hunky fiancé in Iraq or, wherever. She posted about how she had cancer. We all felt so sad for her. Turns out, please, someone correct me if I am wrong, that the young girl was actually a middle aged owner of a failing scrap store and the picture of the dying woman was actually the picture of a porn star. LOL.
Am I right?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2015 18:27:05 GMT
Sidneygate was about a beautiful young woman who had a hunky fiancé in Iraq or, wherever. She posted about how she had cancer. We all felt so sad for her. Turns out, please, someone correct me if I am wrong, that the young girl was actually a middle aged owner of a failing scrap store and the picture of the dying woman was actually the picture of a porn star. LOL. Am I right? According to my spreadsheet , that is correct. It never elevated to the level of asking for anything and I don't recall that anyone gave anything other than support for her illness, praise for her youth and beauty, and thanks for her boyfriend's service. However, the damage was that as a whole, the group became less trusting; heartstrings were pulled in some people who were very vulnerable at the time, she pulled people into her story and made them worry for her, and for what? A stupid misrepresentation of who she was.
Not to be confused with other Peas who did ask/receive things.
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Post by compeateropeator on Jul 1, 2015 18:27:07 GMT
I never understand responses like this. Or maybe people who post stuff like this don't understand the Internet very well? It takes 2 clicks and less than 30 seconds to find that picture via google images. Not much time or effort. Less time and effort than it took you to post your handslap, in fact. But why would you even WANT to take the time to do that? Unless you're someone who just wants to be bitchy and right. Sorry I liked your post instead of quoting , not that it matters because I do like your post. But this is another question that always surprises me and makes me think I must be a totally bad person because I google stuff about people, things, and situations all the time. I don't always vocally tell anyone what i find out but I look. And if I thought I remembered seeing a picture, hearing a story, can't remember a lyric, want to see what my neighbors. Condo is valued at, or whatever I google it. I guess how I deal with what I find out depends on what the subject is. How does letting her know privately help the situation? If you say nothing and you know then every future post from her loses credibility. The board loses that small community feel of the big far reaching Internet. And most of all if you know, you know that someone else knows and it will eventually come out. In in my opinion your choices are then just leave or come clean and move on. But either way it is a (fun and wonderful without a doubt) online community. And people need to do what they need to do to live well in real life. Hopefully Scrappower will come back, but if not I hope that there is much happiness and health in her future. I always enjoyed reading her post. Many times I agreed with her and sometimes not. ETA - I liked this while I was trying to edit it for a spelling error. Sorry I suck at posting on an iPad.
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Post by gar on Jul 1, 2015 18:32:10 GMT
Oh, I'm so disappointed about Scrappower..........and surprised and sad. I enjoyed her contributions to the board and I can't believe her whole persona was 'fake' because it was too consistant.
I don't know why she would do that but I'd love her to come back, apologise/explain and maybe start again. We all make mistakes/errors of judgement.
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Post by GamGam on Jul 1, 2015 18:33:54 GMT
Lucy, great picture of you and Herbie. Yes, switch to Photobucket. It is so easy to post a picture from that site. I post a picture to FB (usually locking it, so only I can see it) and copy it from there to here. Going to try this method. It worked!!! Honestly, I was about to give up on posting my photo, and still don't know how I got the other one to post. This is a recent photo of DH and me at the Wedding Anniversary of our dear friends. Please just chalk up my double post to being computer challenged. GamGAm
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 1, 2015 18:34:05 GMT
Sidneygate was about a beautiful young woman who had a hunky fiancé in Iraq or, wherever. She posted about how she had cancer. We all felt so sad for her. Turns out, please, someone correct me if I am wrong, that the young girl was actually a middle aged owner of a failing scrap store and the picture of the dying woman was actually the picture of a porn star. LOL. Am I right? Thanks. Before my time I think. Pretty unpleasant behaviour.
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Post by lindah on Jul 1, 2015 18:35:48 GMT
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Post by leftturnonly on Jul 1, 2015 18:36:41 GMT
I always have to shake my head and respectfully disagree with the whole "what's the harm" position. Anyone remember Sydney - the pretty young girl who had cancer and a boyfriend that was deployed? There were lots of "it didn't hurt me" comments when she was outed. But you know who I bet she DID hurt? Anyone who had a deployed spouse or boyfriend. Or maybe someone who was going through cancer or the loss of a loved one to cancer at the time. I remember very clearly that our own Jodi S who lost her husband at a very young age to cancer reached out to her more than once. Just because it doesn't hurt YOU doesn't mean it doesn't hurt our community as a whole. She stole someone's picture. She presented it as her own. She DEFENDED it as her own. She made people question their gut instincts and impressions of her. And there's a chance that she made someone hesitate to post their own picture because "how can I follow that?" Action equals consequences. And I wasn't the first person to point it out. Someone else did - with a troll/new ID. But I don't play that way. I think the person whose photo it actually is deserves to keep their own identity and not have someone else use it. I agree. She stole someone else's photo and that is not right. I think you gave her a good opportunity to admit it and I'm glad you did. As for her story.... if I had considered her a friend I trusted, I'd be angry and hurt that she withdrew rather than own what she did and I would wonder what else she told me that was a lie. I don't consider her a trusted friend. I consider her a person with an opinion that has differed from mine many times and has made me think. That remains true no matter what this person actually looks like, and that's why I suppose I'm in the minority here.
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Post by Nanner on Jul 1, 2015 18:43:22 GMT
Oh, I'm so disappointed about Scrappower..........and surprised and sad. I enjoyed her contributions to the board and I can't believe her whole persona was 'fake' because it was too consistant. I don't know why she would do that but I'd love her to come back, apologise/explain and maybe start again. We all make mistakes/errors of judgement. That's how I feel, as well.
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Post by DEX on Jul 1, 2015 18:45:06 GMT
I always have to shake my head and respectfully disagree with the whole "what's the harm" position. Anyone remember Sydney - the pretty young girl who had cancer and a boyfriend that was deployed? There were lots of "it didn't hurt me" comments when she was outed. But you know who I bet she DID hurt? Anyone who had a deployed spouse or boyfriend. Or maybe someone who was going through cancer or the loss of a loved one to cancer at the time. I remember very clearly that our own Jodi S who lost her husband at a very young age to cancer reached out to her more than once. Just because it doesn't hurt YOU doesn't mean it doesn't hurt our community as a whole. She stole someone's picture. She presented it as her own. She DEFENDED it as her own. She made people question their gut instincts and impressions of her. And there's a chance that she made someone hesitate to post their own picture because "how can I follow that?" Action equals consequences. And I wasn't the first person to point it out. Someone else did - with a troll/new ID. But I don't play that way. I think the person whose photo it actually is deserves to keep their own identity and not have someone else use it. I agree. She stole someone else's photo and that is not right. I think you gave her a good opportunity to admit it and I'm glad you did. As for her story.... if I had considered her a friend I trusted, I'd be angry and hurt that she withdrew rather than own what she did and I would wonder what else she told me that was a lie. I don't consider her a trusted friend. I consider her a person with an opinion that has differed from mine many times and has made me think. That remains true no matter what this person actually looks like, and that's why I suppose I'm in the minority here. I guess I just am having a hard time with her just slinking away like that. SP was never known to shy away from standing up for herself. You don't agree with her? Too bad, so sad. She was never afraid to take an unpopular opinion. As far as I am concerned, no biggie on the picture. No harm, no foul. That is, unless you are over invested in the lives of people on a message board. I am actually Hillary Clinton.
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Post by leftturnonly on Jul 1, 2015 18:51:37 GMT
oops. I guess I should have read all the way to the end before posting! I'm glad you didn't. Cute photo!
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 1, 2015 19:12:47 GMT
oops. I guess I should have read all the way to the end before posting! Hahahaha! Now that's funny right there!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2015 19:14:15 GMT
I agree with you, Burning Feather. And after watching her defend it, talk about it, etc... sooo easily (that is, lie so smoothly), it does make you question many things she's said. Yes, I recognize this is the internet. People lie all the time. But this just makes me shake me head in disappointment again. And regarding the post up there^ that said "Maybe that picture is how Scrappower sees herself." - Really? I can't get on board with that kind of thinking. Sorry. and to whoever said lyingliar is a coward - yes. If you're going to say it, own it. Doing it that way makes everyone suspect. Back in January when Scrappower made her announcement that she was going to take a break, a new poster showed up the next day with the exact same "voice" and very similar details as Scrappower and several of us noticed and said so. Even her denial was the same as Scrappower's today. Then in a strange "coincidence", when Scrappower returned, that new poster was never heard from again. So, I think the issue with her goes farther than just wanting a better visual photo to present because of her illness. And I don't see glee from anyone here. I see surprise and shock and maybe a little validation on some past gut instincts. Holy hell! was my first reaction to what unfolded here.
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Post by knit.pea on Jul 1, 2015 19:25:12 GMT
Maybe because we all have seen so much of this, it just didn't even phase me. She may be having issues due to her (alleged) treatment, who knows.
All that said, lying closes the door for me. Zero credibility.
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