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Post by Laura in OK on Jul 15, 2014 1:07:23 GMT
I am following this only so I can keep checking out the reaction shots that y'all keep posting. Exactly!!! You gals are too funny! But seriously, I'm so sorry.
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Post by peasful1 on Jul 15, 2014 1:12:35 GMT
I'd be staying in a hotel and booking a cleaning crew for the day they leave. DH wants to host them? Fine. Have at it. Doesn't mean I have to put up with that shit.
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ripleysmine
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Post by ripleysmine on Jul 15, 2014 1:13:18 GMT
Girl you are a much better person than I am...I would not have handled this as well as you have! I couldn't imagine coming home to find this! very inconsiderate of them!
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Post by oktrae on Jul 15, 2014 1:30:24 GMT
I think I'd be running them off any way I could: Here is the mint fish ala the movie 'something to talk about'.... The house has toxic mold. The birds will peck out your eyeballs. I'd probably be praying for a tornado to just wipe the house out so they'd go home!
(I changed the locks when we got home from vacation and only gave my DH 1 key b/c his sister came over and snooped while we were gone. I was that pissed)
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Post by hennybutton on Jul 15, 2014 1:36:24 GMT
Oh, I just thought of something. You will not be the one to call in and wait for the locksmith and the refrigerator repair. That will be your husband. He will also be the one to use whatever "fun" money he has to pay for it. It will not be coming out of your household budget or your discretionary funds. He will also be the one cleaning out the refrigerator. If he cannot get the stink out, he will have to buy a new one. I can't believe he thinks the repair will be covered by the warranty. They only cover manufacturer's defects, not damage from abuse.
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wenchie
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Post by wenchie on Jul 15, 2014 1:44:58 GMT
Sorry, any thread with Anderson in it is good. GOOOOOD.
Return to your regularly scheduled bitching.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Jul 15, 2014 1:55:49 GMT
On top of everything, they caused us all to agree Seriously though, that sucks big time!!! Sorry!! And let's be honest, if the peas agree you KNOW it has to be baaaaaaaaaad. "Sure, honey, I'm glad your sister and DH can come over for the whole month. It'll give them a chance to meet my divorce lawyer."
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jul 15, 2014 2:07:09 GMT
My hubby just got an extra hug after reading this post---he and I are on the same page when It comes to houseguests!!! Lol
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Post by transprntbutterfly on Jul 15, 2014 2:07:51 GMT
I am so sorry you have to deal with this. That is so far beyond unacceptable. I would be telling no so DH that there was no way in hell they would be staying in my house.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 15, 2014 2:11:48 GMT
I just.... I cannot..... I have no words.
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Post by BeckyTech on Jul 15, 2014 2:13:30 GMT
The seriousness of this goes way beyond just holding your earings. I think we better start a bail fund.
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Post by agengr2004 on Jul 15, 2014 2:17:23 GMT
That's just craziness. I can't believe you're having to go through all of that.
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IAmUnoriginal
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Jul 15, 2014 2:27:27 GMT
It's time to close the kitchen and stop playing hostess. Anything you're doing to make SIL and her family feel welcome needs to come to a full stop. Take your kids and go do things alone. Make and provide meals for only your family. Do laundry for only your family. Hide the extra towels. Make it clear to SIL and her brood that you don't want them there. If DH wants to cater to them for the rest of the month, let him run himself ragged. You find any way you can to enjoy the rest of July. I'd blatantly tell SIL that month long visits will not be happening again. It is far too long for anyone to be a guest. They can stay at an extended stay type hotel in the future. Put the fear of a pissed off, uncomfortable wife in your DH. You've been too nice about this for too long.
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Post by stittsygirl on Jul 15, 2014 2:29:37 GMT
Wow, what a mess. Sorry you have to deal with all of that. Somedays I really wish we had family that came to visit, but then I read stories like this and feel grateful that we don't .
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jul 15, 2014 2:32:43 GMT
"Sure, honey, I'm glad your sister and DH can come over for the whole month. It'll give them a chance to meet my divorce lawyer." Seriously OP, you are a much better person than I. Your DH's attitude is total
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Post by bosoxbeth on Jul 15, 2014 2:34:06 GMT
OMG! Just say no!!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 2:42:53 GMT
The more I think about this, the more I am all:
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Kerri W
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Post by Kerri W on Jul 15, 2014 2:45:50 GMT
Seriously OP, you are a much better person than I. Joy beat me to it. You are a MUCH better person than I am. Wow.
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imsirius
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Post by imsirius on Jul 15, 2014 2:48:44 GMT
Sorry, any thread with Anderson in it is good. GOOOOOD. Return to your regularly scheduled bitching. In the OP's case, I think a little bitching is warranted here. Don't you?
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Post by bdawnb on Jul 15, 2014 2:54:48 GMT
I can't believe grown people would act so irresponsibly. I'm afraid I would have turned around and said "call me when it's cleaned up", then headed for a hotel.
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Post by shevy on Jul 15, 2014 3:16:46 GMT
You're drinking lots of margaritas or wine or something. Right? And DH is sending you out for a spa day. Right?
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wenchie
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Post by wenchie on Jul 15, 2014 3:26:48 GMT
The more I think about this, the more I am all: Oh hell, forget Anderson! I looooove my Supes boys! OP, I feel for you. I have had my SIL and her brood for an extended weekend every June. The brood (and their friends!) are great but my SIL has behaved so unbelievably bad that my dh said it was probably beat that she not come back. Big Facebook row followed by lots of drama and other bullshit. It would take me days to type it out and all of you would be picking your jaws up off your keyboards and phones and you would start a paypal account to send me to an all inclusive in Mexico. I still can even wrap my head around all that she has done... Anyway, wench invites you to spokane if they ever come back. <3
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Post by cycworker on Jul 15, 2014 3:31:18 GMT
Let the record show that even I am in agreement with the group. There's family, and then there's stupidity.
If you think the offer to pay for the damage was sincere, I would 'overrule' dh and take them up on it. If, as I fear, I was a ploy to buy sympathy from you/brother, I am not sure how you can play it.
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Post by Lexica on Jul 15, 2014 11:16:06 GMT
What horrible, selfish people! There are so many things they could have and should have done! They could have cleaned out the fridge immediately (how on earth did they break a refrigerator door? Were the kids hanging on it?) They also should have called a locksmith out, had the door rekeyed, and then lock the place up for you, giving you the new set of keys when you came home. Just doing those two simple things would have made worlds of difference for you. Shame on them. And shame on your husband for letting you clean it up. His family, his cleanup.
I don't take their offer to pay as sincere at all. If it was, they would have paid for the door prior to you coming home. Heck, they could have even run to a Home Depot, purchased a door set, and spent the time to switch out the knobs themselves.
When they stay the remainder of the month, do they chip in on food and chores? Do they reciprocate in any way with inviting you to their place? Do they pick up the tab for dinners out or do the grocery shopping while they are there? Do they buy you a substantial thank you gift like a new BBQ or concert tickets? (they should know you well enough to know what would be a perfect gift for you guys)
I'm afraid I would be having it out with my DH over this. I can see how he might insist on paying for the repairs himself if you are in a much better financial position, but I can't understand him not speaking up about doing the obvious things like replace the door knob and empty the refrigerator. They obviously knew it stunk since they kept coming back to your home to print. (I assume they didn't replace the paper or buy a new ink cartridge either?)
Your husband should have taken his sister aside when you returned and asked her WTH she was thinking by leaving the food in the refrigerator to rot? That is such an obvious omission that they should be horrified at what they did (or didn't do in this case) and then asked her to go clean it out because he was not going to ask his wife to do such a thing. I do hope he cleaned it and not you?
I'm all for strong family ties, but they are so far beyond inconsiderate that they should be ashamed. Family doesn't do something like this to other family.
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Jul 15, 2014 12:19:04 GMT
You must really, REALLY love your DH Here's hoping the rest of the month flies by for you! I, too, am loving all the reaction pics!
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Jul 15, 2014 12:27:19 GMT
Oh wow! Hopefully this time passes quickly for you.
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Post by oldcrow on Jul 15, 2014 12:32:20 GMT
Stop and take a deep breath and count to ten.
But when you get to 8 punch them in the throat. See how they like surprises.
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mallie
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Post by mallie on Jul 15, 2014 12:45:34 GMT
I'm not sure that allowing one's possessions and person to be treated like dirt makes one a "better" person.
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Post by woodysbetty on Jul 15, 2014 12:52:31 GMT
Alright, so here's the real question - what does your husband say (and do) about all this? That!!!
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Jul 15, 2014 13:01:02 GMT
How the heck do you break a fridge door!??
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