Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 4:56:38 GMT
I have to vent to someone so I decided to come here. I had someone who wanted to add me as her friend on facebook. I do remember her but vaguely. I decided why not. So I added her. She is doing Isagenix and every post is about it so I decided to just not follow her posts. (I hate confrontation and contention so it was just easier to unfollow her than to unfriend her). She added me to a secret group that was all about Isagenix. I removed myself from that group. I didn't even know I was in it until posts popped up in my feed. She added me again today. I removed myself from the group again and saw an option to make it so she couldn't add me. I should add I tried Isagenix awhile ago and it was awful with my body! It made me super sick! Then I did something I probably shouldn't have done. I wrote her an email about how I felt it was insincere to add me as a friend and just try to recruit me into her MLM. That there were better ways to build business. Has anyone else ever dealt with this before? Maybe I shouldn't have sent that email but seriously when people see me as a number or a possible recruit and not as a person it is annoying. She hasn't ever commented on any of my posts so I don't think she did it just to get to know me better. For those who dealt with this, how did you handle it? I probably could have handled it better and I feel a bit bad.  |
|
mely
Junior Member
Posts: 89 
|
Post by mely on Jul 15, 2014 4:59:13 GMT
I wouldn't add them in the first place and if all they wanted to do was get me to sell stuff they would be unfriended so fast and I never unfriend anyone  |
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 4:59:36 GMT
I unfriended them. I was being used by them. That isn't friendship. Not sure why you feel bad. You told her how you feel. Now if she doesn't act more like friends just unfriend her and go on your way without worrying. She is a user not a friend.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 5:18:46 GMT
Don't feel bad. If we don't start standing up and saying that these kind of sales tactics are distasteful, they will only continue. Folks who are involved in MLM aren't bad people, and they don't want to bug you. But they are following the aggressive sales tactics that headquarters is spewing out, and they need to know when they've crossed a line. IMO, at least.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 5:21:45 GMT
I wouldn't add them in the first place and if all they wanted to do was get me to sell stuff they would be unfriended so fast and I never unfriend anyone If I had known that was her intentions I wouldn't have added her at all. I am glad to know I am not alone in that thinking! |
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 5:22:34 GMT
I unfriended them. I was being used by them. That isn't friendship. Not sure why you feel bad. You told her how you feel. Now if she doesn't act more like friends just unfriend her and go on your way without worrying. She is a user not a friend. You are right! I need to get over my crazy guilt complex. I never want to hurt someone else. But you are right she isn't acting like a friend. The whole thing is odd to me! I am just learning to find my voice and I am afraid in the beginning it may be a bit harsher than I intend it to be. |
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 5:24:04 GMT
Don't feel bad. If we don't start standing up and saying that these kind of sales tactics are distasteful, they will only continue. Folks who are involved in MLM aren't bad people, and they don't want to bug you. But they are following the aggressive sales tactics that headquarters is spewing out, and they need to know when they've crossed a line. IMO, at least. Thanks for the feedback. I agree. I told her that I felt like just another number and not a person and that I didn't appreciate it. It was annoying that she added me back to the group twice when I never joined it in the first place. |
|
thecurleyque
Junior Member
Posts: 97
|
Post by thecurleyque on Jul 15, 2014 5:25:16 GMT
Ugh, I hate that. There is a person I was already friends with on FB that is now part of an MLM. All of her posts about it are getting super annoying (but at least that is not all she posts and she doesn't have a group page - yet). Unfriending her becomes more tempting every day.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 5:31:29 GMT
Oh your post brings back a really bad memory. I'm not on Facebook, but a very close friend of mine got sucked into an MLM. It was awful, I really couldn't stand being around her because she'd either be trying to sell me on it, or else telling me something that would make my head explode. They conned her out of so much money it was ridiculous - between buying hype stuff, attending "conferences" at her own expense, etc. At least she could afford it. I feel so badly for people who really need money who fall for this crap. Thank God she's over it now. We never speak of it. I know she is really embarrassed by the whole thing.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 5:32:56 GMT
Ugh, I hate that. There is a person I was already friends with on FB that is now part of an MLM. All of her posts about it are getting super annoying (but at least that is not all she posts and she doesn't have a group page - yet). Unfriending her becomes more tempting every day. You can just unfollow her and she will never know! |
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 5:34:49 GMT
Oh your post brings back a really bad memory. I'm not on Facebook, but a very close friend of mine got sucked into an MLM. It was awful, I really couldn't stand being around her because she'd either be trying to sell me on it, or else telling me something that would make my head explode. They conned her out of so much money it was ridiculous - between buying hype stuff, attending "conferences" at her own expense, etc. At least she could afford it. I feel so badly for people who really need money who fall for this crap. Thank God she's over it now. We never speak of it. I know she is really embarrassed by the whole thing. I know there are some good ones. I don't mind them as long as they aren't forced on me. Whatever works for others is great. But this week I was hit with 2. One I didn't mind much because we have been friends forever but the other one was a very new "friend". By the way I am feeling SO cranky right now so I had to laugh at your screen name! |
|
|
|
Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jul 15, 2014 5:39:07 GMT
Don't feel bad. If we don't start standing up and saying that these kind of sales tactics are distasteful, they will only continue. Folks who are involved in MLM aren't bad people, and they don't want to bug you. But they are following the aggressive sales tactics that headquarters is spewing out, and they need to know when they've crossed a line. IMO, at least.
Don't feel bad at all! |
|
anniebygaslight
Drama Llama
I'd love a cup of tea. #1966
Posts: 7,394
Location: Third Rock from the sun.
Jun 28, 2014 14:08:19 GMT
|
Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 15, 2014 6:09:11 GMT
Good for you for telling her how you feel. Maybe it will give her pause for thought.
|
|
|
|
Post by I-95 on Jul 15, 2014 7:54:19 GMT
I usually just scroll straight passed all that stuff on my newsfeed, but it drives my DH crazy. A couple of weeks ago he defriended a woman he has known since kindergarten because of her constant Isagenix posts. I convinced him to refriend her and showed him how to block her posts. I'm also friends with her but the posts don't bother me as much as they bothered DH, and they really are good friends, aside from this little glitch.
|
|
rickmer
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,123
|
Post by rickmer on Jul 15, 2014 10:39:55 GMT
i don't think you should feel bad at all!
she should have felt bad after you removed yourself from the group she added you to (without permission) the first time. rude and pushy and i would have just unfriended her without even a note. if the only "interaction" you are willing to have with me is to push a button to shill your crap.... i'm not interested in being "friends".
i have an arbonne friend and i have hid her feed, way too annoying. if it's not about her perfect kid, it's about how all the rest of us are so stupid because we use xxx product. in person, she is fine but on FB.... not so much.
|
|
|
|
Post by miominmio on Jul 15, 2014 10:44:19 GMT
Please, don't feel bad. She was the rude one, not you.
|
|
|
|
Post by dulcemama on Jul 15, 2014 10:51:03 GMT
I have several friends that have these types of businesses but they have separate pages for that stuff. I don't know if you feel like it but maybe suggest this idea to her. I'm sure you can't be the first person she has annoyed with this behavior.
|
|
|
|
Post by johna on Jul 15, 2014 11:03:02 GMT
I have had the same thing happen to me recently, as well!! It is someone from work and so I accepted her friend request and then saw nothing but posts about jamberry nails and then one of those diet drink things, I forget which one. It didn't take me long to un-follow her. I still have her in my friends, but no longer see her posts in my feed. I feel a lot better about it now.
I think you may have done a good thing with your email. Hopefully, it will open her eyes to how rude SHE was/is.
|
|
|
|
Post by doxielady on Jul 15, 2014 12:03:00 GMT
No need to feel bad OP - those kinds of things REALLY annoy me. It's been happening for decades, long before FB. I used to get asked to go to "meetings" to "change my life". I learned after the first couple that it was just another MLM/Amway sales pitch. You learn quickly who to tune out or to unfollow.
Although I had never heard of Isagenix - I had to look it up. Gah! Just another weight loss supplement. It probably costs a fortune. |
|
|
|
Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Jul 15, 2014 12:36:01 GMT
Ugh, I hate that. There is a person I was already friends with on FB that is now part of an MLM. All of her posts about it are getting super annoying (but at least that is not all she posts and she doesn't have a group page - yet). Unfriending her becomes more tempting every day. I am in the same situation. I friended the daughter of my friend so I could see her grandchildren's pics. Great for a couple of years, until daughter joined Rodan + Fields a few months ago. Almost all of her posts are about R+F, and I have no interest in these products. I don't want to unfriend but if she doesn't slow down with the product pitches, I will have to. |
|
|
|
Post by Skellinton on Jul 15, 2014 12:38:45 GMT
What is MLM?
|
|
|
|
Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Jul 15, 2014 12:41:17 GMT
Multi Level Marketing. ETA a few of the companies - there are hundreds (thousands?) Amway, Advocare, Arbonne, Scentsy, Thirty-One, Herbalife, Mary Kay, |
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 13:20:49 GMT
These people are encouraged by their higher ups to use FB as a marketing tool. If that's what they want to do, they should create a business page and allow people who want to follow their posts to like their page. Using your friends list to shill your products is very inconsiderate and underhanded, IMO.
|
|
|
|
Post by epeanymous on Jul 15, 2014 13:57:44 GMT
I have an old high school acquaintance who I am pretty sure based on his feed added me to flog his multilevel marketing business, but be has not been aggressive about it.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 14:10:57 GMT
I wrote her an email about how I felt it was insincere to add me as a friend and just try to recruit me into her MLM. That there were better ways to build business. Has anyone else ever dealt with this before? Maybe I shouldn't have sent that email but seriously when people see me as a number or a possible recruit and not as a person it is annoying. She hasn't ever commented on any of my posts so I don't think she did it just to get to know me better. For those who dealt with this, how did you handle it? I probably could have handled it better and I feel a bit bad.   I think you did just great! I think that's a horrible way to market, also. To me, your Facebook account is like your telephone - it is for your pleasure and convenience, and you should not be forced to talk to/interact with people if you do not choose to do so. |
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 14:13:52 GMT
I have to vent to someone so I decided to come here. I had someone who wanted to add me as her friend on facebook. I do remember her but vaguely. I decided why not. So I added her. She is doing Isagenix and every post is about it so I decided to just not follow her posts. (I hate confrontation and contention so it was just easier to unfollow her than to unfriend her). She added me to a secret group that was all about Isagenix. I removed myself from that group. I didn't even know I was in it until posts popped up in my feed. She added me again today. I removed myself from the group again and saw an option to make it so she couldn't add me. I should add I tried Isagenix awhile ago and it was awful with my body! It made me super sick! Then I did something I probably shouldn't have done. I wrote her an email about how I felt it was insincere to add me as a friend and just try to recruit me into her MLM. That there were better ways to build business. Has anyone else ever dealt with this before? Maybe I shouldn't have sent that email but seriously when people see me as a number or a possible recruit and not as a person it is annoying. She hasn't ever commented on any of my posts so I don't think she did it just to get to know me better. For those who dealt with this, how did you handle it? I probably could have handled it better and I feel a bit bad. I've encountered this before and it sucks. One was a long time (since high school friend) who kinda dropped me when she married and had her own family. I realized I was no longer "useful" to her. When she finally joined FB, I was actually glad to see her friend request. Until I only got a direct comment or whatever on my wall that was about buying something she was selling or having a party to sell. Another friend only added me when she joined FB to market her real estate business. I hadn't heard from her in at least 2 years and her first contact was to ask me to take head shots (free! or really cheap) of her agents. I would have done it if it wasn't the first time she contacted in 2 years. In both cases, I unfriended and left it behind me. Their loss, not mine. ETA: I think your email was appropriate. Sometimes being blunt is the only way to get through to someone. |
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 14:19:00 GMT
There are four people that I'm friends with on Facebook who come to mind – and I'm related to one.  None of them has been particularly pushy, though, and I've just ignored any private messages about the "great opportunity" I'm missing out on. I would have no qualms about unfriending if anyone got particularly aggressive. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
|
|
|
Post by myshelly on Jul 15, 2014 14:21:19 GMT
Unfriending and blocking seems like a LOT less drama than the email you sent.
It's just funny to me that you say you can't unfriend bc you hate confrontation, but then you sent that email.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Apr 24, 2024 23:16:02 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 15:14:48 GMT
I usually just scroll straight passed all that stuff on my newsfeed, but it drives my DH crazy. A couple of weeks ago he defriended a woman he has known since kindergarten because of her constant Isagenix posts. I convinced him to refriend her and showed him how to block her posts. I'm also friends with her but the posts don't bother me as much as they bothered DH, and they really are good friends, aside from this little glitch. How do you block the specific posts again? One of my friends has adorable kids and I love seeing their pictures! I didn't even defriend the one that just added me. I just stopped following her. What really bothered me is adding me to a group without my consent. I have added people to secret groups to for things like endometriosis but only after I ask if they would like to be added. |
|
|
|
Post by maryland on Jul 15, 2014 15:16:55 GMT
What is MLM? I am clueless!
|
|
