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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 21, 2015 19:33:21 GMT
Only if I found it at a thrift store and got a really good deal.  I am not picking on anyone. Several posters have said essentially the same thing. This type of bragging really bothers me more than the opposite. You are telling me that the 'something' I admired is not to be had by me. You got it at a thrift shop which means there was just one and you bought it. And telling me that you got it at a bargain is like rubbing a little salt into my wound. I live vicariously through everyone's thrift shopping skills on here! I wish I could hunt down some of the cool stuff you guys find. With life the way it is right now I don't have the patience to trek from store to store dragging along my uncooperative kid with me. Not to mention I feel guilty when I do kill some time that way knowing I have a ton of other stuff I probably ought to be doing at home instead.  Maybe someday when when all of my other projects are caught up, the house is clean, the laundry is done and I'm up to date with work (yeah, right!!) I'll be able to score some awesome secondhand treasures too.  |
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jul 21, 2015 19:36:44 GMT
oldcrow, I guess I don't get that reasoning, really... if you ask about my sandals, I'll say I got them at Target a couple seasons ago. If you ask about my skirt, I'll say I got it at a thrift store. It's the same situation- the sandals from Target are no more available to you now than the skirt is. eta: I really don't think people do it to brag about it from the standpoint of 'look what I have that you can't have' but 'look what I got and isn't it cool that I got it?' (which, I guess, could mean similar things, but truly, from the standpoint of a thrift-er, that's NOT how we mean it.)
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Post by sharlag on Jul 21, 2015 19:48:53 GMT
It depends.
I've grown up with money being a sore subject, so I'm careful.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 21, 2015 19:49:09 GMT
I don't talk about price or money. It seems like either way is bragging.
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Post by rainangel on Jul 21, 2015 19:50:17 GMT
I only 'brag' about the bargains. And I am also good at letting people know about good sales that are on if I know they use that product.
I really don't see the point in bragging about spending LOTS of money on something crazy expensive. Sometimes I talk to people who just HAVE to tell me the price of their expensive shoes or handbags or whatever. And all I can think in my head is 'LOL! Joke's on you, I saw a pair of shoes just like that for $5 yesterday!'
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Post by scrappysurfer on Jul 21, 2015 20:18:57 GMT
Only if it is a good deal, then I will volunteer the price. I find it obnoxious when someone asks how much I paid for something.
DH's brother is the type to ask how much we pay for everything. I think it's none of his damn business. Their mother likes to talk about how much she spends as well, she thinks she's not bragging but she is.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 21, 2015 20:30:15 GMT
yes, if we are all casually talking about prices of stuff. but, no, if it's just no one asked and it doesn't belong as part of an appropriate response.
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Post by Zee on Jul 21, 2015 20:38:04 GMT
oldcrow, I guess I don't get that reasoning, really... if you ask about my sandals, I'll say I got them at Target a couple seasons ago. If you ask about my skirt, I'll say I got it at a thrift store. It's the same situation- the sandals from Target are no more available to you now than the skirt is. eta: I really don't think people do it to brag about it from the standpoint of 'look what I have that you can't have' but 'look what I got and isn't it cool that I got it?' (which, I guess, could mean similar things, but truly, from the standpoint of a thrift-er, that's NOT how we mean it.) Agreed. "Look what I've got that you can't have"? What an odd way to look at it. You asked where it came from, you got an honest answer. Maybe if you phrased it as "I like that, where could I get one like it"? oldcrow |
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Post by Rainbow on Jul 21, 2015 20:43:42 GMT
I don't tell anyone how much I paid because then they always try to tell me that they got it/know where to get it cheaper. It isn't a contest.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2015 20:45:31 GMT
Only if I found it at a thrift store and got a really good deal. I am not picking on anyone. Several posters have said essentially the same thing. This type of bragging really bothers me more than the opposite. You are telling me that the 'something' I admired is not to be had by me. You got it at a thrift shop which means there was just one and you bought it. And telling me that you got it at a bargain is like rubbing a little salt into my wound. When people brag the opposite way it just rolls off my back because there is no way I want to spend that kind of money on whatever. I personally don't care what you paid for something but sometimes I like to know what store you bought it from because if I like it the store just might stock styles I prefer. Do I tell people what I pay, in general no, but if they ask it is not a secret and I do tell. If I go to a store and they have a great sale on that info I will pass along. Well I guess you could take it that way but that's not necessarily true. Just because I found something in a thrift store doesn't mean it's one of a kind. It might be vintage. Or maybe just a cast off from someone else. Would you prefer I lie and tell you it came from Neiman Marcas and I paid 600 times the actual price? My friends know I get a thrill out of treasure hunting in thrift stores, junk stores, yard sales, auctions, etc. I couldn't lie. They know I would never shop at Neiman Marcus. Salt in a wound? Seriously? You're wounded because I got a little something at a good price? Why not just be happy that I found a cool thing at a deal? If you like, I could keep an eye out for one for you too. Or tag along with me to my favorite dives for some shopping together? |
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Post by hannahruth on Jul 21, 2015 20:52:35 GMT
I also have a friend that likes to discuss the monetary value of things as well. Drives me crazy. Whenever i see her she loves to discuss what she paid for something and where from, and she will ask what I have spent on whatever it is she is talking about.
I am not one to discuss money, what something has cost me or how much I spend on things. It really does not have any relevance as to how something will perform or look or what ever. I am the type of person who buys things because I like the look of it or I may need it or because I just want it.
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Post by caro on Jul 21, 2015 20:53:57 GMT
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Post by polz on Jul 21, 2015 20:57:31 GMT
I only do it here because things in New Zealand are stoopidly expensive. Like currently gas is $7.74 per gallon. Crazy huh?
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Post by tania7424 on Jul 21, 2015 21:08:46 GMT
Only if it's a deal.
I actually had a friend ask how much it was costing us for our trip to Disneyland when I posted on Facebook that we were booked and going. I was excited. My kids had never been. I totally ignored her question.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jul 21, 2015 21:15:30 GMT
not as a matter of practice. if someone asks me, sometimes I will.
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Jul 21, 2015 21:29:36 GMT
If someone has the same interest in something that I do and I found a great deal I will pass it along. Other than that it would be odd.
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Post by Nicole in TX on Jul 21, 2015 21:36:27 GMT
No, not on a regular basis. I can think of one friendship I let go because the other person always had to talk about money, how much they paid for things, finances, etc. It was so important to them and I cannot repeatedly be asked to share that information.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2015 21:41:28 GMT
I never thought of it before but now that it has been brought up,I am really curious about how much a trip to Disney World costs.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2015 22:02:57 GMT
I do talk about my deals with friends who have the same passion.
But I try to be careful because honestly, some people feel that by sharing prices, they then have the right to have an opinion about what you spend.
I recently was excited about some hormone free, grass fed beef I was able to buy at $6.97 a pound (in Canada). Considering that regular beef is $5 a pound at the store, I thought that was a great price for better quality beef. So I shared that info when someone asked about where to buy beef.
Well someone was pretty vocal about that atrocious price, that it was absolutely ridiculous to pay that much for meat according to this person.
My response was simply "different strokes for different folks". I learned that I need to be more careful about what I share. We all have different priorities on what we spend money on. One person loves a good sale on higher quality food, another loves a good sale on furniture, designer clothes, etc.
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Post by Ryann on Jul 21, 2015 22:10:50 GMT
I'm kind of weird about this kind of stuff. Not so much because of the specific topic, but to me it often falls under the "small talk" part of conversation - which I hate. I have a hard time participating in small talk and it makes me uncomfortable because of it. So either bragging for spending money or saving money (in most cases, to me) falls under "small talk" which I avoid like the plague. Like I said, I'm weird. |
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Post by penny on Jul 21, 2015 22:25:30 GMT
I'm another that finds bargain bragging just as annoying as anything else... If someone asks how much I paid, I say... If they don't ask, I don't mention it... There are two people that I won't talk about what I've paid for things because they once responded with a judgemental comment about how I spend my money... I have no tolerance for that... At least be polite enough to say it behind my back  |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2015 22:30:29 GMT
Only if it's a deal. I actually had a friend ask how much it was costing us for our trip to Disneyland when I posted on Facebook that we were booked and going. I was excited. My kids had never been. I totally ignored her question. See, that type of thing doesn't bother me in the least. She most likely wonders if her family would be able to fit a trip into their budget. It's hard to save for something if you don't know the cost.
It's not as if the price of tickets at Disney is a secret or the cost of hotels, airfare, gas, etc. And if you got a really great deal though a certain website or package, why wouldn't you just point a friend in that direction.
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Post by suzastampin on Jul 21, 2015 22:39:58 GMT
If I do, it's because I got a deal and want to tell somebody in case they might want to take advantage of it. What annoys me more is when somebody is rude enough to ask you what you got when you sold something. We recently had out backhoe for sale. After it sold, a local farmer stopped to see if it was still available. I told him that no, we had already sold it. He had the gall to ask me what we got for it. I so wanted to tell him, "none of your business", but I was polite and just told him I'd rather not say.
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Post by Grom Pea on Jul 21, 2015 22:53:34 GMT
Only if it's a deal. I actually had a friend ask how much it was costing us for our trip to Disneyland when I posted on Facebook that we were booked and going. I was excited. My kids had never been. I totally ignored her question. Ugh I find this so tacky, like when people are like "how can you afford to go on a Disney cruise?". I don't mind showing someone how to get a good deal, but they don't ask "what's the cheapest way for me to book a Disney cruise?" They ask how I can afford to go. It's because I made it a priority and saved up to. Most likely they could afford to as well but they made something else a priority. When people are truly curious about how to book a Disney or other vacation they should just ask for help versus making it sound like they just want to know how much you spent on something. In case anyone is wondering, the cheapest way to book a cruise is to wait for a guaranteed rate, which basically they release a couple months before the cruise. You cannot pick your room but you can pick your category, eg guaranteed outside room, or guaranteed verandah, whatever you pick you're guaranteed at least that and sometimes get a surprise upgrade. The people sitting with us at dinner shared that tip which I plan to use next time, they paid $600 less per adult that way! |
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Post by melanell on Jul 21, 2015 23:33:22 GMT
If someone asks, I typically will. And if I got something for a song, I might be looking to tell people who are also bargain hunters, or just because I am wicked excited. But just to blurt out how much I paid for this or that on my own? No, I don't typically do that. |
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Post by melanell on Jul 21, 2015 23:42:31 GMT
Only if I found it at a thrift store and got a really good deal. I am not picking on anyone. Several posters have said essentially the same thing. This type of bragging really bothers me more than the opposite. You are telling me that the 'something' I admired is not to be had by me. You got it at a thrift shop which means there was just one and you bought it. And telling me that you got it at a bargain is like rubbing a little salt into my wound. I don't think I ever would have thought of that in a million years. I very rarely compliment someone on something because I want to have one. And I rarely wish to buy a duplicate of something that a friend, neighbor, family member already has. To me, when someone says "I just got this handbag for 3 bucks!!!" It's them sharing something great that happened to them. It's like them telling me they won 50 bucks on a scratch-off card or that someone paid for their order in the drive-thru or that they won at bingo. It's something fortunate that happened to someone I like or love. I'm happy for them! They were lucky. It made them happy. And they want to share their good fortune with me. I hope no one I care about ever feels that they have to bite back telling me something nice that happened in their life for fear that I would be upset that I couldn't have the same thing. |
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Post by melanell on Jul 21, 2015 23:47:26 GMT
I don't tell anyone how much I paid because then they always try to tell me that they got it/know where to get it cheaper. It isn't a contest. Yeah, if it was a one-time purchase, I wouldn't tell someone that I paid less than them. If half way through your kid's seniorl year you tell me you bought his backpack at Superior Sports for $99.99 and I bought for less elsewhere, I wouldn't tell you. That would seem unkind to me. BUT, if you told me that you buy a dozen yogurt cups each week for $1.69 each and I know that a store near you sells them for 99 cents each, I would likely mention it in case you wished to go there instead in the future. You may prefer not to, and that's cool, but I would feel like it was a kind response to offer you that info just in case. |
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Jul 21, 2015 23:49:12 GMT
oldcrow, I guess I don't get that reasoning, really... if you ask about my sandals, I'll say I got them at Target a couple seasons ago. If you ask about my skirt, I'll say I got it at a thrift store. It's the same situation- the sandals from Target are no more available to you now than the skirt is. eta: I really don't think people do it to brag about it from the standpoint of 'look what I have that you can't have' but 'look what I got and isn't it cool that I got it?' (which, I guess, could mean similar things, but truly, from the standpoint of a thrift-er, that's NOT how we mean it.) Yeah, I never saw it that way,either. I shop sometimes at Ross or score the clearance racks at Beall's or Kohl's. Chances are there's only one or two of the item left. Why should I be made to feel bad about that? I don't go around saying "Looky here at my shirt? I got it for $5 at TJMaxx!" But if it comes up in conversation, I don't mind mentioning it. |
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Post by melanell on Jul 21, 2015 23:50:34 GMT
I never thought of it before but now that it has been brought up,I am really curious about how much a trip to Disney World costs. It can vary enormously!! It depends on whether you stay on property or off and which accommodations you choose on property (The price differences are staggering.) and what kind of food experience you want (Will you be happy eating cafeteria style each day, or do you want fine dining?), etc., etc. And for us, the cost of airfare plays into it, because we're just not the right family to drive 2 days to get there. So we're into the trip for over a grand just to get there. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2015 23:52:29 GMT
I want to say I don't and wish I did not. This is something to work on.
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