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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2014 16:30:59 GMT
Being a teacher is the only thing she ever wanted to do. She's always been so empathetic, kind hearted, calm. I've always said that she's going to be a great mom...and she will be a great teacher.
For the last 4 yrs or so, she's been employed in the church nursery. She loves the babies...she loves the kids.
This summer, in addition to the church nursery on Sundays, she works in the summer program hosted at the church. (normally the kids in the after school program...they need a summer place while their parents work)
She has Wednesdays off.
She got a call that one of "her kids" had a brain aneurysm last night. I did manage to find out that it wasn't her Type 1 diabetic child. (he is DD's buddy...he had a diabetic seizure a few weeks ago...on a Wednesday...I'm really glad she wasn't there for that...they had to call an ambulance for him) I don't know if the kid that had the aneurysm last night is a Sunday nursery kid or a weekday kid.
I tried to talk to her and she cannot talk now. I even tried sitting in her room with the door closed for a few minutes...and she just sat there crying.
I wish I had words to explain stuff like this. I hope that she'll be able to talk to me about it later today. She's going to have to talk about it before she goes in to work tomorrow.
*UPDATE* The boy is 9yo. The last she heard was that he was on life support and the parents will be taking him off. She is now at work, so she may have an update but I've not heard from her. She did tell me that he was not happy with her on Tuesday afternoon...the last time she saw him. She said that several of the kids were on the playground and they "built" something and were playing with it. 9yo boy wanted a turn. DD told him that those that built it will have a few minutes and then 9yo can have a turn. Before those few minutes were up, 9yo's mom came to pick him up. So he didn't get his turn. DD said that when he walked away, he just shook his head and didn't even turn around to look at her. So if her kindhearted soul needed anything to make what happened worse...that was it. I told her that she did nothing wrong...and that I'm sure he forgot about it before he was even in the car to go home. I reminded her that all the kids just love her and she told me that when she arrives every day that a ton of kids cheer, and run up to her for hugs. Tuesday morning's total was 9 kids/hugs.
She did say that if the adults are invited to a service, that she'd like to go.
*FINAL UPDATE* He is gone. They're telling all the other kids on Monday...and a counselor will be there to talk to anyone needing to talk. (I'm hoping the other kids OR any adult there...I am going to encourage DD to talk to the counselor because I don't want her haunted at her last interaction with this child) The service will be on Tuesday and DD will be going with all the other adults in the program.
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Post by karen on Jul 16, 2014 16:35:05 GMT
That has to be difficult to deal with for her. I imagine that she needs a little bit of time to cry.
Here is a hug for her.
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Post by piapea on Jul 16, 2014 16:35:44 GMT
I'm so sorry. Sending prayers and good thoughts her way.
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Post by dualmaestra on Jul 16, 2014 16:41:18 GMT
Oh no! I cannot even imagine hearing that news about one of "my kids". I will send prayers for them both.
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Post by Laura in OK on Jul 16, 2014 16:41:18 GMT
Sending hugs her way! The death of a child is so hard to comprehend, especially for a younger person. It's really a life changing experience. Just let her cry &just be ready when she's ready to talk, she may just need hugs at first, talking later.
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Post by *christine* on Jul 16, 2014 16:48:45 GMT
How heartbreaking! Anyone would be devastated. Sounds like she will make a wonderful teacher and mom one day.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 16, 2014 16:48:55 GMT
Very sad news.
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Post by danor98 on Jul 16, 2014 16:54:49 GMT
Ugh, the poor thing. That must be so horrible and so extremely difficult for her to process. Hugs to her and to you for being there for her
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Post by Patter on Jul 16, 2014 16:56:40 GMT
Oh so heart wrenching. I pray that she is able feel God's peace as she moves forward, and of course prayers for the family too!
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Post by scrappintoee on Jul 16, 2014 17:06:00 GMT
Oh, how horribly sad!!!!! Sooo sorry!!! I'm sending ((( hugs ))) and will send up some prayers....!!!!
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Post by liya on Jul 16, 2014 17:08:54 GMT
Let her cry. I know it's hard to watch your baby hurting. Hugs for her and her Mommy too.
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Post by donna on Jul 16, 2014 17:21:42 GMT
I feel so hurt for her. When you are a teacher, the death of a student really hits you hard, especially the first one you lose.
During my first year teaching I lost a student in a car accident just a few weeks after my sister had died. I was only 22 years old. I found out before school the morning after it happened. A special faculty meeting had been called to deal with it. I had to go in the bathroom and cry for a few minutes, but I had to pull myself together to comfort my students for the rest of the day. I still remember that sweet girl every time January rolls around.
Let her cry for a while, but do not let her shy away from teaching because of this experience. I would not trade the relationships I have with my students for anything. I have lost quite a few students over the years and it is rough each time, but the first one was hardest for me. I just do my best to remember the good times with them.
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Post by Mystie on Jul 16, 2014 17:24:22 GMT
That is so hard to deal with, especially when you're young and haven't seen a lot of death. I pray that she will be comforted and find peace.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2014 17:24:40 GMT
Such sad news. Praying for her precious heart.
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 16, 2014 17:24:42 GMT
while she may need some time alone to process - keep an eye on her that she doesn't become depressed
i'll be thinking of you guys
it't sure tough when our children are hurting
gina
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Post by mellyw on Jul 16, 2014 17:27:16 GMT
Bless her heart.
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Post by coaliesquirrel on Jul 16, 2014 17:27:46 GMT
Oh, how terribly sad. Hugs to her - her sadness is testimony to how much she cares about those kids.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Jul 16, 2014 17:27:48 GMT
Did he pass away or could we be praying for his healing? I'm so sorry for this tragedy in your DD's life.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2014 17:41:55 GMT
Did he pass away or could we be praying for his healing? I'm so sorry for this tragedy in your DD's life. When she told me she said "and he's (or is) probably going to die" I don't know the name...or even gender of the child.
She's taking a nap now. She's still not ready to talk. I did tell her that I really think she needs to talk about it tonight...before going to work tomorrow. Hopefully after her nap she'll be able to talk.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Jul 16, 2014 18:22:35 GMT
Miracles happen every day. I'll be praying for him, and also praying comfort and encouragement for your daughter.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2014 18:39:17 GMT
Give her time to cry. I'm glad she got word about what happened before she went to work tomorrow. She'll have a chance to pull herself together.
In the meantime, just hug her and tell her when she's ready to talk, you're there. That will be a comfort to her.
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Post by moosedogtoo on Jul 16, 2014 18:41:40 GMT
Oh your poor daughter. I'll be praying for that precious baby and for your daughter.
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Post by auntkelly on Jul 16, 2014 18:44:01 GMT
How very sad. I feel for your daughter.
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Post by J u l e e on Jul 16, 2014 18:53:27 GMT
How horrible for her. I am so sorry.
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Post by MizIndependent on Jul 16, 2014 18:55:27 GMT
That is so sad. It's hard to go through something like that but it's also difficult to watch someone we love suffer too. (((hugs))) to you and your DD.
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Post by caro on Jul 16, 2014 19:00:11 GMT
How sad for everyone. I hope your DD will talk to you soon. I feel so bad for the parents.
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Post by wezee on Jul 16, 2014 23:53:55 GMT
sending a hugs to your DD (((hugs)))
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Post by keknj on Jul 17, 2014 0:02:42 GMT
How very sad. My thoughts are with your daughter and the family.
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Post by aljack on Jul 17, 2014 0:41:04 GMT
Oh how heartbreaking! Your daughter sounds like a wonderful person! I think you are a fantastic mom for showing you are there physically by sitting with her and also giving her the space she needs. Hugs for both of you!
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Post by camanddanismom on Jul 17, 2014 2:54:01 GMT
How horrible! I feel so bad for your dd and that poor family!
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