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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 17, 2015 16:29:06 GMT
I'm so sorry that you're experiencing this pain. Prayers for your entire family.
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Post by sillyrabbit on Aug 17, 2015 16:29:33 GMT
Such a beautiful post. Hugs to you and your family.
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Post by bratkar on Aug 17, 2015 17:02:30 GMT
Hugs and Prayers to you and your family. Thank you for sharing.
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Post by msliz on Aug 17, 2015 20:34:45 GMT
And more hugs and prayers for all of you.
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Post by ilikepink on Aug 17, 2015 20:47:11 GMT
I'm so glad for you that you had a joyful time with her. And how special for her that in these last days, it is love and friendship that surrounds her.
Hugs, lots of them!
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Post by ~Susan~ on Aug 17, 2015 21:13:01 GMT
I'm so glad that you got to see your mother and spend time with her. You will cherish those moments forever.
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Post by naby64 on Aug 17, 2015 21:16:36 GMT
I am so sorry for you and your family. BUT it does sound like the time you were here was just what you needed to have.
I thought about you over the weekend. I am in AR myself and wondered where you might be and how you all were holding up.
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Post by peanuttle on Aug 17, 2015 21:24:04 GMT
I am so sorry. It sounds like you had a nice time with her, celebrating her life. Big hugs!
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Post by purplebee on Aug 17, 2015 22:04:39 GMT
It sounds like she has had much joy in her final days...so glad you got to be a part of it. Hugs....
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Post by k8smom on Aug 17, 2015 22:08:11 GMT
I drove down to Arkansas Monday afternoon and arrived roughly 1 am Tuesday. I slept a little and then got up to go to the hospital with my brother. I spent all day Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday with mom, but had to leave Saturday around 2pm. The prognosis they gave my mother was incredibly grim. With cancerous growths throughout her entire abdomen and chest (starting with bladder cancer and spread to her ovaries, uterus and cervix as well as other soft internal organs up to and including the lungs), they expected HOURS, or days at very best. Mom's lungs are over 90% compromised and is on 100% oxygen. While her body is weak, her mind is sharp and she was able to laugh, talk and even sing just a bit. Her friends and church family just poured in like living water to care for her. Tuesday there were no less than 40 people in to visit her throughout the day. Her friends brought her favorite foods and drinks as her doctor has given her permission to eat whatever she likes (just in small doses as her stomach is very small). We had a gin& tonics together (one of her favorites) and a Jameson's (also a favorite). She was very active in the local music scene as a guitarist and singer, so all her musician friends came with their instruments and played for her. She had guitars, violins, concertinas and harmonicas serenading her. She also had prayers- Catholics, Lutherans, Episcopalians, Buddihsts, Jews- nearly every person she knew prayed for her. Several times while I was there, friends prayed over her. She is a practicing Catholic and on Saturday the priest gave her confession and gave her a blessed rosary for the Feast of the Assumption. I got to hug and kiss her. I held her hand many times during my visit. I combed her hair many times. She ate crushed ice pretty much non stop, so I made sure her cup stayed full. I bought a book and read to her, because some of my fondest memories are of her reading to me. I took a lot of pictures and spent a lot of time just listening to her breathe. She's still here, despite a very obvious and difficult decline in condition over the week. It won't be long now. She has 25 feet of tubing for her oxygen, but she can barely walk to the bathroom about 5 feet away from her bed (maybe less than that). After she goes, it takes her well over an hour to catch her breath. Her skin is cool and shallow and she can't talk for long. When she sleeps, I can see how little air is getting to her. She's has short term memory loss and confusion - very probably because she's not getting enough oxygen. It's getting harder and harder for her to do anything with her hands and her hand eye coordination is pretty bad. My stepfather and she decided that they will spend these last moments (however many there are) together, celebrating. This last week was a party, and it continues until she goes. She refuses to dwell or cry but instead enjoy the moments she has. I called her twice yesterday and will try to talk to her every day until she dies. We decided that she would have french dip for lunch yesterday by phone. It might seem little, but even sharing a meal with her long distance is a joy right now. I returned to work yesterday- at an assisted living facility. My residents have just surrounded me with love and tenderness. Every one of them was so kind and a few of them just sat with me and let me talk, and hugged me. There *IS* beauty in this Earth. I am still not ready for her to go, but I am grateful I got to shower her with love and make peace with her before it was too late. Sooooo grateful you had this opportunity to make amends with your mom, it makes my heart happy! I posted on your original thread that I was not as lucky when my mom passed away suddenly 4 years ago and it is one of my biggest regrets.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2015 22:12:26 GMT
Reading your post brought literal tears to my eyes. It truly is a beautiful thing you described. Thank you for sharing.
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Post by ~KellyAnn~ on Aug 17, 2015 22:24:07 GMT
What a bittersweet gift you've been given. So glad you were able to spend precious time with your mom, witness the outpouring of love, prayer, and music for her, make everlasting memories and find peace, too. Having gone through the grief and heartache of losing my mom, your post made me weep - I'm so sorry. (hugs)
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Post by cyndijane on Aug 17, 2015 22:38:29 GMT
Thank you so much for sharing this! I can only imagine the pain and grief you're experiencing, but the grace and beauty that is being shown during your mom's final days is such an uplifting, heartwarming blessing to hear!
I pray that you'll be able to fill her last days with warm memories to carry you later.
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Post by ceepea on Aug 17, 2015 22:45:07 GMT
I am so glad for you. What a wonderful way for a person to pass, surrounded by dozens of loved ones. Take gentle care of yourself and I am happy you will have these wonderful memories as your last.
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Post by brynn on Aug 17, 2015 22:50:30 GMT
You are in my thoughts and prayers. You mothers sounds like an amazing woman.
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Aug 17, 2015 22:58:30 GMT
I'm sure it was difficult for you to leave but what sweet memories you took with you. Hugs and prayers.
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Post by mollycoddle on Aug 17, 2015 23:22:57 GMT
Those moments are important, and you will remember them often as the years go by. Hugs.
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Post by peasapie on Aug 17, 2015 23:29:18 GMT
I cannot believe how fast this has happened. I'm so glad you had the opportunity to spend those days together with her - a gift to you both. I loved reading what you wrote about her. Big hugs to you, hon.
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 18, 2015 0:59:19 GMT
I am still not ready for her to go, but I am grateful I got to shower her with love and make peace with her before it was too late. I'm glad - for both of you - that you got to do this too.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 18, 2015 1:56:21 GMT
I'm so sorry about this situation. Hugs.
Hospice can be a beautiful experience. I didn't expect that when my late FIL decided to stop his treatments and start hospice.
I'm glad you and your mom connected.
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Post by txdancermom on Aug 18, 2015 2:00:27 GMT
Good for you making good memories with her. I am afraid that I am going to be facing something similar with my dad in the near future.
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Post by kat on Aug 18, 2015 4:07:54 GMT
I am glad you were able to spend time with your mom, she sounds like a truly beautiful person. I think you inherited her special gift of being able to see the good hidden in the bad. Prayers and hugs for you and your family.
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Post by penny on Aug 18, 2015 4:56:41 GMT
I'm sorry for the loss you're all facing... I feel so lucky that you've shared the beauty you all have found in these moments... Thank you for that... Lots of love to all of you...
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Post by J u l e e on Aug 18, 2015 12:34:15 GMT
That was beautifully written! It takes a special person to see the beauty in ugliness. Not everyone is able. Well done. (((HUGS)))
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Post by heartland on Aug 18, 2015 16:32:17 GMT
I'm so glad you were able to go and spend that time with her last week, I'm sure you'll always cherish those memories. (((hugs))) to you.
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