mallie
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Post by mallie on Oct 5, 2015 20:22:00 GMT
I actually suggested to my MIL that she wear the same dress to our wedding that she wore to her daughter's wedding because I thought, hey, why spend the money when she had a gorgeous dress and it would look nice with the colors at our wedding too. Note that I had a big white New York wedding. She nearly had a heart attack and insisted that she could not, simply could not wear that dress, because her daughter's wedding was "high class and elegant and expensive and your's...well, your's isn't. I'd hate to make you [the bride] and your mother look tacky if I wore that dress."
After that, I hoped she show up wearing a burlap bag. Over her head. Alas my wish was not granted.
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Montannie
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Post by Montannie on Oct 5, 2015 21:18:54 GMT
I actually suggested to my MIL that she wear the same dress to our wedding that she wore to her daughter's wedding because I thought, hey, why spend the money when she had a gorgeous dress and it would look nice with the colors at our wedding too. Note that I had a big white New York wedding. She nearly had a heart attack and insisted that she could not, simply could not wear that dress, because her daughter's wedding was " high class and elegant and expensive and your's...well, your's isn't. I'd hate to make you [the bride] and your mother look tacky if I wore that dress."
After that, I hoped she show up wearing a burlap bag. Over her head. Alas my wish was not granted. Now THAT comment is tacky! |
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Post by papersilly on Oct 5, 2015 21:28:18 GMT
her choice. I don't see anything wrong with it.
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Post by lesley on Oct 5, 2015 21:32:32 GMT
It wouldn't bother me either.
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Oct 5, 2015 23:36:27 GMT
non-issue to me too... dresses are expensive!
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Post by melanell on Oct 6, 2015 0:39:39 GMT
I have only read the OP, but for me, if I was the bride, it would be a complete and utter non-issue. Totally fine and dandy.
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Post by maryland on Oct 6, 2015 0:41:39 GMT
It wouldn't bother me a all! As long as we treat each other well, that's what is most important to me. I would rather my mil love me and treat me like her own and wear whatever she wants than wear an expensive beautiful new dress and not be nice.
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Post by melanell on Oct 6, 2015 0:42:36 GMT
My dad had my mom buried in the dress she wore to our wedding two years later. Ugh. She did love that dress. Hugs! My grandmother loved the dress she wore to my parents' wedding, and before the event even occurred she had already told my mom that she wanted to be buried in that dress. My mom was less than thrilled, but when the day did come, Mom had her wear the dress. |
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Post by mom on Oct 6, 2015 0:43:39 GMT
It wouldnt be an issue for me - but if it were, I would pony up the money personally for whatever Mom wanted to wear. She shouldbt be out more money just because I don't like that she wore something already.
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Post by maryland on Oct 6, 2015 0:49:14 GMT
My mom wore the same MOB dress to 5 of 7 of her children marriages. it was a goal of hers to diet to fit into the same dress. Brides had 0 input.  Annette I love this! Good for your mom! I can't picture my daughters (teens) every trying to tell their future mil what to wear to their wedding! |
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Post by melanell on Oct 6, 2015 0:49:42 GMT
I'm going to have to agree with Lucy! While I think all the non issue responses are nice. I think they are unrealistic. Would you really want to have the SAME dress on for all the family pic's for both your kids? wouldn't you want something different? I know I would. I mean, A lot of people use the wedding family pic's for cmas cards. There's Aunt Mabel in the same dress at both weddings. ha. Nah. I just wouldn't care. |
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