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Post by Deleted on Oct 4, 2015 23:20:37 GMT
I never realized until today (and I guess I should have known better) that people can see every "like" and every time I comment on someone's post, whether they are friends with that person or not.
My friend mentioned seeing something I posted on something my BIL had posted, and she isn't friends with him.
I'm not embarrassed about anything in particular that I posted -- I know it's public. I just had no idea that my friends see each and every move I make on FB.
And with that, I don't plan to post there anymore. If I have something to say I'll send a PM instead.
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Post by RosieKat on Oct 4, 2015 23:25:03 GMT
I know what you mean. I have some very, very religious friends, and some very, very NOT religious friends. I see both sides of the story, and may like something that someone posts that the other group may hate. I personally am very open with how I feel, but I don't necessarily need to have all that stuff popping up in someone else's feed. As you say, I know it's open and public and all, but I don't need to mingle my worlds like that, lol.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 4, 2015 23:35:31 GMT
I think the likes and comments they can see have to do with if its a public post or not. The little icon (next to how long ago it was posted) with the globe means it's public, the icon with the people only shows to friends of the one posting and unless your friends are friends with them, they won't see it.
i think a lot of people don't realize that. I just realized it recently and also if they comment on a comment, you can click on where it says they did and it'll take you directly to their comment.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 4, 2015 23:38:41 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post.
I private message a lot.
I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 4, 2015 23:40:14 GMT
What your friends see of posts you have "liked" depends on the setting of the person who put up the post.
If it is a public post (globe icon next to it) anybody can see who liked it. It is a a pair of heads then it is more resticted but how restricted is up to the post's owner. I have mine set to "friends only" so only my friends can see if you liked something I posted. But it can be set to "friends of friends" which means if you like something then your friends can see it. You have no way of knowing if it is friends only or friends of friends until one of your friends mentions it.
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Post by grinningcat on Oct 4, 2015 23:40:44 GMT
I don't really see the problem with other people seeing what I have posted or liked on other people's posts, what about that is going to make you stop posting and PM instead? You say you're not embarrassed but it kind of sounds like you feel like you got caught doing something to be embarrassed about. To be honest, I wouldn't want to get a PM every time someone liked something I posted. I would wonder why they couldn't just post on the thing they liked in the first place.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Oct 4, 2015 23:42:39 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post. I private message a lot. I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment. I did not know that! |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 4, 2015 23:45:17 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post. I private message a lot. I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment. If your group is closed no one but the group members can see anything..likes or comments. If your group is not closed then everything is visible. I'm not sure what you mean by a secret group. You need a closed group. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Oct 4, 2015 23:46:07 GMT
I don't really see the problem with other people seeing what I have posted or liked on other people's posts, what about that is going to make you stop posting and PM instead? You say you're not embarrassed but it kind of sounds like you feel like you got caught doing something to be embarrassed about. To be honest, I wouldn't want to get a PM every time someone liked something I posted. I would wonder why they couldn't just post on the thing they liked in the first place. I have some people that post some stuff that is off-color but funny. If I "like" it, then it some of my more conservative friends can see it. As a PP said, I'd rather not mix company but that's nearly impossible on FB. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 4, 2015 23:47:38 GMT
I think the likes and comments they can see have to do with if its a public post or not. The little icon (next to how long ago it was posted) with the globe means it's public, the icon with the people only shows to friends of the one posting and unless your friends are friends with them, they won't see it. i think a lot of people don't realize that. I just realized it recently and also if they comment on a comment, you can click on where it says they did and it'll take you directly to their comment. I figured all this out when I saw a friend of mine comment on something and I went to check it out. She made a claim about something (I can't even remember what it was about) and a guy questioned her further in a polite way to find out more. She went off the deep end and made some rant about keeping women in their place. Despite that, he ignored her rudeness and politely asked where she heard this and she started in on google it, I'm not helping you. I was shocked at her behavior when she thought no one who knew her could see. It was completely out of the blue and had no back story to it. |
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Post by grinningcat on Oct 4, 2015 23:48:44 GMT
I don't really see the problem with other people seeing what I have posted or liked on other people's posts, what about that is going to make you stop posting and PM instead? You say you're not embarrassed but it kind of sounds like you feel like you got caught doing something to be embarrassed about. To be honest, I wouldn't want to get a PM every time someone liked something I posted. I would wonder why they couldn't just post on the thing they liked in the first place. I have some people that post some stuff that is off-color but funny. If I "like" it, then it some of my more conservative friends can see it. As a PP said, I'd rather not mix company but that's nearly impossible on FB. But why is that a problem? You are who you are and if they don't like your humour, that's their problem not yours. |
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Post by cakediva on Oct 4, 2015 23:48:23 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post. I private message a lot. I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment. If your group is closed no one but the group members can see anything..likes or comments. If your group is not closed then everything is visible. I'm not sure what you mean by a secret group. You need a closed group. No - there are Secret Groups - I belong to a couple of them. But if I post in the secret group, and members of the same group post on my post, it does not become public. I do see the Secret Group posts in my newsfeed, only because I am a member. With Secret Groups, you need to be invited to join them, you can't "search" for these groups and request membership. |
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Post by cakediva on Oct 4, 2015 23:50:07 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post. I private message a lot. I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment. I don't think that's right Elayne - I'm a member of a couple secret groups, and while I do see the posts in that group on my newsfeed, it is only because I am a member. None of my friends who are not members of the group see what I post there..... |
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Post by moosedogtoo on Oct 4, 2015 23:51:47 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post. I private message a lot. I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment. If your group is closed no one but the group members can see anything..likes or comments. If your group is not closed then everything is visible. I'm not sure what you mean by a secret group. You need a closed group. There are three kinds of groups - open (or public maybe?), closed and secret. Open and closed show in the search results. Secret groups do not show in the search results - you have to be specifically added by another member. |
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Post by cakediva on Oct 4, 2015 23:53:38 GMT
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Post by blue tulip on Oct 4, 2015 23:59:48 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post. I private message a lot. I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment. you are in a closed group then, not a secret one. a true secret group cannot be found by search, the members are not visible to anyone outside the group, and no comments/posts can be seen by anyone's friends who are not also in the group. ETA oops, should've read further when like 5 other people said this.  |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2015 0:00:05 GMT
What your friends see of posts you have "liked" depends on the setting of the person who put up the post. If it is a public post (globe icon next to it) anybody can see who liked it. It is a a pair of heads then it is more resticted but how restricted is up to the post's owner. I have mine set to "friends only" so only my friends can see if you liked something I posted. But it can be set to "friends of friends" which means if you like something then your friends can see it. You have no way of knowing if it is friends only or friends of friends until one of your friends mentions it.If you hover the cursor over it, it tells you which. |
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Post by KikiPea on Oct 5, 2015 0:03:11 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post. I private message a lot. I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment. If your group is closed no one but the group members can see anything..likes or comments. If your group is not closed then everything is visible. I'm not sure what you mean by a secret group. You need a closed group. Secret means the group cannot be found by search, only invite. I do not believe that secret groups can be seen anywhere, but the group. No one I know that is not part of our group has ever seen anything I have posted, liked or commented on. |
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Post by christine58 on Oct 5, 2015 0:43:44 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post. I private message a lot. I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment. I did not know that! Secret or closed groups?? I know for a fact that the closed groups I am in---the only ones that see the posts, ANY of them, have to be members. So if I post in it, it's not public as in my mother can't see it. That's why they are secret/closed. ETA: KikiPea is correct. Secret groups cannot be searched for--you have to be invited. Again..no one outside a secret or closed group can see posts. |
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Post by annabella on Oct 5, 2015 1:50:19 GMT
Oh yes that's why I never comment on articles. If one of my friends do, it shows up front and center in my newsfeed! Oh and when I'm bored I look at the sidebar and click on whatever pic my friends liked.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2015 2:03:34 GMT
I don't really see the problem with other people seeing what I have posted or liked on other people's posts, what about that is going to make you stop posting and PM instead? You say you're not embarrassed but it kind of sounds like you feel like you got caught doing something to be embarrassed about. To be honest, I wouldn't want to get a PM every time someone liked something I posted. I would wonder why they couldn't just post on the thing they liked in the first place. Hmmmm. Interesting comment. Do you have some kind of hangup about getting caught doing things? Sounds like it. I simply don't want my friends' Facebook pages littered with my comments to people they don't even know. It's annoying to me, and very likely to them as well. |
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Post by melanell on Oct 5, 2015 2:35:19 GMT
Yeah, it's annoying because I really don't want to see every darn thing my friends like or comment on. My page is full enough without the stalker reports popping up every other minute about my cousin liking somebody's Minion cartoon or my neighbor commenting on the local news. Sheesh. I just want to see what people post.  I know it's free; it's not my playground; blah, blah, blah.  |
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Post by DinCA on Oct 5, 2015 5:21:46 GMT
If my family didn't use it so much, I would have no problem breaking up with Facebook. I really hate it but I love seeing my family's photos and they have no problem with other people seeing what they post or like. It gives me the creeps, though.
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Post by deshacrafts on Oct 5, 2015 14:10:56 GMT
I learned this awhile ago. My DH was complaining that I was filling up his Newsfeed with stuff I liked or commented on. I didn't realize that every time I liked or commented on anything that it went to the Newsfeed of everyone I am friends with. Yikes. I am very selective what I comment on or like anymore because of that.
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Post by lucyg on Oct 5, 2015 14:19:11 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post. I private message a lot. I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment. I don't think that's right Elayne - I'm a member of a couple secret groups, and while I do see the posts in that group on my newsfeed, it is only because I am a member. None of my friends who are not members of the group see what I post there..... That's correct. No posts or likes made in secret groups are going to show up publicly. I don't know about closed but not secret groups, I can't remember. |
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Post by STBC on Oct 5, 2015 14:45:21 GMT
Yes. I assume everyone can see anything I post. I private message a lot. I also have some secret groups. But if you post in a secret group, no one in the group can like or comment, or that will be public, too. It took me the longest to get my groups to not like or comment. If your group is closed no one but the group members can see anything..likes or comments. If your group is not closed then everything is visible. I'm not sure what you mean by a secret group. You need a closed group. Secret groups can't be found in a search for groups. They are very similar to closed groups. |
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Post by anonrefugee on Oct 5, 2015 14:50:53 GMT
I'm member of one private top secret invite only group. Yet I still assume that anyone can see what I post EVENTUALLY -----because Facebook might someday have a policy change or a glitch. Or even one of the other admin. members have a meltdown and flip a switch.
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Post by STBC on Oct 5, 2015 14:52:09 GMT
I never realized until today (and I guess I should have known better) that people can see every "like" and every time I comment on someone's post, whether they are friends with that person or not. My friend mentioned seeing something I posted on something my BIL had posted, and she isn't friends with him. I'm not embarrassed about anything in particular that I posted -- I know it's public. I just had no idea that my friends see each and every move I make on FB. And with that, I don't plan to post there anymore. If I have something to say I'll send a PM instead. First, I consider anything of what I post on FB as "public" - since once it's out there, I have no control over where it goes. That's the mindset I have when I am on FB. It doesn't keep me from posting.
However ... if my post is set to "friends only" and someone "likes" or comments on it, it won't show up on their feed to people who aren't also my friends. If my post is set to "public" then anyone can see it and it can show up on the feeds of people who like or comment.
I mostly use the app so I don't see that running feed of what everyone does. If I do happen to be on the computer, I don't pay attention to it.
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Post by STBC on Oct 5, 2015 14:57:25 GMT
There are ways to control who can see at least some of your likes. Check out your privacy settings. For example, "Who can see your social actions paired with ads?" - set to "No one" so they can't put up an ad which says "-Your name- likes X brand." There's several others too - just review each privacy setting.
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Post by loco coco on Oct 5, 2015 15:00:11 GMT
yep they can see everything! I dont know how FB picks and chooses what to show though
I just learned if you type in "posts like by name" in the search bar you can see all likes from that person
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I know it's free; it's not my playground; blah, blah, blah. 
