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Post by luckyexwife on Oct 17, 2015 17:38:51 GMT
Wedding is at 3:00 and reception at 5:30 so I will report later! That also gives me time to grab food (and go to the bathroom!) because the reception is potluck since the GoFundMe was a big bust haha. I think the story with the church is that it is not a church that is currently in use so she got it for free. I know she had a weekend that she suckered a bunch of people into cleaning and painting the church. Half of me feels bad for going to this wedding when I have negative feelings about her (at the time I responded all this stuff hadn't happened yet to turn my feelings toward her), but the other half of me is looking forward to having a seat at the shitshow. I need to know what you brought for 5he pot luck!! Also need to know what others brought! Did they provide any part of the meal? |
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Post by MichyM on Oct 17, 2015 17:41:00 GMT
I sure hope you'll share a photo or two as well (doesn't need to be a people photo...you know...to protect the innocent). Cannot wait to hear more  |
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Post by anniebygaslight on Oct 17, 2015 17:43:35 GMT
Gosh.
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 17, 2015 17:49:43 GMT
As long as you're going to the grocery store to go potty, can you please wash your hands and then pick me up some celery and 2 carrots? That way I won't have to shop before I make dinner.
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Post by mystuffandnat on Oct 17, 2015 17:51:50 GMT
Is this person a relative or just a friend? I rarely attend weddings, I worked in the floral industry and worked on somewhere around 2500 weddings so they don't excite me. I just hope you are not giving an extravagant gift, this sounds like a decent card and $20 wedding!!!!
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Oct 17, 2015 18:19:12 GMT
Wedding is at 3:00 and reception at 5:30 so I will report later! That also gives me time to grab food (and go to the bathroom!) because the reception is potluck since the GoFundMe was a big bust haha. I think the story with the church is that it is not a church that is currently in use so she got it for free. I know she had a weekend that she suckered a bunch of people into cleaning and painting the church. Half of me feels bad for going to this wedding when I have negative feelings about her (at the time I responded all this stuff hadn't happened yet to turn my feelings toward her), but the other half of me is looking forward to having a seat at the shitshow. So we should expect to hear back from you no later than midnite (allowing for an hour of travel time). I will be checking back. You didn't mentioned the cleaning & painting of the church in your first post!! Was it BYO supplies? Oh, this just keeps getting better. |
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Post by gina on Oct 17, 2015 18:21:15 GMT
LOL Wow! Nice wedding party... they sound real close, like life-long friends.
I am laughing at no facilities. Ummmmm.....? Is nobody supposed to drink anything? Surely someone will have to pee...?
Weirdness.
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Post by anxiousmom on Oct 17, 2015 18:22:44 GMT
If I ever get remarried, I am TOTALLY having a pot luck reception. You think I am kidding.  |
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Post by deshacrafts on Oct 17, 2015 18:38:56 GMT
Ok, my DD got married in a historical church that had no facilities and minimal parking. She was originally supposed to get married on the beach, but it was going to be a cool drizzly day, so we were able to change the location to this historical building. It was a small church 165 max persons and it was full. No one complained at the lack of facilities or the minimal parking (there was a parking lot a little further down the street we were able to use). I find it amazing the amount of people on this thread that wouldn't go to the wedding if they couldn't go to the bathroom at the church. I have never attended a wedding that I needed to use the facilities at the church.
Her reception was at another location immediately after the ceremony and there was plenty of parking and bathrooms there.
This bride seems like a bridezilla, maybe that's why everyone is aghast at the no facilities..
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Post by oaksong on Oct 17, 2015 19:13:21 GMT
If I ever get remarried, I am TOTALLY having a pot luck reception. You think I am kidding. I'll bring the funeral sandwiches.  |
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Post by anxiousmom on Oct 17, 2015 19:28:54 GMT
If I ever get remarried, I am TOTALLY having a pot luck reception. You think I am kidding. I'll bring the funeral sandwiches. Sounds good. I'll pencil you in.  Really, I am a big fan of a wedding reflecting who you are. The first time I did, I caved and did the whole big floofy dress thing when really my (now ex) husband and I wanted to get married on the beach, barefoot and in casual clothes. I have said since then that if I bother going through it again, I am just going to have a big old party that is more my style. And I don't think a single one of my friends would think making the reception a potluck was wrong or make fun of it. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2015 19:58:37 GMT
another one looking forward to hearing about this wedding!
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Post by mom on Oct 17, 2015 20:05:00 GMT
Ok, my DD got married in a historical church that had no facilities and minimal parking. She was originally supposed to get married on the beach, but it was going to be a cool drizzly day, so we were able to change the location to this historical building. It was a small church 165 max persons and it was full. No one complained at the lack of facilities or the minimal parking (there was a parking lot a little further down the street we were able to use). I find it amazing the amount of people on this thread that wouldn't go to the wedding if they couldn't go to the bathroom at the church. I have never attended a wedding that I needed to use the facilities at the church.Her reception was at another location immediately after the ceremony and there was plenty of parking and bathrooms there. This bride seems like a bridezilla, maybe that's why everyone is aghast at the no facilities.. For me,if it was just a wedding - in and out in an hour - then ok. No worries about the lack of toilets. But when you add the reception time on top of the wedding, I don't think it is unreasonable that someone should need to use a restroom at some point. And lets not get into wether or not there was running water for washing hands before eating food. Also? Making a mass post on Facebook about stopping at the grocery store? Yeah, not ok. |
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Post by scrapsotime on Oct 17, 2015 20:10:25 GMT
I'll bring the funeral sandwiches. Sounds good. I'll pencil you in. Really, I am a big fan of a wedding reflecting who you are. The first time I did, I caved and did the whole big floofy dress thing when really my (now ex) husband and I wanted to get married on the beach, barefoot and in casual clothes. I have said since then that if I bother going through it again, I am just going to have a big old party that is more my style. And I don't think a single one of my friends would think making the reception a potluck was wrong or make fun of it. My daughter had funeral sandwiches at her wedding, but we don't call them that in this part of the country. It's the one food she insisted on. They are her most favorite food. |
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Post by caro on Oct 17, 2015 20:14:33 GMT
This should be good.
As for the restroom, just "knowing" there wasn't one to use would make me need to go. What about people who might have a need all of a sudden? It happens.
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Post by finsup on Oct 17, 2015 20:40:52 GMT
Not sure how to edit the title, but there's an update in the OP.
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 17, 2015 20:50:38 GMT
The bridal party isn't a big deal
The go fund me wedding is tacky as hell
The pot luck reception would depend on where in the country it was and whether it was mostly close family
The texting the day before about the facilities? Weird. Since people had to fix the venue up, she had to have known ahead of time. What if she has to pee right before the ceremony? Is she gonna hop on over to the store and pee in her gown?
Is the reception in the same place?
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 17, 2015 20:55:13 GMT
Ok, my DD got married in a historical church that had no facilities and minimal parking. She was originally supposed to get married on the beach, but it was going to be a cool drizzly day, so we were able to change the location to this historical building. It was a small church 165 max persons and it was full. No one complained at the lack of facilities or the minimal parking (there was a parking lot a little further down the street we were able to use). I find it amazing the amount of people on this thread that wouldn't go to the wedding if they couldn't go to the bathroom at the church. I have never attended a wedding that I needed to use the facilities at the church. Her reception was at another location immediately after the ceremony and there was plenty of parking and bathrooms there. This bride seems like a bridezilla, maybe that's why everyone is aghast at the no facilities.. did your guest know before the day before that there was no bathroom? Was it at least a short ceremony? There are many people with bladder and colon issues that would need a bathroom nearby. Children, if invited, migbt have issues. If they knew well in advance that there was no bathroom they may be able to plan better. The no parking may change what shoes people wear or whether someone with mobility issues can make it. If there was somewhere closer than 5 minutes away, it also might make a difference. |
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 17, 2015 21:00:55 GMT
In this day and age of Pinterest worthy weddings, I, for one, would thoroughly enjoy this event. Just the humor of the entire thing would get me through the day. I do worry about weddings where the wedding party changes drastically.
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Post by lucyg on Oct 17, 2015 22:42:15 GMT
Okay, I just read to the bottom of page one, haven't turned the page yet, and I'm going on record as predicting that at least one pea will have posted on page two that we are all terrible people and OP is the worst of the worst, for posting about her so-called friend's wedding like this and who would want us for friends, anyway?
My response: MY friends would be egging me on for more. MY friends wouldn't put on a wedding without a bathroom and try to finance it via GoFundMe. So I'm safe. Thanks for your concern.
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Post by anxiousmom on Oct 17, 2015 22:45:25 GMT
Okay, I just read to the bottom of page one, haven't turned the page yet, and I'm going on record as predicting that at least one pea will have posted on page two that we are all terrible people and OP is the worst of the worst, for posting about her so-called friend's wedding like this and who would want us for friends, anyway? My response: MY friends would be egging me on for more. MY friends wouldn't put on a wedding without a bathroom and try to finance it via GoFundMe. So I'm safe. Thanks for your concern. Not yet...I came close saying that I want a pot luck reception and my friends wouldn't laugh at me or make fun of me. But that is also probably because I am old, they know I prefer flip flops and they know I can be a bit of a redneck. |
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Post by lucyg on Oct 17, 2015 22:59:00 GMT
Ok, my DD got married in a historical church that had no facilities and minimal parking. She was originally supposed to get married on the beach, but it was going to be a cool drizzly day, so we were able to change the location to this historical building. It was a small church 165 max persons and it was full. No one complained at the lack of facilities or the minimal parking (there was a parking lot a little further down the street we were able to use). I find it amazing the amount of people on this thread that wouldn't go to the wedding if they couldn't go to the bathroom at the church. I have never attended a wedding that I needed to use the facilities at the church. Her reception was at another location immediately after the ceremony and there was plenty of parking and bathrooms there. This bride seems like a bridezilla, maybe that's why everyone is aghast at the no facilities.. I have to pee frequently and would at least think twice about a wedding with no facilities. But assuming it's only the ceremony, not the reception, chances are I'll be fine until we get to the reception site. Would you have deliberately hosted a wedding ceremony and reception at a site without facilities and not brought in porta-potties or something similar? And there are people who have serious bathroom issues. Old folks, young children, people with Crohn's, etc. They wouldn't make it at all. |
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Post by mystuffandnat on Oct 17, 2015 23:14:47 GMT
Did you invite any other guests to stop at your house to pee...or did you leave them standing in line at the grocery store?  |
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Post by lucyg on Oct 17, 2015 23:16:57 GMT
Okay, I just read to the bottom of page one, haven't turned the page yet, and I'm going on record as predicting that at least one pea will have posted on page two that we are all terrible people and OP is the worst of the worst, for posting about her so-called friend's wedding like this and who would want us for friends, anyway? My response: MY friends would be egging me on for more. MY friends wouldn't put on a wedding without a bathroom and try to finance it via GoFundMe. So I'm safe. Thanks for your concern. Not yet...I came close saying that I want a pot luck reception and my friends wouldn't laugh at me or make fun of me. But that is also probably because I am old, they know I prefer flip flops and they know I can be a bit of a redneck. I have far less trouble with the idea of a potluck wedding than I do with the concept of no bathroom access for 3-4 hours or more. |
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Post by deshacrafts on Oct 17, 2015 23:28:24 GMT
Ok, my DD got married in a historical church that had no facilities and minimal parking. She was originally supposed to get married on the beach, but it was going to be a cool drizzly day, so we were able to change the location to this historical building. It was a small church 165 max persons and it was full. No one complained at the lack of facilities or the minimal parking (there was a parking lot a little further down the street we were able to use). I find it amazing the amount of people on this thread that wouldn't go to the wedding if they couldn't go to the bathroom at the church. I have never attended a wedding that I needed to use the facilities at the church. Her reception was at another location immediately after the ceremony and there was plenty of parking and bathrooms there. This bride seems like a bridezilla, maybe that's why everyone is aghast at the no facilities.. I have to pee frequently and would at least think twice about a wedding with no facilities. But assuming it's only the ceremony, not the reception, chances are I'll be fine until we get to the reception site. Would you have deliberately hosted a wedding ceremony and reception at a site without facilities and not brought in porta-potties or something similar? And there are people who have serious bathroom issues. Old folks, young children, people with Crohn's, etc. They wouldn't make it at all. I understand what you are saying and consider people's issues. My nephew has severe crohns, there were older people there too. The original plan was for them to marry at the beach (no toilets). People managed. There were no complaints, everyone attended. The ceremony was about 30 minutes and we were not late getting there. Just how things worked for us. |
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 17, 2015 23:39:02 GMT
I have to pee frequently and would at least think twice about a wedding with no facilities. But assuming it's only the ceremony, not the reception, chances are I'll be fine until we get to the reception site. Would you have deliberately hosted a wedding ceremony and reception at a site without facilities and not brought in porta-potties or something similar? And there are people who have serious bathroom issues. Old folks, young children, people with Crohn's, etc. They wouldn't make it at all. I understand what you are saying and consider people's issues. My nephew has severe crohns, there were older people there too. The original plan was for them to marry at the beach (no toilets). People managed. There were no complaints, everyone attended. The ceremony was about 30 minutes and we were not late getting there. Just how things worked for us. I think at a beach you expect it. Indoors not so much. I wouldn't not go because of lack of bathrooms, but I don't have issues. And I wouldn't judge unless there were other issues and then it would be one of many. I've been to a wedding reception in an elementary school gym and I didn't judge. The couple was young, the bride was pregnant, and her parents were not in any position to help out financially. The grooms parents forced the issued because they said they would acknowledge the baby if they weren't married before it was born |
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Post by rickmer on Oct 17, 2015 23:46:40 GMT
can't get past no facilities, but would appreciate the warning, i suppose.
if it's camping, then i would understand. other than that, i want facilities!!!
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Post by scrapsotime on Oct 17, 2015 23:56:58 GMT
I never thought about attending a wedding to entertain the peas.  I'm still not going to the one I was just invited to by FB invite. The bride posted last night on FB that all she was asking was that there be no drama at her wedding, so why were people now backing out of going.  |
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 17, 2015 23:59:18 GMT
I never thought about attending a wedding to entertain the peas. I'm still not going to the one I was just invited to by FB invite. The bride posted last night on FB that all she was asking was that there be no drama at her wedding, so why were people now backing out of going. ah come on, take one for the team. I'll send a couple bucks for a gift |
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 18, 2015 0:00:33 GMT
Since it's a potluck I hope you had the good sense to contribute. You could pick up a bag of generic potato chips and dip in a jar for under $5. It's your obligation, since it cost her a Forever stamp to invite you to the wedding.
Can you tell I think this is just ludicrous?
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