composure regained

So it means what?

I purposely didn't address the comments on my use of "deuces". You've got Google and half a brain no? That and the context of what I posted made it mostly clear what I meant so it's really unlikely you were totally in the dark. Focus on the message don't detract from it because you disagree. Just say you disagree!

And Cindy really? I thought you of all people could Munster up some sympathy seeing as though you are in an unhappy marriage as well. No advice?

17 years are not gone. They have been invested in building a partnership with your spouse and in raising the next generation. I've not felt what you are feeling but I never felt my time being a mother was somehow wasted, or I wasn't living up to some potential set by my earlier education.

I do think you and your spouse need a serious talk about what you value as a couple. Both of you seem to only want to work "in your field" but you also are adamant about only living in your current place which has no work for either one of you in your fields. You can't have it both ways and be sane. You need to make it crystal clear to yourself why are are continuously choosing to live where you live. Don't stay their for the sake of extended family if remaining there is detrimental to your fiscal and emotional health! It is normal for places with no job prospects to be cheap living.. but is the trade off REALLY worth it? Another place may have a higher cost of living but if you both find jobs that suit your background/interests with a decent pay it will be better than the current arrangement.

I don't really know what you mean by wanting to shine. I can surmise you are wanting some kind of accolade at work. It isn't going to happen (sorry to bust your bubble) After taking nearly 15 years off work you are going to be entry level/bottom of the barrel no matter where you work. If you are 20 and entry level people are sometimes wow-ed with your maturity. But by the late 30s/early 40s.. not so wow-ed. Maturity and a good work ethic are baseline expectations for you. Given you have a child who will be going to college in the next very short years I wouldn't rack up debt for my own change of degree right now. Even if you go to nursing school you'll be a new entry level nurse and right at the same place you are in hierarchy. Your current crabby clients bug you.. well, patients are equally crabby if not more so. For every one person how expresses gratitude and that you are a knight in shining armour you'll have 100 more who are cranky, angry, in pain, and their cranky family plus hospital/clinic admin who expect nothing less than perfect angelic response from you. You'll deal with poop, pee, pus, puke and 12 hour shifts on your feet with constant demands for things you can't give right now. So before you jump there make sure that is the world you want to live in!

Figure out where the real source of discontent is coming from. It is easy to blame spouse or job. But examine your dreams, your hopes, your expectations in a very real spotlight. See how they fuel the discontent. Then see what needs/can be changed to make them come true without killing the very investment you've spend the last 17 years building.

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Really?? Your post was totally all over the place and made no sense at all. Even if I had looked up throwing up deuces, or whatever the hell you're trying to say, it STILL didn't make sense, as further said by others.

My marriage is perfectly fine, THANKS for asking and supporting other women.

I *think* throwing up deuces means flashing the peace sign with your two fingers and telling someone bye. So the phrase is telling someone "peace out" or "I'm outta here" kinda like your done with this convo or whatever is happening at that moment. I'm sure I am not explaining it clearly on here but I get the phrase. At least this is how I've heard it before.

And I was just getting used to "Bye, Felicia"

Now you're just being a bitch.

Awesome mom joke!!! I love word play. I can spell muster why it autocorrected I have no clue. But we can pretend spelling isn't my strong suit and I can't string together coherent sentences.

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For someone who is "so supportive of women", you sure do despise SAHMs even more than I do. I didn't think that was possible.

 I wasn't debating semantics. I didn't understand your use of a phrase in your post. What insult would you like to sling at me (and at least 3 others who didn't  understand either) regarding that? Why not just explain since it's not as common as you think?

I think she's confused in all her"super coherency". It wasn't a matter of semantics, but she doesn't understand that, instead viciously attacks and insults.

She thinks we can't see through her bullshit superiority.

I was also sharing a low point in my life. I didn't viciously attack anyone who didn't come for me.

I lowblowed Cindy's horrible marriage but she's been unhappy as many years as she has been a pea so on a scale of 1-10 my insult is like a 2. Dead inside already. Same with Yubon. Telling someone they are selfish, over educated, and not putting their children first is okay as long as it's an opinion.

And the others? Or me at least, and a few who came after who asked the same question?