NoWomanNoCry
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Dec 25, 2015 0:31:00 GMT
D.
Doesn't matter to me and even if they all live within 5mins of each other plenty of times it's rare for everyone to still be all under the same roof living that close.
Are the parents to be hosting the party? If not then I guess I could see if the hostess being bugged by the fact their Christmas gathering got turned into a baby gender thing.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 25, 2015 0:51:37 GMT
A. very joyous and awesome Everyone will be there already and they won't have to fit a separate event into their schedule. It's a joyous time anyway, what better way to add to the joy. This!
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 25, 2015 0:52:31 GMT
I vote C. If you want to have a gender reveal party, go ahead. Don't hijack another party and make it all about you. I have no problem with a low key announcement at the party but not more than that. I'm old fashioned and prefer the gender reveal happen at birth .
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Post by epeanymous on Dec 25, 2015 0:53:28 GMT
Depends. Do I think they are awesome people? A. Do they annoy me anyway? C.
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Post by georgiapea on Dec 25, 2015 0:55:43 GMT
A for sure. A wonderful time to announce the gender of a new expected baby. It's obvious though that this is upsetting to you, OP. Do you have some big news of your own to announce and feel the coming baby will upstage you?
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Post by melanell on Dec 25, 2015 1:22:30 GMT
A. To me it makes sense o share happy news like that when there is a bunch of family gathered to hear it.
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Post by scrapngranny on Dec 25, 2015 2:38:07 GMT
A Celebrating a new baby is always fun.
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Post by chlerbie on Dec 25, 2015 2:50:05 GMT
A--I think it would be fun and because there are so many other activities at a Christmas get together, I don't see it monopolizing the day at all. I think it would be very nice to be a part of it that day, when everyone is usually happy to be together anyway.
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Post by seaexplore on Dec 25, 2015 3:01:40 GMT
C. Call the people or tell them as you see them in the course of daily life. A Christmas gathering is not the time.
I'm all about knowing the gender early and sharing it. I found out at 11 weeks because we did genetic testing. I told my parents and siblings, DH told his parents and siblings. As we saw people we told them. I don't know the need to "reveal' at a special event and feel it kinda makes it all about "me". If you wait until the shower, then it IS all about you and it's supposed to be.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 25, 2015 4:04:46 GMT
When I was pregnant with DD, we told my side about the baby (not gender reveal) at Thanksgiving because we were with them then and my out of state sister was in town. We told DH's side at the Christmas gathering with them a couple weeks later. We always had to do Christmas a week or more early because his sister and her family go out of state pretty much every year and we don't see them very often, so it was then or never if we wanted to tell them in person. FWIW, we wrapped up a table top photo album with pics of the two of us for MIL that had ultrasound pics at the very end, and we made sure it was the last gift opened at the end of the night. To give you a clue how unexpected the news was for them (and how clueless his family is!), it took them about ten minutes of looking at it before they actually READ whose ultrasound it was. His sister kept thinking it was one of her kids. How would I even have an ultrasound pic of her kids who are 7 & 9 years older than mine? Oh, and ALL of the other photos in the album were of DH and me... Duh!
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Post by knotlazy on Dec 25, 2015 4:27:46 GMT
I don't get the negativity about gender reveal parties. I think it's a lot of fun! I don't think it would be a bad thing to do a little cake cutting to reveal the pink or blue icing or whatever at a Christmas gathering. For goodness sakes....a new baby in the family should be cause for a celebration!
I didn't know the sex of either one of my kids before birth...I am that old. Sonograms were just becoming popular when I was a young mom and my dr. didn't have the equipment. So both kids were a surprise...I got one of each in the 1980's.
My son has a child 16 months....we hosted a "gender reveal" party at our house...it was spring and I cooked a brisket and all the usual bbq fixins... (we are in Texas!) and Son invited the close relatives...they had a cake and the inside icing told us it was a boy. The other grandma and I made the first cut into the cake and all the other relatives were betting boy or girl....we had a blast!
It was a boy! DH and I did a little private happy dance after everyone left....we enjoy the dirt and trucks of boys...not that we don't enjoy little girls....we just have so much fun with little boys.
So....I kinda love a gender reveal party...it's a lot of fun! That said...I also respect parents who chose to not know or reveal the sex of their baby.....I gotta tell you, it was an awesome moment when that baby slid out of my body and the dr. said..."It's a!".....but I don't judge those who want to know way in advance of the birth.
I love everything that involved babies and having grandbabies! I'm enjoying my first...he is now 16 months and I get to be his caretaker every day when his parents are working. I love every minute! I'm hoping for a couple of more grandbabies in the near future!
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Post by peasapie on Dec 25, 2015 4:40:30 GMT
A-I think it would make the day extra special for everyone.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2015 5:54:34 GMT
Does it matter if all the people invited live five minutes from one another and see each other on a weekly basis? Obviously you have an issue with it.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Dec 25, 2015 6:01:41 GMT
We surprised everyone by reveling DDs gender on Christmas Eve (14 years ago). We weren't supposed to find out for 2 weeks, but DD had made it known in an ultrasound earlier that week. Instead of signing the tag on my MILs gift from me, DH, DS and "baby", I wrote DDs name. DMIL was half way through opening her gift before she realized it didn't say baby at the end. She turned it back over and screamed THAT'S A GIRLS NAME...CINDY IS HAVING A GIRL! The woman had 5 boys, and at the time, had 5 grandsons. She waited a long time for a girl. Her sister, and nieces, that all live in other states, were so happy to be able to share that moment of excitement with her, and us. A bottle Patron got passed around (because we are classy like that), and we went back to opening gifts. It didn't take over the holiday at all. I think telling people something personal like you are ill, or getting divorced, should be addressed on a one on one basis. Reveling the gender of the newest family member...Not something that needs to wait for a more "appropriate time". Isn't Christmas about being a family; reconnecting, and sharing in each others joy? My niece is getting engaged at midnight tonight. I'm the only one that knows, because I helped her DBF plan everything. Should she not tell anyone, and hide her ring tomorrow, so she doesn't selfishly derail Christmas with her bridezilla excitement, and happiness? Trust me .. she will be rockin' her rock! And we all be thrilled for both of them.
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Post by trollie on Dec 25, 2015 6:14:47 GMT
Enthusiastic A!!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2015 6:21:56 GMT
I think it is cute and family should be excited about it. I don't think it takes away from Christmas. I doubt Jesus feels upstaged.
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Post by kate on Dec 25, 2015 6:29:08 GMT
D. Happy that there is a new baby to rejoice in, but wondering in the back of my mind why is it that there has to be big "reveal' in the first place and then I would I wonder if thinking that makes me a cranky old lady? Exactly that.
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Post by psoccer on Dec 25, 2015 7:10:31 GMT
I vote C, if they are doing some elaborate announcement with the cake, or a box of balloons. If they just tell people, oh by the way, it's a boy/girl then I vote A. I don't get the big reveals, but I am a private person and really don't like the spot light on me.
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Post by deputydog on Dec 25, 2015 7:51:27 GMT
I don't get the whole gender reveal party thing but I vote A. Why not have a cake at dessert that has pink or blue, or have a special present for grandparents or whoever to unwrap? I think it would add to the fun of Christmas.
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Post by megs78 on Dec 25, 2015 8:02:23 GMT
D. Gender reveals are not a big thing at all in Australia. To be honest, I find them kind of tacky unless done it's announced at a baby shower or similar baby-focused event.
I really believe that every baby should be celebrated and I would have no problems at all with a pregnancy announcement at Christmas (in fact, how lovely!). I just can't bring myself to be excited about the gender as distinct from the baby.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2015 11:31:22 GMT
C. And that includes engagements and stuff like that. I was mortified last year to learn my DH wanted to propose to me at the family Christmas Eve in front of everyone. Way to make it all about us (though it would have been a change from being all about his sister but that's another vent). I just don't like combining that kind of stuff, but I also think any kind of gender reveal beyond "hey, we're having a boy/girl" is entitled and ridiculous.The last line says is all. This is how I feel also.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2015 11:47:31 GMT
Apparently ex's young niece decided to announce she's having a girl at their family gathering yesterday. My boys left feeling conflicted. She just turned 20, not married, not going to college and works in a deli part time. I'm not sure if they were uncomfortable with the big announcement or the situation.
I don't care for big reveals.
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Post by grove420 on Dec 25, 2015 12:01:04 GMT
I think gender reveal parties are stupid anyway. The baby already is whatever sex it is regardless when other people find out. I'm more off a one on one "Do you know the sex of the baby?" "Yes, it's a girl" sort of conversation.My sentiments exactly.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Dec 25, 2015 13:15:40 GMT
I wish I could be a generous person and say 'A' but to be honest it would be a bit of an eye-roll situation for me. Gender reveal events aren't a "thing" here yet, but I'm sure it will start happening as we seem to copy whatever the US does! At Junior's birthday party or Jane's baby shower, that's tacky because those gatherings have a guest of honor. That reminds me of the time a friend of mine announced his engagement at his best mate's engagement party, in front of his ex girlfriend who he had left for his new fiancee. TACKY! Oh, that's okay. My MIL announced her engagement (to husband #4) at my bridal shower. Yep, true story.
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Post by moveablefeast on Dec 25, 2015 15:51:13 GMT
I've never understood why anyone wants to make a separate "pay attention to me because I'm the first person ever to have a baby that is either a boy or a girl" event, so that is my bias upfront. Therefore, to me it's "C". I guess I don't see it that way - all the little happenings with pregnancy were very exciting to me because at each step of the way we were discovering something about the person who was joining our family. For the people expecting the baby, this is something that doesn't happen every day, even though reproduction is about as basic and everyday as it gets. It was nice to have people just rejoicing with us. I don't think most people think they are the first person ever to have a baby. I think most people think that their baby is special to their family and celebrate it that way. i have only had one pregnancy go to term, and probably won't have another, and it was very sweet to me how my whole family really savored every bit of it with us, including finding out that our new family member would be a girl. It was exciting to start thinking of the baby as "she" and not "it". It is so precious to me how my parents laughed and cried and practically threw a party when they found out because they were so excited to have this new person in their lives. So maybe that's just my bias in the other direction.
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Dec 25, 2015 17:05:35 GMT
I think the planned "gender reveal" things are stupid. But I'm also annoyed when couples find out the gender and refuse to tell anyone else. So I guess I'm just a baby gender curmudgeon all the way around.
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Post by melanell on Dec 26, 2015 3:43:13 GMT
I don't see it as entitled or attention-grabbing or anything else. I see it as celebrating the little things in life, and truly, I think that's something we should do more often.
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Post by anxiousmom on Dec 26, 2015 3:52:55 GMT
Eating my cranky old lady words today.
A beloved family member's wife is pregnant. He is the only child, and has been married for a while...this baby was out of the blue, and apparently today was the day that we all got to learn the boy/girl thing. Now granted, they were in another city, and the family that was with them was limited in number...but they gave the grandmother to be a box to open with the rest of her gifts with a pink balloon in it to a smallish 'gender reveal' thing. Then they texted all of us the photos.
OMG. We were SOOOOO excited. I mean over the moon excited. My generation of the family (my brothers, sisters and cousins) have all had boys (8 or 9 of them, including a set of twins)...not one single girl. She will be our first girl and we are all so damn excited.
So I guess I have to say to that I will change my vote and say that if it is done low key like my cousin did it, then I am a-okay with the idea. Because...well...IT'S A GIRL!!!
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 26, 2015 3:58:43 GMT
Something small and quick, fine (although I'd roll my eyes). Anything bigger would annoy the crap out if me.
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Post by corinne11 on Dec 26, 2015 11:46:25 GMT
I'm with AussieMeg , I would like to feel generous and interested but lets face it , its going to be one of 2 sexes so I don't really get the big deal about gender reveal 'events' anyway. This was me too. A girl at work decided to bring in a cake to do a gender reveal in the staff room. I was a little taken aback to walk in and see two posters - A and B are having a boy?? A and B are having a girl?? I wasn't there for the cake cutting event, but apparently BEFORE she cut the cake someone asked how the cake was done?? She automatically replied, " oh I just mixed some blue food colouring in with the........ whoops!
Although it's not something I'd do ( I love the old fashioned idea of announcing the gender and the name AFTER the baby is born!), I'm sure she chose to do it at school because it had been a difficult journey to get to this stage and it was her way of thanking people for the support. She was just so excited about the baby, I can understand why she wanted to share it with everybody.
Corinne
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