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Post by christine58 on Jul 25, 2014 11:06:16 GMT
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Post by *Scrapper*Stamper* on Jul 25, 2014 11:17:49 GMT
Another tragedy, it's not going to look good that two men were foster parents. Unfortunately it will put gay parenting back a step or two and that's unfortunate because so many are responsible and actually want the children in their custody. I can just see this backfiring on gay parenting
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 25, 2014 11:39:11 GMT
Not again. What a tragic waste of a young life.
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Post by missfrenchjessica on Jul 25, 2014 11:54:14 GMT
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Post by quiltz on Jul 25, 2014 12:18:47 GMT
such a sad and horrible way to die.
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Post by Debbie on Jul 25, 2014 12:36:03 GMT
Such a tragic accident. Poor baby. And the (foster) parents who have to live with that on their conscience.
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Post by doxielady on Jul 25, 2014 12:55:47 GMT
It baffles me how anyone can forget a child in a car. It just escapes me.
And what a horrible way to die. I've sat in a hot car and it can be so overwhelming after just a few minutes. Poor baby. Rest in peace.
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 25, 2014 12:56:31 GMT
how sad
gina
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Post by alibama on Jul 25, 2014 12:59:45 GMT
That is just awful! That poor baby.
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Post by Jubel on Jul 25, 2014 13:01:35 GMT
How sad
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Post by phoenixcov on Jul 25, 2014 13:08:49 GMT
So very sad for all concerned.
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Post by ~Susan~ on Jul 25, 2014 13:27:22 GMT
I just can believe this keeps happening.... So, so sad.
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Post by mom2emilytaryn on Jul 25, 2014 13:54:39 GMT
So very tragic. Every time I get in my car after it has been left outside for several hours in the sun, and the heat is just oppressive and unbearable, I think about these stories, and it makes me sick to my stomach. You would think after so many stories in the news recently, that parents would be hyper-aware and have plans in place to make sure this does not happen.
For example, once school starts up again, my husband will take our 4 1/2 year old son to preschool each morning, and he always texts me when he gets back in the car...just a quick "drop off went fine" text. If I didn't get one by the time I know he should have dropped him off, I would start calling, texting, emailing DH to make sure he just forgot to send the text. We did this when I started back to teaching in January, and it had nothing to do with my fear he would leave him in the car, but more of my mommy guilt and just needing to know that he didn't cry at dropoff! But now with all of these stories, I am super paranoid. I'm also going to ask the school to call me by 9am if he has not been dropped off (DH usually drops him off at 8:30).
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 25, 2014 14:13:09 GMT
i think part of a good solution is having caregivers call if a child is expected and hasn't shown up
gina
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Post by MommyofTriplets on Jul 25, 2014 14:21:34 GMT
So sad
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Post by GiantsFan on Jul 25, 2014 14:29:00 GMT
i think part of a good solution is having caregivers call if a child is expected and hasn't shown up gina I was thinking the same thing. But then that puts it on the caregiver/school. I don't think there is a good answer. I do know people who keep their purse or lunch or whatever on the floor in front of the carseat. When they go to get it they will either see a child or an empty carseat. I'm just get so sad an angry thinking about those poor kids.
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 25, 2014 14:37:31 GMT
i don't know that it puts more responsbility on the caregiver - i've read countless reports of caregivers saying 'i wondered where little jimmy was...he was supposed to be here'
maybe if more people actually did something when things didn't feel right....well...you know....
gina
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Post by gloryjoy on Jul 25, 2014 14:39:10 GMT
I don't understand how a child can be forgotten or left in a vehicle.
So sad.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 14:42:31 GMT
Another tragedy, it's not going to look good that two men were foster parents. Unfortunately it will put gay parenting back a step or two and that's unfortunate because so many are responsible and actually want the children in their custody. I can just see this backfiring on gay parenting Exactly my first thoughts....
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 14:57:09 GMT
i think part of a good solution is having caregivers call if a child is expected and hasn't shown up gina I was thinking the same thing. But then that puts it on the caregiver/school. I don't think there is a good answer. I do know people who keep their purse or lunch or whatever on the floor in front of the carseat. When they go to get it they will either see a child or an empty carseat. I'm just get so sad an angry thinking about those poor kids. The person ultimately responsible is the person that had the child last. HOWEVER, I think Gina's idea is wonderful and can just be an added layer of double checking to help stop this from happening. I have made more of an effort to look in cars as I'm walking through a parking lot. I can be another layer. Putting your purse, lunch, briefcase, coat in the back seat...there's another layer.
Clearly something needs to be done. The above things mentioned are EASY FIXES which may not completely eliminate the chance of it happening, but why not do more if more can be done easily...and more CAN make a difference?
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Post by jumperhop on Jul 25, 2014 15:46:15 GMT
Heartbreaking.
One time when my second child was 6 weeks old I went to a baby shower with my Mom. I got out of the car and started walking strait up to the baby shower completely forgetting my baby in the back seat. Luckily my Mother said aren't you forgetting something. But I often wonder how long it would have taken me to remember he was in the back. And luckily it wasn't hot outside. I always think of this experience after these tragedies.
Jen
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 16:10:08 GMT
In this child's case, she had already been picked up from the caregiver and was forgotten in the car once they arrived home. Two hours later one of the men saw something on TV that made him think of the child and he remembered she was in the car. MSBNC article
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Post by goodwitch on Jul 25, 2014 16:13:34 GMT
I think that rear facing car seats are part of the problem. A 10 month old would still be facing rear so even if you had a purse on the floor in front of the car seat you might not remember the child was in the car.
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Post by NanaKate on Jul 25, 2014 16:17:33 GMT
Heartbreaking
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Post by nesser01 on Jul 25, 2014 16:50:49 GMT
WWhat a tragedy. I don't really understand how you can forget a child in the car. Are people just too busy nowadays? Are there too many distractions? Too much stress? It's really sad to hear so many stories.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 16:54:00 GMT
I think that rear facing car seats are part of the problem. A 10 month old would still be facing rear so even if you had a purse on the floor in front of the car seat you might not remember the child was in the car. So put your purse in the back with the child. Rear facing is safest and now they are saying at least until 2 years old. Some do it even longer. My niece rear faced until three. I think parents/caretakers need to do something so they won't forget. But I have a hard time understanding how you can. I just do. Not judging though these poor people have to live with the guilt forever.
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Post by aacey on Jul 25, 2014 17:29:01 GMT
So very sad!
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Post by bosoxbeth on Jul 25, 2014 17:30:33 GMT
Such a senseless loss.
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Post by linda~lou on Jul 25, 2014 18:48:52 GMT
How can you possibly go into your house after being in your car with your child and not realize your child is not there. They were looking at something on tv and realized oh wow we have a kid.
And I do feel horrible that it was gay dads. This will be the major story line and bring out the haters of same sex unions. They don't need this right now!
Perhaps they were new dads and just weren't used to having a child in the house. My heart breaks for all involved. Two guys don't go through the grueling adoption process it must be for gay partners unless they really wanted a child. I'm so sad.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 18:55:42 GMT
They weren't new parents. According to the article, they already had adopted 2 kids and had other foster kids.
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