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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Jun 28, 2014 16:58:47 GMT
And I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make any one feel bad. I was just venting that I didn't really want to go.
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Post by RosieKat on Jun 28, 2014 16:59:58 GMT
I've been there before. My kids are still pretty young, and it significantly matters to them if I'm there or not. That having been said, I have skipped before (just a time or two). There have been times I've missed for legitimate reasons - I had a doctor's appointment, or was sick, or kid 1 had a game at the same time as kid 2. But I have just played hooky a time or two when I just couldn't hack it for some reason. I did feel kind of guilty (just because I'm queen of guilt), but I don't think I should have. There's nothing wrong with skipping out once in a while, particularly if you are otherwise an involved parent.
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Post by RosieKat on Jun 28, 2014 17:04:14 GMT
I read stuff like this and feel like a shitty mom because I feel zero guilt over missing games or recurring events. Some people are the "guilty types" (like me) and some people aren't. That's just how you're made. If you try to be a good parent and your kid is reasonably happy, healthy, and turning into a decent person, I'm not going to criticize how you're doing it. It happens to be super important to my kids that I be there, which is probably as much my fault as anything. If your kid is OK with you being there less often, then if we're comparing, you may be a better mom than I! It's all good.  |
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Post by KateMarie on Jun 28, 2014 17:05:51 GMT
Nope, it's fine. I've been there, the guilt of not going to my youngest son's spring concert at school this year. I have 2 older kids and went to all of their concerts and my youngest sons up until this year (he's in 3rd grade). I just didn't have it in me to go and listen to the *thomp, thomp, thomp* of the 5th grade band (they are really good Some years). I felt the guilt as it was going on, thinking, I should be there right now. But when the time was over, I felt better. lol It's a large crowd, he wouldn't know if I was there or not anyway. I told him he did great.  |
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Post by Judy26 on Jun 28, 2014 17:07:12 GMT
Glad they won and glad you are glad you went. I personally feel it is my duty as a parent to mess up occasionally or my kids will have nothing to complain about in therapy. I'd hate for their therapists to be bored!
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Post by anxiousmom on Jun 28, 2014 17:15:17 GMT
Glad they won and glad you are glad you went. I personally feel it is my duty as a parent to mess up occasionally or my kids will have nothing to complain about in therapy. I'd hate for their therapists to be bored! I always tell my kid to get "the notebook" so I can write down my side-that way he can hand it over to the therapist when he is my age and save all the trouble of trying to interpret what I meant when I apparently screwed up. LOL (it's not a real notebook, just a joke) |
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Post by scorpeao on Jun 28, 2014 17:35:18 GMT
Miss Lerin you didn't make me feel bad..I'm fully aware that I make myself feel bad. I just feel guilty that I don't feel guilty...lol! And I truly wonder if I'm screwing up my dd.
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Post by krazykatlady on Jun 28, 2014 23:20:22 GMT
I never missed a game but I certainly wanted to. I just couldn't live with the guilt. But I'm not saying you shouldn't skip it, just that I couldn't ... does that make sense? The OP stated she didn't want to go because it was hot and she didn't feel like going. I would have felt guilty under those circumstances; missing a game because of work or another child's game, or another commitment is something entirely different. Anyway, it's just me and how I'm wired. Maybe it's stupid but I can't help the way I feel. I worked outside the home for the first nine years of their lives and that made me feel guilty. I worked because we needed the income and I was doing the right thing for our family at the time. Should I have felt guilty? NO. But I did anyway. But like I said, just because I would have felt guilty didn't mean she should. |
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Post by Miss Ang on Jun 28, 2014 23:28:17 GMT
I've never done it because I always figured if I was going to have my kids out playing in it, I could muster up the energy to go out and sit in it. But I totally understand the desire! |
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Jun 29, 2014 17:04:56 GMT
I am SO stealing this line!! But I don't even want to offer my side of the story. I'm the mom. That's the only explanation I need, lol. Stuff happens, kiddo. No one's perfect and I'm gonna screw up. Deal w/it. And keep a running list if it makes you feel better.  |
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Post by ctpea on Jun 29, 2014 17:23:12 GMT
My step daughters play softball year around and we've been going crazy since the beginning of the Spring - practices, games, tournaments, etc. So I secretly hoped for rain but sometimes I just had to tell the hubby that I had to skip - esp after a long, crazy day at work.
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