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Post by tanyab on Jul 29, 2014 22:24:15 GMT
I have worked with a student who has ODD for 3 years now. He is a child who makes nearly every teacher, special ed. or regular ed. throw their hands up in the air in frustration and say, "I have tried everything I can think of, and the result is always the same." This particular child, however, was put on different meds toward the end of the school year and we all saw a huge difference in his behavior!
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RosieKat
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Post by RosieKat on Jul 30, 2014 17:37:07 GMT
As a parent of a maybe or borderline ODD child, I can say that the idea of having him tutor a kid could be great! My son is only 5, almost 6, and he doesn't seem to have as many problems in school yet, because it's still a lot of running around and playing. He does also have some sense of respect for some authority, which has obviously been helpful. But I can say that at home, whenever we set up a situation where he is the one "in charge," he often responds more positively. "OK, you are now in charge of getting the kitchen floor cleaned up!" And then I will try to give him freedom in how he accomplishes that.
This having been said, I struggle with him just flat out acting like a jerk a lot. It's really hard because he's a super sweet guy, but that obstinate streak just won't let go of him. And it does seem to be holding him, and not the other way around. If he doesn't want to do something, he just won't, even if I try every possible tactic I can think of. He won't do it until HE is ready. It doesn't help that it makes me just want to smack him (which I don't), and then I get frustrated with myself and have to leave the room. (As we speak, I'm waiting on him to decide he finally will pick up the floor in the den...hence the reason I'm here...)
Ugh. I got a bit off track, but I just wanted to say that any time you can give him choice or authority, even if it's kind of an illusion, it will probably be helpful.
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Post by Peace Sign on Jul 30, 2014 17:55:10 GMT
thank you for saying this! my 10 year old has ODD (along with ADHD) and [HASH]1, he is a funny, bright, talented boy and [HASH]2, I am not a lazy parent who doesn't give a damn. I have worked my a$$ off to understand ODD and to be sure his teachers and friends' parents do as well. We had a rough 3rd grade year (this seems to be THE year for crazy behavior) and he is back under control somewhat. We're talking suspensions, being kicked off the bus, fights and all out temper tantrums. He would run out of the school. Security had to be called.
My son is also superior cognitive and I can tell you that 75% of his behavior problems come from being bored in the classroom. If he is stimulated, then usually all is good. Teachers were taking away his recess as punishment. They were only punishing themselves because that is NOT what you do with a hyperactive child!! On the first day of school (or before) I take the 504 plan, the state legal requirements for kids with a 504 plan, his test scores, and my copies of articles on how to teach a kid with ODD to school and give them to the teacher, the specials teachers, the PEAK teacher, the principal, and anyone else who needs it. I have most of the staff on my phone - speed dial. This is not to 'threaten' them, but in the hopes that they gain knowledge on what does/does not work for him. I hardly get any calls anymore but that third grade year was a doozy.
Medically speaking, he takes Adderall for his ADHD but there isn't anything specifically prescribed for ODD. Right now, it's intuniv. It's working. He's a bear in the morning but a pretty responsible kid overall. And as he matures, he learns how to deal with it more and more. I'm proud of him. I'm proud of ME!
We love our school, and the school loves my children. They work with us. I am a responsive, proactive parent. I will fight any attempt to have my kid lumped in with the school full of behavior problem kids, with an attorney if necessary.
OP, I'm sorry you have to work with this child without an adequate instruction manual! By that of course I mean without the IEP and other information you need to make it work.
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