How long til the first real hissy fit??

Honestly? I miss some of the hairflips and snitfits and craziness. Almost all the legendary threads that we wanted saved were the crazy, dramatic stuff. Not sure why anyone is afraid to go ahead and say it.

Now, I don't miss the trolls and the for-real psychos, but they're easily banned. I mean, if 2ps managed to ban one, it can totally be done. And, once again, I don't get the blog talk, visits and checkups. If it's really so awful and you hate it, quit going there and mentioning it.

I don't think it's because anyone is afraid, @ilovecookies, I think it's more a matter of totally enjoying the camaraderie that we have now and not wanting this board to go the way of the 2Peas NSBR board. Sure, some drama/crazy can be and was entertaining, but I don't think anyone misses the vicious bitchiness that permeated that board and was the rule rather than the exception. To paraphrase the Whoopster, we're not little kids, we're grown-ass women here and should be able to discuss issues and have fun without behaving badly, tearing other women apart, or being a plain and simple bitch. It just isn't necessary.

I think it is because there hasn't been much going on to cause the heated topics and the things that are going on have had crappy things said. But, it seems to be in only one or two threads instead of the whole first page.

I think it was day one of this board when I saw one of the 2peas bitches making some crappy comments. She promptly went on ignore so I have no idea how much she is posting. My online world is a much happier place without her in it. She was on ignore on 2peas too.

To be honest, I rarely posted over at 2peas because I noticed new people getting a smack down with "you must be new" or "pull up your panties" kind of responses. I work in education and if kids talked like that to each other, there would be discussions. I love to hear lots of opinions. It is how I learn. I also like to think that I can be open minded about topics that I have much to learn about. My mom always said, "Just because you say it the loudest or say it last, doesn't mean you are right."

It's bound to happen. In the next few months, we have back to school shopping, Christmas gifts for teachers (or not), mid-term elections and the start of the process for 2016, my DH screwed up Christmas again, and I can't afford anything for my kids for the holidays threads. Somewhere in there, someone is going to throw down at least once. And, like always, we will shake our heads, move along and possibly gather our first legend for this community. The peace is nice but drama is inevitable.

I think that some of those who "earned" (tic) a reputation where given those honors by others who read into what they thought someone said. There were so many things attributed to certain people but if you read what they actually wrote it was not like that at all! It's like that game kids play where they say some thing and repeat it to each person in the circle and inevitably it gets messed up and twisted.

Honestly? I don't know why I was still there, but I'll guarantee you it wasn't because of the drama and nastiness. A lot of discussions were interesting and informative, and some of the drama and craziness was entertaining, but when it deteriorated into the demeaning pile-ons and the constant bickering and meanness, it just got real old for me. There were still a few ladies whose goings on I cared about but for the most part, most of the friends I've made on 2Peas have either left the boards or migrated over to Facebook because of the negative atmosphere on 2Peas. My participation there had become very minimal the past couple of years; I've spent most of my fun time on FB.

I'm not naive enough to think that everything's going to be butterflies and rainbows, but I still think that as adult women, there's no reason we can't have differences of opinion and strongly held views and still maintain some semblance of integrity. Some of the ladies on 2Peas wore their bitchiness as a badge of honor and relished using it as a weapon. I don't think that's OK. When I commune with my inner bitch, and believe me, I know I have one, it isn't at the expense of someone else (with the possible exception of my very understanding husband!) unless in self defense.  And even then, I'd rather walk away than engage in moronic  insults or say something I'd regret.

I agree with both of these 

I'm one of four daughters, there will always be a major blow out when too many women get together everyday. It's just a matter of time <sigh>

And it does feel like we are missing some of the really nasty people still.

The "likes" on my posts don't even register on my radar. I really don't pay that much attention to them honestly.  I also think this place could...COULD get boring if we all always agree on everything.  I think there are ways to get your dissenting point across without being nasty and maybe that's what is different here....not sure.  

Interesting, because I rarely look too and I suppose one could also say that a bunch of likes on a handslap could also be a passive-aggressive way of piling on someone.  I don't think I'd hold a lot of stock in it.

As a previous poster has said, it's rare you get a large group of women together for any length of time before the claws come out.  It will happen.

SO, I can blame YOU for peatlejuicing her here?

Guess I can claim fame to Yubitches first handslap on the new board!

I'm all for honest debates and sharing the differences of opinions.
Name calling for the sake of name calling of others just reminds me of middle school.

Did you happen to see what Yubon wrote to me on the S/O live to 100 thread GaJenny? if so, then maybe you'd understand. Have a nice day!

You can ignore her...or perhaps should, if she irritates you so much as she clearly does. Why respond?