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Post by txdancermom on Jul 26, 2014 13:49:46 GMT
Not sure. my dad will be 91, and is in decent health and sound mind, his mom died at 99, and was good til the end, but missed all her friends and family that had already gone on. Not sure she really liked being one of the last ones.
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Post by suzastampin on Jul 26, 2014 14:13:56 GMT
Sure, as long as I am healthy and have my mind. There's so much I want to do in life that I'll never get it all done in my lifetime.
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Post by jamh on Jul 26, 2014 14:21:52 GMT
No one in my family has lived that long. I would only want to if I was healthy and could enjoy it. I work in a nursing home and we have had several people live to be over 100 but the most of them spent their whole day in bed sleeping or crying. They didn't know what was going on or why they are there. Most of their loved ones had passed away before them so I also think they were lonely.
No, I don't. The above quote is how I feel. My mom passed away at age 97,and the last two years were awful. She was so active and mentally sharp, but assorted health issues set in, and she had no quality of life--just slept in a fetal position all day until the nursing home people got her up for bathing and meals. I don't want to be that person.
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Post by ReneeH20 on Jul 26, 2014 14:36:54 GMT
My DH's grandma just turned 100 in April. She is sharp as a tack. Very intellectual person. Unfortunately for her, most of the people in the home she is at have Alzheimer's. She is 2 hours away from the rest of the family so only gets family visitors once a week. She can't see very well so hasn't been able to read in 20 years (she does have a DVD player so she can listen to shows about history and animals). She's been in the nursing home for 15 years because she fell and badly hurt back. She hadn't been able to walk since.
In her late 90's, you could tell she was getting a bit tired of life. She did perk up at age 99, because she got excited about the thought of living to 100 and having a big party. A few months before she started having some health problems. My DH thought she might be ready to let go. She's still around, but has health problems on and off now.
I don't think I'd want to live to 100. Most of my grandparents died in their mid-80's. I think I'd like to go like my paternal grandmother. My Dad went over to her house at lunch (stopped to see her everyday) and found her slumped over in her chair watching her stories - no signs of illness.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 14:37:20 GMT
I'm not sure if I'd want to. My grandmother is 96 and is doing ok. Her health is declining. She's on oxygen now but a large part of that is because she has asthma and it contributed to her issues. Her long term memory is still pretty good but short term, not so much. She doesn't drive anymore which bugs her. She's mostly homebound now in the same house my grandfather built 64 years ago. Every time one of her church friends passes, we start hearing about what she wants done when she passes, who gets what, etc. Is it typical of people at that stage to get morbid? My great-grandma (my 96 yr old Grandma's mom) lived to be 97 I think. Before her, I've heard that great-great-grandma lived into her 90's.
DH's grandparents are 88 and still going strong. They are hosts at one of the state campgrounds every August and have been for nearly 20 years. Before that, they spent their entire summer at the same campground. DH and his cousins grew up spending most of their summers on Lake Michigan.
I think I might make it that long. I hope to be in good health like my grandma. I also worry that I won't because I have a family history of cancer. It seems like if you get cancer before you're 80 (or 70), you won't make it to your 80s. My grandma had a bout when she was 86. She's still here at 96. My grandpa (her husband) passed at 77 from cancer. My dad's parents both passed away from cancer, one in their 50's, the other at 72. I'd like to live to see my great-grandkids. Grandma has a few great-grandkids that are old enough to give her a great-great grandchild.
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Post by melanell on Jul 26, 2014 14:39:34 GMT
DH would live forever if he could.
I don't feel the need.
We both have relatives that lived into their 90s, but none have actually made the 100 mar yet.
If I am healthy and happy then I am fine living to 100. But I prefer quality of life over quantity, so if I can live 80 really great years, I'll take it and be satisfied.
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Post by caro on Jul 26, 2014 15:41:38 GMT
Only if I was ambulatory, continent and still had my marbles. ^^^ this !
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Post by LilyRose on Jul 26, 2014 15:49:02 GMT
The women in my family have a tendency to live long, although I don't think I'll be one of them. Plus, as neither my brother nor I have kids and likely won't, and we have no first cousins, I wouldn't want to hit 100--there will be no one to care for me, lol!
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Post by justcindy on Jul 26, 2014 15:49:20 GMT
If my health was still good then yes. Both my grandmothers lived into their late 90's (96 and 98). Both had all their facilities until their last week on this earth. They were amazing woman. Both of them sold their homes (in different states) to come and live in a the same retirement home while they were in their late 70s to be nearer to their children. In their 80s they both, on the same day, moved into my parents home and lived there until they died. One of them even started dating a nice gentleman when she turned 95. She said that 30 years between men was long enough. The other said she wasn't sure about that and would wait a few more years! oh my gosh that is AWESOME!!!! I hope, no matter how old I am when I pass away, that I have a positive attitude like your grandmothers. It's so beneficial for yourself, enjoying life for what it is, and what you DO have, and SO beneficial for those around you, taking care of you and in your daily life. I don't want to be one of those people that, when I die, my loved ones say, " thank goodness! About time!"
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Post by nesser01 on Jul 26, 2014 15:50:36 GMT
No one in my family but I had a neighbor growing up that lived to 100. She was smart, always active walking up the street and back until about 90. It slowed down because her knees and everything just gave out. Then she was on a walker and eventually couldn't walk without assistance.
She was such a sweet lady. I interviewed her for many school projects and helped her around the house. If my sisters and I were out to play she used to bring us out snacks and drinks. I can still remember the smell of her home. If I am healthy. I wouldn't mind living that long.
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Post by OSUBuckeyeFan on Jul 26, 2014 15:54:45 GMT
Nope....because no. I'll likely be so decrepit thanks to my profession. I already have many aches and pains thanks to moving 400lb patients on a regular basis. Backaches, knee pain. Both parents have heart disease. My maternal grandparents died from complications of heart disease. One in his 50's and the other was in her 80's. My MIL is 91 and while she is physically pretty ok, her mind is not. She has no clue what day it is or even what planet she's on at times. If I don't have my mind...I don't have anything.
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Post by joelise on Jul 26, 2014 16:02:31 GMT
My Grandma lived till she was 100, her only ailment was osteoporosis. She still lived in her own home right up until she died. She was very with it, and because she watched TV all day, she was up to date with modern life. You could talk to her about anything.
And as is tradition in the UK, she received a birthday card from the Queen when she turned 100 :-)
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 26, 2014 16:11:20 GMT
I don't really care if I do or not, but IF I do, I want to be as healthy as possible, not a vegitable or a complete burden to anyone. I want to be able to enjoy life at that age as much as possible.
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Post by jemali on Jul 26, 2014 16:22:36 GMT
My grandma lived to be 101. My aunt was 80 years old at the time, how many 80 year olds do you know whose mother has just died?
She lived on her own after my grandpa died until she was in her 90's. She was in pretty good health and her mind was pretty good. All of her siblings lived to their 90's too, so I expect I will live to be pretty old, too.
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Post by winogirl on Jul 26, 2014 16:29:52 GMT
Not if I was in a nursing home sleeping and crying all day.
If I am still mobile, able to take care of myself and mentally fit, then I'd want to live as long as I'm getting some joy out of life...maybe watching Big Brother Season [HASH]67 lol
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Post by ExpatBackHome on Jul 26, 2014 18:24:53 GMT
We don't make it that long. Usually between 75-80. I would only want to live to 100 if I was still enjoying life
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Post by disneypal on Jul 26, 2014 18:27:32 GMT
I was thinking of this question the other day while researching my family tree - I found some great, great aunts and they lived to be 97, 99, and 101. I thought it would be nice to live a long life like that as long as you are relatively in good health and have a good mind but at the same time, I would imagine that most of those you loved would have passed before you and I don't think I would want to go on after my whole family has passed on.
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Post by linda~lou on Jul 27, 2014 7:08:53 GMT
My dad lived until 92. He was witty, healthy and had all his facilities until the day he passed. He had a aneurism and 2 days later he was gone. No pain, no suffering, just one day here totally fine and the next day gone. He moved to Florida once he and my mom retired. I always dreaded him having a slow painful end while he was in Florida and I still in Michigan and I couldn't be with him. My mom passed first at 88, I couldn't be there, thankfully my dad was there for her. My dad moved into assisted living and one day they called me and told me I needed to get there. I got a flight and was able to hold his hand before he passed. That's how I want to go, fast and painless without causing any long lasting grief for my sons. I remember my dad always saying it's so hard to get old.....there's no one to say remember when with....
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Post by MaryMary on Jul 27, 2014 7:27:46 GMT
Nope.
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Post by pmk on Jul 27, 2014 7:37:04 GMT
Only if I was ambulatory, continent and still had my marbles. ^^^ this ! Ditto!
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Post by Lindarina on Jul 27, 2014 12:29:57 GMT
I remember my dad always saying it's so hard to get old.....there's no one to say remember when with.... This. I don't know if I want to be the last one standing, alone with my memories...
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Post by formerpea on Jul 27, 2014 12:38:57 GMT
My dad lived until he was 90, he was lucid and well until the last two days of his life, so if I can follow that route, then yes.
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Jul 27, 2014 12:54:48 GMT
No. Many who live that long have the experience of losing a child before they die. Not a cross I would chose to bear. My dad is in his 80's and his siblings and their spouses have past and now friends, it's hard to be one of the last one standing.
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Post by MZF on Jul 27, 2014 12:54:47 GMT
Yes--on mom's side, great grandma live to 108(!), and grandma to 103. Sadly, my mother had a stroke at 73 and died at 76.
Hubby & I were talking about this the other day. I'd love to make it to about 90 as long as I'm reasonably healthy.
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Post by 1lear on Jul 27, 2014 13:10:54 GMT
My grandfather turned 96 this year and has really started having health problems in the last 2 years. That side of my family have always had an unhappy, dissatisfied attitude. My fear is that the older I get, the more I'll start to be like them-I've always tried to stay happy and positive and it scares me that I'll start getting more negative. I'd only want to live to be that old if I was happy and could still read!
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Post by MommyofTriplets on Jul 27, 2014 13:33:36 GMT
Like a lot of others, I only want to live that long if I'm mentally and physically healthy, but I would love to live long enough to see my daughters grow old. I don't want to outlive them though, but I want to see everything that happens in their lives and be a part of it for as long as possible.
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Post by gryroagain on Jul 27, 2014 14:56:23 GMT
I remember as a kid visiting an aunt (a great great something aunt, obviously) in a nursing home who was 104 then. She was a tiny, frail bag of bones, mostly moaned and cried. It was horrifying. She didn't die for 2 more years, at 106. It seemed an awful existence to me, she was bedridden, not able to talk really, just alive.
In Korea our housekeeper was 70, her mom lived with her and took care of HER mom who was 100 something, no one was exactly sure. It was crazy to think Mrs. Kim, who was old, had her grandmother living with her. I met Mrs Kims mom, who was 88, she was bent over from osteoporosis but otherwise healthy and sharp, but never her grandmother, who was bedridden and it sounded like very much in the shape my elderly aunt was. Mrs. Kim used to say often she hoped she never lived that long, even as long as her mother, it was too long.
My Dads side has all the long lived genes, there are a few centenarians and my grandfather is 96 and just stopped driving 2 years ago. His mom was 99 when she died. Those in their 90s, even late 90s, seemed in much better shape than the 100 mark family, something about that milestone the body really seems to go and hanging on after that is kind of terrible.
So unless some sort of medical milestone is reached that can prevent the total breakdown of mind and body that seems to come for most at those ages, no, I wouldn't. It isn't really life, to me.
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Post by M~ on Jul 27, 2014 15:12:27 GMT
My granny will be 100 in April 2015. Her mind is as clear as a bell, and she's very active. We make it a point to keep her engaged, both physically and mentally. I will tell you this though---she's about the only one left in her age group. And, some of her kids are getting sick, mainly her eldest daughter who is 80+ at this point. It's heartbreaking to her and that's what makes her quality of life sometimes really shitty.
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Post by Erica on Jul 28, 2014 0:31:28 GMT
My great grandmother did. Out of all my relatives who have passed, she is who I miss the most.
I don't want to live that old.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2014 8:12:19 GMT
I don't think anyone in my family has lived that long. My grandpa lived to nearly 98. I used to want to live to be 100. Goodness knows, if I was strong and healthy I would have more than enough interests to keep me busy. After being abused by my ex and as a consequence living in chronic pain for over 20 years, the thought of living to 100 is no longer appealing.
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