taysmommy03
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Post by taysmommy03 on Feb 10, 2016 9:34:44 GMT
With my son I told SO and my mom immediately. We waited to tell others until after confirming it. Once the health department test came back my mom called everyone she could think of.
We waited until after the ultrasound to tell his mom. Her words were: "when is THIS going to happen?" in the snottyist tone possible. Her tone changed as time went on and she has a great relationship with her grandson.
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SabrinaP
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Post by SabrinaP on Feb 10, 2016 11:59:47 GMT
We told parents and siblings around 6 weeks after we had visited the doctors. We waited to tell everyone else until 12 weeks.
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Post by miominmio on Feb 10, 2016 12:34:12 GMT
Considering I was extremely sick in both pregnancies (hyperemesis gravidarum), it would have been impossible to keep it a secret. Our entire family and my coworkers knew within two weeks. I threw up at work (wasn't always able to reach the bathroom, instores, in parking lots, at school (my kids are seven years apart, so most kids in my son's class have seen me running towards the bathroom), fun times!
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Post by deshacrafts on Feb 10, 2016 14:06:40 GMT
Well, my daughter is pregnant and I am B-U-S-T-I-N-G!!! I want to scream it to the world. I think in another week or so I'll be able to tell the rest of my family, but I can hardly stand it. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!! This was me when I found out at 5 weeks! I had to wait until 12 weeks to tell. It's going to be my first grandbaby too! Congratulations to you and your DD & SIL! |
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Post by izzyscraps on Feb 10, 2016 15:17:04 GMT
I have had 8 pregnancies. Only 3 live births. But with each pregnancy everyone in our circle knew very early. For one my dh and I can't keep a secret. For two we were asking for a lot of prayers very early.
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Post by Belia on Feb 10, 2016 17:44:23 GMT
We told our parents / siblings pretty early- like others have said, they would have been our support network if something went wrong, so we saw no harm in telling them. We wanted to wait a little bit before spreading the word far-and-wide, however, but those plans got blown with both of my pregnancies. I got a DVT (blood clot) with both of them, as well as hyperemesis gravidarum, so I was in the hospital very early. Hard for the word not to spread. If I remember correctly, I missed my aunt's funeral because I was hospitalized in the early days with DS #1. That's when *everybody* found out, because it was impossible to explain my absence! OP- Congratulations! Now pleeeeeeease wait until your DD gives you the OK to start spreading the news.  |
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Feb 10, 2016 19:25:01 GMT
12 weeks
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Post by finally~a~mama on Feb 11, 2016 5:21:34 GMT
We told at 13 weeks.
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Post by beaglemom on Feb 11, 2016 5:42:04 GMT
With DD we told my parents around 6 weeks. I was supposed to do a 10 mile training run that morning with my mom and was feeling horrible. Figured I should tell her in case I couldn't do all 10 miles, cause otherwise she was going to be very confused. We gave my mom a sewing for baby book and my dad a shirt for a little kid that said something about having a rockin' grandpa. We told dh's parents a couple weeks later.
With ds we told parents earlier than we would have otherwise, my parents were temporarily living 5 hours away and dh was having his PhD graduation. There was champagne and I couldn't have any!
This third time around we still told a little bit on the early side. We did get mad at mil. We told them and let them know that we were going to call and tell dh's sisters. Well they went out to visit my sil's a week or so before we had planned on telling them (we were waiting till 12 weeks) and my mil tells them within minutes of walking in the door that they really need to facetime us because we need to tell them something. Which isn't something we really do much with them. Apparently one of my sil's figured it out immediately and point blank asked mil, who failed miserably at even attempting to make her think otherwise.
If we do a 4th I'm really hoping I can get away with waiting longer to tell the inlaws. But who knows!
Oh and to answer about telling my own children. Dd was only 22 months old when ds was born. She would wave and say hi to the baby during ultrasounds, but who knows how much she understood. This time around we told them around when we told the grandparents. Partly because dd was confused by my throwing up and kept asking if I was going to get her sick.
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Feb 11, 2016 12:58:04 GMT
The pressure I read on this thread makes the idea of having children all that much more terrifying and off the table for us (we're pretty much indifferent about it). I don't like the concept of having parents wanting to tell my secrets to the world or even having to tell people before I would be ready to share it. Maybe I'm interpreting wrong, but I seem to hear a lot of entitlement to other people's medical conditions.
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mallie
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Post by mallie on Feb 11, 2016 18:31:25 GMT
We only told my mother and my best friend at the time. We had good, sound medical reasons to wait. For us, the idea of having support should I miscarry was far outweighed by the idea of having to tell all those people the bad news.
However, little did I know that my best friend was a town crier and I wouldn't have had to tell anyone bad news. (Note that I had never seen her behave like this before, or I would have never told her the secret.) She told everyone the good news, even though I specifically told her not to do so, due to those medical reasons. I did not know she did this until I happily went to tell people the news and got a big shrug and "Yeah, C told us two months ago." No one acted excited for us because to them it was old news. It was very deflating. Especially since I had a difficult pregancy and could have really used people acted exctied for me. When I told her how upset I was, she excused herself by saying that she couldn't keep a secret. I pointed out that yes, indeed, she could -- she did keep the secret that she had told everyone. She then admitted that she wanted the fun of telling everyone herself and hadn't considered that when I told people it would be boring, old news. It changed our relationship forever. I never told her anything I didn't want the world to know.
So if you are ever in the position of knowing this secret, consider your intentions. And the consequences.
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Post by finally~a~mama on Feb 11, 2016 18:52:30 GMT
The pressure I read on this thread makes the idea of having children all that much more terrifying and off the table for us (we're pretty much indifferent about it). I don't like the concept of having parents wanting to tell my secrets to the world or even having to tell people before I would be ready to share it. Maybe I'm interpreting wrong, but I seem to hear a lot of entitlement to other people's medical conditions. I get what you are saying. We waited until 13 weeks to tell anyone (including parents) because at that point we were fine with everyone knowing. No secret keeping required. As a side note, we also kept the names to ourselves. We were fairly sure about what each of our DD's names would be, but *I* needed to see the baby before I named it. PLUS, I did not want to hear anyone's opinions on what name we picked. |
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