luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on Feb 17, 2016 3:54:07 GMT
I understand. We have a large house but the storage is awful. We used to at least have an outside shed, but that burned in a house fire. Our house is a cluttered mess most of the time. I try to keep up on it and will get one area done and then the rest looks terrible. It's a constant battle. The only built in downstairs is a small coat closet. We don't even have a kitchen pantry. I'm using a small garage cabinet in a pinch but it's not working that well.
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Post by AllieC on Feb 17, 2016 9:12:25 GMT
I think this is a great time to get rid of a lot of the stuff. As much a s some of it may be sentimental, it is weighing you down and you just don't have the room to store it. Keep a few items then do a big purge, it will be very freeing I reckon  |
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Post by gar on Feb 17, 2016 9:27:33 GMT
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Post by raindancer on Feb 17, 2016 12:03:27 GMT
Is there some reason you can't move to another rental house? Mold is a very serious health risk. Depends on the type of mold and the persons sensitivity to that mold. You would probably be surprised at how low risk it really is. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 12:32:55 GMT
I rent a very small, 19th century cottage. It's a terrace (joined on to my neighbours both sides). We are separated from the main road by the pavement and people walk right past my front window. It's damp and we have mould. Downstairs is 2 small rooms knocked through to make one marginally larger room, and then the kitchen out the back. Upstairs is a tiny bedroom that only has room for the bed. The wardrobes live in what is supposedly the second bedroom, but you couldn't use it as such because you have to walk through it to get to the bathroom. When I moved in here it was just me and the cat. Now, I have my OH and all his stuff (including 2 cages for rodents, who I love dearly). And now there is no room FOR ANYTHING. There are no built in cupboards or shelves, and we have filled every available space. I keep trying to get rid of things but I do want to have some stuff, you know? I don't even think we have a lot, it just looks worse because there is nowhere to put it all. To make matters worse, my grandmother died 2.5 years ago and her (bigger) house has been sitting EMPTY since then. My mum has been unable to decide what to do with it, she didn't want me to live there because it would upset my sister? So we could only live there if my sister and I shared. But we are both adults and have partners and that would just never work. Oh, and we would have had to keep all gran's furniture and bits and pieces. And still pay rent. So, no. Then mum was going to sell gran's house and use some money to help us. But she couldn't make her mind up, so she didn't. And the house is still sitting there, empty and rotting. Meanwhile, I took voluntary redundancy from work and OH and I are setting up our own business. Which is great, but means that our ability to get a mortgage is going to suffer for a while. So even if mum DID sell gran's house now and help us with a deposit, we wouldn't be able to get finance. And setting up our own business means that I am at home most of the time. I have just been trying to clean up and it's so damn hard. I can't keep it clean because there is no room to tidy everything away. I hate that we have so much stuff but I can't see what else to get rid of. I can't have visitors because there is no space for them and I am so embarrassed by my house. Every time I clean I end up in tears because it is so frustrating and embarrassing and I just want a nice tidy house to come home to. It doesn't even have to be very big I just want to be able to put stuff away so that I can have people round. Not even a lot of people. Just one or two. Sorry this is such a rambling, ranting post. I just can't see a way out, not in the short term anyway, and if I get upset with OH then he takes it personally because he can't just buy a bigger house for us. I don't even know what to say to my mum about it any more. I know this is going to sound cruel. But GROW UP. What you are really angry about is mom won't show you favoritism by giving you gran's house. You'd be angry if she allowed your sister to move in but your also fixated on it as a solution to your choices in life and angry she isn't giving it to you. It isn't your house. YOU chose to cut your hours at your job and let a man move in with you before either one of you got a business off the ground far enough to support the two of you. Those are choices you made. You are chosing to keep more than you have storage for. Again, your choice. Yes, you have a right to own things. But decide what is more important to you; owning things you have no storage for or having a neat/tidy organized home. Look for a bigger rental. If that is too expensive consider working full time again so you have more income. Or decide what is truely important to you. Keeping the things you own or keeping the house tidy looking. But get your eyes off property that isn't yours. You'll be a LOT happier when you stop expecting mom to give you a hand out and look for solutions in your own control. Like going back to work full time. |
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 17, 2016 14:09:40 GMT
I agree with Volt. I think you need to stop thinking about your grandmother's house. It belongs to your mother now and she has no obligation to lease it to you. We own a rent house and I would never, ever rent to a family member. There are way too many issues that might arise. For one thing, we are animal lovers and have our own pets, but we would never allow our renters to have pets and you've already said you have two. Even though your pets are small, we wouldn't want them in our rent house.
I think you either need to accept the fact that you have to live in a tiny space in order to get your business off the ground or you or your OH needs to find a way to earn extra money (such as getting a part time job) so that you can move to a bigger space.
Good luck w/ your new business!
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Post by craftykitten on Feb 17, 2016 15:59:53 GMT
That went well, didn't it? voltagain , if you know something is going to sound cruel, why bother saying it? If you read the whole thread, you'd have seen that firstly I was emotional and upset, I came here to vent, I got some advice and some of that has helped me to action. So why bother coming in at the end of the second page just to say something that is frankly just nasty? {I wrote a whole long bit here explaining lots of background about WHY I feel the way I do, because surprisingly, I didn't feel I had to include everything to justify how I was feeling. I've deleted it now because actually it's none of your business. I'm just going to say that not everything you have labelled a 'choice' was.} Thanks anyway to all of you who were understanding and supportive, and recognised that my emotional vent was just that. I was tired, and emotional, and actually the vacuum cleaner had just stopped working which made me even more cross. And even those of you who questioned whether I need so much 'stuff' - because there is a world of difference between gentle encouragement and just telling someone to "grow up" |
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Post by mallie on Feb 17, 2016 16:58:38 GMT
Is there some reason you can't move to another rental house? Mold is a very serious health risk. Depends on the type of mold and the persons sensitivity to that mold. You would probably be surprised at how low risk it really is. Having a mold allergy that led to asthma because of exposure to "regular" household mold caused by damp, yes, I would be surprised if someone tried to tell me how low risk it is. My doctors have told me how lucky I was to "just" have asthma. |
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Post by raindancer on Feb 17, 2016 18:08:27 GMT
Depends on the type of mold and the persons sensitivity to that mold. You would probably be surprised at how low risk it really is. Having a mold allergy that led to asthma because of exposure to "regular" household mold caused by damp, yes, I would be surprised if someone tried to tell me how low risk it is. My doctors have told me how lucky I was to "just" have asthma. We don't know what causes asthma. There may be correlation, but not causation. And you are exposed to mold in every environment. The risk is just not that high. Exposure to mold, a developed sensitivity is what then led to your allergy. There is always exposure before an allergy. I also don't know what you are implying by the "just" have asthma? |
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