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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 4:43:54 GMT
hummmmm... I'm getting the impression that I am the one being managed by text from my mom....  |
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Post by DinCA on Jul 29, 2014 5:17:38 GMT
My kids have selective hearing so what I love about texting them is that they can't claim I didn't tell them something because it's right there in black and white.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 29, 2014 5:26:42 GMT
I have discovered after several arguments with DSO (after telling him I am going to xxx on xxx date then he denies me ever telling him) that the best way to communicate with him is via text. That way he cannot say he didn't know.
And yes, it works well with DD too. Like Merge said, I can't see the eyeroll through text so I don't get annoyed with her attitude.
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Post by lindas on Jul 29, 2014 5:29:27 GMT
It's sad enough people don't interact with each other anymore but now they don't even talk face to face to their own family members. A few more years and no one will bother to teach babies to talk, just stick a phone in their little hands and teach them to text.
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Post by DinCA on Jul 29, 2014 6:05:36 GMT
It's sad enough people don't interact with each other anymore but now they don't even talk face to face to their own family members. A few more years and no one will bother to teach babies to talk, just stick a phone in their little hands and teach them to text. Oh, trust me, we see enough of each other face to face. My kids are young adults and they are both financially dependent on us at this time. When I don't want to argue with them, I text them. And if I want a request documented, I text them. When I text them, they KNOW it is not up for debate. Period. We all have to figure out what works for our own families. There certainly is no judgment by me. |
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Post by miominmio on Jul 29, 2014 6:36:15 GMT
hummmmm... I'm getting the impression that I am the one being managed by text from my mom.... You're not alone! My mom texted yesterday to remind me to feed her cat. She does it every time she's away (every other weekend plus vacations). I feed three bunnies twice daily, and have owned my own animals since I was a teenager. I think I can remember to feed the cat. |
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Post by miominmio on Jul 29, 2014 6:43:29 GMT
It's sad enough people don't interact with each other anymore but now they don't even talk face to face to their own family members. A few more years and no one will bother to teach babies to talk, just stick a phone in their little hands and teach them to text. Of course we talk to them! You don't have much experience with teenagers, I guess? They argue, argue, argue if you tell them to put their laundry in the basket instead of on the floor. They argue some more if they're asked to empty the dishwasher or to take the garbage out. If you ask them, they will "forget" or claim they forgot (some teenager apparently develop some kind of hormone-related amnesia), and if you remind them, they get upset. texting them when you're not at the same location, is so much easier (at least on the parent). No eye-rolls, no sighing, no attitude. Perfect! And importantly: you have evidence that you told them. |
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 29, 2014 11:38:30 GMT
It's sad enough people don't interact with each other anymore but now they don't even talk face to face to their own family members. A few more years and no one will bother to teach babies to talk, just stick a phone in their little hands and teach them to text. I am not sure that is a fair assessment. I can be the biggest curmudgeon on the face of the planet when it comes to technology-particularly when it comes to face to face interaction. As a family, we spend time together and I have some pretty hard and fast rules about when technology is allowed and isn't allowed. But I am also pretty realistic when it come to my teen boys. They aren't always the best communicators. Before phones, everyone used to joke and say "if you want to talk to the teens, take them for a car ride at night" something about the dark car always makes them feel more comfortable. I am sure that there was some mother on the prairie struggling with a way to talk to her boys. So my thoughts are if they feel most comfortable with their phones, then I, as their parent, can recognize that there are times that I have to change too. Even if it means I have to sometimes text (mountains and Mohamed and all that.) I still talk to them, but I also communicate with them in a way that feels comfortable for them. I think a lot of us have embraced this idea, and it *does* work. And it is kind of funny to text them when they are sitting two feet away. LOL Bonus is that text cuts through attitude. As in a quick text to take out the trash gets a far different response than mom saying it in her "nagging voice" and life in the anxious household is a lot less stressful. I would just ask that you don't make a blanket assumption on this one. In my world, one hasn't replaced the other, I would almost go so far as to say that one has enhanced the other. |
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Post by Miss Ang on Jul 29, 2014 12:08:00 GMT
Had this exact situation happen with my daughter the other day! Loved being able to show her where I had written the request AND where she had written the response acknowledging that she had agreed. I think I was laughing on the inside for nearly 2 hours.  |
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Post by Miss Ang on Jul 29, 2014 12:11:59 GMT
It's sad enough people don't interact with each other anymore but now they don't even talk face to face to their own family members. A few more years and no one will bother to teach babies to talk, just stick a phone in their little hands and teach them to text. I speak plenty to my kids but there are times when I'm at work and they are at home and the clothes need switched from washer to dryer, the dishwasher needs emptied, I need them to run an errand, I want them to run the vacuum or dust, etc. DH, both kids and I all work but live in the same household. Sometimes we are only home together for an hour a day (if that). I don't want that one hour to be spent discussing the chores I want them to complete the following day. I promise, my family is still communicating face to face. It's just that some days, we're really busy and our time together is limited. |
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Post by deborah on Jul 29, 2014 12:32:30 GMT
Of course!!!! How else do you communicate with teenagers? Much less arguing and in person eye rolling. Lol. I find it more effective to use the group messaging with them because then they hold each other accountable. No one wants to deal with the wrath of mom. ;-)
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Post by monklady123 on Jul 29, 2014 13:38:22 GMT
It's sad enough people don't interact with each other anymore but now they don't even talk face to face to their own family members. A few more years and no one will bother to teach babies to talk, just stick a phone in their little hands and teach them to text.
The other day I was sitting at the dining room table and dd was in the living room. I could see her from where I was. She had her headphones in and couldn't hear me calling her. Yes I could have gotten up. But it was more fun to text her "Hey! answer your mother please." hehehehe
And, my dd texts me a lot from college, just quick things, serious and fluffy, like "Mom, the salad bar was awesome today!" or "Mom, I'm afraid I'll be the only freshman in this seminar." The latter was texted to me as she walked across campus on the first day of classes, when she had just realized that it was a 200-level course. She would never have called me to mention that, not when she was almost at the classroom. But in a quick text I was able to reassure her that her advisor would not have allowed her to sign up for it if freshmen weren't allowed in.
I love texting.
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Post by ~Susan~ on Jul 29, 2014 17:49:58 GMT
No, I don't. If I speak to them directly they can't turn around and claim they never got the message. I can't say this about my oldest dd. I think she is trying to make me think I am losing my mind, lol. I love sending her a text to do XYZ because then I have proof that I did tell her  |
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Post by utmr on Jul 29, 2014 17:57:42 GMT
My favorite is when DD texts from across the house at night "It's awfully cold. Can you turn the air up?" And then I stay in bed and use nest to turn it up.
I <3 technology.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Jul 29, 2014 18:06:36 GMT
No, I don't. If I speak to them directly they can't turn around and claim they never got the message. I can't say this about my oldest dd. I think she is trying to make me think I am losing my mind, lol. I love sending her a text to do XYZ because then I have proof that I did tell her At this point my boys hardly touch their phones after they walk in the door so, if I text them, chances are they won't get the message. I avoid the 'I didn't hear you' response by asking for confirmation: "I need you to have the dishes done before I get home, understand?" And sometimes, even if they do answer, depending on how distracted they seem, I follow it up with: "Really, then what did I just say?" I have to say, though, I LOVE texting with my teens, just not for this purpose and only because it wouldn't work for us. |
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Post by triplejscrapper on Jul 29, 2014 18:24:46 GMT
Yes! And for exactly the same reason. I can't see an eye-roll via text. You mean to tell me your kids don't send "@@" back at you?? J-rod will if I send a reminder text about a chore I want him to do because he has NEVER forgotten to clean the bathroom...4 days in a row. |
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Post by mlana on Jul 29, 2014 18:43:40 GMT
I have discovered after several arguments with DSO (after telling him I am going to xxx on xxx date then he denies me ever telling him) that the best way to communicate with him is via text. That way he cannot say he didn't know. And yes, it works well with DD too. Like Merge said, I can't see the eyeroll through text so I don't get annoyed with her attitude. I, too use texting to make sure there is no wiggle room when I give DH info or ask him to do something. I have also found that if I follow with a text funny and he responds, he can't argue that he didn't get the message. DD is pretty good about doing what I ask without the eye rolls, but that is probably because she is away at college most of the time. Marcy |
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