I'm a 'Big, Fat, Ugly Bitch' then, am I???...

Honey, what he said reflects back on him, not on you. You're none of those things. Time to move on.

Yep, kick him to the curb, he's not worth another second of your company. Don't waste any more time on the jerk. Hugs....

Time to get out, and I'm sorry!

But you will find you're so much happier in time.

Look at it this way, you are going on the fastest most successful diet of your life.  No matter what you weigh now, you are going to be carrying around a lot less once you lose the weight of this person in your life. Isn't there a saying where a woman was told she looked so much better and asked how she'd done it and she said she'd lost 200 pounds in the divorce? Just think, that's just the physical side of it. How much lighter will your spirit feel without the load of this person's toxicity, projections of their own issues, and expectations?  

When someone shows you who they are believe them...  As strange as it is say, you've been given a gift here.  You know where you stand now and can react accordingly.  Nothing you do will ever satisfy this person.  Satisfy yourself.

Also, should you begin to doubt yourself and think that maybe they're right and couldn't you stand to lose a little or maybe do something with your makeup...  even if those things are true, it's up to you, not them, and their delivery still says it all.  Someone who loves and respects you, someone worthy of your time, will not treat you or speak to you like that whether the message has merit or not. This is a case of what a person says saying more about them than you.

How terrible- time to go!

I'm so sorry that you had to hear that! ((hugs)))

Leave him. Just do it. You are none of those things. Do NOT let him define you.

And I can tell you from my own experience that verbal abuse (which is exactly what that is) is often a precursor to physical abuse.

......and again and again and........ You don't need someone like that in your life.

I have a quote on my bulletin board:

"Never push a loyal person to the point where they don't give a damn!"

I have been where you are and I can tell you it does NOT get better. I always thought it would. I thought I was the problem. Oh how wrong I was.

Please get out NOW. Block him on your phone and social media. Do NOT let him come back no matter how hard he tries. He exposed what is in HIS heart not who you are.

The book, "He's Just No Good For You" helped me a lot. It pointed out things that I didn't realize were abusive like gaslighting and other things. At the very least he is emotionally abusive and I am going to guess this isn't the first time he has said such untrue and hurtful things but you CAN make it the LAST! Find a good counselor, focus on nurturing yourself and healing from this unhealthy relationship. Take a class you always wanted to take. Get a massage. Paint the town red with friends you haven't seen in awhile. And please know your worth is NOT dependent on what others say. You are of great worth simply because you exist.

Think of all the good in you. List at least 10 things about yourself that are positive and really believe them. Big hugs! I have been where you are. I know the internal struggle well. Mine escalated to a point where he almost killed me by strangling me. Like I said it doesn't ever get better, it only gets worse and you deserve SO much more! It doesn't matter what you weigh or what you look like. You deserve kindness and respect simply because you are a human being. If you need someone to talk to please email me. Like I said I have been where you are and understand.

Be gone with his ignorant self! Hugs!

Why have you done that? This is one of the reasons this idiot believes that his insults keep you in check. Hope you are prepared to keep him totally out of your orbit. You deserve much better treatment than this.