mama2bailey
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Jun 26, 2014 14:37:35 GMT
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Post by mama2bailey on Apr 5, 2016 3:47:54 GMT
While I was reading your posts, OP, I thought it sounded like you were writing things down, as a journal, in a way, in order to make sense of it. I have a very special friend of 30 years who I would be devastated for if something like this happened. I would feel confused, scared and sad for her too. This is a great place to "get it out". Just take care of yourself too during this time. thank you, I wish everyone would feel the same. Guess its a damned if you do and damned if you don't around here. I wasn't thinking about anything but sharing what was going on and then updating. all of this anger and hostility toward me is the whole reason I keep to myself and never say a word but I needed some guidance and some friends because I didn't have anywhere to turn. I'm trying to be supportive to her DH when he calls upset, etc yet I'm not allowed the same. Figures as much around here.
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mama2bailey
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Jun 26, 2014 14:37:35 GMT
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Post by mama2bailey on Apr 5, 2016 3:54:49 GMT
If anyone wants any updates past today please feel free to message me. It's not in my best interest to continue and be attacked for it. To those who offered help and suggestions and even prayers I do appreciate it and it truly meant a lot.
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daisydonna
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Sept 5, 2015 11:45:16 GMT
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Post by daisydonna on Apr 5, 2016 3:56:56 GMT
Hugs to you...
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DEX
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Aug 9, 2014 23:13:22 GMT
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Post by DEX on Apr 5, 2016 4:09:55 GMT
Awwww. Feel free to vent. That is what this place is for. You are right, everyone does it....anonymously. That is the beauty of this place. No one knows who you are, where you live, or if you are a serial killer. I have been around for many years so I know the ropes somewhat. You just can't let it get to you. You will have to develop a thicker skin though. I suspect that is hard to do right now. Besides, if you throw in the towel on us, you will miss all the fun and mischief. I am sure this band of Thelma & Louise wanna be's still have some adventures left in them. We haven't even begun to eviscerate each other over the election. This is just fore play. Fun times ahead.
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valincal
Drama Llama
Southern Alberta
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Jun 27, 2014 2:21:22 GMT
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Post by valincal on Apr 5, 2016 4:32:24 GMT
If anyone wants any updates past today please feel free to message me. It's not in my best interest to continue and be attacked for it. To those who offered help and suggestions and even prayers I do appreciate it and it truly meant a lot. I missed the attacks? I just mentioned that I don't think it's right to post the specifics of a friend's mental breakdown. You can ask for support without that. Again, I wish you well and I am sending good thoughts for your friend who is suffering.
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Post by mlynn on Apr 5, 2016 4:54:37 GMT
I am so sorry that you feel this way. I hope it is a transitory feeling. Just block those who attack. There are so many more supportive posts than attacking posts. You have a lot of people caring about you, your friend and her husband. And prayer is a powerful tool. The more people praying knowledgeably about this the better.
You are benefiting by posting and using this forum to deal with your feelings. To not lean on us means you either don't deal or you deal in a way that truly opens you up to violating confidences.
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Post by Chips on Apr 5, 2016 17:37:36 GMT
I am so sorry too. I love the Peas and am thankful for a place where I can get tons of great, honest, first hand, life experiences and suggestions. I love coming here for help, support, venting and family feels! Usually my family is awesome, loving and supportive but of course there is also fighting, disagreements and negativity.
Please take the negativity with a grain of salt, even just ignore it. There has been so much great advice on this thread and I am thankful for being made aware of something that I've never known about. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend. I'd be so thankful to get some updates too.
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zella
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Jul 7, 2014 19:36:30 GMT
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Post by zella on Apr 5, 2016 18:48:05 GMT
No one here knows you IRL, right? No one knows who you're talking about, right? Then it isn't a problem, or shouldn't be.
I haven't read through this thread, but I have been keeping up with your updates. I don't understand why anyone would criticize you for your posts. Please don't think that all of us, or even most of us, feel that way. This is, or should be, a place to say things you can't say in IRL for various reasons, or when you need some extra support.
Edited to add: don't dismiss your words, your thoughts, your feelings as being selfish, because you are fully entitled to feel the way you do. Yes it's unfortunate that you broke down on the phone with your friend. But you are experiencing a loss right now. And seeing your friend going through this can act as a trigger for your own depression. I hope your dh is a good sounding board for you. And I wish you felt this board was as well. I wish I could give you a hug.
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maurchclt
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Jul 4, 2014 16:53:27 GMT
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Post by maurchclt on Apr 5, 2016 20:02:48 GMT
Hugs, I understand exactly what you are doing and why. I still think this is a safe place to share and vent.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 5, 2016 20:04:30 GMT
mama2bailey, I hope you don't run away because I am praying for your friend and I hope to get a positive update at some point in the future. Having been in this situation in the past, I really feel for your friend. And I know this is terribly difficult for you and her husband, as well. Hugs to you.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 5, 2016 20:07:09 GMT
I have no words, other than I am sorry. I can't imagine. Gentle (((hugs))) dear Pea friend.
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Post by peasapie on Apr 5, 2016 21:07:41 GMT
I understand that you're hurting but I think it's a bit of a betrayal of trust to detail what your friend is going through. Just my opinion. I hope that she's on the mend very soon and I wish you the best. Take care. Do you know this person in real life? How can it be a betrayal of trust to discuss this in an anonymous forum? To the OP - one of the best things about this forum, for many of us, is to have an anonymous place to discuss things that trouble us in our real life. I know how upset I was to feel I had lost my very dear cousin when she had her years of psychosis. It felt like a death to me, and it sounds like you are experiencing that same kind of pain. I hope the doctors are able to find a treatment plan for your friend that will allow her to return to mental health again.
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Post by deep on Apr 5, 2016 23:10:51 GMT
Hugs to you. I found your posts really informative. I didn't realize how something like this could suddenly strike. I don't see this as any different than posting for support for a friend with any other illness. I'm sending good thoughts and prayers for your friend, her family and you through her recovery.
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AmeliaBloomer
Drama Llama
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Location: USA
Jun 26, 2014 5:01:45 GMT
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Apr 6, 2016 1:13:51 GMT
If anyone wants any updates past today please feel free to message me. It's not in my best interest to continue and be attacked for it. To those who offered help and suggestions and even prayers I do appreciate it and it truly meant a lot. I posted earlier and was a bit more circumspect, but this ^ has nudged me toward direct: There are posters here whose calling card is "Stop making this all about you," often accompanied by judgmental scolding and internet clairvoyance. They just know things about you that you haven't written. What they don't realize is their comments reveal much more about them than you. Just view that post as an unpleasant blip and focus on the supportive posts. Back to you: The good - no, great - news in your story is that your friend is getting treatment. There are many who don't. Try to remember that as you walk this road.
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