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Post by monklady123 on Apr 2, 2016 16:06:23 GMT
My dd is home for the weekend for a wedding and she told me a story that makes me proud of her and her friends. She's in a small college town in southern Virginia, with an all-male school in the next town. Naturally students from dd's school are invited to frat parties at the all-male school. Dd is a "designated rider" with her sorority -- the "des. rider" goes along with the designated driver so the driver won't be alone on the country roads with possibly drunk people in the car.  Anyway, she and the driver got there and met up with another girl from their school. They were just standing around outside enjoying the nice weather when they saw a girl being half carried out of the frat house by FIVE guys! She was stumbling and not walking on her own and the guys were carrying her and heading off towards the woods in back of the house. Dd and her friends looked at each other and took off after the guys, and blocked them and told them to get lost.  They took the girl back to their school, but then decided that she was acting odd. I mean, as designated drive and rider they've seen a lot of drunk people. So they took her to the ER instead, and it turns out she'd been given the date-rape drug ("roofied"...but I can't think of its real name at the moment)! Dd says that all the sororities at her school give detailed classes on how to avoid those drugs, but this girl isn't in a sorority. I don't know if the school does them in general. But the sorority girls are taught how to avoid them. Yay for the sororities. The girl said later that a "nice guy" had brought her a beer. uh-huh. Most likely that was it because she said she didn't leave her drink sitting around anywhere. Yay for my dd and her friends, and all the other girls who look out for each other. Stress again to your girls/young women about NEVER letting your drink sit around or even letting anyone else fetch you one unless you know and trust that person. |
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Post by utpea on Apr 2, 2016 16:10:52 GMT
That is such a scary story. Thank goodness your DD and her friends stopped things before the situation went horrible awry.
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Post by Patter on Apr 2, 2016 16:11:07 GMT
Oh my! So thankful your daughter and friends stepped in. That girl is definitely blessed to have had them there!!! And thanks for sharing. I will share with my girls again. So very scary for sure!
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Post by Loydene on Apr 2, 2016 16:17:40 GMT
Good for your daughter and her friends! I also think they should report the incident to their school, the frat school and the general frat leadership. It wouldn't be a complaint since the women were clear thinking but it was an extremely suspicious incident ... unless there was hospital in the woods. Under the "looks like a duck" theory -- when something looks like a rapist, acts like a rapist, its likely it IS a rapist.
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Post by zookeeper on Apr 2, 2016 16:39:22 GMT
Bravo for your daughter and her friends! They trusted their instinct and knew that something was amiss. That poor girl averted a horrible thing happening to her!
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Post by teddyw on Apr 2, 2016 16:59:36 GMT
Your dd and friends did a really good thing.
Doesn't it seem like there's a lot more of this roofying going on? My two older dds have both been roofied even with having safety measures in place with their friends. Plus they tell me stories about girls they know having it done.
It's sad the sororities have to have classes to avoid this. I don't have boys so I don't know what frats do to prevent it.
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 2, 2016 17:19:39 GMT
Good for your daughter and her friends! I also think they should report the incident to their school, the frat school and the general frat leadership. It wouldn't be a complaint since the women were clear thinking but it was an extremely suspicious incident ... unless there was hospital in the woods. Under the "looks like a duck" theory -- when something looks like a rapist, acts like a rapist, its likely it IS a rapist.  That girl is very lucky your DD and friends saw what was going on and they really do need to report it to both schools and the local police as well as the frat leadership. |
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Post by jayfab on Apr 2, 2016 17:23:46 GMT
WOW! How scary. Your daughter and her friends did a great thing. Good job girls!
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Post by msliz on Apr 2, 2016 17:38:38 GMT
Showing this post to DD tonight. She's heading off to college next fall.
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Post by ruralgirl on Apr 2, 2016 17:50:26 GMT
I don't even know your daughter and I'm so proud of her for stepping in and taking action. As a mom to a first-year college student this is a huge worry of mine. I sent a text to my daughter as soon as I saw your post reminding her about the dangers of date rape drugs.
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Post by Zee on Apr 2, 2016 18:19:58 GMT
Good, but I hope there was a follow up done. That's a criminal offense.
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Post by needtime2scrap on Apr 2, 2016 18:27:43 GMT
You've raised a good one for sure! I work with most grade 12 students and some of the stories that I hear about parties makes me cringe as a mom! One of my students did tell me that he and another guy pulled off a 3rd guy who was trying to take off a drunk girl's clothes and saved her from probably being raped. I told them I was proud of them and that they should never just stand by.
It just makes me sick that we do all this to protect our girls and women everywhere but what about the men/boys who need to be accountable too? Geez how hard is it to get it in your head that you don't rape someone? I think back to all those news stories from India, where women are raped, sometimes by more than one guy, more than anywhere else in the world but know one is saying anything about the accountability of men! You can't tell me that in a group of 5 guys (from the op's post) that 1 didn't have a thought in his brain that this might be wrong? Sorry about my soapbox rant but this just burns me!
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Post by Suziee2 on Apr 2, 2016 20:02:38 GMT
Your DD and her friend(s) sound very remarkable and brave for stepping in and stopping those boys. Don't want to even think about what would have happened. Great program on the sororities part and I feel it should be a requirement across the country.
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Post by spitfiregirl on Apr 2, 2016 20:16:19 GMT
right place right time for your dd. The girl is so lucky to have been saved. Makes me think this may be a regular occurrence at tat frat house. Also don't you think ER would have to report this to the police?
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Post by elaine on Apr 2, 2016 20:19:35 GMT
I know that I am getting old, but I can't stop thinking about this thread and how disturbing I find it that college-aged men are hunting and preying on young women in packs. It is so base and animalistic and just plain wrong. And they know it is wrong, yet they hunt, drug and rape young women in packs like animals anyhow. eta: yay, for your daughter, monklady123. Give her a hug and a thanks for me. |
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Post by craftykitten on Apr 2, 2016 20:20:30 GMT
I am glad they were able to intercept and rescue the girl.
Another one who is surprised the ER have not had to report this?
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Post by bigbundt on Apr 2, 2016 21:08:58 GMT
Another one who is surprised the ER have not had to report this? I don't know that there was enough info in the OP to determine if they did or did not call. I'd be surprised if they didn't though. I hope they use those boys as an example and nail them to the wall! Good for your daughter and the other girl to step in and rescue that girl! |
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Post by basketdiva on Apr 2, 2016 21:17:12 GMT
If only this could be a proven to really work: www.snopes.com/undercover-colors/Some people feel that it places the blame on the victim if they don't wear this polish but I'm of the opinion that if there is something out there that can prevent a crime, use it. |
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Post by tduby1 on Apr 2, 2016 21:20:20 GMT
I agree with elaine. It is animalistic behavior. You have every reason to be proud of your daughter. |
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Post by casii on Apr 2, 2016 21:21:11 GMT
I hope you don't mind but I sent a screenshot of your story to my college dd.
I'm aghast that men/boys continue to act in such savage, predatorial ways. Where are they getting these drugs and would cutting off the course help?
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Post by anniefb on Apr 2, 2016 21:26:33 GMT
Wow that's scary. So good that your DD and her friends were there.
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Post by TankTop on Apr 2, 2016 21:46:33 GMT
I hope you don't mind but I sent a screenshot of your story to my college dd. I'm aghast that men/boys continue to act in such savage, predatorial ways. Where are they getting these drugs and would cutting off the course help? I sent one to my high school daughter. So proud of your girl! Please tell her a mother of a girl is proud of her. |
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Post by tduby1 on Apr 2, 2016 23:05:10 GMT
I started a conversation not only with my 16 year old daughter but also her 17 year old brother, based on this thread. I Think it's just as important for him to understand that there are people out there who behave this way and those are the people he should not wrap himself up with.
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Post by anonrefugee on Apr 2, 2016 23:19:49 GMT
Yea for your daughter and her driver friend. Good they recognized it was more than drinking and got her help. Can the men be reported? Because they are men- not boys!!!!
It's sickening they would do this! I wonder about their background.
Responsible parents teach their sons, from a nearly age, that this behavior isn't even considered. It's certainly not tolerated.
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Post by hdoublej on Apr 3, 2016 0:18:01 GMT
Another one who is sharing this post with her DD who is a senior in HS and headed to college in the fall. Your DD and her friend did a wonderful thing!!
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Post by monklady123 on Apr 3, 2016 1:53:35 GMT
Sorry I didn't get back to this thread till now.....it's been one of those running around days. You know, a relaxing weekend and all that. Anyway, glad to know that everyone is talking about this to their girls. And boys. Because yes the boys need to hear it too! Also, for those who asked....dd said that the hospital is required to report these things, and she also said it happens more often than we would think. It does seem like it's happening more and more these days, but maybe it's just because it's reported more now? I don't know...but it's sad. Our kids, both genders, need to be sure to look out for the friends they go to a party with. Dd said that it happens a lot that kids go to parties with other friends but then leave with someone else, or get drunk and lose track of who they were with. That leaves kids to make their way home alone, or to go off with people who they shouldn't be with.  |
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Post by lancermom on Apr 3, 2016 3:05:54 GMT
Good for her!!! I hope the girl learned a lesson in taking drinks from strangers. Just tonight my DD was home and talking about a party that was happening at her old house,(just moved out Thurs)
She said she wasn't going to go because it is a drunk fest, and she does not want to be part of it. We talked about drugs too. She said she never leaves her drink, and if she does, she gets a new one. But has only been out to a couple parties.
She told us about former classmate that was drinking and took one pill, had a bad reaction and is now brain dead. Parents have to decide on ending life support.
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Post by jenjie on Apr 3, 2016 3:09:14 GMT
Wow wow wow. Good for dd and her friends for how they handled everything. Well done girls you saved that girl from unspeakable horrors.
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Post by sunraynnc on Apr 3, 2016 5:02:11 GMT
Let me guess, Hampton-Sydney?
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They took the girl back to their school, but then decided that she was acting odd. I mean, as designated drive and rider they've seen a lot of drunk people. So they took her to the ER instead, and it turns out she'd been given the date-rape drug ("roofied"...but I can't think of its real name at the moment)! 
That girl is very lucky your DD and friends saw what was going on and they really do need to report it to both schools and the local police as well as the frat leadership.
