peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Apr 2, 2016 22:12:51 GMT
I'm barely a B cup. Last summer dd jumped into the pool at a family get together and all eyes were on her like when did DD grow up??!!
we had her siz d for a bra recently and she had a meltdown to learn she's a DDD.
Shes not fitting into anything off the racks anymore. We went looking for a swimsuit and another bra for her today. Apparently I'm the stupid mom who doesn't understand.
Shes young and and not comfortable with her body I get that.
So where can I help her shop ? She's modest about these jugs she's got.
Where do women blessed with natural boobs buy swimsuits?
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Post by jenis40 on Apr 2, 2016 22:24:06 GMT
I was a 36G and shopped online at Bare Necessities. They carry a wide range of bras and swimwear. I say this gently, I'm not sure how old your daughter is but I gather she is fairly young. if she gets larger and wants a breast reduction at some point, please hear her out. It really sucks to have breasts that large period. In addition to the unwanted attention and inability to find cute clothes, it can do a real number on your posture and self esteem not to mention the back and shoulder pain. It was something my barely a B cup mother never quite understood.
Obviously any decisions about surgery should be made in conjunction with her doctor. I'm not one nor do I play one on tv. :-)
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Post by KikiPea on Apr 2, 2016 22:26:20 GMT
Do you have a Steinmart? They carry Wacoal brand bras. I am a DDD, and they are just about the only off the rack bras that fit me well. They are lady, so they aren't boring, but they do only come in the three basic colors.
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Post by PolarGreen12 on Apr 2, 2016 22:28:17 GMT
Both Lane Bryant and Torrid have swimsuits based on cup size. And GOOD bras for us DD girls. Plus it helps that they are current with trends, colors, and have lots of options.
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Post by christine58 on Apr 2, 2016 22:29:18 GMT
I was a 36G and shopped online at Bare Necessities. They carry a wide range of bras and swimwear. I say this gently, I'm not sure how old your daughter is but I gather she is fairly young. if she gets larger and wants a breast reduction at some point, please hear her out. It really sucks to have breasts that large period. In addition to the unwanted attention and inability to find cute clothes, it can do a real number on your posture and self esteem not to mention the back and shoulder pain. It was something my barely a B cup mother never quite understood. Obviously any decisions about surgery should be made in conjunction with her doctor. I'm not one nor do I play one on tv. :-) Having a breast reduction was the BEST thing I did for myself. |
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Post by AnotherPea on Apr 2, 2016 22:29:33 GMT
We actually found a few by Kenneth Cole that fit dd. Depending upon who measures her, she's a DDD or an F  |
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Post by sugarmama on Apr 2, 2016 22:33:12 GMT
athleta and title 9 sell swimwear in bra cups and you can mix and match some styles.
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Post by amom23 on Apr 2, 2016 22:33:26 GMT
First off hugs to your daughter. It actually sucks to be large busted. I'm a DD and I really like the minimizing bras at Soma. For swimsuits I buy mine at Lands End.
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peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Apr 2, 2016 22:33:53 GMT
We live in the sticks and have a Walmart. But we were in the city for something so we went to Victoria's Secret where she was sized before but even they don't have too many Ddd but at least they did have one $50 bra she picked out.
I'm not an ogre lol. I'm all about helping her. I really don't like to see her hurting so if she needed a reduction in the future I would do what I could for her. I've seen how people look at her already and yes she's young. It affects her. In a lot of ways.
Thanks. I will check the city for steinmart.
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 2, 2016 22:36:26 GMT
I went from nothing at all to a 28DDD. Bathing suits are very difficult to find in that size that are supportive and cute! I ended up buying a top/bottom separately. It wasn't a comfortable suit and tended to fall off because it wasn't made for my body. In high school, I discovered racing bikinis. They're a sports bra kind of top and bottoms. 25 years later, that's all I will wear! Speedo makes underwire one piece suits that are nice. Bras- go to Nordstrom. Seriously, I did VS (they put me in a 36DD but I should have been in a 32G) and fell out the bottom of the bras. My favorites that don't show nipplage when cold are the Fantasie tee shirt bra. I also like Chantelle but haven't found one that can be worn under tee shirts. Elomi is another large bust maker that is very nice. My nursing bra (yes, 1) is an Elomi. We bought a 38 something or another and had the back brought in to fit me. Nordstrom will do altatins as well. For a sports bra- look into the Natori yogi convertible. Trust me. My mom is queen of the itty bitty titty club. She just didn't get it when I would be in the dressing room in tears. I dreaded swim suit season and formal fittings. Mom ended up making my formals for me.  |
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Post by AnotherPea on Apr 2, 2016 22:37:39 GMT
I will say that Victoria secret is big on vanity sizing. Only they size UP for bras. I'm a DD according to them. I am most comfortable in a C bra. Every woman in my family has a higher cup size in VS than what fitters in department stores have stated.
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Post by jenis40 on Apr 2, 2016 22:53:25 GMT
I will say that Victoria secret is big on vanity sizing. Only they size UP for bras. I'm a DD according to them. I am most comfortable in a C bra. Every woman in my family has a higher cup size in VS than what fitters in department stores have stated. VS is the worst for sizing! I actually had the opposite problem there though. |
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Post by peasapie on Apr 2, 2016 22:54:09 GMT
You've gotten some good suggestions; just want to say I sympathize. My daughter was in a similar size at that age. In her senior year of hs she had a reduction, and it was the best thing ever for her.
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Post by basketdiva on Apr 2, 2016 22:58:51 GMT
I certainly hope your daughter doesn't hear you use terms like "jugs". Won't help her body image at all.
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Post by jenis40 on Apr 2, 2016 23:00:26 GMT
I also second the votes for Wacoal. A little old ladyish but great support and coverage. I will be honest, I never found much above a DD in most brick and mortar stores hence why I went online. If you have a Nordstroms near you, I would recommend them for sizing. It is expensive to buy a bra there but I think you have the best chance of learning her true size.
You sound like an awesome supportive mother. Based on my frustrations in this department, I can't imagine trying to shepherd a possibly moody teenager through it. Sending hugs.
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 2, 2016 23:03:32 GMT
I certainly hope your daughter doesn't hear you use terms like "jugs". Won't help her body image at all. In HS, a guy I have known since before we were born yelled "jugs" across the campus at me. We laughed and laughed and laughed about it. In my yearbook, he wrote "dolly" around my picture. Sometimes you need to have a good sense of humor. |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Apr 2, 2016 23:13:57 GMT
Soma. Best ever!
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peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Apr 2, 2016 23:20:20 GMT
I don't say "jugs" in front of her but she's familiar with my usual mouth.
I do try to make her as comfortable with everything from talking about tampons to her body style
I'm sure at some point she's gonna hear jugs. Not that it should be outta my mouth. But we're realistic here.
The girls got big boobs.
I really do appreciate everyone's help.
A lot of things to think about and a few links I can research. Thank you
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Post by underwatermama on Apr 2, 2016 23:23:15 GMT
I like going to Nordstrom for bras. The ladies there are very nice and helpful. VS is terrible for larger cup sizes.
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Post by TankTop on Apr 2, 2016 23:27:54 GMT
I was that big as a teen. Please let her know that it is possible for them to get smaller over time. Mine did. I think it was all the hormones.
Look at Hapari. I have gotten great suits there. I buy based on cup size. Watch for sales. They run 40% off often. Also, look at Coco Reef suits. Macys sells them. They are bra cup sized.
Also, I know everyone hates VS, but I recently found the best bra of my life there. It is the Body by Victoria Perfect Coverage.
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Post by TankTop on Apr 2, 2016 23:29:08 GMT
Sending you peamail in a minute.
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Post by salem on Apr 2, 2016 23:32:34 GMT
Ugh. I feel for her. I was her as a young teen. It was horrible and the unwanted attention I'm sure makes her very uncomfortable. I hope you find some bra choices that make her feel better.
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Post by mari on Apr 3, 2016 0:08:50 GMT
Figleaves.com has bikinis and tankinis that are sold by cup size. They go up to GG cup and have trendy/young styles.
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Post by kachilyn on Apr 3, 2016 1:05:18 GMT
Lands End sells bathing suits that are available in cup sizes - great for me because I wear an 8/10 in clothing but a 34 DD/DDD bra. I wear their size 10DD tankinis and love them - and they have some cute/younger looking options too. They also last forever. I usually buy one every two years and they don't wear out for well over 5. It's the only way I get something fitting, flattering and nothing hanging out that I don't want! My mom doesn't get it either - she and her sister are Bs/small Cs. Somehow 4 out of their five combined daughters are Ds and up.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Apr 3, 2016 1:52:09 GMT
Skip the tops that tie behind the neck because you end up with a neck ache from the weight of big breasts.
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Post by playingcinderella on Apr 3, 2016 1:52:22 GMT
Torrid carries the only bras I buy any more. Supportive and not old lady!
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Post by mlynn on Apr 3, 2016 1:59:26 GMT
If you are near a Nordstrom, I would go there and ask for help. They have personal shopper people to help. They can help her with bras, swim suits, clothes in general. She may find it very helpful in learning to dress for her body type.
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 3, 2016 2:23:31 GMT
Skip the tops that tie behind the neck because you end up with a neck ache from the weight of big breasts. YES! I forgot to add that! |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Apr 3, 2016 6:33:23 GMT
Skip the tops that tie behind the neck because you end up with a neck ache from the weight of big breasts. These are true words! I gave up on bathing suits, dresses and tops like this. They kill your neck if you have boobs that are heavy. |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Apr 3, 2016 6:36:48 GMT
I have a pretty Wacoal bra. It is darker than mint green and much lighter than teal, it is sheer without being too sexy. It has great coverage, it is pretty to look at, the fabric isn't itchy and it is a 38DDD. I would see what you can find by Wacoal that doesn't look too old ladyish because I have some that are really pretty! I have pink, purple, black, teal and I had a blue one because I ordered and while it fit I couldn't wear it. (I couldn't live with the size it was 38G.)
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