Peamac
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Jun 26, 2014 0:09:18 GMT
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Post by Peamac on Apr 12, 2016 19:06:28 GMT
He knows I know. He sent me a subsequent text saying, "Please disregard." You know, it's entirely possible that either- a) he wanted you to see it and get the divorce ball rolling, or b) his new interest sent the text (and the response) so you'd get the divorce ball rolling (and he didn't know she sent them). Either way, you know for sure now what you need to do, and can pursue legal action with a clear conscience. While you're in the middle of discussions with lawyers and STBX, remembering that text can help keep you going (and even show it to him to remind him of why you are divorcing).
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Post by twinks on Apr 12, 2016 19:15:23 GMT
Wow! "Please disregard" is the best line ever! My attorney told me to let my X dig his own hole. It seems like your STBX has a good start.
Someone earlier addressed the fact that you have a special needs 17 year old. Yes, they are more expensive and can sometimes take a lifetime of care. This does need to be addressed, however, you need to keep in mind government assistance as well. I would definitely have a "special needs trust" drawn up while you are doing things for when your child turns 18 years old. That way, and if it is drawn up correctly, will not affect any SSI or other government assistance that is available because of the SSI.
You can do this. It will be hard and there will be some days you will wonder if you are ever going to be okay. You are okay and you will be okay.
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anniebygaslight
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Jun 28, 2014 14:08:19 GMT
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Post by anniebygaslight on Apr 12, 2016 21:11:30 GMT
What a knob. You deserve better than this. x
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Post by librarylady on Apr 13, 2016 1:55:21 GMT
He knows I know. He sent me a subsequent text saying, "Please disregard." Seriously- he expected you to disregard the text??? That is pretty ridiculous and big balls to say "please disregard." sheesh what a darling. I can see why you feel relieved.
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Post by joylynaroundthebnd on Apr 13, 2016 3:37:50 GMT
Wow, just wow. Wishing you all the best.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 13, 2016 8:38:40 GMT
I predict "please disregard " will become a new Peas catchphrase. Like public cheese and sidewalk cupcakes.
I am glad you got the information you needed and deserved, OP.
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peabrain
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Jun 25, 2014 22:18:04 GMT
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Post by peabrain on Apr 13, 2016 12:51:03 GMT
One day if he ever comes to his senses and tries to come crawling back to you....your text should simply be "Please Disregard"
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Post by katieanna on Apr 13, 2016 16:06:02 GMT
"Please disregard" Now that takes the cake! I'm so sorry but it sounds like you've been expecting it. I pray that all works out well for you and your children. Hang in there!
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Apr 13, 2016 16:48:15 GMT
and don't use your debit card for expensive hotel rooms.
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Post by Drew on Jun 30, 2016 15:05:05 GMT
Bump for update.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 30, 2016 15:08:38 GMT
I haven't read all the responses but hang in there and move on from the jerk!! My sister is going through a divorce and she has never been happier. Not one single regret except that she waited to long.. oh and maybe she shouldn't have married him to begin with (except for her kiddos)....it took her almost 20 years.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 30, 2016 15:09:45 GMT
I hope you have a fabulous new life in Phoenix. Asshole doesn't deserve you.
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Post by threegirls on Jun 30, 2016 15:10:12 GMT
Thanks for the update. Good luck on your move and new life. It sounds like things are headed in the right direction for you.
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scrappert
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Jul 11, 2014 21:20:09 GMT
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Post by scrappert on Jun 30, 2016 15:11:38 GMT
Thanks for the update, Drew. I have been thinking of you often and wondered what was going on. Glad you have plans in motion and good luck in Phoenix!
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Post by christine58 on Jun 30, 2016 15:13:26 GMT
Great update...
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Post by Rainy_Day_Woman on Jun 30, 2016 15:28:33 GMT
Good luck with the new start!
'Please disregard' was just so epic. I am sorry you had to live it but you got a great story out of it. LOL! Thanks for updating.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 30, 2016 15:33:07 GMT
Good luck w/your move and fresh start.
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oldcrow
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Jun 26, 2014 12:25:29 GMT
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Post by oldcrow on Jun 30, 2016 15:37:27 GMT
holy shit. Be strong. Does he know you know? You know the 2Peas rules: document, and save all important information. He knows I know. He sent me a subsequent text saying, "Please disregard." Sometimes I wonder how men's brains work. Reminds me of the joke. "God, loved men so much he gave them two heads. But God is a jokester so he only gave them enough blood to work one at a time.
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christinec68
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Jun 26, 2014 18:02:19 GMT
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Post by christinec68 on Jun 30, 2016 15:40:11 GMT
Good luck with the move and starting your new life.
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seaexplore
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Post by seaexplore on Jun 30, 2016 15:42:09 GMT
Awesome update! Enjoy the new life and your family!
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peabay
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Jun 25, 2014 19:50:41 GMT
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Post by peabay on Jun 30, 2016 15:42:17 GMT
Best of luck to you with your new life. I'm glad you'll be getting support. Hang in there!
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Post by Blind Squirrel on Jun 30, 2016 15:42:50 GMT
Best wishes for your fresh start!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2016 15:52:56 GMT
All the very best of luck for your fabulous future.
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GiantsFan
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Jun 27, 2014 14:44:56 GMT
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Post by GiantsFan on Jun 30, 2016 15:53:06 GMT
Best wishes for your fresh start!
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Post by Scrappyhappy on Jun 30, 2016 15:58:37 GMT
Thanks for the update. I wish you and your kids the best!
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Post by mom on Jun 30, 2016 16:03:00 GMT
Drew you had been on my mind....glad to see that you are getting things worked out for you. We are here if you need us.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jun 30, 2016 16:11:17 GMT
holy shit. Be strong. Does he know you know? You know the 2Peas rules: document, and save all important information. He knows I know. He sent me a subsequent text saying, "Please disregard." This is the first time I've seen this thread and I hate to admit it, but since you are doing fine, I'll tell you that the above made me laugh out loud.
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purplebee
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Jun 27, 2014 20:37:34 GMT
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Post by purplebee on Jun 30, 2016 16:15:53 GMT
Good luck, Drew. I wish you joy and contentment in Arizona. Thanks for the update.
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Post by gillyp on Jun 30, 2016 16:16:45 GMT
Good luck with your fresh start!
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Post by Frazzled Mom on Jun 30, 2016 16:27:47 GMT
As one who's been in the same boat, I wish you every happiness as you head into your better future. You made a hard choice. but it will be worth it!
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