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Post by gryroagain on Apr 24, 2016 16:16:16 GMT
Are you venting about dh? Because I'm about to lose m,y shit with him over complaining about his weight, various ailments from it, making huge changes in our diet (many times!) being supportive of gym time and whatever else,,,and the man still drinks 5 pops a day and eat fast food nonstop. So, duh, he isnt losing. Which I don't much care about, but he does, or says so anyway.
I can't really say anything of course, but geez- just be chubby and own it or commit to a diet. Stop this!
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M in Carolina
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Post by M in Carolina on Apr 24, 2016 19:02:24 GMT
You are a freaking adult. Yes, I know your meds make you fall asleep where you are--I have some that does the same thing.
GO TO BED! TAKE THE MEDS AFTER YOU GET IN BED! I'll watch TV upstairs with you. Yes, I know you have to go pee all the time and your bladder disease makes that difficult. You can sleep downstairs for hours without peeing.
JUST FREAKING TRY IT!
and don't get pissy at me when I try to wake you up for the eleventy billionth time I'M TRYING TO HELP!
I've also told him to go back to the urologist and get the supplies to cath. Does he listen? No.
I'm so sick of this I could scream.
I get the frustration of people doing stuff that isn't good for them. My SIL is celiac but isn't compliant--except when it gets her attention and causes drama. (like we can't have ___ for Christmas because SIL can't eat that) And she wonders why she can't lose weight and feels bad all the time...
I get doing stuff that isn't the best for you, but not big stuff that seriously compromises your health. I can't eat as healthy as I'd like, but I'm not going to take up smoking like a lot of the other pain patients do--don't care if it makes them feel better. I've seen what smoking does to you.
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 24, 2016 19:25:32 GMT
Argh. I get that everyone males their own mistakes...including me. Especially me. But DH has a family member that has devoted her life to making the same mistakes over and over. She'd tell you it's because 'she believes in love and she will never stop'. Her belief in 'love' has meant that in the last 30+ years, she has been the female equivalent of a Ferris wheel, for men;hop on, take a spin, get off and move to the next ride. Marry one, have an affair, have a baby, back to the husband when the boyfriend flips out, have another baby, divorce, marry, have another baby, have an affair or three, divorce, marry again, divorce. In between marriages, there are multiple relationships, engagements, entanglements. She leaves jobs for new men. She's uprooted her children for new men. She's looking for Prince Charming with a good income, who will make it so she doesn't have to work; so she has a nice, comfy life while having to do nothing to contribute. She doesn't clean, cook, grocery shop, do laundry unless she has no clothes left. She doesn't volunteer, grow things, carpool or help anyone that requires her to leave the apt. Currently- no man, no job, no prospects - her full-time job is finding a way to collect long term disability so that she never has to work again. She's 50 years old. It amazes me that she has spent 30+ years, getting engaged, married, pregnant and divorced over and over again- and never thought "What am I doing?? I need to make a change. I need to be a better example to my kids." She thinks her relatives with better/different lives are 'lucky' and that somehow she missed out on the 'luck'. She doesn't think they've worked hard, persevered, sacrificed, put time and effort into building the life they want. They're 'lucky'. She's not. Period. It's frustrating and infuriating. There is nothing preventing her from getting a job and turning her life around. Her kids are grown or nearly grown; the last one leaves home soon. She should be making decisions and plans- but she's just researching how to get money for nothing. She's totally willing to take $ away from people who really need it, in order to avoid getting a job. At some point, she will (again) look to extended family members to bail her out. I think maybe she's finally at the point where no one will step up. It will be interesting. it's been my experience that family helps out while there are children in the home so the children don't suffer. Once the kids are adulta, the help seems to dry up.
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M in Carolina
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Post by M in Carolina on Apr 24, 2016 20:14:29 GMT
Argh. I get that everyone males their own mistakes...including me. Especially me. But DH has a family member that has devoted her life to making the same mistakes over and over. She'd tell you it's because 'she believes in love and she will never stop'. Her belief in 'love' has meant that in the last 30+ years, she has been the female equivalent of a Ferris wheel, for men;hop on, take a spin, get off and move to the next ride. Marry one, have an affair, have a baby, back to the husband when the boyfriend flips out, have another baby, divorce, marry, have another baby, have an affair or three, divorce, marry again, divorce. In between marriages, there are multiple relationships, engagements, entanglements. She leaves jobs for new men. She's uprooted her children for new men. She's looking for Prince Charming with a good income, who will make it so she doesn't have to work; so she has a nice, comfy life while having to do nothing to contribute. She doesn't clean, cook, grocery shop, do laundry unless she has no clothes left. She doesn't volunteer, grow things, carpool or help anyone that requires her to leave the apt. Currently- no man, no job, no prospects - her full-time job is finding a way to collect long term disability so that she never has to work again. She's 50 years old. It amazes me that she has spent 30+ years, getting engaged, married, pregnant and divorced over and over again- and never thought "What am I doing?? I need to make a change. I need to be a better example to my kids." She thinks her relatives with better/different lives are 'lucky' and that somehow she missed out on the 'luck'. She doesn't think they've worked hard, persevered, sacrificed, put time and effort into building the life they want. They're 'lucky'. She's not. Period. It's frustrating and infuriating. There is nothing preventing her from getting a job and turning her life around. Her kids are grown or nearly grown; the last one leaves home soon. She should be making decisions and plans- but she's just researching how to get money for nothing. She's totally willing to take $ away from people who really need it, in order to avoid getting a job. At some point, she will (again) look to extended family members to bail her out. I think maybe she's finally at the point where no one will step up. It will be interesting. it's been my experience that family helps out while there are children in the home so the children don't suffer. Once the kids are adulta, the help seems to dry up. My dh has a cousin that is a trainwreck. Drug abuse, a child that her parents are raising. She posts her trainwreck of a life on Facebook--vaguebooking at it's finest. She's only focused on men. The same ones who treat her horribly, but she goes back over and over. Her parents bail her out because they feel guilty--they worked constantly and were never home. Her brother married a great girl and has done well. She just can't focus on getting her life together. It's so infuriating to see this over and over and keep our mouths closed. We'd just block her, but that would cause family drama...
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