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Post by alexa11 on Apr 24, 2016 0:03:30 GMT
I'm 56 and a year and a half out of a 22-yr relationship. I've been on a few online dates- nobody that I'm even remotely interested in. OK- bear with my rambling...
I've been seeing this guy at the gym- not dating- just seeing him in the gym. He looks close to my age and he's noticed me, too. So, the other day I was getting water and went back to workout and 30-yr old DD was talking to him. He went somewhere else to workout and DD said that he helped her lower a cable that she couldn't reach. Now, DD has been dying to say something to him about me and I have threatened her with her life if she does. Ok- so we continue our workout. About 20 minutes later he walks back up to us and says something like "You two are still at it?" It was directed at me and then he says he has to go for a dr's appointment. DD said he came out of locker room and went out of his way to come talk. He could have walked straight out the door.
A few days pass and I see him again today. We spoke and that was it. He had plenty of opportunities to talk to me- DD wasn't there. But nothing.
Two questions- I'm wondering if he's interested in her? And do I approach him and make small talk or just wait on him to make the next move? I do not want to appear like I'm chasing this man, especially if he wants a young babe. DD has no interest in him at all-lol.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2016 0:13:07 GMT
Next time you see him, just smile and say hello...then come back and post the details.  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2016 0:14:56 GMT
Your post makes me smile!  Are YOU interested in him? You didn't really say. If you are, I would keep making eye contact and try to chat here and there over the next few weeks. It's fairly easy at the gym to chat people up - can always talk about the weights. (I def wouldn't make a big move on him right away just in case he turns out to be a weirdo lol.) |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Apr 24, 2016 0:16:38 GMT
Personally I would wait it out, and see if he cont's to talk to just you. Then go with DD and see if he talks to her more. KWIM? I have to give it to you. If my marriage ended, and I'm close to your age, I think I'd be done with men. HA!!
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 24, 2016 0:26:14 GMT
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Post by MichyM on Apr 24, 2016 2:32:56 GMT
I'm in awe that you've been dating a bit! I'm 3 years out of a 23 year marriage and the idea of dating scares the heck out of me  Anyhow, I'll be looking for an update (sorry, clearly I have no advice). Good luck! |
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Post by GiantsFan on Apr 24, 2016 2:41:45 GMT
I say talk to him. Make small talk about workouts, machines, etc. and get a feel if he's worth making a move on.
(I had to ask my DH out on the first date, so I'm not opposed to girls asking guys out).
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Post by scrapaddie on Apr 24, 2016 2:59:34 GMT
You are a better woman than I!! After leaving a 32 year marriage, I have no interest in jumping back in the pond!!
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Post by freebird on Apr 24, 2016 3:01:22 GMT
"Morning! How are you doing today?" can open a lot of potential doors.
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Post by Zee on Apr 24, 2016 3:01:24 GMT
He was probably going to a cardiologist appointment, run |
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Post by annabella on Apr 24, 2016 3:19:09 GMT
It sounds like your daughter has an easier time making conversation with him, that's it, doesn't mean he's more interested in her. The first priority is finding out if he's married, he may not wear a ring. He may have the same hesitations you have, not wanting to make the first move, not into dating, etc. Doesn't mean he's not your next life partner!
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Post by mlynn on Apr 24, 2016 4:56:54 GMT
"I am about to get something to drink. Feeling thirsty?"
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Post by penny on Apr 24, 2016 10:02:55 GMT
Next time you see him you could thank him for helping your daughter with that cable thingy... See his response - if he looks like he's just been caught by the mom of the girl he was going to hit on...lol Hopefully he'll say something sweet, maybe mention how helped her so none of the young gym rat guys went over to 'help' her, and you can take the conversation from there... Your daughter gave you a topic/excuse to talk to him... Once you use that to start the conversation, you can just see where the conversation goes...
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Post by oldcrow on Apr 24, 2016 16:43:48 GMT
I like to go to the manosphere and read. I am much older than you and in a marriage so I read there for entertainment. I laugh my ass off at most of it.
You say you see him at the gym, have you been talking with him. Is this the first time your DD has been there with you.
If you have not had conversation up to this point and he *helps* her right off the bat my guess is that he is interested in DD. Sorry.
I hate to break it to you but DD is just about the right age for him in his mind. Although younger would be great for him too.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Apr 24, 2016 19:08:24 GMT
I say take initiative and speak to him. Why are you dithering and making him do all the work? If you're interested, be interested. It's just talking and being social.
Women need to stop being so passive and waiting for a man to make the first move.
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Anyhow, I'll be looking for an update (sorry, clearly I have no advice). Good luck!
