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Post by ilikepink on Apr 26, 2016 18:40:15 GMT
Married twice, divorced twice. Was 25 (he was 30) the first time. 3 great boys. It ended at about 6 years because I cheated. I was alone for 5 years, met DH2. We were married for about 15 years when he cheated. Stayed together only until I go my act together to leave, which I did about a year after I found out. No regrets, though - 3 great boys that the DH1 and I made, and DH2 and I turned into 3 great men.
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Post by pmm on Apr 26, 2016 18:46:40 GMT
Divorced. Married in 1989, I was 19. Our divorce was final 10 days before our 20th wedding anniversary. Ultimately, I left because of his drinking. I thought he had a problem and he didn't. He was also a cheater, a liar, and abusive.
I've been divorced 7 years now and my kids are finally grown. I've tried online dating without any luck. I'm at the point where I've had so many people in and out of my life (both female friends and men) that I am done. I'm tired of having my feelings hurt.
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Post by peasapie on Apr 26, 2016 18:53:57 GMT
I was married for 22 years before I left my husband. I remarried at 45.
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Post by Sorrel on Apr 26, 2016 18:54:21 GMT
Married in 1999, divorced 2012. 2 kids. Ex-DH is a good person and a good dad, but we were just incompatible as spouses. I blame myself for not seeing it sooner, but I didn't. He lives a few blocks away and we share custody, and we are both much happier, and better parents for it. I have been remarried for one year.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2016 18:56:20 GMT
Married once. Divorced after not even 3 years. We were too young and wanted different things. Second marriage was for almost 6 years and ended due to his infidelity...multiple times. I only knew of 2 at the time but more came out of the woodwork. We were married on May 6th and he was served with divorce papers on May 6th. I've been with my SO for 5 years. He has his house. I have mine and I like it that way
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Post by littlemama on Apr 26, 2016 19:00:36 GMT
If so how many times (if you don't mind answering that)? And how many years were you married when it happened. In what year were you married? You can add the reason for your divorce if you wish. I simply wish to collect some data to fuel a discussion about divorce and what %age of marriages end in divorce. The Peas are a nice cross section society. I don't think you are going to get the data you are looking for since only people who have actually been divorced are going to respond to your post, for the most part. It doesn't really answer what %age of marriages end in divorce.
By the way, married for 20 years one week from today.
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Post by joelise on Apr 26, 2016 19:01:39 GMT
Married in 1987, divorced 20 years later due to his infidelity, the biggest shock ever!
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Post by peanuttle on Apr 26, 2016 19:05:02 GMT
In October we will be married 15 year. Met him at 20, dated for 6 years.
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Post by 2peafaithful on Apr 26, 2016 19:14:03 GMT
Married twice and divorced once.
1st marriage 10 years, 2 kids and that was 17 or so years ago.
I stayed single for 7 years and remarried in 2005.
My first dh had an affair with a coworker and they said they (once things came out) that they had planned on never telling but her dh found out and he filed for divorce the next day. Her dh was a state trooper and they also had 2 kids and I think had been married around the same time we had been.
They didn't end up marrying. His family didn't like her and that included our sons.
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Post by shelby on Apr 26, 2016 19:26:33 GMT
When dh and I were married it was the first time for both of us. We will be married for 58 years in November. I Can't even begin to think of life without him. I've been truly blessed.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2016 19:37:38 GMT
Never divorced. Will be celebrating our 24th wedding anniversary next month.
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Post by twinks on Apr 26, 2016 19:39:36 GMT
Married in 1982 and divorce became final in 1989 though we were together 2 years and 3 months. One child. In those 2 years there were 5 times that I had to seek medical treatment for injuries. The final time I ended up in ICU for 5 days, had a broken back, several broken ribs, a collapsed lung, broken orbital, broken nose (for the 3rd time), broken wrist, arm and elbow, and a ruptured spleen. He basically took a baseball bat to me and then threw me down some cement stairs. It was a first marriage for both of us. I have never remarried, he has remarried and has 2 children. He has nothing to do with our DD - never has and never will. There is direct medical evidence that her brain damage was caused when I was 17 weeks pregnant with her.
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Post by leannec on Apr 26, 2016 19:40:10 GMT
I've never been divorced, nor has dh ... we've been married for 18 years
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Post by Linda on Apr 26, 2016 19:41:24 GMT
DH and I are both on our first marriage - we did however separate for 7.5 years (and the birth of one child) between our first engagement and actually marrying.
We are the only couple in our extended family though where neither has been divorced.
On my side - my mum was Dad's second wife. Her brother had two divorces. My dad's brother divorced and his second wife was previously divorced. My older sister has been divorced twice. My younger sister once (her ex had already been divorced once when they married, her current partner has two divorces under his belt).
On Dh's side - his paternal grandparents divorced (in fact his grandmother had 3 husbands and an annulment for bigamy). His parents were divorced. His six siblings - #1 divorced twice,#2 divorced 3 times, was divorcing the 4th when he died, #3 divorced 5 times (four from the same guy - he died before the fifth divorce was final), #4 never married, #5 had 3 divorces (I think) and #6 had 2. All of the adult grandchildren (except my oldest who is still single and a nephew who is partnered but not married) have either been divorced and/or married someone who had been)
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Post by Delta Dawn on Apr 26, 2016 19:42:22 GMT
Married and divorced once. Married for a whole 18 months too long.
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Post by shelby on Apr 26, 2016 20:01:55 GMT
Twinks, what a horrible thing to go through. Thank heavens you survived and were able to get away from him. I can't understand after what he did to you he was able to be free and marry again. He should have been in prison for many many years.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2016 20:03:24 GMT
No. Married at 19, twenty five years ago.
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Post by tc on Apr 26, 2016 20:03:34 GMT
Yes. Married the first time in 1997 at the age of 21 and divorce was final in 2006. No kids. The reason? I always tell people instead of growing apart, we never truly grew together. I tried my best, but in the end, neither one of us was happy (more like we were both miserable) nor wanted to keep working at it. Luckily (?) we were both in the same emotional place at the same time and it was about as amicable as it could have been. I have circumstantial evidence he was cheating, but since it was a no fault divorce state, in the end it doesn't really matter. Sometimes it seems like that marriage happened to a different person and I'm telling someone else's story when I talk about it.
Married the second time in 2012 and it's a completely different situation. We're still together.
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 26, 2016 20:05:06 GMT
Married once- divorced once- 14 years-2 daughters. Just wanted different things. Was then in a 22-yr relationship, but never married. That ended a year and a half ago- feels more like divorce than the first one.
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Post by pastlifepea on Apr 26, 2016 20:13:03 GMT
Been married for 16 years...no previous marriages for me but DH was married for 7 years prior to us meeting. For the record, he was legally separated but divorce was not yet final when we met. His ex-wife instigated the divorce so I had nothing to do with it. We went through a rough patch recently but we're now in a better place than we have been for probably the last 4 years and are fully committed to our lives together.
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Post by lbp on Apr 26, 2016 20:20:39 GMT
Nope. First marriage for both of us. We will be celebrating 36 years in May!
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Post by 5peanutsnana on Apr 26, 2016 20:27:08 GMT
First marriage for both. I was 19, he was 22 when we married. Will celebrate 49 years in August. God has blessed me real good!
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Post by jenb72 on Apr 26, 2016 20:58:06 GMT
I've been married once and divorced once. We married in 1993 (I was 20 and he was 22) and divorced in 2010, so we were married for 17 years. Honestly, we're both better off.
My SO was married and divorced once - 1993 to 2003, so 10 years.
Neither of us were in very happy marriages. However, we're both very happy now and I don't anticipate us splitting up - whether we eventually marry or not.
Hope that gives you what you need!
Jen
ETA: to add ages
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Post by piebaker on Apr 26, 2016 21:14:15 GMT
DH and I were both widowed after long first marriages of twenty-plus years. Both single for five years between the first marriage and this one. We hope to grow old together. We were extremely lucky to find each other.
Something like forty percent of all marriages (first, second, third) end in divorce. Many of these stories tell of abuse and my thoughts are with those of you that feared for your safety.
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Post by scrapaddie on Apr 26, 2016 21:15:08 GMT
Married in 74. Divorced after32 years
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2016 21:18:01 GMT
Hi Never been divorced. I've been with hubby for going on 22 years. We are completely opposites and love it.
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Post by MsKnit on Apr 26, 2016 21:31:01 GMT
Divorced 2 years after I was married. I left him after 11 months. It took longer to get the divorce than we were together as a married couple.
I was young and stupid. He thought I would never leave him. Wasn't long after the abuse started, I left. Sad to say, I looked past some of it. He was shocked when he came home to no me or my stuff.
I paid for the divorce. He still thought I was going to come back.
ETA: I did remarry. He's a wonderful husband and father. We've been married for 22 years and have one adult child. He had never been married.
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Post by stargazer on Apr 26, 2016 21:31:46 GMT
I've been married nearly 22 years. Only marriage for both of us. I was 20, he was 23.
My sister who is 18 years older than me, married in 1974 (first marriage for both of them) & divorced about 4 years later, saying that she should never have married him. She married again in 1986 (his first marriage) & divorced him in 1991. She remarried in 1997 (his 2nd) & they are still together.
Our mum was separated from her dad when she was about 6 & finally divorced 3 years later, due to DV & his abandonment. She married my dad when my sister was 10 (had known him forever, he was best man at her first wedding!)
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Post by mom2rjcr on Apr 26, 2016 21:41:20 GMT
Married my first husband in January of 1992, filed for divorce one year later. He was physically, verbally, emotionally abusive. He had a drug problem and lost his job shortly after we married and decided he didn't need to work anymore since I was. I was young and stupid, he was older and manipulative. We had no children. I remarried in 1994 and DH and I getting ready to celebrate our 22nd wedding anniversary. He is an amazing man and we have 4 children. I have an amazing life!
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Post by yoursweetwhimsy on Apr 26, 2016 21:46:19 GMT
First marriage for both of us and been married 23 years. We are the first marriage to last on my side of the family in generations. Multiple divorces among siblings and parents happening around us right now. I got crazy lucky..he is awesome.
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