StephDRebel
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Location: Ohio
Jul 5, 2014 1:53:49 GMT
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 26, 2016 22:04:18 GMT
Divorced once and remarried.
We divorced because im a giant hateful bitch who couldnt/wouldnt get along with his girlfriend.
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Post by wagleg on Apr 26, 2016 22:33:22 GMT
I've been married 3 times. First, married at 21 and divorced 18 months later. He was in Med school and thought taking injectable drugs to help him sleep was ok. He got kicked out of the Air Force the year following our divorce. He is currently serving a 12 year term for a multi state drug charge. Once again he thought it was ok to sell MS Contin prescriptions.
2nd husband together for 4 years, married and divorced after 16 months. He was sleeping with a coworker. His alimony gave me a roof over my head to finish nursing school.
3rd time was a charm, I knew the night I met him he was the one I had been waiting for. We've been married 17 yes in June and have 2 beautiful daughters. He is the kindest person I know and an awesome husband and father.
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Deleted
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2016 22:36:44 GMT
Married 3 times, divorced twice
#1: married when I was 20 - divorced at 27. He was abusing and controlling and it took an intervention by my co-workers to get me to leave. We didn't have children.
#2: married when I was 30 - divorced when I was 37. He was having an affair with my best friend. Found out about it when we were on vacation and she called to tell him she was pregnant. We adopted 2 boys - he has no relationship with oldest and very little with youngest.
#3: married when I was 40 - still married but you can see the pattern....as we get closer to year 7 I get anxious. I'm convinced I can't manage a marriage past year 8.
If marriage #3 fails I will be single for the rest of my life...I'm done with relationships.....
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georgiapea
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Jun 27, 2014 18:02:10 GMT
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Post by georgiapea on Apr 26, 2016 22:41:31 GMT
I was married to husband #1 for 4.5 years. I've been married to husband #2 for 39 years.
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Post by shaniam on Apr 26, 2016 23:09:16 GMT
Married once. It will be 26 years this summer.
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J u l e e
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Location: Cincinnati
Jun 28, 2014 2:50:47 GMT
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Post by J u l e e on Apr 26, 2016 23:32:33 GMT
Married at 23 to college sweetheart. We were total "Good Time Charlies" in college and my husband never grew up. He is an alcoholic and a cheater. I signed our divorce papers on our seven year anniversary, then lived five years very happily single. Married again at 34 to the single best human being I know. I never planned to get married again but that was 15 years ago and I have the best life I could ever have imagined!
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 26, 2016 23:34:09 GMT
DH and I are still married. We've been married for 14 years.
My parents will hit 50 in 2017 and my in laws are at 45 or so.
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Post by SnoopyFan on Apr 26, 2016 23:48:41 GMT
I always tell people instead of growing apart, we never truly grew together. This describes my marriage. I married in 1991. First marriage for me; second marriage for him. Last year, just a couple of weeks after our 24th anniversary I told him I thought it was time for us to go our separate ways. He was in total shock. He told me that he knew I was unhappy but had no idea I was that unhappy. I mentioned to him that we have nothing in common expect for our boys (we have three). He said he thought we had a lot in common but then couldn't name a single thing except for our boys. He's a good man and I don't regret marrying him. I will always love him because he's the father of our children, but I don't want to live with a roommate for the rest of my life -- and that's what he is and has been for a very, very long time. He's 53 and I'm 47. We've both got a lot of years (hopefully!) left in us. I think initially it will be hard, but in the long run we will both be much happier apart. I truly want nothing but the best for him. My boys (all in their 20s) told me that they've been waiting for me to leave for years. They didn't understand why I've stayed as long as I have. I explained that it was money that kept me here. I was a SAHM the whole time they were growing up and don't have the job skills to support myself. Yet. I'm working on that! Once I get through school and get a full time job DH and I will divorce. We can't afford separate households until I'm working full time.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 0:12:33 GMT
Married in June, 1987 divorce should be final before our 29th anniversary arrives.
Was a SAHM from 1993 - 2015. (with the exception of a job in the 2011-2013 period of time that kind of fell into my lap)
Got a full time job in a law firm back in November and while there are days that I don't think I can handle any more crazy (had a lady call yesterday because she was unable to open a FedEx box I sent her) I love the people I work with.
With that said, I'll be receiving child support for a year (DS turns 18 in Dec 2016 and will graduate from high school in May, 2017) but will be receiving not only alimony for 18 yrs, but half of all bonuses and incentives that STBXH will receive for the next 18 yrs. He'll be 70yrs old and still be paying me. (he earns roughly 8 times what I earn, so frankly, I don't see me ever earning enough that would warrant any kind of reduction)
I can't wait to be on my own and not tiptoeing around a controlling fool and dealing with his nonsense on a daily basis. Honestly, I can't ever see me being in a relationship again. Part of that is that I've been with him for so long, I just yearn to be on my own and do my own thing.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 0:31:59 GMT
Married in 1988 for 10 years. I left when I realized that my life was horrible and my kids were suffering. It's been 18 years and I think I dodged a bullet by leaving. He probably would have hurt me if I had stayed. Married in 2013 to a man who had 4 previous marriages. We're a great match in spite of a 15 year age difference. Your marriage sound like a friend of mine's. She married a man who had been married five times. They just recently celebrated their 30th anniversary and are so very happy together.
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Post by countrychick on Apr 27, 2016 0:32:52 GMT
I have been with my DH for just over 20 years and married for nearly 5 of them.
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Post by seikashaven on Apr 27, 2016 0:41:17 GMT
First marriage for both DH and I. We've been together 14 years and married 10 of them. I consider myself lucky that our hard times have brought us together rather than splitting us apart. Here's hoping we make it for the long haul.
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Post by missfrenchjessica on Apr 27, 2016 0:45:04 GMT
No, but I did consider it about 2 years ago.
My husband really shattered my trust in him. Not once, not twice, but several times. I was told by my kids what he'd done. He yelled at them for telling me.
He's very lucky I didn't kick his butt out the door.
We've worked hard to get back to a good place.
I've worked very hard to trust him again. There are days that are harder than others, but after 2 years, we're back in a good place.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Apr 27, 2016 0:46:36 GMT
No. We celebrated 12 years on Sunday.
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 27, 2016 0:47:44 GMT
I was married in 1980 and divorced in 1985. We were both 23 when we married. We divorced because we were incompatible, XDH was not interested in married life by my definition and expectations. I was 23 and thought I should be married and he was the person I was with. It was a very troubled union. We were together only a total of 2.5 years. I filed the divorce and did all the paperwork myself. We had no children or assets.
We still communicate. I was his first wife. His 3rd marriage just ended after 6 months. He's engaged again. He told me he likes to be in a marriage relationship but he still seems to have problems in this area.
I married a second time at age 31 and we have just had our 28th anniversary. DH had not been married before. We struggle because I am kind of damaged goods and so is he in different ways, but I would not like to see us split. I think we both see our future being better than things are now.
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Post by impearia on Apr 27, 2016 0:59:53 GMT
Married twice, divorced once.
Married my first husband when I was 24 (too young) and he was 32. The age difference was a lot more important than I thought. We were married just over 10 years, but we were separated for about 9 months before the divorce was final. One child. My ex husband is not a bad guy, but we were bad for each other. He had an idealized version of me living in his head which did not fit the reality of who I really am. I also believe the birth of our daughter was difficult for him. He was used to being babied and hated it when there was a real baby to care for. He loved our daughter, but he was incapable of caring for her and did not care to learn. I had my wisdom teeth out, and he couldn't even watch her while I rested afterwards...hopeless! The last year or two we were married we barely spoke at all.
Second marriage for me, first for my current husband. We have been married almost 7 years now, very happily. There is only a year separating us in age. We have two children together and my eldest daughter lives with us full time as well. He treats her just like the other kids, most people don't realize she is not his daughter by blood . The prefix "step" is not used in my house.
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Post by femalebusiness on Apr 27, 2016 2:29:56 GMT
Met my husband in 1967, married him in 1969, still very happily married.
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Post by SallyPA on Apr 27, 2016 3:36:39 GMT
Married once. In 1996. Divorced 2009 (13 years). Reason - in his words "midlife crisis"
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Post by lisacharlotte on Apr 27, 2016 3:38:49 GMT
married once and still. 26 years this year. I was 25, him 32. Only marriage for both. Hit a really rough patch at 7 years, didn't think we'd make it. Him retiring from the Air Force and a move helped bring us back together. No infidelity, mostly his work schedule meant we never spent time together. I felt like a single mom while he had fun with his coworkers on their odd days off. I actually had to issue an ultimatum and told him he had to decide to be married or single. Married and acting single wasn't working for me. I'm so thankful we made it thru, he's not just my husband but best friend.
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Mary Kay Lady
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Apr 27, 2016 3:49:07 GMT
I've been married once and am currently separated. We married in 1987. We separated after 24 years due to his alcoholism.
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Why
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Jun 26, 2014 4:03:09 GMT
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Post by Why on Apr 27, 2016 4:17:35 GMT
1st marriage 1962-1967 -too damn young 2nd marriage 1970-1984 -he didn't want to be married anymore (to me)
1988-2010 - didn't marry but live together until his death.
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Post by tara on Apr 27, 2016 4:59:33 GMT
This year we will be married 28 years. (I was a child bride). First and I hope last marriage for both of us.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 27, 2016 8:24:58 GMT
Married in 1979
for 35 years
divorced for infidelity, assault
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hannahruth
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Location: Adelaide, Australia
Aug 29, 2014 18:57:20 GMT
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Post by hannahruth on Apr 27, 2016 8:44:03 GMT
Married in 1978 ( I was a child bride), renewed our vows at 20 years and celebrated our 44 year anniversary this month.
Certainly in for the long haul.
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oldcrow
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Jun 26, 2014 12:25:29 GMT
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Post by oldcrow on Apr 27, 2016 12:43:55 GMT
If so how many times (if you don't mind answering that)? And how many years were you married when it happened. In what year were you married? You can add the reason for your divorce if you wish. I simply wish to collect some data to fuel a discussion about divorce and what %age of marriages end in divorce. The Peas are a nice cross section society. I don't think you are going to get the data you are looking for since only people who have actually been divorced are going to respond to your post, for the most part. It doesn't really answer what %age of marriages end in divorce.
By the way, married for 20 years one week from today.
Actually, I worded it badly. The info I am looking for is at what point in a marriage is divorce more likely to happen. And why is also helpful. Also the decade in which the marriage began. I will edit my original post.
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Post by compwalla on Apr 27, 2016 14:30:30 GMT
We've been married for almost 22 years. First marriage for both of us.
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psiluvu
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Jun 25, 2014 22:52:26 GMT
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Post by psiluvu on Apr 27, 2016 16:19:57 GMT
Met when we were 11 (liked him a lot) lost touch for 15 years, re-met in 1994 married in 1996 and still going strong. We were both 29 when we got married
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Post by papersilly on Apr 27, 2016 17:58:26 GMT
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Post by craftsbycarolyn on Apr 27, 2016 18:13:10 GMT
When DH and I married in 1976 it was the first marriage for both of us. Just had our 40th anniversary. I was 18, he was 19. We have 3 daughters.
Our oldest DD has been married for 16 years. It was a first marriage for both. They waited 6 years before having their first baby and they have 2 daughters.
Our youngest daughter has been married twice and divorced once after 2 years because he cheated. No children. Her 2nd husband was married and divorced. So 2nd marriage for both. They have no children together but he has 2 from previous relationships.
Our middle daughter has never been married and has no children. She is in a relationship now for about 1 1/2 years.
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