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Post by monklady123 on Apr 27, 2016 10:19:33 GMT
This just crossed my mind while I was reading another post about contacting teachers... I have a friend who shares an email with her husband, and who never EVER replies to texts, and who rarely checks her phone for texts. Her kids know to just call her instead, mostly at home, occasionally on the cell although she often doesn't even turn that on. My personal opinion is that if you have kids away from home then you need to at least check for texts or calls. No obligation to answer, but just check in case they need something. I just think it's odd to share an email with a husband. Or with anyone, for that matter. Or, I can see sharing one for certain things but also having my own private email. I'm not filling my email with secrets but it just seems that it would be annoying to sift through a bunch of emails for those that were mine. And my dh would be annoyed as heck to receive all the complaints that come from people at my church. Do you know anyone like this? If you share with a spouse do you also have a second email? How do you make it work if you do share? Just my non-essential question of the day. lol
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Post by KikiPea on Apr 27, 2016 10:23:07 GMT
No. I don't share a FB page, either. I am an adult individual. I have no reason to share. There are enough addresses and pages for us all to have our very own.
That said, he has access to it as I have nothing to hide, and visa versa.
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 27, 2016 10:35:11 GMT
My parents do.
They both only have flip phones more for emergencies and do not text.
They don't have caller id so they always answer the phone and don't screen their calls.
My mom would prefer to FaceTime (iPads) or Skype than talk on the phone so we talk that way more
ETA. My mom definitely gets more/uses the email account a lot more. My Dad just goes in and reads what he wants or what interests him.
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Post by brandy327 on Apr 27, 2016 10:40:18 GMT
My BFF and her dh share an email acct. Neither of them are tech saavy and she doesn't care to have her own. It's annoying at times - not because I send her email - but because her dh is the vice president of our soccer club and so she sees all the emails that go back and forth between my dh (a co-coach with her dh) and the soccer club president. She's forever telling me about the emails that come through from my dh and the president. I don't care to hear all the chatter about the club. Yes, I'm the registrar and will help whenever I can but I don't want to hear every single little thing about it.
My dh gets WAY too many emails for me to share an acct with him. LOL But his email is always open on his laptop and the same goes for me. At any point, we can see/go through each other's email. Nothing to hide on either side.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 27, 2016 10:41:14 GMT
When I had a spouse, no, I didn't share an email account with him.
Heck, I still maintained my own separate bank account, too.
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Post by fuji on Apr 27, 2016 10:44:05 GMT
DH and I do but only because we were only allowed one email address per household with our internet provider back in the day. We've probably had that email address for 17 years. Almost every couple in our small town had just one email originally. Some now have gmail or different internet providers. I have a gmail account I could use but can never remember the address, so I don't use it.
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Post by tduby1 on Apr 27, 2016 10:46:32 GMT
This just crossed my mind while I was reading another post about contacting teachers... I have a friend who shares an email with her husband, and who never EVER replies to texts, and who rarely checks her phone for texts. Her kids know to just call her instead, mostly at home, occasionally on the cell although she often doesn't even turn that on. My personal opinion is that if you have kids away from home then you need to at least check for texts or calls. No obligation to answer, but just check in case they need something. I just think it's odd to share an email with a husband. Or with anyone, for that matter. Or, I can see sharing one for certain things but also having my own private email. I'm not filling my email with secrets but it just seems that it would be annoying to sift through a bunch of emails for those that were mine. And my dh would be annoyed as heck to receive all the complaints that come from people at my church. Do you know anyone like this? If you share with a spouse do you also have a second email? How do you make it work if you do share? Just my non-essential question of the day. lol Yes but neither of use email for personal (or professional) correspondence anyway.. Even back when I did, he never did. Just to receive occasional info, etc. And we have the same aol email from when we first went online in 1996. I have since set up a me.com email through Apple and we have info we want to receive right away sent there (to my phone) as I only check the aol one weekly and after having it 20 years get far too much spam to be sent to my phone. We just don't use email much anymore anyway.
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Post by tduby1 on Apr 27, 2016 10:57:49 GMT
No. I don't share a FB page, either. I am an adult individual. I have no reason to share. There are enough addresses and pages for us all to have our very own. That said, he has access to it as I have nothing to hide, and visa versa. Whenever this subject comes up here I find comments like I bolded interesting. It just seems so condensending towards others who do share email accounts with their spouse. I assure you dh and I are both just as equal adult individuals as those of you who don't share. Our sharing stems from the fact our email was set up 20 years ago, when everyone shared, unless it was a work email and it was never a problem. He rarely used email but if he did give his address out he would tell me he had something coming and when I came I'd tell him and he'd read it, once in a blue moon. Since it worked for us we never changed it. Now that emails are easier to obtain we each have an "assigned" aol email (all family members) but only for the purpose of setting up our apple accounts. Except for me. I actually set up an email via Apple and we all use that for "important" email because if how much junk comes through the aol account after 20 years. we rarely use email anyway.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 27, 2016 11:01:56 GMT
We each have our own account, but access the others' occasionally for actionable items. For example, DH gets the link to print our insurance cards which is sent to me. But the man has over 17,000 unread emails and I'm not sorting through that regularly!
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Post by monklady123 on Apr 27, 2016 11:07:53 GMT
We each have our own account, but access the others' occasionally for actionable items. For example, DH gets the link to print our insurance cards which is sent to me. But the man has over 17,000 unread emails and I'm not sorting through that regularly!
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Post by hop2 on Apr 27, 2016 11:08:59 GMT
We each have our own email but we also have a shared one for electronic bills.
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Post by carhoch on Apr 27, 2016 11:10:11 GMT
We don't even share a computer so no
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Post by SabrinaP on Apr 27, 2016 11:14:18 GMT
I have several parents that share email addresses. My suggestion is if you share email addresses be sure to sign the email so the person knows who the email is coming from.
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Post by GamGam on Apr 27, 2016 11:16:20 GMT
We don't even share a computer so no Also have separate bank accounts as well as a joint one. This has been our standard all throughout our marriage, and it has worked well since I was a SAHM.
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Post by grinningcat on Apr 27, 2016 11:17:28 GMT
No. I don't share a FB page, either. I am an adult individual. I have no reason to share. There are enough addresses and pages for us all to have our very own. That said, he has access to it as I have nothing to hide, and visa versa. Whenever this subject comes up here I find comments like I bolded interesting. It just seems so condensending towards others who do share email accounts with their spouse. I assure you dh and I are both just as equal adult individuals as those of you who don't share. Our sharing stems from the fact our email was set up 20 years ago, when everyone shared, unless it was a work email and it was never a problem. He rarely used email but if he did give his address out he would tell me he had something coming and when I came I'd tell him and he'd read it, once in a blue moon. Since it worked for us we never changed it. Now that emails are easier to obtain we each have an "assigned" aol email (all family members) but only for the purpose of setting up our apple accounts. Except for me. I actually set up an email via Apple and we all use that for "important" email because if how much junk comes through the aol account after 20 years. we rarely use email anyway. I don't find the comment condescending at all. I think it's the truth. I see no reason to give up my individuality because I got married and I see no reason for my husband to have access to my emails without my knowledge. I don't even let him use my computer, he has his own, he can use that. I just don't see any valid reason to share. That said, we both use email a lot... for work, personal and business. I don't need to/want to know his business and he doesn't need/want to snoop in mind. To be honest, the only thing we've combined is car and home insurance. We've seen absolutely no reason to combine anything else. Especially communication.
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Post by grinningcat on Apr 27, 2016 11:18:11 GMT
We don't even share a computer so no Also have separate bank accounts as well as a joint one. This has been our standard all throughout our marriage, and it has worked well since I was a SAHM. This. All of this. Even though we both spend money fairly equally, we see no reason to combine our money.
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Post by cakediva on Apr 27, 2016 11:18:30 GMT
DH and I share our home email.
I have my own email/website for my business, and he has a work email.
But the house email we just share. He's hardly ever on here, and if email comes through for him I leave it for him to read and make sure I tell him right away. I will also forward them to his work email (if it isn't a head hunter offering job leads or something like that).
There really isn't a bunch to sift through - most that come to our personal email are for me anyway, or concern DS and basketball.
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Post by cakediva on Apr 27, 2016 11:25:11 GMT
And it doesn't mean I don't think of my self as an individual adult person either.
Like another poster up above, when we first got internet access, we only had so many minutes per day, and were allowed one email address. We are talking over 15 years ago. And while the provider has changed, the one email address is just something we've kept. We also have joint bank accounts - DH was the only income earner when we first married, so that's how we set it up.
That said - if I was a teacher or president of a club, and had emails coming to me for my eyes only, I would certainly set up an email just for that.
I do that for the Icing Smiles charity I'm an admin for - DH has no access to any of that stuff, nor does he ever check my business email or have access really (other than the fact that we have one desktop computer in the house and we share that too - the horrors!)
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Post by kelbel827 on Apr 27, 2016 11:30:00 GMT
I'm not married and one of my reasons on my reasons why I'm not married list is(because someone always asks why Im not married and if I just tried to find someone I would) I don't ever want to share technology. I have about 15 emails between my business and work and personal. I'm not hiding anything. Just personal preference. I would never share hardware or a phone either.
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Post by Scrapbrat on Apr 27, 2016 11:37:09 GMT
Yep, one of my friends shares an email with her DH and I actually didn't know it for a long time. We don't email a lot, but used to now and then. One day I sent her an email asking if she possibly wanted to attend a band event with me that was being held near where she lives. To my surprise, her DH answered the email, and said he'd try to hold of her, etc.
I don't email her anymore, because I just don't really like the fact that her DH is able to read everything. Not that we talk about anything or exciting, or that she has secrets from him, it just seems weird to me.
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Post by littlemama on Apr 27, 2016 11:47:48 GMT
Yes, we have a shared email. We also have individual emails, although I don't use mine, only the shared one.
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Post by baslp on Apr 27, 2016 11:50:09 GMT
I have my email and my DH has his work email.
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Post by J u l e e on Apr 27, 2016 11:51:45 GMT
We're all different and we all make technology work best for how we use it. There is no morally superior email account. If, as a couple, you use it for online shopping or bill paying making it easier to share, great. If you both use it for personal or coaching communication and don't want it to be confusing to others or have to sift through tons of email meant for the other, that works too. I think the type of email account you have says little about the independence or maturity of your relationship, but more about how you use technology in your home.
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Post by J u l e e on Apr 27, 2016 11:56:01 GMT
I'm not married and one of my reasons on my reasons why I'm not married list is(because someone always asks why Im not married and if I just tried to find someone I would) I don't ever want to share technology. I have about 15 emails between my business and work and personal. I'm not hiding anything. Just personal preference. I would never share hardware or a phone either. Don't let that be a reason for not being married. It's not a requirement! Put "I don't want to have to share a refrigerator" on there though. (I can't be the only one!)
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Post by peasapie on Apr 27, 2016 11:59:35 GMT
I have only one friend who shares an email with her husband. She's not technology savvy at all.
Since it's so easy to set up free email now, I have to admit that when I see someone doing this, it makes me feel like they dont have their own identity. I don't email her, as I don't care to write to two people at once.
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Post by justkat on Apr 27, 2016 12:04:22 GMT
No, we have separate email accounts. However, we do share social media accounts. We use them almost exclusively to keep in touch with family and neither of us uses them enough individually to make separate accounts worthwhile. Out works for us.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 12:04:33 GMT
Oh good god, no!
We don't share any sort of account outside of bills. I have my own email, Facebook, phone and any other social media account. He has his. He can check mine any time he wants and I can check his but there's no need to.
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Post by melodyesch on Apr 27, 2016 12:04:59 GMT
No, we don't share but each have access to the other. If I needed to gain access to a tracking number in his email I would do it without thinking about it or asking. And if there's something in my email he needs he will usually tell me, but only because he forgets my password.
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Post by rickmer on Apr 27, 2016 12:06:39 GMT
my mom and her "boyfriend" (been together about 28 years). they share my mom's FB account too. neither are particularly tech savvy and it works for them. our next-door-neighbours at the cottage (the husband was our best man at our wedding) also share and email address. again, not something they use often, they don't on-line bank, shop or belong to organizations that send out "personal" emails so it works for them. on the other hand, a good friend of mine has her own email but has passwords remembered so she will say "don't put "ladies weekend" in the subject line or rob will read it". i guess when you turn on the computer, the email page just pops up as home page. she said she can't change it now or he will *think* she has something to hide. i would never share with DH, i don't want stupid FB notices from people i don't know and i am sure he doesn't want to know there is a massive sale on ebooks on the kobo site. i gotta toggle thru enough of *my* crap emails to want to bother with his. lol!
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Post by scrapaddie on Apr 27, 2016 12:12:30 GMT
Yes,we did. When we separated, I changed the password.
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