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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 12:14:34 GMT
Years ago we did. But now he has his own for work, and I have about 5 for both work and social. He gets 100+ emails a day for work, so I don't want to have anything to do with it. I have one to sort online shopping, one social and business, then a couple more that I use to set up different login accounts for various work things.
I figure everyone does what works for them. I have a friend who is very tech savvy along with her husband, and they share an email account for all personal stuff. They're both deeply involved in an activity and it helps keep them both informed. I assume they have separate work accounts. Trust me, they are both very independent people.
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Post by FLA SummerBaby on Apr 27, 2016 12:16:47 GMT
No -- I find it hard enough to deal with my own email accounts and sift through things and keep it organized to want to share!! I have separate accounts for work, personal, another for store/junk emails and promotions. I know he gets EVERYTHING sent to his 1 account -- including work and personal. I really wouldn't want to sort through his tons of emails just to find mine.
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 27, 2016 12:19:24 GMT
Yes and no. We each have yahoo emails and then one main family email that I use for the most part.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 12:25:53 GMT
No but I don't think it's a big deal if people do want to share. It doesn't mean you're any the less of a person if you share an email address.
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Post by Jockscrap on Apr 27, 2016 12:39:20 GMT
Yes, incredibly handy for us. We share a postal address too. I see very little difference. I open both our mail and deal with it all unless it is something that I can tell from the envelope is junk (so I shred it) or something I can see is for his cycle club which I'll leave for him to file. It would drive me nuts to have to be constantly forwarding emails to him to read and vice versa. I don't delete emails, unless they are for me or very obviously junk I know he'll not be interested in. He often phones me from work to ask if I've read an email from someone. Saves a lot of time. I have my own email address too that I use for church stuff and to log in to some stores and to get certain newsletters. I can also use it to buy stuff for him secretly from Amazon as we both have an account, and other shops.
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Post by grinningcat on Apr 27, 2016 12:42:01 GMT
Yes, incredibly handy for us. We share a postal address too. I see very little difference. I open both our mail and deal with it all unless it is something that I can tell from the envelope is junk (so I shred it) or something I can see is for his cycle club which I'll leave for him to file. It would drive me nuts to have to be constantly forwarding emails to him to read and vice versa. I don't delete emails, unless they are for me or very obviously junk I know he'll not be interested in. He often phones me from work to ask if I've read an email from someone. Saves a lot of time. I have my own email address too that I use for church stuff and to log in to some stores and to get certain newsletters. I can also use it to buy stuff for him secretly from Amazon as we both have an account, and other shops. Maybe I shouldn't be gobsmacked, but you open your husband's mail??? That has never crossed my mind to do. May I ask why?
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Post by leannec on Apr 27, 2016 12:48:24 GMT
There is no way in hell that I would save an e-mail account with my dh ... he gets too many work related e-mails and I get too much "fluff"
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Post by dewryce on Apr 27, 2016 12:49:50 GMT
Yes, incredibly handy for us. We share a postal address too. I see very little difference. I open both our mail and deal with it all unless it is something that I can tell from the envelope is junk (so I shred it) or something I can see is for his cycle club which I'll leave for him to file. It would drive me nuts to have to be constantly forwarding emails to him to read and vice versa. I don't delete emails, unless they are for me or very obviously junk I know he'll not be interested in. He often phones me from work to ask if I've read an email from someone. Saves a lot of time. I have my own email address too that I use for church stuff and to log in to some stores and to get certain newsletters. I can also use it to buy stuff for him secretly from Amazon as we both have an account, and other shops. Maybe I shouldn't be gobsmacked, but you open your husband's mail??? That has never crossed my mind to do. May I ask why? Not the original poster, but I can share our reasons. I handle the mail. He doesn't like it and I am the organizational person and deal with our bills. He checks the mail, often disposes of junk mail, and puts it on my desk. Sometimes he'll see something that interests him and open it, but mostly he leaves it for me. If there is something that he specifically needs to deal with, I give it to him. Mostly those are items relating to his job, and even with those I do some pre-screening. It works for both of us.
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Post by psiluvu on Apr 27, 2016 12:56:11 GMT
We share one but DH very seldom uses it. Even when he is coaching teams I send the emails and respond to most letting him know the details if necessary. We have had our address for about 20 yrs and got it when they weren't so readily available. About 10 years ago when he first started coaching hockey I set up another account for him. All that meant was that I had to check two. Everyone that know us knows he doesn't check emails so no fear of him reading something meant for me.
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Post by jenb72 on Apr 27, 2016 12:58:51 GMT
I've never shared an email or FB account with anyone - not my XH and not my SO. I just never felt the need or desire to and I'm pretty sure they'd both be annoyed by all the sales emails I get from various retailers. To be honest, it probably stems from the fact that I had email before I met either of them, so I already had my own accounts and felt no need to change that.
Having said that, we have some family friends that share a FB account. It does make it a little confusing sometimes to know which one of them is posting. 90% of the time it's the wife, but the husband does post from time to time - I just can't always tell if it's him or not unless he actually says so. It seems to work for them, so to each their own.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 13:00:47 GMT
I don't...but I have friends that do...I finally got her to get her own
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Post by luckyexwife on Apr 27, 2016 13:09:13 GMT
We do, but only because my DH doesn't use email. If he needs one for some reason, he uses my address. I told him the password, but I doubt if he remembers, and I don't think he has ever checked it.
There was a thread about this a few months or so ago, and the assumptions made were pretty humorous! Not trusting each other, control issues, not be an adult, etc.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 13:14:09 GMT
My cousin and his wife do. They also talk like they are one person. I've told this story before, but they say things like, "That food makes our stomach hurt." LOL - there's apparently only one stomach between them.
Well, emailing or FB messaging with them is like if you were on the phone with someone, and every time the other party spoke, it was someone different on the phone. I'd get halfway through conversations and realize I wasn't talking to who I thought I was talking to. Sometimes about shared memories the one I was talking to didn't even know about (eg., before they were married or when we were kids)!
My family isn't close anyway, and I just kind of stopped talking to them except in person. It was too weird the way they act like they are interchangeable and one person. This is what I think of when I think of shared emails.
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Post by valleyview on Apr 27, 2016 13:16:58 GMT
We shared back in the nineties when our small Internet carrier was dial-up and only allowed one email address. Back in those days, it was fine. DH didn't want to be bothered. He changed his ways when online bill pay became common, and AT&T became our provider.
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Post by melanell on Apr 27, 2016 13:17:02 GMT
Nope, but I know some folks who do. Heck, not only do I have my own email address, but I have a few different ones.
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Post by schizo319 on Apr 27, 2016 13:18:48 GMT
Nope. I do not share an email or Facebook account with DH. We do use separate browsers and tend to stay logged in, so we could technically access the other's accounts at any time, but I can't recall a instance where we ever had a need to.
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Post by cakediva on Apr 27, 2016 13:20:39 GMT
Yes, incredibly handy for us. We share a postal address too. I see very little difference. I open both our mail and deal with it all unless it is something that I can tell from the envelope is junk (so I shred it) or something I can see is for his cycle club which I'll leave for him to file. It would drive me nuts to have to be constantly forwarding emails to him to read and vice versa. I don't delete emails, unless they are for me or very obviously junk I know he'll not be interested in. He often phones me from work to ask if I've read an email from someone. Saves a lot of time. I have my own email address too that I use for church stuff and to log in to some stores and to get certain newsletters. I can also use it to buy stuff for him secretly from Amazon as we both have an account, and other shops. Maybe I shouldn't be gobsmacked, but you open your husband's mail??? That has never crossed my mind to do. May I ask why? Because if I didn't do it, it would never get opened. I don't open his Visa bill - that I don't have any desire to see. But the mail he gets from our benefit company through his work? Those I open to confirm they are claim details or an update on his RRSP. I do all the bill paying/budgeting, or we would not have a roof over our head. So I open all the mail as well. Pretty much any mail he gets addressed directly to him is from insurance or the benefit company or junk mail. All our bills are electronic now. So I open to confirm the benefit stuff (which is already deposited in our bank account a week before the damn letter comes anyway), and I open & file away the insurance updates, and distribute the pink car slips to the vehicle they belong to. Junk mail gets trashed. But even when we got paper bills, they all came in his name, I opened them, accounted for them, paid them....if it is really something I have no idea what it may be (return address not there or something I don't recognize) I do leave it for him to open. And I have to make sure I hand it to him when he gets home. If I just leave it on the counter, he'll ignore it. It's been 22 years now, so it works for us!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 13:25:13 GMT
My IL's do, but my FIL doesn't use the computer, so they really don't. We don't, but we have access to one another's if we needed to get in for some reason, but we don't routinely log into one another's accounts. I have opened all the snail mail before, as has he. Most mail/email is bullshit anyway, so I kind of wish I had someone to deal with all of it and only call to my attention that which is really important. I have an intense dislike for email.
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Post by bessieb on Apr 27, 2016 13:25:16 GMT
Yes , share an email account - we both have our own individual emails but they are forwarded through to a joint account- we are still both individuals but always have done and it works for us- both know what is going on all the time. We have always opened each other's Mail too- goes back to when we were first married and both military- whoever was home opened and auctioned the mail. Why change habits of 25 years when it works for us!
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Post by KikiPea on Apr 27, 2016 13:26:03 GMT
No. I don't share a FB page, either. I am an adult individual. I have no reason to share. There are enough addresses and pages for us all to have our very own. That said, he has access to it as I have nothing to hide, and visa versa. Whenever this subject comes up here I find comments like I bolded interesting. It just seems so condensending towards others who do share email accounts with their spouse. I assure you dh and I are both just as equal adult individuals as those of you who don't share. Our sharing stems from the fact our email was set up 20 years ago, when everyone shared, unless it was a work email and it was never a problem. He rarely used email but if he did give his address out he would tell me he had something coming and when I came I'd tell him and he'd read it, once in a blue moon. Since it worked for us we never changed it. Now that emails are easier to obtain we each have an "assigned" aol email (all family members) but only for the purpose of setting up our apple accounts. Except for me. I actually set up an email via Apple and we all use that for "important" email because if how much junk comes through the aol account after 20 years. we rarely use email anyway. I in no way meant for it to be condescending. She asked if we did, and I gave my reason. If you have one, that's fine, and up to you. I don't feel, FOR ME, that there is any reason I need to share. I have never had a reason to.
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Post by christinec68 on Apr 27, 2016 13:29:01 GMT
We have a shared email for bills, travel arrangements and things like that. We both have personal email accounts but DH barely checks his and when he does there are 100s of store ads, fitbit updates and jokes from his aunt...crap like that. DH will use the joint account for some insurance issues because he knows I check it and keeps him up to date but he has to ask me for the address every time. He's not too interested in being online, social media or being connected although he's been texting for about 2 years now.
He doesn't check my email and I'll only go into his if he needs a password reset for something I may need like his JetBlue True Blue account # but he's sitting right there.
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Post by Zee on Apr 27, 2016 13:33:06 GMT
Yes, incredibly handy for us. We share a postal address too. I see very little difference. I open both our mail and deal with it all unless it is something that I can tell from the envelope is junk (so I shred it) or something I can see is for his cycle club which I'll leave for him to file. It would drive me nuts to have to be constantly forwarding emails to him to read and vice versa. I don't delete emails, unless they are for me or very obviously junk I know he'll not be interested in. He often phones me from work to ask if I've read an email from someone. Saves a lot of time. I have my own email address too that I use for church stuff and to log in to some stores and to get certain newsletters. I can also use it to buy stuff for him secretly from Amazon as we both have an account, and other shops. Maybe I shouldn't be gobsmacked, but you open your husband's mail??? That has never crossed my mind to do. May I ask why? Can't answer for her, but my DH is traveling for work about 80% of the time and when he is here, isn't inclined to want to deal with a mountain of mail, so I open his mail unless it looks personal. We are both more than fine with that--it means bills and things no longer get overlooked the way they did before I took over all the budgeting and bill paying. We have our own email but it would be easier to just have one for household stuff, and keep separate ones for personal use. I probably should create a shared one.
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Post by mtscrapper on Apr 27, 2016 13:37:51 GMT
I have 2 of my closest friends who share email. It drives me crazy! One of them usually reads the email before her husband, so she isn't a problem, but the other one I can email and then ask later if she got it, and usually she says, "No."
Rant ahead: Another gripe with the 2nd friend is she will email us (group of scrapbooking friends) and ask a question and then never check for the answers! A week later, she will ask me in person the same question and I say, "I answered it in email, didn't you get it?" She will say, "Oh, I haven't checked." Grrrr.
I HATE when couples use the same Facebook ID, too. I can never tell which person is speaking. The first friend listed above shares with her husband and they both post, so who knows who it is. The 2nd friend actually has her own and sometimes even responds. I have quite a few others that share. Why? I am such a different person that my husband and I don't want him reading all my emails/posts.
My parents share (well my mom doesn't actually have an email, but if she needs to send something, she will use my dad's), but they are in late 70s/early 80s, so I can forgive them for that. They would rather communicate by talking on the phone, and I'm okay with that.
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Post by padresfan619 on Apr 27, 2016 13:37:53 GMT
No. We each had our own e mail addresses before we met, there was no reason to change it to combine all of our stuff. We did have a shared email address for wedding planning crap, but I haven't opened it in years.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 13:38:22 GMT
Nooooooooo!
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Post by christinec68 on Apr 27, 2016 13:42:40 GMT
Maybe I shouldn't be gobsmacked, but you open your husband's mail??? That has never crossed my mind to do. May I ask why? Not the original poster, but I can share our reasons. I handle the mail. He doesn't like it and I am the organizational person and deal with our bills. He checks the mail, often disposes of junk mail, and puts it on my desk. Sometimes he'll see something that interests him and open it, but mostly he leaves it for me. If there is something that he specifically needs to deal with, I give it to him. Mostly those are items relating to his job, and even with those I do some pre-screening. It works for both of us. It's the same for us. He doesn't like dealing with mail & paperwork so I handle it, pay the bills, that sort of thing. We go over everything quickly monthly and every few months we'll sit down and discuss where we are with goals and make adjustments. It works for us. If there is something he needs to do...I leave it for him but it's not too frequent.
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Post by fredfreddy on Apr 27, 2016 13:51:25 GMT
No and I think it weird if you do. A few friend's emails are WIFENAMEandHUSBANDNAME at gmail.com or something like that so it is obvious.
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Post by Jili on Apr 27, 2016 13:53:04 GMT
Dh and I shared an email account for years, technically speaking. We first got internet/email over 20 years ago. At that time we had dial-up, and only so many online minutes per month. Email was very new for us and neither of us had accounts at work, either. We kept that 'family' address for years, even after switching providers. Over time we gradually got our own, as he needed a separate account to handle Indian Princess things (he was quite involved with that), and I wanted my own account for some things (hobbies, shopping, etc.). Correspondence related to bills, insurance, etc. came to the home account.
I got tired of managing too many email accounts (work, family, personal, and teacher's association), and dh never checked the home account anyway. I finally made the switch to a personal gmail last year and I now have all of the 'home' correspondence coming to my account because I'm the one who manages it. But it also made sense why we started out the way that we did.
As far as snail mail is concerned-- we both open it. Whoever picks it up opens it and sorts it out. I don't care if he opens 'my' mail and he doesn't care if I open his. It's just not an issue for either one of us.
I have my own FB account. Dh doesn't do FB at all, and I wouldn't even consider sharing an account if he did. I have my friends and he has his and that's just fine.
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Post by breetheflea on Apr 27, 2016 13:54:36 GMT
DH's email is assigned by his employer. He does have hotmail for spam but never deletes anything. I like a nice organized in box. We have never shared.
I have Facebook, DH is not interested (he is not very social) so we don't share that either.
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Post by LeaP on Apr 27, 2016 13:56:39 GMT
We share nothing except password management software and things like Amazon Prime, Netflix and HBO Now. When we first moved in together, back when dinosaurs roamed the land, we briefly had the same home email address. That lasted a very short time. It felt like sharing a toothbrush
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