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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 31, 2014 6:53:35 GMT
I was reading an article in the newspaper today that talked about the percentages of adults in their 20's who still live at home with their parents. The article said that people from Greek, Chinese and Italian backgrounds stay at home for longer than those from Australian, British and Irish backgrounds, and that men stay home for longer than women. I had planned to move out of home in my early 20's with a girlfriend, but we never got around to doing it. I ended up living at home until I bought my first house at the grand old age of 29!! My younger brother had already moved out with his girlfriend. But not long after I moved out, he moved back in with his (now wife), baby son and their dog. My poor dad. He thought he'd finally gotten rid of us! Here is the article I was reading: Greek men most reluctant to leave home
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Post by miominmio on Jul 31, 2014 6:58:36 GMT
I didn't leave home, my parents did! They moved out when I was 20, and I moved a year later (so my sister could finish school).
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valincal
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Post by valincal on Jul 31, 2014 6:58:44 GMT
I moved out of my parents' home when I was 19 and into a rental with four of my girlfriends.
I think my boys will be home much longer. After they complete their university studies, I don't think they'll be in a big rush to move out on their own until they get established in a secure job.
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Post by kristalina on Jul 31, 2014 7:09:58 GMT
I left home at 17 to go to school about 120 miles away. It was Community College but that was the closest school to our town. My birthday is in Sept so I was only 17 for a month or so. I came back for a few months here and there but never moved back home for any length of time.
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Post by gar on Jul 31, 2014 7:19:03 GMT
26!!! couldn't afford it before then plus b/f (now Dh) was dragging his heels about us living together
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Post by lovestocreate on Jul 31, 2014 7:29:54 GMT
Graduated high school and moved out at 17. The closest school to offer my area of study was three hours away. I worked two jobs and went to college in between. It was tough but I made it and feel stronger for it.
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ingrid
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Post by ingrid on Jul 31, 2014 7:34:54 GMT
I had just turned 15. My parents divorced when I was young and there was a lot of unhealthy conflict in my house. One day I just packed a couple of bags and left and never came back. I didn't even speak to my parents for almost a year.
I worked under the table until I didn't need to and paid for a correspondence school program so I could finish high school. I lived at a campground in Bar Harbor for the first summer so I could work at an ice cream shop there and saved up enough until I had enough money for an efficiency and then an apartment.
Definitely not the most normal age to leave home, but it worked out fine for me. I wouldn't have been able to stay at home into my 20's without having a nervous breakdown.
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Post by gotranch on Jul 31, 2014 7:41:02 GMT
Another one with a late fall birthday. I moved out when I was 17. I went to a vo-tech for a year, worked for 4 years as a teacher aide, then went to college for 3 years. I started teaching when I was 26. I was 4th oldest of a family of 11 siblings, so I was ready to be on my own and loved the peace and quiet!
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 31, 2014 7:42:22 GMT
18 for me
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Post by happyOCgirl on Jul 31, 2014 7:47:49 GMT
I moved out at 18 (college). I lived with my parents for a week or two between moves. My ex lived with his parents until 32. He was living on his own when I met him and never thought to ask before we got married. It explained a lot about his relationship with his mom. Ick. It's interesting to see how culture plays a big role. Around here, it seems many stay home to continue the same lifestyles they had growing up. They will never have the experience of milk crate tables, oatmeal dinners, and multiple jobs that so many of us had when we were starting out.
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Post by PEArfect on Jul 31, 2014 7:54:13 GMT
My husband and I rented a home when we were 19. Built our first home when we were 21. Built our second home when we were 28.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2014 8:03:18 GMT
I was 20 when I left home. My daughter who is 25 still lives at home.
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Post by pjaye on Jul 31, 2014 8:37:46 GMT
For me it was a few months after I turned 19. I'd been at Uni and decided to drop out. My parents told me I'd have to get a job and pay rent...which I was OK with...but then they still wanted to to behave like a child and report in, tell them where I was etc.
We had a huge argument one weekend when I told my parents where I was going AND I told them I was staying the night...but they still got mad at me for not coming home. I figured if I was paying paying rent to them but not getting any of the privileges of being an adult that I may as well pay rent to someone else and do what I wanted. I moved out with my high school boyfriend's sister 2 weeks later. Never lived at home again. Bought my own apartment when I was 26 and have owned ever since.
I think the article is right about the Greek kids (at least in Oz) There's an 85yo Greek man I chat to at the tram stop in the mornings, his son and daughter are both 45 & 50 and they both still live at home! Neither has been away/married and come back...they both have never lived anywhere else. My boss is also Greek, and her kids are in their mid 20's and she said she could see them never wanting to leave, so they bought their kids a house and made them move into it.
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Post by JoP on Jul 31, 2014 9:04:34 GMT
I moved out at 21 when I bought my first home
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sharonoz
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Post by sharonoz on Jul 31, 2014 9:11:30 GMT
I moved out at 19.5, to a college dorm which isn't common here in Australia. My parents were in the middle of separating and I didn't want to live with either of them. DH and I started dating about a month later and married the following year.
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Post by stargazer on Jul 31, 2014 9:14:43 GMT
Bought a house at 18, with my then boyfriend, shortly after to be my fiancé & now my dh of 20 years. On our 3rd house now though....I think our tiny first house would probably fit in the master suite of our current house!!!
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Post by michellegb on Jul 31, 2014 9:21:43 GMT
I was 19 - just graduated from junior college and was gone 3 months later. My mom and I were like oil and water at that time and I couldn't wait to get out. I did go back for 1.5 years during my divorce (while I let my exDH and stepdaughter live in the house I had owned prior to marriage), but as soon as I could, I was back in my own home. My brothers were both gone by 20. My sister (the youngest) didn't move out until she was 36 - my father died and we sold the house (my mom had been gone for 20 years at that point). She just didn't have the same experience we had because it was always just her and my dad after my mom died. She had lots of freedom, decorated as she pleased and more or less lived like it was her house.
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Chinagirl828
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Post by Chinagirl828 on Jul 31, 2014 9:22:09 GMT
I think the article is right about the Greek kids (at least in Oz) There's an 85yo Greek man I chat to at the tram stop in the mornings, his son and daughter are both 45 & 50 and they both still live at home! Neither has been away/married and come back...they both have never lived anywhere else. My boss is also Greek, and her kids are in their mid 20's and she said she could see them never wanting to leave, so they bought their kids a house and made them move into it.
I read that same article today and thought it was pretty spot on about the Italian kids. My partner moved out of home at 28, his youngest sister will turn 30 this year and still lives at home. The sister of one of his friends is in her mid 40's and still lives at home (Italian family) while his friend has his own place but still spends at least half of his week back at home.
I moved out when I was 18 and have no regrets. My brother was the oldest in my family to leave home in his mid 20's. Mum said later she was beginning to think he was never going to leave.
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Post by NicL on Jul 31, 2014 9:28:56 GMT
I moved out at 20 with my boyfriend (now DH). After 12 months he went to Antarctica for work/adventure for 14 months so I moved back home to save money. When he returned we travelled, bought a house & married. I haven't lived with my parents since then.
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Post by bluepoprocks on Jul 31, 2014 9:35:16 GMT
I was going to move out when I was 25 with my sister but she moved in with a boyfriend instead. Then I was moving out at 29 but I didn't have a good job so I was going to share a house with a friend who was leaving her husband but people kept telling me this guy was violent and I didn't want to get involved with that. Then my mom got sick and needed me here so I never left. She passed away three years after that and I got the house. So I've lived here since I was 10. My sister moved back in with me 10 years ago with her kids and I don't think any of them are leaving any time soon. Both boys tell me at least once a week that they are never leaving us. One said he's going to live here with his wife and kids.
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Post by fkawitchypea on Jul 31, 2014 9:41:45 GMT
I moved out at 19 and then back in a few years ago. After my relationship with my ex broke up I needed the support of my parents to get through it. Now I stay with them because my rent allows them to do things like remodel their kitchen, put in a pool and allows my dad to spend several weeks in Florida during the winter.
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Post by johna on Jul 31, 2014 9:52:56 GMT
I moved out when I was 20. My oldest went to college 3 hours away, so he moved out during freshman year and only came back for a few weeks at a time a couple of times. My youngest moved out when he was 20.
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Post by Lindarina on Jul 31, 2014 10:09:44 GMT
I moved away to college when I was 19 and rented a flat with a girlfriend. I stayed for three years, and met my husband while I was there. We bought our first home when I was 21.
My parents are divorced, and my father works on a plantform, meaning he's away for about 2 weeks, then home for 3-4 weeks. His appartment was closer to my job when I was a teenager, and from the age of 17 I would live there those weeks when he was gone, just to be closer to work. It was a kiosk, and I always ended my shift at night.
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Post by peabay on Jul 31, 2014 10:11:59 GMT
I went to college and grad school, so I consider that still living at home because I did return to "my" bedroom for vacations and holidays. I moved out for real when I got married at age 23.
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tuesdaysgone
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Jul 31, 2014 10:22:28 GMT
I moved out at 18. I had loving parents and a great home but I was a kid who craved independence. My parents allowed me to move out as long as I supported myself. I worked two jobs and went to school while living in a crap apartment and it was one of the happiest times in my life.
I have nephews and neices at that age now and they don't seem to be in any hurry to leave home.
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Post by DinCA on Jul 31, 2014 10:30:05 GMT
I was 18 when I moved out, just a few months before I graduated from high school. I did move back in for two years in my mid 20s, though, when I went back to school. My siblings moved out when they were 18 also, as did most of the people we knew. That's just what you did then.
I lived in some really nice apartments and houses before my husband and I bought our first home. There's no way my kids could afford anything that nice now on minimum wage. I usually had a roommate but I just think the dollar went further. Both of our children are living outside the home now but they wouldn't be able to do that without our help.
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oblibby
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Post by oblibby on Jul 31, 2014 10:33:49 GMT
I moved out when I was 29. I couldn't afford a mortgage on my own until then.
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oblibby
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Post by oblibby on Jul 31, 2014 10:35:15 GMT
I moved out when I was 29. I couldn't afford a mortgage on my own until then.
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Post by Karmady on Jul 31, 2014 11:01:38 GMT
I moved out at 19.
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Post by ingrid6 on Jul 31, 2014 11:09:46 GMT
I was 17 when I moved out.
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