flickerings
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Post by flickerings on May 1, 2016 22:11:57 GMT
At my old house in California there had been a tree at the back of my yard, near the property line but growing from my side of the fence. It was a pretty big tree and almost half of the branches hung over into my neighbors backyard. While we were gone on vacation the neighbor cut down the tree in OUR yard and left us with a huge stump to remove. I couldn't believe that someone would have the nerve to do that without ever saying a word to us about it.
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Post by 950nancy on May 1, 2016 22:14:52 GMT
If that pile of leaves showed up in my driveway, I would take the leaf blower and blow them back into the yard.
I live in a very tree ladened area. Our neighbors' back yards (all five of them) have huge cotton blowing leaf shedding trees. We have one tree in the front yard. It isn't unusual to pick up 30 bags of leaves in the fall. It does drive me crazy when my neighbors (two of them) leave the leaves in their yard all winter and I get to clean out my flower beds multiple times because the leaves blow. The snakes like to snuggle under the leaves and I have been known to pick up a huge snake thinking it was part of a pile of leaves. Ewww.
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Post by melanell on May 2, 2016 1:03:34 GMT
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 2:01:29 GMT
I would draw a huge circle in the driveway with a note saying please place leaves here!
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PLurker
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Post by PLurker on May 2, 2016 3:57:08 GMT
I would draw a huge circle in the driveway with a note saying please place leaves here! I like that idea, too, Big circle chalk outline with lettering to say...."Insert leaves here." And with that, I know I am over tired as I am giggling a bit too much and easily.
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Post by lesserknownpea on May 2, 2016 8:02:25 GMT
I would draw a huge circle in the driveway with a note saying please place leaves here! Best idea!!
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kelly8875
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Post by kelly8875 on May 2, 2016 11:40:10 GMT
Neighbors are a delight lol. My crazy lady neighbor insists that I take down a small fence on MY property between our yards. I moved to this house on Halloween, in a rain storm. It rained for weeks, then the snow fell. Multiple times she has insisted I take it down. A few times before I even legally owned the house. (It was vacant and I got to rent until my closing date). She has tried taking the fence down for me even. Other neighbors had warned me about her...so I know it isn't just my opinion...she's a weirdo. We got into it about 6 weeks ago about the fence, and I've won (so far). Haven't seen her since! what is her problem with the fence? She doesn't like that leaves collect in it. She also claims that the USPS has told her to take it down, which isn't true at all. I've asked my mailman about it, and even he is telling me she's crazy. It's a completely legal fence. But, as soon as I get the rest of the yard projects in order, the fence is coming down because the darn thing is stupid. We've barely had nice enough weather to get it all done though, so it'll be a couple weeks before I get to it. Another funny part, is that part of the fence now hangs and droops over her yard, because she pulled out one of the stakes that holds that section up... I made sure to point that out to her in our 'discussion'. The previous owners of my house had a restraining order against her because she was overly nosey...always in their yard. So J know it's not just my opinion.
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Post by melanell on May 2, 2016 12:58:49 GMT
Sounds like she's the type of neighbor that would cause someone to install a fence, not take one down!
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 13:10:13 GMT
At my old house in California there had been a tree at the back of my yard, near the property line but growing from my side of the fence. It was a pretty big tree and almost half of the branches hung over into my neighbors backyard. While we were gone on vacation the neighbor cut down the tree in OUR yard and left us with a huge stump to remove. I couldn't believe that someone would have the nerve to do that without ever saying a word to us about it. They actually cut down a tree on YOUR property? Holy lawsuit, batman. That's crazy!
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Post by mlynn on May 2, 2016 13:24:33 GMT
At my old house in California there had been a tree at the back of my yard, near the property line but growing from my side of the fence. It was a pretty big tree and almost half of the branches hung over into my neighbors backyard. While we were gone on vacation the neighbor cut down the tree in OUR yard and left us with a huge stump to remove. I couldn't believe that someone would have the nerve to do that without ever saying a word to us about it. I would be tempted to give her a scare and ask her to pay for the tree. Big trees are expensive. (Bill her for the price of one the same size, not a sapling)
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SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on May 2, 2016 13:59:35 GMT
Bless his heart. Those leaves would be composting in the piles in my driveway but I'm a bitch like that. This. First, I don't do passive aggressive. Second, I wouldn't notice them and I'd drive right over them.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 2, 2016 14:04:46 GMT
what is her problem with the fence? She doesn't like that leaves collect in it. She also claims that the USPS has told her to take it down, which isn't true at all. I've asked my mailman about it, and even he is telling me she's crazy. It's a completely legal fence. But, as soon as I get the rest of the yard projects in order, the fence is coming down because the darn thing is stupid. We've barely had nice enough weather to get it all done though, so it'll be a couple weeks before I get to it. Another funny part, is that part of the fence now hangs and droops over her yard, because she pulled out one of the stakes that holds that section up... I made sure to point that out to her in our 'discussion'. The previous owners of my house had a restraining order against her because she was overly nosey...always in their yard. So J know it's not just my opinion. Oh, I'd take the fence down all right... And then I'd install the tallest privacy fence the city ordinances would allow in its place! She sounds like a real peach.
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Post by pudgygroundhog on May 2, 2016 14:04:52 GMT
I would also never, ever, remove the leaves that guy was leaving piled in my driveway. I don't react well to passive aggressive stuff like that (including his ranting when he saw you come home). If he wanted a better reaction, he should have started a better conversation. I'm the same way. If somebody did that to me it would pretty much guarantee that I would not do a damn thing about the leaves. But if he came over to talk about it reasonably, I would be willing to talk. People don't understand - you often get what you put out in the world and being straightforward and nice will get you so much further.
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Post by georgiapea on May 2, 2016 16:27:22 GMT
I would rake them off my driveway, back onto the lawn. Preferably at a time when the neighbor would see me doing that.
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Post by littlefish on May 2, 2016 16:37:33 GMT
So, sorry about the tangent, but can you explain what's happening to the left of your garage door? It looks like a 2 car garage with only a one car width door, but that wouldn't make much sense. So I'm confused. I was looking at the photos, trying to concentrate on the leaves, and I just couldn't stop wondering about the garage instead. It's an older house, and the garage used to be a carport. My landlord enclosed the carport when she bought the house. My washer/dryer/hot water heater is in a room to the left--there's also a toilet and a place for a shower, but I just use it for storage.
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Post by melanell on May 2, 2016 16:39:28 GMT
So, sorry about the tangent, but can you explain what's happening to the left of your garage door? It looks like a 2 car garage with only a one car width door, but that wouldn't make much sense. So I'm confused. I was looking at the photos, trying to concentrate on the leaves, and I just couldn't stop wondering about the garage instead. It's an older house, and the garage used to be a carport. My landlord enclosed the carport when she bought the house. My washer/dryer/hot water heater is in a room to the left--there's also a toilet and a place for a shower, but I just use it for storage. Thank you for humoring my curiosity about it! A workshop was what kept coming to my mind, but everything you mentioned make sense, too.
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Post by ilikepink on May 2, 2016 17:13:28 GMT
The house I lived in with XH has/had 3 trees in the front, but nothing in the backyard where the pool was. Neighbors all around had trees - and therefore we had leaves. My XH is much fussier now that he was then, but he still just cleaned up the leaves. That's what you do.
To take the time to relocate the leaves - well, your neighbor obviously has time on his hands to waste.
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Post by freecharlie on May 2, 2016 17:56:48 GMT
what is her problem with the fence? She doesn't like that leaves collect in it. She also claims that the USPS has told her to take it down, which isn't true at all. I've asked my mailman about it, and even he is telling me she's crazy. It's a completely legal fence. But, as soon as I get the rest of the yard projects in order, the fence is coming down because the darn thing is stupid. We've barely had nice enough weather to get it all done though, so it'll be a couple weeks before I get to it. Another funny part, is that part of the fence now hangs and droops over her yard, because she pulled out one of the stakes that holds that section up... I made sure to point that out to her in our 'discussion'. The previous owners of my house had a restraining order against her because she was overly nosey...always in their yard. So J know it's not just my opinion. maybe the fence was to keep her out
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Post by quiltz on May 2, 2016 18:00:34 GMT
I have come to realize that some older people feel that their opinions and/or values are ignored.
They find it difficult to communicate to others what "should" be done, such as cleaning up leaves in a timely fashion. Many of them find that ther are fewer opportunities to 'be in charge' and feel that they & their way of doing things is THE ONLY WAY & the young'uns should listen to the older ones.
Basically a power-struggle. Similar to a younger child trying to get their parents to realize that they are growing up & 'get a say' in decision making.
Be kind to this neighbor & not passive-aggressive, such as motion activated sprinklers. If possible, talk to him politely and ask them not to go on your property. He is probably frustrated that everyone's yard isn't as perfect as HE would like.
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Post by krazykatlady on May 2, 2016 18:06:48 GMT
It's an older house, and the garage used to be a carport. My landlord enclosed the carport when she bought the house. My washer/dryer/hot water heater is in a room to the left--there's also a toilet and a place for a shower, but I just use it for storage. Thank you for humoring my curiosity about it! A workshop was what kept coming to my mind, but everything you mentioned make sense, too. Our 70's ranch has a similar look - carport enclosed to make a garage - but the owner before us was too cheap to install a double door so it's just a single with lots of space once you get inside. Of course we're cheap too. We've lived with it like this for 25 years and haven't redone it!
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Post by cath4k on May 2, 2016 18:12:36 GMT
At my old house in California there had been a tree at the back of my yard, near the property line but growing from my side of the fence. It was a pretty big tree and almost half of the branches hung over into my neighbors backyard. While we were gone on vacation the neighbor cut down the tree in OUR yard and left us with a huge stump to remove. I couldn't believe that someone would have the nerve to do that without ever saying a word to us about it. Whaaat?? They had a tree removed from your yard with a fence in place? That's crazy!
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Post by littlefish on May 2, 2016 18:48:13 GMT
I have come to realize that some older people feel that their opinions and/or values are ignored. They find it difficult to communicate to others what "should" be done, such as cleaning up leaves in a timely fashion. Many of them find that ther are fewer opportunities to 'be in charge' and feel that they & their way of doing things is THE ONLY WAY & the young'uns should listen to the older ones. Basically a power-struggle. Similar to a younger child trying to get their parents to realize that they are growing up & 'get a say' in decision making. Be kind to this neighbor & not passive-aggressive, such as motion activated sprinklers. If possible, talk to him politely and ask them not to go on your property. He is probably frustrated that everyone's yard isn't as perfect as HE would like. This makes a lot of sense. I talked it over with my dad last night (he's met the guy a few times) and we were in agreement that just cleaning up the driveway leaves was the right thing to do. Believe me, being passive aggressive back was very tempting but I'm also a firm believer in picking battles. I also am applying the rule of extinction, which is basically a classroom management tool where a behavior is ignored the first time. So I'm ignoring it for now, but if he continues I'll say something directly. Thanks for that perspective!
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Post by peasapie on May 2, 2016 19:24:42 GMT
Is he sweeping up the magnolia leaves from his yard and putting them in yours? Or, is it the leaves in your yard that are driving him crazy? If it's the first, I can understand his annoyance, but not his actions. He should talk to your landloard if leaves from the tree are creating a lot of extra work for him in his yard. The tree may need to be removed and replaced with a lower maintenance evergreen tree. If it's the leaves in your yard that are driving him crazy, he needs to get a life. I'm not sure. I suppose they could be blowing over to his yard and he's sweeping them up, bringing them over, and dumping them in my driveway. The guy is a little off. He despises the area we live in and openly tells how he packs a gun in case any of the *insertracialslurhere* that live in the area come through the orange groves behind our neighborhood. So I'm not in a rush to piss him off. DD and I just went out and cleared the driveway (only the driveway, nothing else) and we trimmed up a bush that's been growing up around our mailbox. That's it. It still amazes me what childish things grown a$$ adults will do. Yeah I would definitely not enrage the guy. He sounds like he's just itching for a fight.
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Post by sharlag on May 2, 2016 20:46:14 GMT
The police were involved eventually and the mad bitch and her knob of a husband both got Part 1 Code of Conduct warnings under the Harassment act. Barking, the pair of them. We hung bunting up when they moved. I love your posts!
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Post by anniebygaslight on May 3, 2016 5:52:39 GMT
The police were involved eventually and the mad bitch and her knob of a husband both got Part 1 Code of Conduct warnings under the Harassment act. Barking, the pair of them. We hung bunting up when they moved. I love your posts! I always look forward to yours too. :-)
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Post by littlefish on May 4, 2016 0:39:32 GMT
Update in OP
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